Why pick a CD name?

[cdlove]

Reading post on other threads I am confused as to how and why it would be a necessity to have a CD name. I understand that it may allow one to relate to their CD tendencies as another side of them. What I don’t understand is the idea that if we are to accept CD as a part of who we are, then why hide it with an alter ego name. Is it for anonymity? Or general connection to live as the opposite sex fully with name and everything. I don’t have an alter ego name for my CD side, rather I identify with those that I wish I was able to dress as. For example my favorite women are Miranda Kerr, Taylor Hill, Alessandra Ambrosio, Adrian Lima, Candice Swanepoel, and Kaitlin Kloss so my CD revolves around making a connection to them. It may sound in a way weird but it’s how I enjoy my CD. I don’t consider my CD side to be something other than just a part of me and for now see no reason to distinguish it with another name.

Why do you have a CD name? How did you choose the name that you did? Do you feel it makes you more accepting of your CD side?

[Jenniferathome]

Simple convenience. When I am out, people need to address me in some fashion and a female name matches the presentation.

[Kate Simmons]

We don't have to really but it sort of goes along with the rest of the "package", no? Why would you get all dolled up and call yourself Harold? :battingeyelashes::)

[cdlove]

Why would you get all dolled up and call yourself Harold? :battingeyelashes::)

Kate: For me I think its because I don't go all out I don't get all dolled up I wear mainly undergarments and thus don't feel full fem. So like I said for me its not something that is needed to make me feel like the opposite, its possible that may change but for now that is how I am and I am ok with it. It could also be that my name id Jesse which is a unisex name.

[OCCarly]

I go shopping for clothes with my wife, and when I pick something feminine for myself (which happens all the time) it makes it easy to talk about it without revealing anything when others are listening. Such as, (her) "Is that for Carly?" (Me) "Yes." (Her) "I think that will look good on her."

[Tracii G]

Just a name to use when going out and mixing with the masses.
Kind of be crazy to use your guy name IMO.
If you don't go out then you don't need one I suppose.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi CD Love :hugs:, welcome to our forum, When you are here you are home.

RE: CD Name, I needed a name when I joined this form and I didn't want a name
connected to anyone in my life past or present so I thought long and hard,

My favorite color is Blue and my favorite flower is an Orchid and that's how that Blue Orchid was born ...:daydreaming:...

[Judy-Somthing]

I don't use my real name because I'm in the closet.
I've been CDing for 40 years and as far as I can remember I never even thought of a CD name.
When I joined here I picked a random name and for at least a month it felt strange using it.
Now I've grown accustom to it.

[mykell]

1) when i joined it seemed to be the protocol, everyone had either a alternate name "cdlove" for instance or a female name.

2) like jennifer said....convienence, i came here with the purpose of meeting like minded, so if i ran into someone and they saw me somewhere and called my name i would look and respond to it.

[Ceera]

Primarily I use a different name because I want to be addressed by what sounds like a girl's name, when I am out in public as a girl. It also makes a distinction between what I do for my girl side and what I do for my guy side. So as someone else posted, I can, while dressed as a male, openly say to my daughter in a store that I think Ceera would love those shoes, and she can agree, and it sounds like we are talking about a girl we both know. (My daughter knows and supports my dual nature).

Now as it happens, I am lucky in that my first name that my parents gave me is a marginally unisex name. It was used for both boys and girls when I was a kid - though more commonly for boys. But like a lot of unisex given names, it isn't overtly feminine. It doesn't sound 'wrong' to others when I allow someone to address me by that name when I am a girl, or to acknowledge that it's my name when I present a credit card. But it doesn't sound as 'right' as a more feminine given name would sound.

[Ressie]

For me having a fem name started with the first chat room I got involved in which was nearly 20 years ago. Everyone else had a moniker and no one used their real name. To this day using my real name would be equal to coming out to everyone wouldn't it?

Other than that I agree with everyone else regarding presentation.

[Tracii G]

To a lot of us that have a female side that we live with daily and to have a female name is important.
For me being out and darn near out 24/7 using my male name in girl mode makes no sense.
I have friends that only know me by my female name and when we are out somewhere I don't want them calling me (insert male name here).

[Angie G]

When I'm dressed I feel giry so I wanted a girl name I had a thing for Angie Dickinson so that is where the namm came from.:hugs:
Angie

[iGenny]

It just made sense to name my alter ego appropriate for her gender. Plus, being deep in the closet, I'm not even hinting at my boy name. Also I can be consistent at different web sites.

[PattyT]

A CD name is a necessity. It would be out of character to be dressed up in a very feminine fashion and not to have a matching name. It would almost be insulting to the clothes. When dressed, I don't look at all masculine and to be referred to by a masculine name would be odd indeed.

[MelanieAnne]

Why pick a CD name?
Reading post on other threads I am confused as to how and why it would be a necessity to have a CD name.

Cause MelanieAnne sounds better than Frank, or Harry! :D

[flatlander_48]

Interesting...

When I joined, I did not have a fem name and it wasn't something that was a priority. I registered with the same user name I have in ~25 other places on the Internet, with the only difference being the Underbar. My default is to use it, but some places don't allow that as a special character. So, I've never really tried to hide the fact that I am a member here, another Crossdressing site, an LGBT site, motorsports sites and cycling sites. The only place where I've used a different user name is on FetLife.

I made my first make-over visit to Phoebe Cross about 2 1/2 years ago. The intent was in preparation for my first real time in the outside world. I had been out once before several years prior, but without makeup. Shortly after I met Phoebe, she asked if I had a fem name. I told her no and that it didn't seem to be a priority. She said while many do choose a name, some do not. It is one way of setting a boundary between personas and some people value that and others don't.

Anyway, I did start to give it some thought and a few months later decided upon DeeAnn. As others have said, it would seem strange to be called by your male name while dressed. The converse would also be true. It would likely be a very similar shock to be called DeeAnn while dressed as Don. However, I really don't like to refer to myself in the 3rd person. In that sense, I will use a specific name if it has bearing for one or the other. However, if I were to make a comment about a liking for silk for example, I would say that I like it as opposed to specifically assigning it to DeeAnn.

The selection of the name was fairly simple. There are too many Don's in my family and extended family, so I vowed to myself that I would not choose Donna under ANY circumstances. But, I did want to retain the D. Being a Motorsport fan for close to 60 years, I remembered the name of Mario Andretti's wife. The only change is that she spells it Dee Ann with a space. I wanted people to recognize it as one word and not be inclined to shorten it.

Funny thing. I've never worked on my voice. For some reason, I haven't seemed motivated to do so. But, judging by this experience, that might change...

DeeAnn

[Eva Bella]

It was every exciting to pick out my female name.

From the first time I saw that woman looking back at me in the mirror, I fell madly in love with her. Of course she needs a proper and beautiful name!

[2B Natasha]

Why did I pick a ( cd ) name? Easy. I have no real connection to my boy name. It's nice and all. But it's just a name. BUT my name. The one I call myself. That is personal. I DO feel connected to it.

When I joined here. I had a differ t name. One I just picked out. I never did feel a real connection to it. I tried. Didn't happen. So after soul searching and being honest with myself. I came to this name.

[Crissy Kay]

I think even a closet CD needs a fem name. It is a help on the net, but it gives life to the other part of me as well.

[Pat]

Reading post on other threads I am confused as to how and why it would be a necessity to have a CD name.

Not a necessity. Don't have one if you don't want one.

[Rachelakld]

My toyota is known as Thomas
Daughters VW is known as Bruce (I've no idea on that one, I would have chosen Victor)
I have names for my cats and dogs
I even have names for rooms - Bed room, Living room, toilet
And then there is Thumper - I won't go in to details on that, but wife likes Thumper

Having dual personalities, it just work better to let people know which one was operating the skin bag.

[Amanda M]

Mine? Because it feels comfortable.

[NewBrendaLee]

I have a CD name because its who I really believe I am

[PaulaQ]

I picked a name that I felt would give me deniability were my wife ever to see it written. I thought of it as kind of a pen name. A funny thing happened though - the stuff I wrote as Paula felt more real and natural to me than stuff written under my given name. After a time, I realized that's because it's who I really am. I'm legally Paula now.

[pamela7]

It seemed the protocol, also to allow one to be anonymous here, creating cover from real-life exposure for anyone in the closet.
Psychologically speaking it is also an anchor for getting into role for males become their alter-ego, much the same way a ventriloquist works with a glove puppet to bring out another character.

The name stuck for me, and soon it also will be my legal name; fun times :-)

[Krisi]

It seems like we've had this conversation before but it could have been before the OP joined.

It seems only logical to me that if one goes to all the trouble to shave and apply beard cover and makeup, put on a bra and forms, a wig, hip and butt padding, pantyhose, heels, jewelry and a dress or blouse and skirt, and carry a purse, one wouldn't want to refer to himself or have others address him as "Bruce" or "Homer", etc. When I dress, I become Krisi. It's just part of the act.

[Tanya+]

Anonimity. It's a partial anagram of my name. I have no attachment or identification with it.

[sonialexis]

when i transform, from the wig to my painted toes there's no trace of the boy me. It just didn't make sense to call myself by my boy name because I don't see him or for that period of time I'm dressed 'he' doesn't surface. i used to have a friend i used to play with named Sonia. I named myself after her.

[reb.femme]

...And then there is Thumper - I won't go in to details on that, but wife likes Thumper...

Why didn't you mention the rabbit above? :doh:

Along with the many others, running with the name Bert just wouldn't cut it for me when dressed. That's not my name BTW, but curiously, one of the many names I use for my wife, but that's a whole other thing. :heehee:

Becky

[cdlove]

I understand the whole thing about it kind of going with the whole get-up and transition into the female self. Other than going with the role, helping accept and identify with the CD self. It is understandable with respect of keeping anonymity not just on here but within your social circle. I can’t help ponder the question: If we must identify ourselves and label ourselves with another name, do we in essence lose the ability to accept who we truly are without limits? What I mean is if we must cover up our identity and CD by relabeling the underlining title that identifies us among the world, than are we truly accepting of our complete self? Have we become accepting, rather of the fact that we have two alter egos that define us? I think what best demonstrates this is the outing of Bruce Jenner, excuse me Caitlyn Jenner. When referred to by birth name our society cannot see past the male personality that makes up Bruce. When relabeled with a female name out society has an easier time seeing past the male underneath and the female that is in front of the camera. Do we create a label to conform to societal judgment of gender identity?

[Allisa]

I don't have a CDing name, I have a name for my femme self, just as I have a left hand and a right hand I have a name for my two facets of my being, one male and one female. My name is a combo of my male name and my fave female name, thus a name to match my dual gender.

[Ina Girdle]

Like others here, maintaining anonimity was important, both for me and my wife. It was important for her that I keep CD'ing as an "Indoor Sport" or "Undercover", so to speak, which was important for me that she maintain a comfort level with it. My wife and I enjoy a wide range of television shows and one of them is The Barefoot Contessa with Ina Garten. I always joke about Ina being in the Garden, so Ina Girdle was perfect. I chose a name that stated what made me HAPPY, being (In A Girdle).I don't have a female persona to speak of, I am a big guy in lingerie who really has no business being visible in public, believe me I am doing the free world a favor staying in the closet. I don't post all that often, but I really enjoy reading the post's everyday!

Thanks; Ina G.

[2B Natasha]

Well cdlove. I for one have no split personality. I do not act any different in one form of dress different then the other. I don't really care what you call me. Call me by my given name if you want. I'll answer. Call me by my chosen name. I'll answer. You posted that you went out stealthy last night at 3am fully dressed up. So then assuming that you might have run into someone, unlikely but it could happen. Let's pretend they asked your name. exactly what would you tell them your name was?

To your pondering if we have a different name can we truly accept ourself's? ( Insert eye roll here ) It took me 40 years to figure out who I really was and be good with it. I accept myself just fine thank you. You may feel free to struggle along and we will continue to support you on that journey that allot of us have taken. Ask all the questions you want. But please do not insinuate that I and many other people on this forum don't accept myself/them self's. My friends, my family, my closet, half the sales force in the area and the rest of the city will fix that issue for you.

I also think your questions are quite funny. You want to know about names et al. Yet you yourself refuse to give yourself the latitude to use your name here. Why is that? Want to be Anonymous? Huh. Imagine that. Your little avatar is the Gemini. The twin. I don't happen to believe in astrology but you seem to. Are you telling us that you have a split personality? That there are two people inside your head? If there is, there is a drug for that. Because that is vastly different then be on the Trans spectrum.

[Stephanie47]

The name I use on this site is the feminine of my boy name. When I enrolled on this site I had to really think about using Stephanie. My grandmother had a European old country equivalent of Stephanie. My mother always thought the perfect family was two children; first born son and then a daughter. My father's sperm fooled her! I was named the male equivalent of the feminine name. it made sense. Mom and dad had a daughter eleven years later who was named Stephanie. At the time I adopted Stephanie I was estranged from my sister. Since then we have reconciled, so I have some doubts about using it. But, it was really a name reserved for this hunk of human protoplasm.

I guess I could have used "Stevie47." Maybe I'll change it. Then I won't be encroaching on my sister's name.

As to why use a feminine name? A guy trying to look as womanly as possible? Seems natural to try to complete the illusion as best as possible.

[Tina_gm]

For me, it isn't that I feel I need to or shouldn't have to. I would be fine with a female name. I just haven't ever connected with a name other than my birth name. Cding for me doesn't change anything about me. I don't feel any different, other than just comfortable and natural in women's clothing. I spent days thinking of a name before I even created an account. Saw a few others that did not have a female name, then thought what can I come up with that is relevant to me of me that I could use. A mutt is a dog with a mixture of breeds.... and I just decided to roll that.... gendermutt.

[Lorileah]

ok there is a sticky all about your female name. thread closed