Once your out your out

[Maria 60]

Last night you all know by my last post that I went to the mall and seen a sister. We sat down and had a coffee and talking about what we just seen. My wife started by saying, speaking of crossdressing that the kids haven't been to fare to Maria lately and it seems like the older they get the more homely they are getting. I use to go every Thursday night for a drive dressed, but a few close calls my last few times out I'm trying to respect my promise of being a closet dresser. My wife was suggesting that of lately I haven't had much opportunity and she can sense that I'm more nervous and doesn't seem like I'm my normal self, and suggested I should go home and get dolled up and go for a few hour drive. I told her I have been taking to many chances lately and didn't want to risk it. Well this morning I got up at 5am as always and of course the thought went through my mind, I went and told my wife I'm going to get dressed and go for a drive. I just came back and it was amazing, never leaving the car but just felt great to express myself especially with the morning sun. When I walked in the door my wife commented on my ear to ear smile and a look of satisfaction. I told her I was so disappointed in myself for walking out that door, she said once you take a step forward it's hard to take one back. It so true once we are out we are out

[Teresa]

Maria,
That's great you took that decision even if you didn't get out at least you had a confidence boost. It's also great that you can have these open conversations with your wife and know she does understand enough to accept your needs.
I'm ten years older and have now managed to go out dressed to social meetings, it's easier for me because my wife and family all know, so I don't have to worry about close calls. Saying that I did post a thread a while ago asking how much are you out to your family, as I said at the time they all know buts it's big difference between that and actually seeing you. I wouldn't do it intentionally but an accident is bound to happen one day, if they do see me I'd prefer it to be total rather than a man in a dress.

[bridget thronton]

Your wife is supporting your decisions - guilt not needed

[leannejacobs]

Yes it's great having a supporting wife, mine also recognises when I need to dress and encourages me to do so which is fantastic, I think she actually enjoys socialising with Leanne, the last time I dressed with her I was reading some posts similar to yours, regarding going out, she asked if I'd like to go out, little does she know that I do so regularly, I didn't think she would approve, I have to say I think I missed my opportunity to possibly get her blessing, oh well maybe the next time she and Leanne have a few drinks.

[Virginia1983]

Little does she know...lucky her.

[Krisi]

For me, the hard part about driving dressed is getting to and from the car. My solution is to underdress and finish up in the car in a parking lot somewhere. It's a real PITA to do and it limits my "going out" time.

I figure that once I get out and get dressed, driving around gets boring quickly so I might as well go to the park or the mall and get out and walk around. Not at 5:00 AM though, in the middle of the day or early evening.

[Helen_Highwater]

[QUOTE=leannejacobs;3935669] the last time I dressed with her I was reading some posts similar to yours, regarding going out, she asked if I'd like to go out, little does she know that I do so regularly, I didn't think she would approve/QUOTE]

Leanne,
How about starting a conversation, " You know you asked me about going out the other day? Why did you ask?" You might find out that she's more open than you think and was trying to be supportive without being too obvious.

Maria,
I think we sometimes underestimate just how well our SO's understand us.