Thoughts of being a woman full time

[tiffanynjcd24]

Have anyone thought about being a woman full time like actually take hormones and go out in public as a woman? Would any of you ever consider transition someday

[Kate Simmons]

I personally don't feel the need to transition Tiff. It's up to you though. You make a very beautiful woman in any case. :battingeyelashes::)

[sometimes_miss]

Thought about it when I was much younger, but it never made much sense to pursue it; back then, there were no therapists and testosterone blockers available for kids who's gender was in doubt. There was no way I would ever pass as a female, so I wouldn't be 'a woman'; I'd just be a man who dresses as a woman and takes some hormones. I had lived my childhood being the outcast, the joke that other kids made fun of. I didn't want to live my adult life that way, and have to deal with frequent confrontations. Some might call it cowardice. I call it being pragmatic.

[grace7777]

I am currently in the process of thinking of being a woman full time and am considering taking hormones. Transitioning is definitely a possibility in the future. I am now going out as a woman most of the time, except when the activities are work related.

For me the major issue now is to figure out a way I can transition and yet be able to support myself financially.

[EllieMayxxx]

I am heavily considering transition, I have thought about it when i was 15 but i was still trying to suppress them feelings because I didn't understand it properly. In November I started to accept myself and the last few weeks I have tried to get counselling. In the next couple of months i will be saving up for a few items of clothing and maybe some makeup if i can afford it. Hopefully i will find a job in that time so i can put more towards it.

[tiffanynjcd24]

Back then i thought about doing it. (I am still considering it.) Its just hard for me at times to even think about the idea of going full time worrying what everybody else thinks

[Kimberley May]

No. I'm happy with my man sausage and also being a regular guy. I just do this privately for kicks and escapism :)

[tiffanynjcd24]

Right now i am happy being a crossdresser and i wouldnt change anything about myself. It just that i didnt understand about the transitioning aspects of it, or like how much for hormones and stuff. Plus i just started working and i dont know how my coworkers would feel


Its just i still thinking about it

[MissDanielle]

You shouldn't have to worry about what others think. It's about YOU.

I am going to start transitioning as soon as I move. My outsides don't match my insides. Guy clothes are so unbearable right now and I have to deal with it for another two weeks.

[JeanTG]

I think about it all the time. Whether I do or not though, that's another issue. I have to weigh what I'd give up, what responsibilities I'd have to shirk, etc. If every I do, I doubt it would go farther than hormones, and splitting between my two gender roles, the one I was conditioned to by being born male, and the one that I feel (most of the time).

[tiffanynjcd24]

I feel the same way. However i need to get out almost every weekend as a girl

Danielle, i have to go to work as a guy

[Helen_Highwater]

If you're thinking about transitioning but have never lived for an extended period fully femme then you're putting the cart before the horse. Anyone considering this move and seeking medical support will be expected to demonstrate that they can live 24/7 fully femme of an extended period, we're talking months if not years.

It may seem like the ideal but living femme 24/7 can be a daunting task. The simple logistics that GG's face in just going out the door and looking half presentable shouldn't be underestimated. Just a basic bit of foundation and getting the hair looking right isn't a 2 minute job. There are well documented cases of those who transitioned wishing to return back to the male ego because being femme is just plain hard work!

Having spent 5 days fully femme on several occasions I know just how taxing it can be. Simple example; male mode-going for a pee, stand still, zip down (OK you know the rest); femme mode, skirt/dress up tights down (without laddering them) underwear down, sit, (make sure skirt/dress is out of the way) etc etc, re-dress making sure everything's just so. I've over exaggerated? Look at the queues for the male Vs female toilets in a theatre.

[tiffanynjcd24]

Helen i am still thinking about it. But i feel that i like being both male and female. It will continue for a long time. I cant give up being a cd thats for sure. I went out in public twice. However, going full time is a big step

[MelanieAnne]

Never gave it a serious thought. I would miss the boys.

[cdterri]

Started to transition in the seventies, lived almost 2 yrs as a female. Just decided it wasn't for me. I enjoyed being male but loved my skirts and dresses. So next best thing "CROSSDRESS" YAY

[pamela7]

that's what the TS part of the forum is all about ... being and doing that, full-time woman.

[Krisi]

Going out in public as a woman does not translate to being one or becoming one. And transitioning is not as simple as taking pills. It's a long, drawn out and expensive process and not one that can easily be reversed if you don't like it on "the other side".

You might be better off posting your questions on the transsexual forum.

[tiffanynjcd24]

Well anyway krisi. Like i said before, i love being a cd, i cant change who i am being that tiffany is a part of my life.

Yes someone did want me to give up crossdressing before being that she want to be with me

I am willing go out in public on weekends and sometimes on weekdays as tiffany. I know that i will be more comfortable

[kavyaruma]

Hi Tiffany . It is a long thought process and i gave up but if you consider seriously , it require complete living as a female 24/7 for at least a year before think as it provide you opportunity to asses who you want to be and don't rush it out . I consider cross-dressing is a kind of escape from the world i live as male and enjoy every bit of second when i m treated as a girl .. hope you can decide for your better.. Good Luck girl .

[Robin414]

Hey Tiffany! I think about it occasionally (if every day qualifies as occasionally 😯 ).

At the risk of sounding like a chauvanistc bacon factory though, I enjoy the male privilege and although there certainly is female privilege as well...I don't think I'd qualify for that...transition would for me I think leave me in 'privilege limbo'.

You're lucky in that you're young and beautiful (either way) but there are LOTS of factors to weigh...carefully...YOU need to ask YOURSELF the tough questions and answer them truthfully, IMHO 😉

[tiffanynjcd24]

Hey i decided that i want to stay as a cd for a long time being that i love to dress up as a woman

[bridget thronton]

I doubt I have the courage to live as a woman full time - i suspect work would be ok but some friends and extended family members would likely not want to see me post transition

[Maria Strange]

I would love to dress full time but it would cause too much grief for me and my friends family and acquaintances. My wife married me not maria it's asking a lot for her to spend the rest of our lives with me enfemme. Then there's work you don't get many full time tranny cab drivers. That could be dangerous especially if your passengers have had a lot to drink. There are other reasons too many to mention still I can dream

[tiffanynjcd24]

Its like any one of us has to consider a lot of factors before transitioning. Besides i would love to go full time but i cant

[sherri]

Tiffany, I am NOT trying to persuade you one way or the other, but I would have to say that if I could turn back time to when I was just starting out in life, I would have to say that yes, knowing what I do now, I would give it very serious consideration -- on the following conditions:

1. I was young, like late teens to late 20s.

2. I had an advanced degree or was in the process of earning one.

3. I had a clear, TG-accepting career path in mind.

4. I believed that I could persuade at least some of my family to understand and accept my choice. You never outgrow your need for family.

5. I had not started a marriage or family with someone who couldn't completely embrace the fem me.

6. I was prepared to accept that my choice might make finding a serious, long-lasting romantic relationship difficult. It might also mean -- but not necessarily -- that I might not ever have children, at least of my own. I would have to do a lot of soul searching about this one.

I must add, however, that I cannot imagine ever wanting to undergo all-the-way SRS. Hormones, yes. Implants, yes. Surgery "down there", no. Just not geared that way, and from what I've read, the "substitute" isn't all that satisfactory.

[Alice_2014_B]

I have thought about what it would be like, from time to time, but it is something I could never do.
:)

[tiffanynjcd24]

Sherri i thought about what you said and i appreciate it. However i feel that i will be more happier as a beautiful crossdresser like there is nothing wrong with being a cd

[CallmeAlice]

I have, in the past. But for me it just wouldn't feel right. I don't feel like a woman, and I don't want to be a woman. For other people this may be different but for me, that's a no.

[Curiosity666]

Let me change the question slightly.

Instead of asking "Do I want to transition", you should ask "Am I a crossdresser, or trans?" Don't fall into the trap of thinking "I don't know if I would want to transition for social reasons, therefore I must be a crossdresser, *not* trans".

You should answer the first question by itself, remove social factors from the equation. If you decide you're just a crossdresser awesome! If you decide your trans, then also awesome! You now know what you're dealing with. Then you can start thinking about whether transition is for you (knowing that you would be happier in a female body, all other factors aside)

[JanePeterson]

Some wise woman on here told me a while back that transition has nothing to do with the
positive feelings of presenting female, rather how awful you feel presenting male.... I think in most circumstances, it takes a good fear of death or actual insanity to fuel the grueling process of transition... Just chasing positive feelings would never be sufficient to justify the sacrifices of a full transition. I haven't done it yet so I don't know, but having really considered the impacts, basically you have to want it more than anything else in your life, cause it can take you giving up everything to get there

[Bruce64]

Go for it, if you want to be a Trans just do it. I will remain a man that wears Feminine attire.

[Adriana Moretti]

alot of my friends have transitioned, i though have no desire, I WOULD however get lazer, and a little bit of facial feminization, but lets face it .Im never going to be able to afford either , my friend just got an estimate on facial feminization...40,000 dollars ...so....no dont see that ever happening unless i marry a rich guy.

[tiffanynjcd24]

I understand where you coming from ladies. I really do. However i am just a happy crossdresser who loves dressing up as a woman and having fun. Besides i am not going to transition at all why because i dont have the money to do it. Yes i am happy that i went out to trevi lounge on January 16th and i want to do it again. I want to see what it is like to go out in public

I wont mind doing electrolysis. Im not sure about hrt yet

[MarciManseau]

I did all the six things Sherri mentioned above, went full time right after college. I've been on hormones for about 7 years, no implants needed, and I doubt that I'll ever want, or be able to afford, SRS. Julie and I both like now I'm equipped now.

I do wish I was able to be a real mother though, and maybe one day science will make that possible.

[jenniferinsf]

I am currently in the process of thinking of being a woman full time and am considering taking hormones. I am now going out as a woman most of the time, except when the activities are work related.

if i were younger i would seriously consider it

[tiffanynjcd24]

Oh wow thats great. Me i am just thinking about it like each day

[BillieAnneJean]

For some transitioning is their destiny. It was always their destiny. They likely knew from childhood that their body didn't match their mind. They are very brave.

But for me, I am just a Crossdresser. I find that I have the best of both worlds. Getting to do the guy things (some of which is thrust upon me and not good) mostly is good. And escaping that world once a week and going out enfemme.

For the GGs who read this, please think of it FOR ME as spending six days a week in a pretty much good, gender neutral job. Six days dressed in a blah pants uniform and on Saturday getting all dolled up and escaping into my girly side. Perhaps a GG might feel the same escape or transformation. From denim to sequins kind of thing.

Because there is more time as a guy the time spent enfemme is all the more sweet.

In the hypothetical case above because that fictional GG spends more time in a gender neutral work life it would make the escape to be the glam all the more enjoyable.

But when I get back home, I will always return to guy, husband, father, and her lover. It is where I belong.

[karen inside]

Always have wished i could but knowing what i do about hormones, AAS, and how complicated all of this is -i'll just deal with my feminine side(she is the majouity in me) , enjoy her when i can, and dream that someday in another life i can be this beautiful woman thats within.

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That said...i am much younger than my siblings by over ten years (a suprise) and smaller boned, fair haired with little body hair. Had i been born around the time they were- i would possibly been female. All other family members have siblings of both genders even dating back to 1800's. Probably why i think as one. Even all the stupis on line gender tests say im 70% female or more.

[Sky]

Tiff, I think you're right to decide to stay a cd, at least for now. You say you've been out in drag only twice. And you work as a guy, and -from what I gather- there's nothing in your daily presentation that suggests you're a cd. In summary, it sounds way too early to consider hormones. Maybe in the future, if you inch closer to live 24/7 as a woman, it will make sense to you. Or maybe you'll never feel the need to transition (myself I don't). But where you are now, any such move would be way too premature.

[missjoann]

I made the transition some time ago...I love it, I love who I am and who I have become

[Myra Thomas]

Always have and always will����

[tiffanynjcd24]

Sky i dont want to wait until 50 and i wish i should done this or i wish i should done it when i was younger. Right now i am still a cd. Yes i been wearing women stuff here and there and i love it. I know i will never give it up. Another thing is that im still in the closet but i just been more open with myself

[karen inside]

Tiffany, read research, educate yourself! I have done heavy doses of testosterone e before and spent months learning about dosage, AI's and pct for months before making a decision. And test is compatible with the male system. Even so...so many sides and possible permanent damage. Our bodies are very complicated..and although we have estrogen in us..we are not fully equiped females and results are not always positive. Think things thru long term. .and again educate yourself. We all support each other and answers are not always what we wish to hear.

[tiffanynjcd24]

Karen in your opinion, you think i should just stay a cd instead of transition? Im curious.

By the way, i did research on this subject since i was 13.

[karen inside]

At my place of employment, we have everyone from all walks of life. On of my co workers (female wanting to become male) this past year did ALL physical changes. Of course it all begins with professional evaluation over a period of time. She wished to work in a mans world, and has succeeded. it went well in her case. Because I am human...and being full of flaws, I look back on many things in my life that I once was comitted to, but due to friends who influenced me coming and going, or a change of the social environment around me I lost intrest in these passions (crossdressing always came back but it is not outside of my home...wish i could be out with many of you). With a decision as yours you already know its for life but the permanent financial part of it may also be an issue. life is for enjoying and surrounding yourself with positive , happy people and a TON of friends. you may move & make new friends, jobs end, careers change, goals in life change. be flexible & careful not to place yourself where you may suppress your wings later! If you are not happy as you are, can you be sure you will be happy in all aspects of your life with these changes? I would remain...you have a clear complexion, feminine appearance so have the best of both!

[Lorileah]

Karen in your opinion, you think i should just stay a cd instead of transition? Im curious.




How would she know? Most of what you are discussing here leads me to the idea you really REALLY need to see a counselor. I have read your threads for years now and you don't seem to have a grasp on who you are let alone if you should transition. The members here are not trained in this. It is like asking people here how to build a moon rocket.

[tiffanynjcd24]

Loieah i already decided to stay as a cd. I am ok with having a best of both worlds. It was just a thought that is it. Yes i wish i can transition but i cant. I realized that im just a beautiful cd that is it. Yes i do need electrolysis still. I hate the fact that when i shaved it damages my face

[Lorileah]

I hate the fact that when i shaved it damages my face


again, really, you considered 24/7 for that? I reiterate, see a professional counselor.

[tiffanynjcd24]

Loieah why i do need a professional counselor for that. I am sorry if i being disrespectful but that is ridiculous for that. I just said that i already will continue be a cd. I just saying that when i shaved my face, i getting bumps everywhere. Thats why i am getting electrolysis. Sorry for going off topic.

[Tina_gm]

Tiffany, there is nothing wrong with considering something, and asking others for their thoughts. Although, seeing a counselor is hardly ever a bad thing either. All tools to help a person live the best life for themselves they can.


I myself have thought about it, and I would imagine at some point or another, many CDers do at least briefly ponder it. Count me in as one of the ones who have pondered. I came to the conclusion that living as a woman without some sort of physical transition was not for me, as I did not want to be always looked upon as a guy in a dress. I do not want to do physical alterations either, especially HRT because I do not want to lose abilities in the intimacy department. I also Greatly enjoy my marriage and being a father to my kids. By at least socially transitioning, that would alter to such a great extent. I enjoy who I am as a parent and what I mean to my kids as I am. I would also loose my marriage with either a full social transition, or a partial one with physical alterations. All circles that keep pointing to no for me to make some sort of full time leap. Do I sometimes struggle with my feminine desires? absolutely. But, for me I kept seeing that I would have even greater struggles if I cured the feminine struggle. It isn't ultimately a trade off that works for the overall betterment of my life. So, I just do the best I can and deal with my circumstances in life as best I can. It isn't easy at times, but life usually isn't one way or another.

[sometimes_miss]

The simple logistics that GG's face in just going out the door and looking half presentable shouldn't be underestimated. Just a basic bit of foundation and getting the hair looking right isn't a 2 minute job.
That's not the case for all women. Having lived with one of those minimalist type unfeminine wives, mine would usually just brush her hair a bit and consider it all done for casual things like just going to the supermarket and such. Not every woman makes a big production out of everyday make up, hair and attire.

There are well documented cases of those who transitioned wishing to return back to the male ego because being femme is just plain hard work!
Perhaps not so much that it's hard work, but that they didn't count on NOT becoming the beautiful girl of their dreams, and not being treated like a real woman. Many of us dream about being a beautiful girl; and I can pretty much guarantee you that NONE of us fantasize about being a homely, frumpy woman with a male physique, facial structure, gait and voice. Yet that's what the future is for a lot of TS who prefer to ignore reality. There's only a very tiny percentage of us who could completely blend into the population as women; something is very often going to give us away. I think that great expectations vs reality is what causes most cases of 'buyers remorse' when it comes to transitioning. But yeah, it's certainly a lot of work for a mtf TS as opposed to what my ex wife's life was like most days. She didn't have to do anything to appear as a woman, being one.

Look at the queues for the male Vs female toilets in a theatre.
To a certain extent, the waiting is exacerbated even further, by the matter of fewer stalls vs the row of urinals on a wall. Count up both in any set of rest rooms and you'll find there are usually only half (or less) porcelain fixtures in a women's rest room vs a mans. A casual peek into the ladies rest room while the guy was mopping the floor with the door open, revealed five stalls; the men's room? five stalls and six urinals on the wall opposite the stalls.

[Tina_gm]

Perhaps not so much that it's hard work, but that they didn't count on NOT becoming the beautiful girl of their dreams, and not being treated like a real woman. Many of us dream about being a beautiful girl; and I can pretty much guarantee you that NONE of us fantasize about being a homely, frumpy woman with a male physique, facial structure, gait and voice. Yet that's what the future is for a lot of TS who prefer to ignore reality. There's only a very tiny percentage of us who could completely blend into the population as women; something is always going to give us away. I think that great expectations vs reality is what causes most cases of 'buyers remorse' when it comes to transitioning. But yeah, it's certainly a lot of work for a mtf TS as opposed to what my ex wife's life was like most days. She didn't have to do anything to appear as a woman, having been one.

You certainly like to stir the pot, don't you lol. You know this one will get some feathers ruffled. While I agree with you on a part of this, I think for those truly TS, it is worth it to them to be as authentic as they possibly can be, their appearance be damned if necessary. Many who are or have transitioned have had to sacrifice so much, so their appearance may not actually be so traumatic to them.

For those who end up with buyers remorse and for reasons such as above, they probably should have never transitioned in the 1st place. It is not like there are not any GG's who also deal with masculine appearance, have no choice in the matter as those are the cards they were dealt with at birth. They, like anyone simply has to do the best they can.

I can tell you that ONE of the reasons why I would not live FT is because I do not want to make the physical alterations, especially HRT that would aide with femininization, because of the side effect of losing most if not all my ability to be intimate with what I was born with. So I would not want to be constantly looked upon as someone who may be dressed as a woman, but not ever considered one. Again, this is NOT a valid reason for someone who IS TS to not transition. For them, they will make do with what they can, because for them, they are still more aligned with their authentic selves then as a male.

[tiffanynjcd24]

My last therapist told me to basically be happy living as both genders. Basically i want to say that i dont have desire to transition at all. I am just a happy cd who likes dressing up as tiffany and who loves being both.

[Sister Rachel]

Thought about it when I was much younger, but it never made much sense to pursue it; back then, there were no therapists and testosterone blockers available for kids who's gender was in doubt. There was no way I would ever pass as a female, so I wouldn't be 'a woman'; I'd just be a man who dresses as a woman and takes some hormones. I had lived my childhood being the outcast, the joke that other kids made fun of. I didn't want to live my adult life that way, and have to deal with frequent confrontations. Some might call it cowardice. I call it being pragmatic.

That's pretty much where I'm at too :)

[OCCarly]

One of the best things that came out of being a member of this forum, and spending the past year or so interacting with you folks, is it made me fully realize, that I am a girl, plain and simple. I am not a guy who likes to crossdress. For me, being the guy is the role playing, and it is a role that I have gotten very good at playing, but it is not me and never was. Yesterday, I had a massive panic attack to firmly remind me of that.

My only two reasons for not transitioning are my wife, and a need to do my job, make my money, and function in society. But the bottom line is, when I put on the suit and tie, I am donning a suit of armor. Come home and switch to girly T shirt and leggings, that's me.

[tiffanynjcd24]

One of the best things that came out of being a member of this forum, and spending the past year or so interacting with you folks, is it made me fully realize, that I am a girl, plain and simple. I am not a guy who likes to crossdress. For me, being the guy is the role playing, and it is a role that I have gotten very good at playing, but it is not me and never was. Yesterday, I had a massive panic attack to firmly remind me of that.

My only two reasons for not transitioning are my wife, and a need to do my job, make my money, and function in society. But the bottom line is, when I put on the suit and tie, I am donning a suit of armor. Come home and switch to girly T shirt and leggings, that's me.

I agree with you carly

In the daytime i am a regular guy doing database work. However at home i just want to enjoy my girly time like wearing leggings and panties.

[Alayna16]

Overall, I am very happy being a man the vast majority of the time. Dressing up is a sexual thrill for me and exploring just where it will lead me is intriguing. But as a full time thing? No.

[Mandy Faye]

It has never entered my mind, Until recently. I have always hid to put on heels or a skirt . Using basis Walmart items that I felt comfortable buying ( as my pix.. lol ) But, it seams with each new blouse , skirt or wig ... starting to put outfits together ... I am starting to think all day about getting home to change and what outfit I'm going to wear . I have even started feeling more comfortable feeling "pretty" than I do being the boss at work .. the days are getting longer ...lol . I don't feel that I have to know where I'm going right now ... Just that I like it :-)

[tiffanynjcd24]

All i think about is that when i get home from work, i just want to wear female clothes or sleep in female attire. I feel pretty and beautiful.

I cant really go out on weekends and be tiffany. I am dealing with a girl that uses me for my money and time. She doesn't accept me

[nikkiwindsor]

Tiffany, you look amazing! I wish the girl you know was accepting of who you are...Nikki

[Robin414]

I just sent you a PM hon, this is a safe place to explore and find yourself!!!

[tiffanynjcd24]

Thanks nikki. Its hard for me to find someone that is accepting of my crossdressing. I having trouble of finding women. I haven't been in a relationship with women in a long time. Matter of fact i am bisexual

[Claire Cook]

Hi Tiffany,

You'll find many variations of how others of us have dealt with this question. In the end it comes down to what you want to do and who you want to be. If you read some of the stories from those of us who have transitioned, you get the sense that they knew that the time was right. I think you will find your path, wherever it leads.

[tiffanynjcd24]

I am actually understand those stories. I do admire it