Have you ever kissed a man?

[Christina D]

Christina, first of all apologies if I went a little sarcastic in reply to your post, hey, I'm British, we're very good at it. Let me just state for the record I have absolutely nothing against anyone doing whatever they want (within reason of course), I just found it a little difficult getting my head around the fact of a straight person having a number of same sex encounters and maybe(?) wanting more. I am the father of a gay son, I love him as much after he told me as before he did and it has never been an issue with us since. I know peoples sexuality can be highly confusing at times, but whatever path you follow I hope its the right one for you.
Diane x

No apologies necessary. I hope my response didn't come across as bitter or snarky, I was just trying my best to put the record...straight? ;-)

[SHINY-J]

I haven't ever kissed a man - dressed as a gurl or a guy- As much in the closet as I am about my dressing fetish/desire, I'm very honest with myself - I'm into my 30s now and I have an ex-wife and a pretty impressive resume of women that I've dated.. feeling like something must be "wrong with me" because I'm still single with no kids and no significant prospect of a future wife in sight, - I have wondered at some point and time if I was just pursuing the wrong gender... as I'm sure most of the world has as some point- even if just for a brief moment... but I honestly don't find men attractive in everyday life and I don't ever fantasize or dream romantic dreams about men.

However, when I dress, (and my dressing is strictly a fetish for me) I do have fantasies about men - however, I think that's mainly because my only interactions online when I'm dressed are propositions from men. That, and the select few times I've opened up about my dressing with a woman, that it went horrible....

I'm sure at some point I will kiss a man, but it will be while I'm dressed as I'm just SO desperate to be dressed as a gurl and have a sexual experience with someone else--- ANYONE ELSE! I would prefer a woman, but my previous poor experiences with women makes me believe that women who are okay with dressing are almost nonexistent... but that's mainly me desiring a woman for a long-term relationship who I can be open and honest with... as far as comfort level and desire, I would much rather kiss another "gurl" while we were both dressed- however, I simply cannot make connections online that lead to an actual meeting in person as so many crossdressers are in the closet like myself and afraid to take that next step and actually meet face-to-face... however, guys seem to be in OVER-abundance and are willing to meet anytime, anywhere... so, as time goes on and I get more and more desperate and eager to have this experience, I'm sure I will be with a man in the near future...

[Acastina]

"my previous poor experiences with women makes me believe that women who are okay with dressing are almost nonexistent... but that's mainly me desiring a woman for a long-term relationship who I can be open and honest with"

Not sure how many you might find who would be wild about the Wonder Woman look of your avatar, but there are more than a few who fit your "nonexistent" description (okay with dressing, long-term relationship, open and honest).

I've been married to one for 13 years. Keep looking.

[Janine G]

Yes, my first sexual relationship was with a male. It took a while for him to feel comfortable kissing me.

[Abbie965]

When in guy mode, Kissing a man completely turns me off. But, when I dress as Abbie, the thought of kissing a guy, or him touching my leg in hose, or even the possibility of sex really turns me on. I am not sure if this is just a fantasy, and that if it really happened it might turn me off. It's very confusing to me. When I dress, I become very sexual.

[Kate Jennings]

Oh, God yes!

[Jenniferxcd]

Abbie965's post could have been written by me. Her words rang so very true in my life as well. When in guy mode I would never think of it but as Jennifer, I have on many occasions

[briana_betancourt]

A bit late to the party... but I have kissed a few men in femme and absolutely loved it! The first time was an entirely new wave emotions that I just don't feel in boy mode. I swear you really do melt into his arms if you're attracted to him. I also just began a relationship with a great man a few weeks ago who adores my female side. I can't wait to get dolled up and give him a great big kiss when he comes over tomorrow night :)

[Tracii G]

I kissed my date tonight, a trans man but still a man in my eyes.

[mbmeen12]

Kiss and tell hmmmm??????
My new gurl friend is now a snow bird:(

[Amelie]

Yes I have. My first time was when an older man forced himself on me as a teen. Then kissing continued with loser boyfriends. Now I live alone and want a kiss or sex from no one. The next thing I kiss is when I kiss my butt goodbye.

[Bailee]

Yes. I'm bi , and had a steady relationship with a guy at the time. It was more my fantasy than his. It was fun, and he didn't mind, but since it wasn't really his thing it felt a little creepy and self serving. I think it was just something I needed to get off my bucket list. I found it didn't really add anything, except a lot of work getting ready. The lady I've been with for the last 5 years is really into it, which makes life pretty interesting.

[Marianne S]

No.

(Gee, that didn't take long to answer! ;) )

[SamanthaR]

I kissed a guy once. I was out with a GG casual girlfriend and was dressed. This guy that she casual knew came into the bar and started to talk to us. I found that as he looked me up and down I felt like a woman being checked out, and while part of it felt a little uncomfortable it was also rather thrilling. I could feel the butterflies start as he put his hand on my leg and as he leaned into toward me to tell me something (since it was loud) he kissed my neck. Oh boy. That seemed to be the start of it. Since I did not pull back he came back in for more and next thing I knew his hands were going up my stockinged thighs and his toungue was darting into my mouth. This went on for what was probably a minute or two, though it seemed longer. I totally had lost my control and was thinking I wanted him to take me away. As I mentioned early a girlfriend was out with me and called foul... and May have saved me from myself.i have not had an experience since then and actually have only been out dressed a few times after.... now it is primarily for me when the current wife is away or the sneaking of panties under my male clothes at work. I would say that for all practical purposes that I am straight but I wonder about that night and fantasize about it every once and a while.

[Hazel_k]

I think I would be reluctant to kiss another man when we were both in "male mode," so to speak. Would it be different if we were both dressed full tilt as women--clothes, wig, makeup? Would this qualify as "kissing a man?"

[Territx]

Good question Hazel . . . I raised it also! So, how would you respond? -- would you kiss another "fully dressed" crossdresser? Do you think that would count as kissing a man?

My answers: Yes, I would and have, and then my head exploded before I figured out the answer to the second part!!! :battingeyelashes:

[Gwyneth]

Clarify "head exploded"! Mind in gutter!!

[Territx]

Alright Guynbart! -- You got me on that one; I will definitely have to be more careful around some of you "wild and crazy" ("SNL" reference for the younger ones in this group :heehee:) people!

[Janet Murray]

Not about just kissing.....So, I thought I was 100% hetro, but when I dress as Janet I feel different, as if I want to experience a man touching my leg, holding me, maybe kissing me, maybe more.....Not sure what is going on, and I am really confused. Any one have similar feelings? I really need/want to understand what is going on. Funny thing, all of my life, until recently, I would have never thought of contact with a man, in all honesty, previously it would have made me sick. When In guy mode, it does, but as Janet......

[Gwyneth]

Disclaimer! I am not a doctor nor do I play one on TV. Rank amateur, emphasis on rank. You get the picture.

I've written and deleted a lot. Bottom line - I don't know either. Maybe you've heard this - change the things you can, accept the things you can't, have wisdom to discern the difference.

[Stacy Darling]

Not Yet!!

[ReallyLauren]

Only on the cheek so far but who knows what the future holds...

[SunHun]

..only when my SO dressed up as a cowboy for Halloween! Oh, she looked so pretty even as a cowboy!!

On a serious note, the answer would be a NO, and I don't plan to or have any desire to. However, I do have 'been kissed by a boy' story:

When I was in high school, a handful of guys teased me for around a month for my gynecomastia (I wasn't aware of it being a medical condition then and tried very hard not to not let it affect me then). One day during the meal break, one of them suddenly jumped in front of me and kissed me on the cheek while his friends and a few other guys had a good laugh. Until that day, I had been just trying to ignore the whole teasing and bullying but when that happened, I threw a punch at him in a quick reflex and he turned around at least a half circle. I think everyone around became quiet almost instantaneously and I could see the red impression of left on his cheek from my half closed fist. The teasing and bullying stopped from that moment. It feels such a long time ago now.

[Geena Gee]

I've never had the desire to kiss a man, although I've had a few try to kiss me. I have kissed a few women while en femme, but only if their lipstick was close to the same shade as mine.. Funny and true!

[Mickitv]

Absolutely, I love to kiss men or women, while I am dressed or not dressed. I guess that is the passionate part of me.

[Jenny22]

Janet Murray, welcome to this fabulous forum! Many here occasionally feel as you do ("but as Janet"). This is the place to ask and answer, so let down your hair and take advantage of it!



Not about just kissing.....So, I thought I was 100% hetro, but when I dress as Janet I feel different, as if I want to experience a man touching my leg, holding me, maybe kissing me, maybe more.....Not sure what is going on, and I am really confused. Any one have similar feelings? I really need/want to understand what is going on. Funny thing, all of my life, until recently, I would have never thought of contact with a man, in all honesty, previously it would have made me sick. When In guy mode, it does, but as Janet......

[Diane Taylor]

Never kissed a man

[Abbie965]

Same here, never have, but as others have said, when I dress as Abbie the thoughts and desires come forward.

[Karyn Marie]

Yes, I have kissed a man many times, and it is absolute heaven. I love it!:kissing:

[Steph65]

I will say yes I have been kissed. I did not act first but it was acted upon me when I was not too sure about it. Felt strange at first then after it is like an addiction almost.

[JoanFlores]

Yes, many times when in fem, and a few times in male mode. I enjoy the moment.

[erica2054]

yes i kissed a man - and will only kiss a man when i am dressed in fem clothes. I was surprised it felt so natural = by the way it took me 62 years to do this

[Just Nikki]

I don't think I would be interested in kissing a man while in drab but kissing a man or CD while in drag might be a different story, especially another CD.

[mechamoose]

Men taste nice.

Let's look at this another way.

You like what you like and you are who you are. You didn't get it pick what you currently are.

Why assume? It is another person. A person you like enough to even *consider* kissing them.

Doesn't that mean something?

This isn't (to me) a sexual issue. You should get over yourself on that. I have the most tragically het boyfriend ever, yet I still love him, It isn't his fault. Family and tradition and embarrassment.

The thing that gets me is WHY this even matters? You either like someone or you don't. I don't see much distinction as to why chromosomes come into play at all here.

If you like someone, you want to be nice to them. You want to look out for them. You want to take care of them.

I don't see where gender has any place in those decisions.

- MM

[Michala]

Two, one was nice the other, a little to aggressive. Didn't enjoy that one at all. Can't say I'll never do it again but not looking for another encounter either. May happen, if not, that's fine.

[krissy]

I have kissed a man i didnt like it as much as kissing a woman especially when she has lipstick on your lips seem to glide around each others it was the most sensual experience i have ever had and i have been married to her ever since but now she wont do it any more oh how i miss those kisses

[kimdl93]

Nope. Early on, I presumed that CD implied gay, but that bell just would not ring for me. I guess a lot of us tried, but found it just didn't work for us. Now I think we all realize that gender ID and sexual preference are distinct from one another.

[CourtneyJamieson]

Yes, I have kissed 5 Guys while dressed. All were quite stimulating. I have no desire to kiss a guy except when I am dressed. Once I am dressed and out then things change. I have kissed 2 guys in their male mode. First guy I met at a club. We hit it off and started flirting which eventually led to making out in the club. We were going to take things to a hotel room but we got split-up on the way to the hotel and never met up. The second guy I kissed I set up as a date. We hit it off and ended up in a hotel room doing more. And I have kissed 3 other CD's. Different than kissing a guy in "guy" mode but also very sensual. First was just a make-out session at a club. Second CD led to a "groping" session at a hotel. The third CD I kissed led to a GREAT night together and led to much more. So my advice is to "kiss the guy". I think it will give you excitement and maybe pleasure.

[Jeri Ann]

Just curious. Please reply ONLY If you were in full femme at the time. What was it like? Did you feel more feminine as a result? Would you do it again? Did it lead to any other activity?

Yes. Heaven. Of course. Plan on it. Hmmm.

[Iris Tse]

I have. Yes. Enjoyed it immensely. But I had to be really attracted to him. If you haven't done it before, just try it. If you don't enjoy it, then stop and say it's not for you. Go with the moment. We have only so many moments in our lifetime. Cheers, iris

[Jodie_Lynn]

Yes.

All I can say is......

:love:

[jennifer0918]

No way Jose

[Gwyneth]

Glad I'm not Jose

[KatieV]

Kissing a man who is tall, slender and smooth skinned with fine features - who is intelligent, kind and sensitive - that I would considered. I would surely like to been seen as alluring and would likely succumb to to flattery and the attention such a man might show me, and yield to temptation. But it’s unlikely that will ever happen. No doubt what I might imagine and how such a situation would really unfold are two different scenarios, for it would be rare to find a man who is not just looking to have his way with me. This I know. But if there is such a man who finds this post of interest, he should not hesitate to contact me, even if he is for the moment just cute little frog! We could both be transformed!

[Rachelle70]

I personally have not and would have no intention while dressed as a man. As so many other girls have stated here, when I am dressed my thoughts are much different.

[jennifer0918]

Glad I'm not Jose

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