Liz57
04-01-2016, 05:06 PM
Probably nobody cares to read this as much as I like to write about it cuz I know I am long winded. I just felt like updating since I came out to my wife last Saturday. Things are still good between us, possibly better than ever. I read on several posts that once guys come out they become more attentive to their SO and that is the case here as well. I just feel so much love for her for accepting me even though it doesn’t really make a lot of sense to her. In showing my love and affection I have been reminded of how I felt when we first dated. I was totally infatuated with everything about her and I still remember what that infatuation felt like and it was amazing. So…..I am trying my best to re-create that same infatuation with her which isn’t hard at all because she’s such a special woman, especially when it comes to finding out about my secret and accepting me as I am. I mean, why wouldn’t you want to feel like that all of the time! I’m tearing up just thinking about how infatuated I am with her. So….moving on
It’s hard to believe it’s only been a week since I told her. So much has happened and yet so little has happened. I sit here wearing my new wig, glasses, necklace, earrings, anklet, corset, and shoes. (My wife went out of town for a couple of days). I did tell her I ordered some stuff and I did tell her when it came in. She hasn’t asked what I bought so I haven’t volunteered. I had to go to another city to have my taxes done and while there I noticed Payless Shoes. This could be a problem! I bought a really sexy pair of heels and another pair shoes (I feel so inadequate as a woman here cuz I don’t know shoe styles). Anyway, the heels fit great, (yes, I chickened out as far as trying them on) but the others were too small. I was hoping to get my tax paperwork back today but the guy was out of town. Well, I just couldn’t wait. I drove over there anyway and not only exchanged the shoes for a larger size but I tried on, yes, tried on two other pair and bought them as well. A woman looked down the aisle while I was trying on a pair and I glanced up at her and went on about my business as if nothing was unusual. She’ll have a story to tell her friends I’m sure. So, that’s the part that has changed, me buying a bunch of stuff and getting up the nerve to shoe shop.
What hasn’t changed much is with the new revelation to my wife. I’m trying not to bug her but then she is the only living person I can talk to about it. I won’t say it freaked her out but I can tell she’s still trying to adjust and it seems when I say something that conjures a mental image, that bothers her some. I guess I can’t blame her. I was so certain she at least had suspicions since I paraded around her once with bra marks but apparently she didn’t notice them. We had a good day the next day visiting a big cat refuge and on the way home I brought a couple of things up but also told her I was trying hard not to bug her about it. Monday night, after she had worked all day, I asked if she had thought about it anymore, hoping she had checked out the link to this forum and I thought to the two articles Marci had suggested but they didn’t go through to her. It didn’t matter because she didn’t check any of it out and said she hadn’t really even thought about it that day. I told her I was trying to be patient and give her what time she needs to adjust it was just hard for me to stop thinking about it and hoping that she’d read some so she’d understand better and see that we’re not a bunch of perverts or sickos. I haven’t mentioned it anymore since Monday except last night when on the show Life in Pieces one of the men was wearing a Cinderella dress for good luck. So he said. I couldn’t help but comment that it was just too ironic to me. BTW, the show is really funny if you’ve been a parent or grandparent.
I want so badly for her to not only be ok with this but to join in and help me with make-up and shopping and all of the cool things I read from some of our luckier friends here. I had a pedicure with her and my daughters and even my son (who btw suggested it) a couple of years ago. At the time I didn’t appreciate it but I’d love to go have a pedicure with her again, just me and her. Maybe even get my nails painted. I do realize that I’m lucky as hell to have what I’ve got which is an understanding wife that wants me to be happy. I really feel like this will progress to higher levels of involvement with her eventually, I’m just so impatient waiting for her to adjust to this new side of her husband.
I guess I’m mostly just getting this off my chest and also bragging about having such a great wife. Thanks for putting up with my longwinded oration.
Liz:)
It’s hard to believe it’s only been a week since I told her. So much has happened and yet so little has happened. I sit here wearing my new wig, glasses, necklace, earrings, anklet, corset, and shoes. (My wife went out of town for a couple of days). I did tell her I ordered some stuff and I did tell her when it came in. She hasn’t asked what I bought so I haven’t volunteered. I had to go to another city to have my taxes done and while there I noticed Payless Shoes. This could be a problem! I bought a really sexy pair of heels and another pair shoes (I feel so inadequate as a woman here cuz I don’t know shoe styles). Anyway, the heels fit great, (yes, I chickened out as far as trying them on) but the others were too small. I was hoping to get my tax paperwork back today but the guy was out of town. Well, I just couldn’t wait. I drove over there anyway and not only exchanged the shoes for a larger size but I tried on, yes, tried on two other pair and bought them as well. A woman looked down the aisle while I was trying on a pair and I glanced up at her and went on about my business as if nothing was unusual. She’ll have a story to tell her friends I’m sure. So, that’s the part that has changed, me buying a bunch of stuff and getting up the nerve to shoe shop.
What hasn’t changed much is with the new revelation to my wife. I’m trying not to bug her but then she is the only living person I can talk to about it. I won’t say it freaked her out but I can tell she’s still trying to adjust and it seems when I say something that conjures a mental image, that bothers her some. I guess I can’t blame her. I was so certain she at least had suspicions since I paraded around her once with bra marks but apparently she didn’t notice them. We had a good day the next day visiting a big cat refuge and on the way home I brought a couple of things up but also told her I was trying hard not to bug her about it. Monday night, after she had worked all day, I asked if she had thought about it anymore, hoping she had checked out the link to this forum and I thought to the two articles Marci had suggested but they didn’t go through to her. It didn’t matter because she didn’t check any of it out and said she hadn’t really even thought about it that day. I told her I was trying to be patient and give her what time she needs to adjust it was just hard for me to stop thinking about it and hoping that she’d read some so she’d understand better and see that we’re not a bunch of perverts or sickos. I haven’t mentioned it anymore since Monday except last night when on the show Life in Pieces one of the men was wearing a Cinderella dress for good luck. So he said. I couldn’t help but comment that it was just too ironic to me. BTW, the show is really funny if you’ve been a parent or grandparent.
I want so badly for her to not only be ok with this but to join in and help me with make-up and shopping and all of the cool things I read from some of our luckier friends here. I had a pedicure with her and my daughters and even my son (who btw suggested it) a couple of years ago. At the time I didn’t appreciate it but I’d love to go have a pedicure with her again, just me and her. Maybe even get my nails painted. I do realize that I’m lucky as hell to have what I’ve got which is an understanding wife that wants me to be happy. I really feel like this will progress to higher levels of involvement with her eventually, I’m just so impatient waiting for her to adjust to this new side of her husband.
I guess I’m mostly just getting this off my chest and also bragging about having such a great wife. Thanks for putting up with my longwinded oration.
Liz:)