Aging Transvestite..........

[Desiree2bababe]

Anyone else in the aging pool, where one can remember how good they felt and looked while dressed? Only to know now, it's a big stretch of the imagination.

I miss my old self...........

Take care of your figure girls.........

[docrobbysherry]

You're so rite, De. I'm 73. My avatar pic was taken 2 weeks ago!:battingeyelashes:

[Trysha]

That is an interesting comment, and quite relevant. I think it's not only age, but the stress of being a male , and dealing with real life problems from an inherently male perspective. That being said it takes a great deal of discipline to take the time out of our lives to really develope, nurture, and enjoy our feminine side. As you so appropriately said keeping hard at work to have a feminine figure, and all the skills related to dressing, make up, mannerisims, etc, and most importantly our mental ouloook and thoughts which make us really feel, think, and act as a lady. If you have paid that price then you deserve all the joy that comes from this experienence. Like most things in life you you will get back the effort you put into something.

[lingerieLiz]

Ah yes age has caught up with me. I accept it as the women that I'm around do. Makeup isn't as important as comfort. The cute sexy dresses are gone. I'm of the age that had petticoats under their skirts. Back then I could pass. Today, there is no way and I don't have the desire to. I do enjoy wearing pretty lingerie, beautiful blouses and pants.

[franlee]

You are preaching to the choir here(Me). I often think about just what you described. The only regret I have though is back then I didn't dress more and make more and keep the pictures. But it's great being around to reminisce!

[Krististeph]

Still pretty young, at 52, but i remember being 32- able to play with the "in"crowd? though i wish i was more youthful, i love the wisdom that comes with age. I can still play dress-up. Yes, take care of your figure, what is good for the heart is good for the brain. As i get older- when i go out- i dress classier.

You cannot go back- so go forward. Engage wisdom over topical mannerisms.

[Dana44]

Oh boy, yes we age and wow I'm a young 64 and going strong. I do take care of my figure. But as we age I look a little older and I sure miss my old self also.

[Barbara Jo]

I'm almost 69 years old and in very good health. :)

When I was younger, I never felt comfortable appearing as a female in public .

However, now my face and body has morphed into something rather feminine.
It has been said that as men and women get older we often get gender neutral in general appearance, to one degree or another.
Females can get more masculine looking and, males can get more feminine in appearance
This is certainly the case with me.

Older women need not be beautiful, just feminine looking and acting to pass, at least to the casual observer.
So, now with minimal makeup I can go to the mall, walk down the street etc completely as a female.

As far as dress.. I'm really enjoying dressing like a woman my age. Not overly sexy but classy and feminine. :)

BTW, my avatar is a recent pic.

[josrphine]

Hi Desiree, Like Barbara Jo said " when we were younger " I turned 75 in April an found that I now fit in with all the other older women. I think for me I used to much make up, not a good wig an other little things that I should not have used. I have just attended two events as a women an was asked all kinds of questions. U are not 75, did u get a face lift, did it take ure wife long to do ure make up, an so on so on. The first event was with more women then men I must admit I did look better then some women. The second event the men an women were about even, but more men came up to me an started a conversation. I am very open an this has open a big door for me. I now am very proud of being both male an female as both are accepted.

[Beverley Sims]

I am always telling people how good I looked.

But now that the rot has set in....... :-)

[Helen_Highwater]

As I've now passed the 60 mark what I'm conscious of is not ending up looking like mutton dressed as lamb.

I hope I look like a fashionably dressed mature female. Certainly not OTT but not dowdy either. I do need to work on my figure. Since retirement I've put on a few, did I say few? pounds which I'm working to get off. I'm planning for some extended Helen time later in the year so that's a deadline I need to meet. Blending while looking good is what I'm after.

Having said all that, it just occurred to me that yes perhaps the face is a bit more, shall we say lived in, but what I've lost to time I've offset with a better wardrobe, makeup skills and above all else, confidence.

[Kate Simmons]

One of the real skills at any age is to keep the feminine energies flowing. I beam whenever I have the chance to spend the night at the club dancing which exactly what I did at the club this past Saturday night for 5 hours. Of course your body has the habit of reminding you, hey you're not 23 any more but hey it's worth every minute of it to me. I may be almost 69 but I have fun with it regardless. :battingeyelashes::)

[binair10]

Do not despair. Even though age catches us up (I shall be 75 in august), what we must not forget is that we have to dress to our age. I know that long gone are the 20 something clothes that we used to wear, but we can still look good and dress well. Even though we may be getting wrinkles and lines (heaven forbid) we can still go out and pass. When you look around and see how some of the middle aged women dress, (some leave a lot to be desired) we can still look like someones mother or grandmother. Nothing to stop us still going out and enjoying ourselves. Be proud to be who you are.

Julie.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Desiree :hugs:, You are only 57 and it sounds like trying to talk yourself into old age, support stockings and Orthopedic shoes .

I'm 73 and I take my time and dress and with the right make-up, jewelry, wigs & shoes
I make a very presentable looking lady.

I have been in this program for almost 69yrs. now and I am loving life...:daydreaming:...

[abby054]

I frequent fashion websites that are age appropriate. They prove that it is possible to look wonderful at any age if I do my homework. And they even show me how to do it. Sure it takes more work, but is that not true for just about everything if we want to enjoy our life as sixty somethings?

[Sarah Doepner]

I'd much rather be old than dead. That's my first priority followed by, I'd rather be a healthy old person than an unhealthy one. So now I have something to work on. I've managed to damage myself two years in a row and need to fully recover so I can drop a few pounds and improve my stamina. I will admit I still have unrealistic expectations and that's still part of the fun!

Regardless, as I approach 67 this summer, I've found a new appreciation of comfortable semi-casual clothing and shoes. One can't deny this is the downhill part of life, but there is nothing wrong with coasting to preserve energy and using the brakes once in a while to stay on the track.

[Dana44]

I also wanted to say that if you look at the age related dress for women by the decade. The sixty year old women looked as good as the twenty somethings but they defiantly had better dresses on and there was nothing after sixties it was sixties and older. In other words we can look great until we are so old we cant walk.

[Teresa]

If I look in the mirror in male mode before dressing I ask are you getting too old for all this, as the makeup goes on and the nice outfit with matching accessories that thought has gone. I prefer my look dressed , I prefer the person I become, it's going to take a while yet before age is going to defeat those feelings !

[Barbara Jo]

I'll leave you with this......

If you worship youth, you plan you own obsolescence.

So, embrace your advancing age and take advantage of it . :)

[Ressie]

Whatever your age is right now, it's the youngest you'll be for the rest of your life! Appreciate where you are now because in 10 years you'll look back and think how young you were back then. :)

[AllisonS]

As the wrinkles get deeper the eyesight gets worse. It all works out :) Just don't use a magnified cosmetic mirror. Horrors!

[SamanthaLouiseScott]

You're so rite, De. I'm 73. My avatar pic was taken 2 weeks ago!:battingeyelashes:

you look great x

I am not making it up!

As I get older, I think in drab I look it. Dressing and the wonders of foundation blusher and the rest of it makes life much better.

I don't regret getting older, not least because I am more confident in femme mode

[Martha G]

I'm 73 and make a nice looking mature lady.

Also when I dress I look much younger than my age. I also feel younger.

But I enjoy being a mature lady and dress accordingly.

Since I started dressing in my late 50's like 59, there hasn't been much changes.

When I was a teen I was very thin and would have probably made a knockout dressed as a girl. I have always had nice legs and at that time I could cross my legs knee over knee like a woman.

But I guess I will never know.

I'll just enjoy myself as I am now.

[Heidi Stevens]

A lot of the "aging" problem is mental. Realize you're not 30 any more and celebrate your age! Look at all that experience and skill you have that the youngsters don't have. Use it! Dress your age and makeup your face so you look mature not old.
I just turned 60 and I love it! I look good for my age because I don't try to look like a 25 year old. Embrace your age and make the best of it!

[Lori Kurtz]

I miss my old self...........
Take care of your figure girls.........

Me too, babe, me too. Only it's not just the figure. I could still, with the right padding and bra-stuffing, have a very hot figure. But it's the bags under the eyes, the wrinkles, and the old-person neck that make dressing up unworkable for me.

[Sarah Doepner]

Basically we are responding to the same type of the same body and face issues advertisers have been heaping on cis-gender women for so long (but with more shaving issues). I honestly think we need to take the advice of those who tell women to ignore the ads aimed at 20-Somethings and find the way to be happy with who we are now. I'm trying, but it's so deeply ingrained in my mind after seeing the same ads for 60 years that it is difficult to not be so self-critical.

[ClosetED]

You are only 1 year older than me - but I think I look younger than my age in drab and even younger as Ellen. Look at my pictures and tell me that looks like a 56 yr old! I dress for me but do consider the age that Ellen looks and what looks pretty. I have kept my figure under control, but when 18 I was 135 pounds and now I am 'fat' at 170-180 at 6'2", so I used to not need any corset or cincher to be hourglass. I can still walk well in 5" heels
I think the wisdom and experience I have makes up for much.
Hugs, Ellen

[Jocee]

Great topic. I believe I'm gracefully getting older and adapting to my age. I still feel great and actually feel my passibility has grown as I have embraced my age. I'm with Heidi - adapt as you grow older, and don't let "age" paint you in a box. I routinely "pass" as someone who is 10-15 younger than my physical age, so I play with that, but how I dress now is very different than how I dressed 30 years ago...

Joanna

[MissVirginia-Mae]

I am in my mid-40's but do realize that someday I will be in support stockings and old lady dresses.
However, I still have many more years before that and I plan on enjoying them.
I am sure when the time comes that I will enjoy my golden years just as much.
At that point, with many years of dressing and most likely 100% female by then, I will think back with fondness on my younger years.

[CarlaWestin]

Profile picture is at 50. Avatar is at 60.
The only resistance to ageing is to just stay healthy.

[docrobbysherry]

Excellent point, Carla. And, what Sarah said. I have a bad back. I lost about 20 pounds when I wanted to improve Sherry's figure years ago. I discovered losing those pounds boosted my energy and helped ease my back problems. Never mind Sherry's looks!:heehee:

At 73, my back's in better shape than it was 20 years ago and I have the energy to attend a number of T events with girls much younger. And, I can dance all nite! (The hi heels help my back, too!):battingeyelashes:

Lose those extra pounds! U will live longer, enjoy it more, feel better about yourself, and be much happier when U look in the mirror dressed!:daydreaming:

[Stephanie47]

Pretty soon I'll be entering my seventh decade on earth-yikes! I look into a mirror and see an older man. Last year a physical therapist told me I had a good body. At my age that was a compliment. I go to a VA hospital for service connected issues, so I get to see a lot of guys my age and younger. Go to the mall. Heavens, don't go to Wal-Mart. My body attained its apex when I was mid-twenties; six foot one, 175 pounds, wavy bond hair, good muscle tone. Now, well the blond hair is gone. There are many structural defects under the skin, but, nothing that really restricts me and they will not kill me.

I do remember my early years of cross-dressing. They were terrible years filled with angst, anxiety, etc. There was a lot of self doubt about my sexuality. Was I gay like society back in the 50's and 60's would have labeled me? Lots of self loathing. There's probably not too much difference in my body type now than when I was decades younger. The additional twenty pounds are spread over a large frame. My face has aged. A nice wig eliminates the long gone hair. I'm grey now. No issues with that.

The big thing is I feel a lot more at rest now than when I was younger. I've gained the confidence of being myself. I comfortable with my journey and the things I have accomplished. As to my attire, I've always wore dresses and styles that can span generations.

And, so far awakening in the morning and being able to fog up the bathroom mirror is better than the alternative.

[Barbara Jo]

Yeah, when all is said , only the lucky get to be old and, in good health .
So, embrace your good luck. :)

[Judy-Somthing]

I'm 57 and six months ago I dressed up and looked in the mirror I wasn't feeling the "Pink Fog" at all.
I felt like Miss Judy was leaving me.

I decided to learn more about makeup and see if I can get so called Miss Judy back before I purge of all her Stuff!

Well I brought her back, at least for a little while. Maybe I should change her name to "Aunt Judy"

[Julie Gaum]

Could not resist a passing comment. There is so much to say and too little space to say it. My birthday at 91, a few days ago, was spent visiting three doctors at the VA - my social life. With all relatives, friends and a wife of 52 years all passed I do spend 24/7 en femme except when either going to VA or feeling so badly physically that I anticipate going to ER (but, fortunately, seldom do). As an old lady with poor posture and cane there are no second glances wherever I go. Beauty salon think I'm in my 70s. Long curly silver/blonde hair is my own (With thanks to my mom's genes). Probably use too much makeup but getting better at it. On the negative side my feet and ankles now swell every day so all my nice shoes sit in my closet. Not unusual for older men, my pecs are now a full 38B in flab.Weight has gone up due probably to an evening cocktail, TV dinners with wine and sweet stuff with my tea. Staying independent thanks, probably, to my memoir recently awarded as one of the "100 most notable books of 2015". My blogs, 73, in number, ends with a life-threatening experience of being over-medicated due to WWII injuries coming back to bug me. Missive too long now. Love you all
Julie

[Ressie]

Happy belated birthday and bless you Julie

[BLUE ORCHID]

Could not resist a passing comment. There is so much to say and too little space to say it. My birthday at 91, a few days ago, was spent visiting three doctors at the VA - my social life. With all relatives, friends and a wife of 52 years all passed I do spend 24/7 en femme except when either going to VA or feeling so badly physically that I anticipate going to ER (but, fortunately, seldom do). As an old lady with poor posture and cane there are no second glances wherever I go. Beauty salon think I'm in my 70s. Long curly silver/blonde hair is my own (With thanks to my mom's genes). Probably use too much makeup but getting better at it. On the negative side my feet and ankles now swell every day so all my nice shoes sit in my closet. Not unusual for older men, my pecs are now a full 38B in flab.Weight has gone up due probably to an evening cocktail, TV dinners with wine and sweet stuff with my tea. Staying independent thanks, probably, to my memoir recently awarded as one of the "100 most notable books of 2015". My blogs, 73, in number, ends with a life-threatening experience of being over-medicated due to WWII injuries coming back to bug me. Missive too long now. Love you all
Julie

Hi Julie :hugs::love: Hugs and flowers for you,

WW2 That puts you in a very small but Elite group

I would like to shake your hand and thank you for your service to our Country, Again Thanks! >Orchid

[Keely]

Happy birthday Julie, wow 91!

I will be 65 in 3 weeks. We all age differently and just need to embrace it.
I often wonder what my life would like if I had taken a different path.

My profile pic was when I first joined, gosh 10 years ago:eek:
Avatar was taken 2 weeks ago.

[Bria]

Happy birthday Julie!! I haven't seen a post from you for a while and always wonder if you are OK.

You make me feel like a youngster as I'm only 75, I'm still working and don't have any plans to totally retire in the short term. Staying active and engaged in intellectual pursuits keeps the body and the gray matter working, neglect either one and you may be on the banana peal! My 2 cents.

My avatar is from a couple of weeks ago.

Hugs, Bria