PennyNZ
05-23-2016, 12:43 AM
In the main, when making a post or reply I try and make them positive
For example, today I reveived my new passport so I can now travel (ie to visit my son in Australia) using the name I choose when I came out to my family, friends and community.
Together with the change of birth certificate, drivers licence and now passport, I feel very happy and validated.
I also had my 4th voice session today and am feeling fantastic with the progress.
Unfortunately, my head is also in a tailspin because I am grieving unhealthly for my previous relationship.
I knew that when I did change, our relationship would not survive but we do remain good friends.
Now 10 months down the track, the house is sold with settlement early next month, I still greatly miss her daily companionship and often (every day really) feel really down in the dumps when I think of her and what amounted to the best relationship I have had in my 50 + adult years. There had been 1 marriage and 2 other live in situations.
So what am I alerting too?
Many many people on this forum probably have gone through or going through a similar experience and you know what it feels like.
No matter how well a transistion goes, there will always be some pain that will be challenging to say the least.
I often see the phrase "transistion is not for the faint hearted" and so true that is.
So for me it is off to a different kind of therapy. This time it is for grieving.
I know compared to some, transistion for me has been a breeze and what I have said may be trivial, but for me the wind has come up and it's starting to blow a gale.
I know I don't say much (threads often get far too deep for my uneducated self), but I would like you to all know that, what ever you do contribute is an experience to learn from for someone here.
Thanks to all
Penny
For example, today I reveived my new passport so I can now travel (ie to visit my son in Australia) using the name I choose when I came out to my family, friends and community.
Together with the change of birth certificate, drivers licence and now passport, I feel very happy and validated.
I also had my 4th voice session today and am feeling fantastic with the progress.
Unfortunately, my head is also in a tailspin because I am grieving unhealthly for my previous relationship.
I knew that when I did change, our relationship would not survive but we do remain good friends.
Now 10 months down the track, the house is sold with settlement early next month, I still greatly miss her daily companionship and often (every day really) feel really down in the dumps when I think of her and what amounted to the best relationship I have had in my 50 + adult years. There had been 1 marriage and 2 other live in situations.
So what am I alerting too?
Many many people on this forum probably have gone through or going through a similar experience and you know what it feels like.
No matter how well a transistion goes, there will always be some pain that will be challenging to say the least.
I often see the phrase "transistion is not for the faint hearted" and so true that is.
So for me it is off to a different kind of therapy. This time it is for grieving.
I know compared to some, transistion for me has been a breeze and what I have said may be trivial, but for me the wind has come up and it's starting to blow a gale.
I know I don't say much (threads often get far too deep for my uneducated self), but I would like you to all know that, what ever you do contribute is an experience to learn from for someone here.
Thanks to all
Penny