Control of bi/fluid gendered situations

[AllisonS]

For anyone that has been in that situation, did you ever feel a tension about control of your life between your gender positions? How do you deal with that? In my case, for the most part, except for spending, my male role/persona/gender/being controls what me, Allison, gets to do... which is probably for the best, for now. I don't know. Its a negotiation :)

[flatlander_48]

No, fortunately that's not me. I have one persona that seems to be mostly independent of presentation. I don't know if there is any particular way to quantify it, but I would say 70/30 or 80/20, male to female.

DeeAnn

[Teresa]

Allison,
It's taken a long time to understand and bring the two sides together.

[Tina_gm]

Are you talking about a situation where you feel on the fem side, yet you are at work or with friends, family or whatever? or is it the balance overall that you are talking about?

[Dana44]

As a gender fluid person, sometimes i use a mantra to switch back like on a Sunday night. Wake up as a male is a simple one. but sometimes the switch I think is geared to our bio system and just happens and yes we feel it coming. If I dress in male clothes for a week, that seems to work also. But the bio system may have switched back during that week. Yeah I know what you mean, sometime the feminine side makes the connection.

[AllisonS]

Gender mutt.. Its the balance and direction overall and its about who's going to do what in specific situations. Anything from where to live to what to do tonight.

[Rachelakld]

I feel the tension when there's no balance.
Wife feels the tension and tells me to girl up and get out (for dinner / movies or just girl time)
Definately a negotiation.
I had good girl time when wife was on holiday, been nearly 2 weeks in man mode and starting to feel the tension now.
Got a weekend hike planned so will probably need girl time tomorrow, to get me through the weekend

[Alexa CD]

Sometimes I'll encounter situations where the demand of being more masculine than I'm really used to, comfortable with or would like can come along. I guess there is a little tension that occurs within myself, this is why I haven't transitioned.

[Kate Simmons]

Simpler than that, I've just made it a total choice of whether to do it or not. :battingeyelashes::)

[JessieA]

I seldom find a convenient balance but It seldom gets to a point that the pressure gets more then annoying. But for me pressure is always for more girl time.