So I made a big step today

[Mykaa]

I contacted a public support group called the Center Project by email & phone. I enjoy the forum immensely but It seems there are not many people on the forum where I live. I really desire to meet like minded people. I understand from talking here those that have done this say its a positive experience. I will update as I proceed with this, hopefully my quest will lead me where I seek.

[Jaylyn]

I would bet that there are more support groups there than in West Texas.... Lol This forum is my like minded rescue or I'd be totally insane. Hope you find what you are looking for and hope one day we'll have an secret support group out in the boonies... Lol

[alwayshave]

Mykaa, I hope that you find a good group of like minded individuals.

[nikkiwindsor]

Mykaa, I look forward to you sharing your journey with us. Nikki

[Tracii G]

Glad you found a group.
My group helped me so much.

[Robin414]

Wow Mykaa, that's a huge step! Please keep us posted!

[Mykaa]

So a little update, I have gotten contact from The Center Project and they have a group called Transgender Blender, I am welcome to come to the meetings and they feel the group can provide some assistance. I know my friend Tiffany has also said they'd like to go. So we will see whats up!

[Mykaa]

Well Tiffany and I went to the blender last night, I suppose anything learned is a positive thing, I had no idea what to expect, Tiffany and I were the only crossdressers there, She was dressed I was in work clothes, We were welcomed in which was nice, but I suppose any small group of regular meeting going people may come off as clickish I suppose, I dont think I will be returning as I dont think any issues I have will be addressed in that setting, there was 1 person there who I think was a saving grace, Michelle was very friendly and very willing to spend time with us after the meeting, we talked about more general things and she took time to give her opinions about things outside what the meeting group is for, she also gave her opinion what she thought about me, its nice to be reaffirmed in one's own self evaluations, I know when I 1st joined here when I saw the terms being used I thought to myself, I must be Gender Fluid.
Michelle did reccomend another group that meets in Jefferson City and definitely reinforced we would fit in there.

[Krisi]

I agree that many groups, no matter what the subject tend to become "clickish". I've never figured out what to expect from a "support group" and I don't really feel like I need support anyway so I've never joined or even looked for one.

[mykell]

Well Tiffany and I went to the blender last night, I suppose anything learned is a positive thing, I had no idea what to expect, Tiffany and I were the only crossdressers there, She was dressed I was in work clothes, We were welcomed in which was nice, but I suppose any small group of regular meeting going people may come off as clickish I suppose, I dont think I will be returning as I dont think any issues I have will be addressed in that setting, there was 1 person there who I think was a saving grace, Michelle was very friendly and very willing to spend time with us after the meeting, we talked about more general things and she took time to give her opinions about things outside what the meeting group is for, she also gave her opinion what she thought about me, its nice to be reaffirmed in one's own self evaluations, I know when I 1st joined here when I saw the terms being used I thought to myself, I must be Gender Fluid.
Michelle did reccomend another group that meets in Jefferson City and definitely reinforced we would fit in there.

sorry to hear you had a dull outcome at that meeting,
not exactly sure what you are looking for from going, i can advocate for this venue....
https://www.google.com/search?q=pflag+mo.&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8

i feel as comfortable there as i do here and made to question if i belonged there from things shared from folks here,
they assured me i was welcome, some days different people show and can change the perspective of the meeting, one time with the bathroom bill i had felt a center focus, i was the only MtF CD trans person in attendance, i asked if anyone would be accepting peeing next to me, two answered immediately with the others conceding to OK, which didnt sound genuine and i felt they fell to the peer pressure in the room, many of these people are there with TS sons and daughters....little perspective.

now on the other hand i go to offer support for these young folks, an ally as well as receiving, it goes both ways, and ITS LGB&T, my group is a T group, i may be half in the closet or half a secret squirrel, i defend my ways and others now, i use tact and do it in a way that does not out me or anyone who wishes to remain that way...... like most things in life you will get out of it what you put into it.

were a fairly secretive class of folks and aside from the folks who walk in the daylight in the wild that water here many are closeted, chances are you are going to find that small percentage of CDer to FULL trans in most trans groups.....not so much "clicky", they have developed friendships and that wont happen overnight....

[Beverley Sims]

Doing what you have done seems a positive step, I think you will get good support from that group.

[Teresa]

Mykaa,
Whether it's a help group or a social group the forum can't compare with doing it live. It really does give a meaning to the effort taken in being dressed, I enjoy shopping far more now because I'm thinking through outfits and accessories . It encouraged me to get out and have my skin tone checked for the correct makeup. It will give you more confidence with your CDing and you may find like I did that the question of passing or not just fades away. Others may dress better in your eyes and some far less so !

One point to consider is depending on where the support group meets you may encounter the general public, we meet in a small hotel and conference centre , the staff are OK and I have met members of the public, all so far have just ignored us but not in a nasty way. I have to smile at the thought of a group of CDers being scary, I don't feel I am ! The most daunting thing is getting in the car and driving to the venue, I leave my home totally dressed, most of the time I have a smile on my face wondering what other drivers have noticed and what they thought.

I hope for your sake you find a group and get out there and enjoy it, best of luck.

[Alice Torn]

In some areas, there are no support groups around. Even though we all may seem "like minded", as in any group of humans, we all have a lot of differences and disagreements, but have the one thing in common: we like to wear clothes designed for ladies.

[Mykaa]

Thank you all for the replies, Yes I agree meeting people in person is the best, I do consider meeting Michelle the positive of that meeting. I'll be honest, being a crossdresser I was most definitely not fitting in there, I can talk tv shows with anyone, I can talk books or politics with anyone too, I'm not very political really though. I will say I didnt feel I was acknowledged being there with the group, they talked mainly among themselves and I go the idea it didnt really matter I was there. I need to be specific and say the meeting group was not intended for crossdressers. I know talking to Michelle the local club Ying Yang got brought up and they said how fun it was, I will consider that for meeting people and hopefully Michelle will relate the info for the other group and I will consider trying that 1.
My goal again is to meet like minded people and make some new friends. If Im lucky maybe I can put myself into a situation where I could possibly meet a lady who would be into someone like me, maybe thats a longshot, but if I dont try I wont know.