the cat tried to escape the bag

[phylis anne]

After my last post of needing to underdress a bit to get some sleep ,I thought the moment had passed.One of the side effects that my wife has experieced is that my cooking has put a bit of meat on her bones so to say ,so I suggested we go shopping for some more comfy jeans for her ,as we were leaving the local jc penneys I stopped to show her a dress that would have looked nice on her ,her comment was it would look good on you so as a joke I held it up to me like I was sizing it up and an s/a approached and asked would I like to try that on ?:eek: my outside was terrified of being discovered and my inside was like ooooh that does look nice :devil: Now the corker to this of course the wife forgot all about it by the time we were out the door,but if my daughter had been there it would have been truth or dare time :heehee: it makes me wonder given the last few days if an"outing" is in the offing ? back in the bag cat
hugs phylis

[lingerieLiz]

You will remember this a long time. Years ago my wife and I were at a department store sale. It was slow and I had picked out some things for my wife and I. I started to go in and try on the things I liked, but didn't since I thought my wife would feel uncomfortable. Afterwards I realized it would have been fine. Oh well but I still remember.

[Sara Jessica]

Although the tale was cute enough, it must suck to have a SO who is oblivious to this whole thing. My comment isn't an indictment. I offer no advice, no solution. I simply cannot relate.

[phylis anne]

Sara jessica ,
no harm if she seems oblivious it is because she is in the middle stages of alzheimers /dimmentia her short term memory is somewhat shot but she will quite clear 30 yrs back as she often reminds me lol ,not looking for a solution here but I thought the happening was a bit humorous ,and had my daughter been there she would have egged both me and the s/a on :devil: in the wifes present state you are right she is oblivious and given her asian culture(korean) if she had a lucid (?) moment the fallout would be great
hugs phylis anne

[Sara Jessica]

Yikes, that brings an entirely different element to the story. My comment was very general about disclosure in a relationship, a hurdle I took on within months of meeting my wife to be and our marriage is going strong for over 20 years. Obviously yours is a much different situation.

As a caregiver for a loved one with this insidious disease, you are to be commended.

[Beverley Sims]

My grandmother had lucid moments and gave me encouragement, when she told some of her friends, they did not believe her.

For me, fortunate, but sad really.

[Angie G]

My heart go's out to you Phylis. Hang in there girl.:hugs:
Angie

[Stephanie47]

Phylis, you have my sympathies with dealing with Alzheimer and dementia. Being a caregiver is not an easy job, especially watching a loved with a disease. That being said you probably need some time alone to feel somewhat unburdened for an afternoon or an evening. Perhaps you can arrange some time off through a respite care giver service or a family member.

[phylis anne]

Thankyou all for your kind words , I do have a caregiver and annother will join shortly to cover my days off so yes It will allow some time away . It has been an adventure for sure a lot bettter now that we found some meds that keep her calm ,as before it was war . As to the board I take all replies as they come because after all we only know each other in a cyber sense and communication can mean many different things to many others . One way for me to cope more is to contact a gender therapist as there have been internal questions for many years ,the times then being that one did not discuss it like we do now and perhaps meet some others in my area who are also of the same cut
hugs phylis anne