First Negative Comment

[Gina Torres]

Well it finally happened. I knew it would eventually. I was waiting in line at a local thrift store buying some blouses. An old guy walks by and says, "San Francisco... take care." It doesn't really sound negative I guess, but his tone was condescending. For a while I dreaded this day, but when it happened I thought it was kinda funny. It didn't bother me as much as I thought it would. I kinda just laughed it off and went about my business. Here are pics of how I was dressed, I'm not that hideous right? Well, I think I look good anyway.

Anyone have any negative comments said to your face?

[Teresa]

Gina,
Hard to read that one, the comment could have been a compliment, maybe the guy just had a bad cold and his voice sounded harsh !

I guess if that's as bad as it gets carry on doing what you're doing and enjoy it . I can't see anything wrong with the way you look just another customer in the thrift store line !

[kittie60]

I wouldn't worry about it. He just probably seen a good looking lady buying some clothes and then made the comment. Thats how I would take it. Very nice pics of you.

[bridget thronton]

Forget about him - enjoy hour life and let him wallow in his ignorance

[threeheavenshigh]

You look super cute. Total babe. Don't let it bother you.

[S. Lisa Smith]

I'm glad that you shrugged it off. I think you look wonderful!

[alwayshave]

You look great. Just ignore the comments.

[Jenniferathome]

Water off a ducks back Gina. I was having a conversation last night with a fellow cross dresser about this very thing. I asked, "What's the worst thing someone can say?" "Freak?" It only bothers us if we allow it to bother us.

Of course the best thing one can do is smile and say thank you. It totally disarms any critic.

[Sonny]

I haven't had any negative comments to my face, YET. Hope I can brush it off like you did when it happens to me. Gina, you look very cute and passable. In Drab I'd probably eye you, enjoying the view.
Hugs,
Sonny

[char GG]

From your picture, you look nice.

Maybe you were reading too much into a stranger's comment. He may have some kind of mental issue or his life may be in the toilet. He probably has bigger problems than is readily apparent.

The others have given good advise, let it go.

My husband has heard comments like, "Mrs. Doubtfire", "old wh..." (usually from stupid men); but has had many more nice comments from a large range of men and women. He doesn't care, he just enjoys his time out. It probably bothers me more than him when rude stuff is said. As long as they just mutter random comments and keep their hands to themselves, don't worry.

:)

[Tara Rushing]

You look really cute. And you handled it well. You should be proud of yourself.

[Amy Lynn3]

Take it with a grain of salt. FWIW: I have been called worse that that in guy mode at the malls. Teenagers, sitting on benches making fun of anyone walking by. Words are one thing, but just hope they are never brave enough to touch us. I refer to the news stories of the knock-out games they play.:eek:

[Rachael Leigh]

Well it's his problem not yours you look very nice, nothing over the top just right for a day out

[CarlaWestin]

Anyone have any negative comments said to your face?
A receipt checker at Costco gave me an evil scowl when as she held up a six pack of panties I had purchased.

I said, "They're for your husband."

[Allison Chaynes]

Nice comeback, Carla!

[Robin414]

I had one a while ago buying a pair of flats en drab. The SA explained I uad 14 days to return them 'as long as they're not wrecked' as she put them in the bag holding them like a sack of dirty diapers 😝 She knew they were for me when she saw my name on the receipt was Ms.

I just smiled and walked out, I was so caught up with the flats! 😀

You look awesome BTW Gina, don't let the few negative remarks get you down!

[threeheavenshigh]

A receipt checker at Costco gave me an evil scowl when as she held up a six pack of panties I had purchased.

I said, "They're for your husband."

BAM, that's awesome!

[sometimes_miss]

Could have just confused him more by smiling and saying 'Thanks!' and then just went back to what you were doing; makes them try to figure out if they've been misunderstood. We have a gay worker that does stuff like that whenever someone makes any kind of remark and I love to see the confused looks on their faces.

[Adriana Moretti]

old guy??....sorry to hear that happened....but next time an old guy says something shoot him down, with a witty comment that is...ok not the best advice, but I would totally do it if i knew i could take him out. Thats me though , other times I may shrug it off if they are too weak....sometimes those comments can sting...
one time someone said i smoke like a "dude"...i just rolled my eyes and my friend said " Adriana are you gunna take that?? and my reply after I looked the person up & down was "Nah...thats too easy"

[Mink]

Was getting a Nightgown at a Wal_mart (!) when I was like... 21? ... and some old guy while I was going up to the registrar said something to the effect of "i don't think it'll look quite right on you" ... which made me nervous as heck but also was kind of amusing to me...

then some guy in the line said something about it being like the army... "hurry up and wait!" ... either not noticing what I was holding or just being cool... I laughed and thought that was a fun comment

it can be weird and scary and amusing and offensive all at the same time in a way!


I always hated the women who would say "i don't think it's your color!" ... esp. when it was PINK!

like... I almost wish they had said "that is DEF. your color!"

oh man


I know they were just joking / joshing me but I wish I could be like "well what would say IS my color?" and get some advice!

[Dana3]

I guess its an age thing? But anymore I could absolutely care less what anyone thinks or says?

[MelanieAnne]

An old guy walks by and says, "San Francisco... take care."

Not sure what he meant by that.

[joanna marie]

If I could look as good as you do,I'd be out every day

[Stephanie47]

To me "take care" usually means someone is leaving town. If he was casting disparaging remarks and leaving town, then good bye to him.

[wanabe-Leona]

I was checking out at Walmart SA asked if that bra would fit me?
Me : Sure then out the door

[BettyMorgan]

Gina, you look fabulous, and I hope you know that.

When I wake up in the morning, there's one thing I always get to choose and that's my attitude. Other people don't have that power over me and they certainly don't have power over how I feel. Unless, of course, I allow them to.

So always be positive. And smile.

[Lena]

I get negative, mean and condescending comments all the time when I'm standing in line in man mode. But that may just because I'm an ass.

[Jenny22]

A couple of days ago, en homme, I bought two very pretty dresses at "Ross Dress for less". The cashier asked me, jokingly, if I had tried them on. I jokingly replied, "no, too small." We laughed. I could have taken her question negatively, but didn't. I turned what could have been a negative into a positive.

[Alice Torn]

It is just part of being alive in this hard world. I have had many more cuss words, and other derogatory things said to me when out in drab, especially walking or bicycle riding. I f we are honest, we all have said such things either out loud, or quietly, or in our hearts about others, at some times in out lives.

[Lorileah]

I think the comment was meant for me as I AM going to San Francisco in 3 months and taking care seems a good idea for what I have planned.

Yeah I get half a dozen negative comments a year now. Duck...water...back

[Maxi]

You look great. He must just be insecure in his masculinity.
I have only gotten one negative comment. I was from a young redneck who spoke up as me and my daughter were leaving Walmart. He was in line at the Mcdonalds. His comment was "men shouldn't dress like women". My thought was he should be embarrassed to be that insecure in his sexuality. My daughter was already out the door, and didn't hear it.

[suchacutie]

Thankfully my worst comment happened after I bought this dress that I really thought would be terrific. I walk up to my wife all excited and she just looked at me, "That really doesn't work for you, does it?". Talk about completely deflated!!!

But in terms of the op, I've bought so much in male mode, just waiting for a negative comment so I could have fun with them, but I've not yet been able to have that fun! The worst thing I've gotten out was in male mode going into a fitting room (male fitting room) to try on woman's jeans. The attendant (women) thought she needed to point out to me that they were woman's jeans, asking me if I knew that. I told her I did know that and just looked at her. She pointed toward one of the open dressing rooms, I smiled (she didn't), and that was the end of that!

[CallmeAlice]

Personally I have not, I'm sorry that happens and hope it never happens again. I know eventually it will happen to me...

[jenniferinsf]

like others the comment was neutral but your read of the situation was driven by your feelings.

from just reading it, it seems harmless.

[Krisi]

Welcome to reality. There are folks who dislike crossdressers, gays (aren't all crossdressers gay?) and anyone different from themselves. It's OK, most of them are harmless and it's best to either ignore them or be pleasant to them. Smart ass remarks can cause problems.

[DanielleLee]

I'm in agreement with most of the others here... water off a duck's back. I don't see any cause for concern and to second Krisi's opinion, there will always be negative comments out there. As long as there are ignorant people... there will also be ignorant and mean comments.

Just another reason to put on and wear the big girl panties we all like so much :tongueout

[Judy-Somthing]

Well you can only guess what he was thinking. Did you ever say something and it was taken the wrong way. Who knows what he was thinking, he most likely let out a thought in his head about something else.

you look GG.

[joanna4]

Wow, you took it very well. I would have done the same. And for the record, you are beautiful so I don't know what he was thinking. Its ok to be a little upset, just don't let it stop you from being you.