Crossdressing humiliation

[Jess6887]

Hi so short story I put an ad online to meet people to hangout with so I can crossdresse anyway a guy messaged me and said he would like to hang out etc, but he's into crossdresser humiliation. I've already made a rule nothing sexual and he agreed as it is platonic friends only. Any way I know what that is but what does it intale as he wont tell me what he wants to do? What are your suggestions as to what it could be?

[Krisi]

I recommend staying away from this person. Why would you want to be humiliated? Or worse?

[ReineD]

He may be referring to forced feminization, although it certainly wouldn't be forced in your mind because you want to crossdress. So I don't know how that would work.

This is an explanation of humiliation within the realm of BDSM. It is called "edgeplay". A little further in the article they mention humiliation coupled with pleasurable sexual activity, but I suppose your new friend could still be satisfied even if there is no sex.

http://dominantguide.com/encyclopedia/humiliation/

I would meet him in public several times first so you can gauge whether you feel safe in his presence or not. And if you do decide to meet him privately, make sure you have access to your cell phone and he knows that others know where you are and with whom.

[pamela7]

just "No", stay clear, this has massive danger signs written all over it. Are you mad?

[heatherdress]

No good comes from a crossdresser's online message seeking friends to hang out with. If you want to meet other crossdressers for social activities and friendship, join crossdressing social groups (e.g. - Meet-Up).

[Jenniferathome]

Isn't the word "humiliation" enough of a red flag for you? That is decidedly not "hanging out." There are plenty of cross dressers here from NYnand NJ, let alone the surrounding area that you can meet.

[flatlander_48]

I would state it a bit differently. If you are not into kink, this is probably something (and someone) to stay away from. If you are, then humiliation can be a part of the scene. Just depends, but this isn't a recommendation. It's just that you are likely to have a better overall understanding, but perhaps not the specific details.

DeeAnn

[Stephanie47]

If you are a cross-dresser, how would being forced to put on feminine clothing be considered humiliation? I suspect there is something graver in his mind. Why don't you "Google" "crossdressing humiliation" and see what pops up on your screen. I'm sure the sites are a tutorial for what he intends to do to you. Please have your health insurance paid up.

[NicoleScott]

To me, the disturbing psrt is "he won't tell me what he wants to do". Not good. Find out before it goes any farther.

[RADER]

Run away, Run.... This just does not sound good.
There are plenty of US good people that will and can
meat up with you for say a cup of coffee. No humiliation involved.
Rader

[donnalee]

The question is, who gets humiliated and how? If he wants to be the one or he wants you to. Complicated -PASS!

[Alice Torn]

Run, don't walk the other way ASAP. I have had similar men wanting to do whatever they want to with me, and had to block them, after telling them over and over i will not do some things.

[Teresa]

Jess,
There are so many varieties of Cding humiliation even some you may have to pay for the pleasure of, if your not into it then walk away and meet up with some CDers at social meetings, you can enjoy your CDing in a safe environment , you will find far more going on without taking any risks at all.

[Beverley Sims]

There are better adventures than suffering humiliation.

[mykell]

@Reine..... is their any info that you cant find !

jess, as stated, you like to crossdress, find people who want to socialize safely....P-flag, meet-up, wheres adrianna, she knows all kinds of places in the metro area.....found it http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?232157-Looking-for-the-right-venue-to-CD&highlight=adriana+places+to+go
when you get to the thread scroll down to adrianna's post, shes done everything but dress you and push you out the door....

just did a search "crossdressing humiliation" dont think he will be a friend to hang out with.

[Lily Catherine]

Seeing that he has explicitly stated that he's into humiliation AND he didn't tell you what he wanted to do, I suggest staying away - what he says and implies should raise both eyebrows already.

[Tracii G]

Why would you want to be humiliated?
Just let your beard grow for a week put on a dress and walk in a biker bar.
My guess you put up a Craig's list ad right? Not a smart move.Stay away from this guy please.

[Steve]

I see red flags all over this! STAY AWAY!
Even in the kink world there is some rules that need followed. And 2 of those are its ment to be safe and consensual. This doesnt sound either to me

[rachael.davis]

adding to the chorus, put on a nice pair of sensible flats and get out of dodge.
Craigslist NYC is a wierdo magnet - odd coming from me, but there are a lot of predators out there

[Amy Lynn3]

Run Forest run ! I mean Run Jess run ! If you just want to meet other cder's why not ask other members here ? I have met many cder's in my area from this site. It all has worked out great. Some members have turned out to be friends, while doing things outside the world of cding.

Like Mikell stated, just contact Adrianna from this site and not only does she live in your area, but can put you in contact with other cders you will be safe with.:2c:

[ReineD]

Oops, Jess I apologize.

I've just glanced at the other responses to your thread and saw that everyone told you to run. This seemed odd to me because I thought you were the one who placed an ad in the type of place that might garner the results you got, since this is not unusual among CDers who place ads.

But then I read your post again and saw that you're just wanting to meet others like you who crossdress, to hang out with (I had read your post too quickly before).

So again, sorry. I agree, don't meet this guy. Also, please choose carefully where you might place ads in the future. Quite a few of our members have placed ads on sites such as Craig's List, which is precisely the type of place where people do look for partners for alternate thrills, even if the ad states a desire to meet for "friendship".

You're much better off participating in this forum regularly and getting to know members here. Chances are eventually you will find someone who lives near you, with whom you can become friends.

[Helen_Highwater]

Jess,

The safe way to meet others is at support groups. Any reputable group that meets on a regular basis will have a web site giving details of dates/times etc. Living where you do there must be more than one that you can check out.

Like you I wanted to meet up with others so I found a weekly group that seemed a safe environment to go to and then posted in the "Places to go, places to meet" section that if anyone wanted to meet up then we could do so there. It ended up with 3 of us initially meeting in a restaurant next to the group venue before spending the rest of the evening getting to meet many others who were regulars at the weekly meetings.

Important point; It felt safe because it was safe. Public place, safety in numbers. Responses such as the one you had scream just the opposite. CD humiliation doesn't take place in a swanky bar or restaurant, more in the privacy of someone's home. This isn't hanging out. Don't go there.

[char GG]

Unless humiliation is what you are into, I think this guy is trying to bait you to see if you bite.

Run!

[Alice Torn]

Sadly, in many areas, there simply are no support groups for CD, and hundreds of miles between such groups. A lonesome life for many.

[gina shiney]

As per other responders No No No and Run away as fast as you can. Surely there are support groups within an acceptable range. From what I have gathered from here the USA has quite a lot definitely more than here. Just have a real good look for them

[Tracii G]

Search LGBT in your area and see what groups are in your area that are trans groups.

[MissVirginia-Mae]

Please Sis,:hugs:
STAY AWAY from this person....
I can only see bad things happening here....
Take our advice, please!!

[docrobbysherry]

Is everyone sure Jess is for real? Not that I don't enjoy a good troll now and again!:heehee:

[flatlander_48]

Yes, isn't it curious that she hasn't been back?

DeeAnn

[xNicolex]

He is a twisted sick puppy :( crossdresser humiliation is the same as any other female humiliation it can involve violence, sexual assault, verbal abuse and just generally make you feel like sh!t about yourself. It is in my opinion one of the most degrading things someone can do to another person he is obviously a sadist Run away fast!

[Rhonda Darling]

So, let's consider what humiliation could be. You agree to dress really sexy -- short skirt, tight top, nail extensions, etc. He takes you to a bar in an unfamiliar part of town. It's a sports bar with lots of jocks, some military guys, and way too much testosterone in the room. People are noticing you and you can tell they are snickering and some are even glaring through their drunkenness. You want to leave. your friend reaches over, snatches your wig off of your head, grabs your purse (holding your cell phone, money, keys, etc.) and loudly proclaims "Holy crap! You're a guy!!" and walks away. And that would be mild humiliation.

Stay away from this creep!

[Sarasometimes]

If you are still on the fence about meeting this individual (claims to be a guy) I will help by agreeing with all those who say stay away! Beating the p*&S out of someone is platonic,too! If you placed the ad to find peace-loving CD's why not google support groups in your area, Renaissance is just one. He want KINK, but what kind he isn't telling, that should be terrifying!

[LilSissyStevie]

This person already said a platonic relationship was OK so I don't see what the problem is as long as you are OK with meeting people from ads. Who cares what his kink is? Some of the responses to this thread are absolutely hysterical - in both senses of the word. Anyway, "humiliation" in this context could mean almost anything. It's entirely subjective. If you meet up with this person, you could ask them.

[ReineD]

Stevie, the term "humiliation" has a distinct meaning in BDSM, in fact it is a common practice in the dominate/submissive type of sexual relationships. And people who are kinky often use ads to find each other so I can see why the person who responded to Jess' add might have misunderstood ... although it might have been best to ask first rather than assume that a CDer looking for companionship was referring to a forced feminization type of thing.

[Kate Simmons]

With little info, I'd have to agree with most here and say "no way". :)

[LilSissyStevie]

Reine, I'm pretty well acquainted with "humiliation" in a BDSM context and with masochistic fetishes in general. But "crossdressing humiliation" could mean a lot of different things including that the person responding to the ad likes to be crossdressed and humiliated in some way. But it's a moot point because the OP said she didn't want anything sexual and the responder was OK with that. The only question is whether one feels safe meeting up with strangers from ads.

[CONSUELO]

Jess,

Just to add to my previous comments. Role play and humiliation can be very exciting and satisfying if done with the right person. I met a dominant woman who had a degree in psychology. I dressed for her and she dominated me and I must say it was intensely satisfying. But a word of warning. First I already had some experience in this area and knew I would enjoy it. Second, she was very very good at what she did. It did not involve much in the way of physical contact but was all "mental". That said I doubt if I would ever meet someone as good as that through an online ad.

[Vickie_CDTV]

Like Rene said, this guy is probably talking about forced feminization.

Thing is, he won't say exactly what he wants to do, that is a red flag regardless of how kinky one is.

Even more so, would one want to put themselves in a vulnerable position with a complete stranger from Craigslist?? There are places like Hellfire in NYC one can go to explore their kinks in a safer environment.