You V's You

[leannejacobs]

Does anyone else behave in a different manner while dressed? As in do something gender irrelevant that you don't do as your male self, my everly increasing accepting wife finds Leanne more sociable than the male me, I'm not a drinker and prefer a cup of tea in the evening, my wife does enjoy a dram or two, however when I'm Leanne I tend to relax more and will take a drink with her one for one, I enjoy this and I know she does, it's very relaxing and I'm very open with her.
she's by no means got a drink problem but says she's jelous of me for the fact that my unwinding can be done without alcohol, she encourages me to dress these days which is fantastic, does anyone else have a similar story?

[PattyT]

I unwind a lot when en femme and am perhaps a lot more polite. I would not say that I really do anything gender irrelavent that I would not do as a male. I remain the same person.

[Mykaa]

Dressing is/can be a def stress release for me also,I dont have to drink to unwind either. I may behave slightly different, the way I cross my legs from what Im wearing, like a dress. Some of me is still in the closet. Id have to think some behaviors in public are just appropriate. Just to think of my own observations, Im just me.

[deebra]

Leanne this has not happened to me but what jumps out at me is your wife's acceptance and attitude towards your crossdressing. You mention "my everly increasing accepting wife" and "she encourages me to dress", I take this to mean she is not threatened by your desire to be more womanly, she loves you and shows this by her acceptance and encouragement and see's your crossdressing as something that will bring the two of you closer as you share a need you enjoy so much. Kudos for her. Why some women have no problem with this and others are old school thinking and just can't handle it leaves a big, big ????? in my mind. I think to some it's only softer clothing and the old school thinking female is I've been brought up seeing men in boxers and that will never change, pretty is for women only.

[Kate Simmons]

I believe a lot of it is relative based on how we may think we should act with the presentation.:battingeyelashes::)

[Pat]

I like to think I'm the same person no matter how I'm presenting, but I do change my behavior depending on presentation (don't we often discuss how to walk as a woman, how to gesture, etc?) but I think that cuts both ways. Sometimes in "boy mode" we may be acting the way we feel men should act even if it's not how we wish to behave. In other words, we're repressing ourselves. So some change in behavior may be that we give ourselves permission to be more authentic in "girl mode." Maybe?

[Rachael Leigh]

Yes I think the more comfortable Ive become in being out dressed the more sociable I am as Leigh now of course thats my own personal observation being out but it may be bleeding over into my male side but mostly he can be very quiet and reserved

[Sarah Doepner]

I've been told on more than one occasion by more than one person that they find Sarah to be much better company than Dave. Now that has to be taken under advisement because there are a lot more people who only know Dave and have never met Sarah. Their opinions may differ. We have to be careful of creating an echo chamber where we only hear what we put in.

[Robin414]

I have a different manner all of the time now, since accepting (and for the most part being accepted) for who I am I've become a much calmer and nicer person (ya, you shoulda seen me before 😠 ). It's like I was trying a little TOO hard to mask the girl side.

OH, sure I'll still fight ya, but you'd have to be a little more threatening than just giving me the 'chin nod' passing in a hall way now days ☺

[Maria 60]

I don't know what it is, but I do feel more relaxed when in fem and my wife has admitted to waiting for me to be dressed to ask some questions because I'm more calm. I escape myself and for the few hours Marias out I guess she really doesn't have any problems except enjoying her time and get as much of it. Most of Marias problems fall on my male side. I will admit that I may have a drink or somerhing different maybe on a Friday night that I wouldn't do in male mode.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Leanne :hugs: , I think that when I'm dressed my male mindset is much more relaxed...:daydreaming:..

[Lori Kurtz]

I don't smoke. And I didn't back in my dressing-up days either. But when I became Lori, I enjoyed smoking cigarettes. Or ... I mean ... Lori enjoyed smoking cigarettes. I don't know how that particular drug became part of her routine--she certainly didn't do it when I was in high school and younger. I think maybe it started during my college years. She liked creating a bad-girl image--dressing in a blatantly sexy way, a bit on the trashy side--and I guess the smoking contributed to that.

[Tracii G]

I'm a much nicer person since I accepted my girl side.