I got a job!!

[monicawyer]

Hiya girls,

I just had to share this with someone! I spend 99% of my non-work time in female mode and plan to go full time next year. But I really want to get some experience of working as a woman before I make the change. Sooooooo, I thought about voluenteering in one of the charlty shops near where I live. I went (dressed, of course) to my local Cancer Research shop this morning to see the manager and she took me on immediately! Not 'fill out this form and post it back' or 'sorry we're fully staffed' but 'how soon can you start'!! So next and every Saturday, I'm working in the shop serving customers, pricing clothes etc. I can't wait! The only dilemma is 'did she know I'm currently a guy and it doesn't matter?' or 'did I pass?'. I don't know if and/or when I should say something. What do you think?

M xx

[jill_4]

:clap: :clap: Well done Monica,say nothing and enjoy the experience,it will do wonders for your confidence..;) ;) ....Jill

[TracyDeluxe]

Say nothing, and two BIG :thumbsup: :thumbsup: 's!

[Billijo49504]

I assume free help is hard to get in the UK also. Good for you, for volunteering. And definately enjoy yourself and good luck...BJ

[DonnaT]

Congratulations :clap:

I'd say nothing about gender, and if the subject ever comes up just say "I thought you knew."

[Angela Burke]

Congratulations Monica,
Just get on with it.
It'll be great for your self-confidence working and dealing with the public as yourself.
And voluntary work experience can always be quoted in future work applications.
I think it's a great idea so go for it girl!

[monicawyer]

I assume free help is hard to get in the UK also. Good for you, for volunteering. And definately enjoy yourself and good luck...BJ

Beggars can't be choosers!

Question is.....what to wear?

[Lindahexi]

Say nothing unless actually asked about your gender, if that happens just tell the truth and I reckon all will be ok. My guess is they won't object in any way, they need help and really it doesn't matter.

Good luck, hope you enjoy the job.

[Anne Charlotte]

Well, at least you'll get first refusal on all those girly clothes that come through the door !!!:D

Bear me in mind if you get a size 16 black leather skirt !!!:cheeky:

[Jenny Warren]

A few years ago I worked in an Oxfam shop in the centre of Oxford.

I can't beleive I'm sooo passable that they didn't know, but they never said anything and I was always treated as one of the girls.

I had a great time, and I'd do the same again if the opportunity arose.

Jenny

[Deidra Cowen]

Congratulations that is huge! Very proud of you and envious too I must admit.

[monicawyer]

A few years ago I worked in an Oxfam shop in the centre of Oxford.

I can't beleive I'm sooo passable that they didn't know, but they never said anything and I was always treated as one of the girls.

I had a great time, and I'd do the same again if the opportunity arose.

Jenny

Hi Jenny,

That's my thinking. I was only there for 10 minutes and I NEVER pass as a 1-2-1 for 10 minutes! A couple of minutes at the checkout maybe!;)

Either way they gave me a voluenteer form to fill ouut and take back when I start next saturday but I'm going to post it thu their letterbox tomorrow so if they did know and they're having second thoughts, they have my phone number to call me! Otherwise, Saturday can't come soon enough. Another step towards womanhood.

When you worked in Oxford, did you work behind the scenes or on the shop floor? How did you find working with the public?

Monica x

[Jenny Warren]

Hi Jenny,

When you worked in Oxford, did you work behind the scenes or on the shop floor? How did you find working with the public?

Monica x

A bit of both, mostly on the shop floor though. I was lucky enough to be more able to understand the electronic till than some of the sweet old ladies who usually volunteer.

I never had any problems with customers or staff, but remember a sticky situation where I got home to find my fiancee's 10 year old daughter waiting on the drive to warn me that some friends had dropped by to visit. (They didn't know about Jenny) The daughter had stood outside for half an hour to warn me before I walked in.

Jenny

[Stacy Reso]

good for you i hope you enjoy it

[paulaN]

that's great I'm very happy for you and your new job. It's good for you, and doing charity work is good for the community. A win win situation.

[TGMarla]

I think that at first, need precludes all other considerations. If you're adept at filling the need, others will ask questions later. It is likely that they asked the questions sooner or later, but ignored the answers in light that they had you to fill the needs. If you prove to be the answer to the needs, they will most likely grow with the situation, and accept you for who you are. Good people are hard to ignore when the prove themselves. You provide something good for the greater good. It shows in your avatar. I'm very glad for you. Go with this, and it will take you to places that you want to be. Congratulations.

[Anne Charlotte]

How was you first day at work ??:clap:

Tell us !!!

[monicawyer]

Girls,

Thanks so much for your kind words of support. As TGMaria says, I'm sure the question will be asked sooner or later but hopefully they will be acccepting once they get to know me :D

I start next Saturday, a week today. In hindsight I should have offered to start today....damn! I'll probably do the denim knee length skirt with boots and a top look. Casual but smart enough for the shop. What do you think?

Monica xx

[Cathy J]

Hi Monica,

Congrats on your venture and I sure hope you enjoy it. OH! How sometimes I wish I could pass well enough to try.

If they don't ask, don't tell. Best of luck.

Hugs Cathy

[rachel_jean]

Congrats on the job and best of luck with it, sounds like everyone may benefit from it.


I'll probably do the denim knee length skirt with boots and a top look. Casual but smart enough for the shop. What do you think?

One of my personal favorites.

Rachel Jean

[SherriePall]

Monica --
Congratulations. Hope that all goes well there for you.

[Mitzi]

but remember a sticky situation where I got home to find my fiancee's 10 year old daughter waiting on the drive to warn me that some friends had dropped by to visit. (They didn't know about Jenny) The daughter had stood outside for half an hour to warn me before I walked in.
You have a keeper there!!!

Monica, my sense is she probably knew, but didn't care a hoot. Enjoy the experience...

Mitzi

[Rachel Morley]

The only dilemma is 'did she know I'm currently a guy and it doesn't matter?' or 'did I pass?'. I don't know if and/or when I should say something. What do you think?

Hi Monica,

Well, first off going on your avatar and profile picture....you look very passable to me. So it's possible she thought so, but a whole 10 minutes of close up conversation...I doubt it. But then so what? I think you should just be who you want to be, and if that's to present as a woman all the time, then go for it! :)

I agree with others, unless someone directly asks you about your gender (which is none of their business)...say nothing.

[MsEva]

Congratulations and thanks for your service to your community..yes I think the need for qualified help is paramount. So enjoy your time there and dress conservatively. I think all will go well.:)

[monicawyer]

Ah, you wonderful people! Thanks for all your kind words of support and encouragement - I want you all round my house for tea and scones tomorrow afternoon! Six days and counting - I will give you a blow by blow report this time next week.

M xx

[S. Lisa Smith]

:thumbsup: :thumbsup:

[ashlee chiffon]

hey luv...congrats on the job...for all practically purposes, you Are a woman as it seems you're being accepted as such! Enjoy you're new life!

[Julie York]

And you can always steal the good stuff before I get there.

:thumbsup:

[Penny]

Congratulations! Just be yourself. Iv'e found that 90 percent of the time, that is quite good enough. 10 percent can't be pleased no mater who you are or what you do. Look forward to updates.

[pauleen]

Congrats, and have fun !!!!!! you deserve it with the courage to get out ,and you look very passible ,I only have one thing other to say its too bad that over here across the pond people dont accept us for who we are the US is blindsided ,and stigmatized by what for the good of our culture,instead of accepting people as being diverse.

[monicawyer]

Congrats, and have fun !!!!!! you deserve it with the courage to get out ,and you look very passible ,I only have one thing other to say its too bad that over here across the pond people dont accept us for who we are the US is blindsided ,and stigmatized by what for the good of our culture,instead of accepting people as being diverse.

Hi Pauleen,

Sorry to hear you feel that way about your peers in the US. I'm sure it can't be so bad? I don't think people in England are that accepting in general although it is getting better. I don't pass all the time, I can go about my business virtually invisible to others most of the time but I occasionally get read by teenage girls who often have no problem with voicing their new found discovery to EVERYONE! Working in the shop is going to be a challenge as charity shops are a haven for moneyless teenage girls looking for a fashion bargain :( It could all end in tears....:cheeky:

Monica x

[susan stewart uk]

Go for it Monica, I am so pleased for you.I am 55 now and married happily,but still regret not going full time.I dress most days, but it still isn,t enough,so i know how you must feel.You are following your heart, and i am sure it won,t let you down.Wish i could be there with you.Anyway good luck and have a wonderful time and let us all know how it went.Perhaps you can tell us which shop it is and we can come and boost your sales for you.I am sure lots of us uk girls would be very supportive
love susan

[rhonda jane]

Monica, Congrats on the new job. I had to tell you. The one place in the US where crossdressers feel most comfortable is a thrift shop. Let's assume the "worst" happened and your manager did read you. I can't imagine how. If I managed a thrift shop and had many regular crossdresser customers, I'd hire a crossdresser to make my special customers feel at ease. I certainly would feel more comfortable if the thrift shop that I frequent had a crossdressing attendant. It would make life easier for me if I could ask questions of you at the store about various femme items. So one way or the other, give your new boss credit for having good taste and being smart. You may be exactly who she was hoping to find. A beautiful CD, that is. Or a beautiful girl. Sales will certainly go up when all the CD girls find out that there is one of them working at the thrift shop. It will make liffe easier for your manager, many customers and yourself. Have fun!

[Anne Charlotte]

Go for it Monica, I am so pleased for you.I am 55 now and married happily,but still regret not going full time.I dress most days, but it still isn,t enough,so i know how you must feel.

I almost went full time when I was in my 20's, but other things took over, and it made me realise it perhaps wasn't the right time.....oh how i regret it now....there are just so many possibilities that I didn't take up......it's one of those things I will always wonder about.

Now, I'm happily married, but I'm a size 18 / 22, and long for the days when I was 22 years old and could share my girflriends size 12 clothes....but worst of all, in those days I had all my own hair ! Long and flowing too.....

You must of course go for it......otherwise you'll regret it forever. Good Luck, and my thoughts (at least) are with you.:clap:

[Charlene Marie]

Monica. I just looked at your full length avatar honey, and you are lovely. have fun with the job, if anyone asks about your gender just act insulted.
Good for you Honey.

Sincerely,

Chalene Marie

[Sage GG]

Good luck with the new job, it sounds like fun. :clap:

[KateW]

That's great news. Congratulations! I think you look totally passable, and think that your future employer did too.

Good luck, and keep us informed.
Kate xxx

[Seraph]

Congratulations! :clap: :clap: :clap:

[monicawyer]

Thank's for all your kind support ladies - two days to go.....starting to get a little nervous :bs: :bs:

[RuthChambers]

Either way they gave me a voluenteer form to fill ouut and take back when I start next saturday but I'm going to post it thu their letterbox tomorrow so if they did know and they're having second thoughts, they have my phone number to call me! Otherwise, Saturday can't come soon enough. Another step towards womanhood.

Monica x

Hi Monica,

So what did you put on the form ???? Female or Male name ?

I have a friend in the Midlands who is a registered volunteer at a Charity shop in both her female and male names, for insurance purposes.

Good luck, Ruth

[Noel Chimes]

:yrtw: :ukflag: Enjoy the expirence that many of us only dream of. If the subject should come up about male or female be direct but kind. i can remember back in my "closet days" i worked with an L.P.N. who was a TG. I honestly wanted to make friends and come out to her, but when I tried to bring up the subject, her response was, "what's in my pants is none of your business".:strugglin
This is the perfect chance to actually show people that all we want to do is live our lives just like any other person. We just want to live it in a dress and heels. Have fun. BTW if you come across a Navy Blue 2 piece size 12, I've got dibs.:bw:

[Angela Burke]

Monica,
Great to hear your good news.
Well done sis.
We are all very proud of you.