Leap of faith concept

[Tracii G]

Jennifer has a post up where she met another CDer so I will post this meet up I made.
I met this one CDer online a few years ago on a site and never knew she was in my area.
I finally saw her post on FB and that she was friends with someone from here that is on my girl FB page.
After friending her on FB we started conversing.I will add she has great make up skills and a totally gorgeous girl.The total package is stunning to say the least.
Last month she said we should hang out sometime and suggested the local gay bar in my town.
I had business with friends during that day so I didn't have time to do the 100% girl mode thing so I met her in my regular 50/50 mode.
Took that "leap of Faith" and said this could be fun so why not she seems cool.
I had never been to this one gay bar before so it was a first for me as well.
Had a great time and made 3 new T girl friends in the process !
I could have passed but what fun is that?
The point is take the leap and put some faith in yourself and quit being to afraid to do something different.

[docrobbysherry]

Great post, Tracii! One I can relate, too.

When I first came out of the closet online 8 years ago? I joined this site and dateacd.com site. Over there, guys and dressers were hitting on Sherry like flies on----!

So, when a couple of local CD's from cd.com wanted to meet? I assumed they wanted sex and blew them off as nicely as I could. For which I still have regrets.:sad:

After meeting 100's of dressers in person since then? I can count the times I've been "approached" on the fingers of 1 hand. And, all of those were polite and respectful.

I strongly recommend meeting other dressers in your local. Some caution is necessary, of course. But, it's not the same as going out to meet a man who's attracted to dressers!:eek:

[Tracii G]

Yes Sherry there is a huge difference.
If its just a dresser you can always politely leave if you are not comfy in the situation and they will most likely understand a male admirer not so much.

[AllieSF]

OK Tracy, this thread can be a good as the "First Time Out" one where we are telling our first time out stories and posting those old pics. Maybe you should re-label this one to "What Were Some of Your First Leaps of Faith for Crossdressing?". I think that taking that "Leap of Faith" step is one of the best ways to meet new people, learn a lot about what works and does not when meeting someone new and can help build the courage, self confidence and desire to go out and do it again. I got hooked on dressing by doing just that with a complete stranger and dressing in her hotel room for the first time ever, wig, makeup and all the undergarments and accessories. I do not recommend that others take that same step like I did. However, meeting someone for the first time who has similar interests can be very rewarding in more ways than one.

My first goal when starting to dress was to find some friends to go out with. That took time and many Leaps of Faith to eventually build up a decent group of friends with whom to go out. As others have said, be careful, use your common sense and then have fun.

[RADER]

I have had several meat up's with fellow CD'rs.
One time, I was in DAB, while the rest,10 or so, came dressed.
I felt like orange in an apple barrel, I wished I had dressed or
some what dressed.
Other times, we both where DAB, witch just look like 2 old friends
meeting up for Coffee.
I like to meet up wit others, just nice to talk one on one, no pressure
or advances, just conservation.
Rader

[sometimes_miss]

Yet, a leap of faith should still include an educated estimation of what to expect; what are the potential hazards, as well as the potential benefits of such a leap. The most important of which includes, is one willing to accept the worst possible results of that leap? Leaps of faith should not be done with the expectation that everything will come out for the best, as we are talking about potentially huge impacts upon someone's life. Would you leap out of a plane, expecting god to give you wings? Or would you put on a parachute just in case that didn't happen? Blindly jumping into a situation, and just hoping for the best isn't something that we should recommend to anyone. Consider your options, the potential outcomes, and then make an educated decision before 'leaping'.

[Tracii G]

SM I'm not saying if you are really uncomfortable to do it. Weigh your options and be safe for sure.
I think you missed my whole point SM.
Meeting a CD from here or one you have spoken to online for a meet up you should be fine and relatively safe.Not someone from a pornish/fetish CD site that you don't know.
If its something YOU personally wouldn't do then fine but please don't say I am giving bad advice just because you aren't comfortable it.
There are many here that have done exactly what I did and they tell there stories on here so whats the problem in trying to be positive?
I'm just about done trying to be positive on this site because I always catch grief over it from a select group of experts that seem to love putting a damper on everything.
Sorry but I had to rant a little.

[IamWren]

Well i thought it was a really cool story and gives me hope that someday, I'll actually step out of the friendly confines of my house and meet a friend from this site and just cry we're laughing so hard at the fun we're having.

And as for being safe and considering what could go wrong... I'm pretty sure having made this far in life and being a grown ass adult, most, if not all would take those considerations in to account.

[Lauri K]

Took that "leap of Faith" and said this could be fun so why not she seems cool.
I had never been to this one gay bar before so it was a first for me as well.
Had a great time and made 3 new T girl friends in the process !
I could have passed but what fun is that?
The point is take the leap and put some faith in yourself and quit being to afraid to do something different.

Tracii is spot on the mark here, you cannot be afraid to do something different !!!

[Robin414]

I'm with you Tracii, I'm starting to 'interact' a lot more in 50/50 mode (I look like a dude who looks like a chic but not trying to look like a chic but actually trying to look like a chic 😧.... or...natual!)

I've taken several of those leaps and so far the responses range from nothing out of plain old ordinary to actual elevated respect and uncommon friendliness.

Sure, I pick my 'battles' and use my super Spidy sense so as to architect a positive outcome (cuz that's how you intentionally build confidence) 😉

[mykell]

hi traci,
ive have been going to a support group for some time and have only met one who crossdresses....lots of diversity in the group, that said to meet more folks like me i then put my money where my mouth is and started a "meet-up" for us jersey girls to have these types of meetings, its a slow going venture but i hope that as time goes things will pick up....as far as the leap of faith, i do have interaction with members here by e-mail and call and text some but the distance makes it difficult to meet in person, would love to meet you and hear you play one of those guitars you own, you seem really cool, but again not a short drive to meet somewhere, but i get what your saying, we have to trust ourselves to make rational decisions to meet folks that we meet here at some point....

[Tracii G]

Mikell you get the point I was making so thank you for being able to think out side of the box.
You have a great idea and I hope you have success with your group.
Yes being an adult you know when things just don't sound right and know better than to put yourself in danger. You can always say no.
I think some here have such a narrow view of the world and pick the safe road and thats fine if it works for you.
Me I just can't go thru life wondering and end up saying if I only had done this it would drive me crazy.
I have done dangerous things in my life that were not of my choosing but I made it thru OK. Meeting a CD in public hardly seems all that much of a hard thing to do.
I would rather have a little zest in life than to place myself in a cage.