Do your neighbours know?

[Tatiana]

I'm sat here in the back garden basking in the sunshine and developing my bacini suntan. I'm lucky in so far as the garden is quite private. However, my quite macho neighbour is sat reading his paper the other side of the high fence panel. I started to think: do my neighbours know about me? They could easily see me as I spend most of my time at home dressed. Has anyone told their neighbours and what was the response?

[bridget thronton]

I am sure they have seen me - but no comments

[Stephanie47]

A number of years ago the family who was renting the house next to me apparently saw me dressed and sitting in my backyard or watering the flowers. I would have been in a dress and heels and my wig. My ear caught some conversation between them concerning "Why would he wear women's clothing!" Well, they were nosy. They would stand lined up on their patio craning their necks to see over the fence. I curtailed being out until they were evicted for non-payment of the rent. They did not pay their utility bills either. I'm sure they would have talked to other neighbors. Nothing was ever said by anybody else and they still interacted with me at the same level before any potential disclosure.

[Tomara]

I don't have close next door neighbors because I live in the country but I'm sure that neighbors and people passing by have noticed me doing yard work , mowing lawns and getting my mail but no one has ever commented on my choice in what I wear .

[Dana44]

I have been seen ene femme but nobody has said anything.

[Robin414]

I've been seen more times than I can count and I leave the house 'en tween' quite often, sometimes even with a purse over my shoulder. Haven't actually 'told' them though, for what it's worth 😉

[toniloraine]

I'm sure most of my neighbors know. The people behind me are always seeing me dressed,never said anything . The next door neighbor comes over all the time when I'm dressed.My other neighbor told me and my SO that I look great in my dressers and skirts.

[Teresa]

Tatiana,
My neighbours on either side could see me from their bedroom windows at the far end of my garden and may have done, I forgot to water all my flower tubs and went to the far end of the garden forgetting this, at the time I was wearing a denim mini skirt and a low top with forms but no wig and only lipstick. I do sit and take in the sun dressed when I get the opportunity, on one occasion I could hear both of them mowing their lawns, I had the sense to do mine earlier in the day before the sun came out so I could have a beer on my lounger .

If I'd gone through with my separation , depending where I moved to , I decided from the start to introduce myself to any neighbours and tell them that I might appear dressed differently sometimes and hope they wouldn't be offended.

[Piora]

No, they don't know. I live in an apartment building on the 12th floor. If I left my blinds open, the people on higher floors in a neighbouring building could see in. Or, since my building is an "L" shape, people on the other side could easily see in. I rarely ever have my blinds open, and never when I'm dressed.

[Barbara B]

If they don't know then I'm not sure who they think they've seen. My attached neighbour has looked straight at me from the upstairs window. Not sure about the other side and the rear neighbours. Living at the top of a close most of my near neighbours know my car and have waved at me on sight of the car coming towards them lol so I think I have to say yes.

[ClaudineD]

Neighbors knew when I was 16....didn't give hoot....helped they were very Bohemian....lol.....

[reb.femme]

I've been seen more times than I can count and I leave the house 'en tween' quite often, sometimes even with a purse over my shoulder. Haven't actually 'told' them though, for what it's worth

For the most part Robin, get your own answer :heehee:. Leaving out the tween bit, I had in mind exactly this answer.

I get cabs from home to pick me up in day-light up when I'm going out dressed, drive away from the house or just walk up the road for whatever reason, but I've not told them. For anyone that knows the reality of housing in Britain, we live akin to Battery Hens in the main, the houses are so close.

One house across from me has no curtains or blinds and they overlook my entrance and small driveway. They must have seen me at some point, but nothing has been said and no change of attitude. I have to say though, that I've given up worrying.

Becky

[Tonya Rose]

Don`t know.. I only have a couple of neighbors about a mile apart here. they could have and prolly have seen my out in the fields working in skirts before. But never said anything. and I really am at the point that I really don`t give a Damn anymore!!
This is Me!!! Take it or leave it!!!

[Tracii G]

My neighbors know and they don't have a problem with it.

[Raychel]

Hard to tell for sure if my neighbors know or not,
I would guess that they must, I do step outside at times, and
although we have not come face to face, and no big reveal.
I would guess that they have seen me.

[Natasha_Lovegood]

No, since I live in a flat they cant see me when I'm at home and I don't go out dressed.

[Amalie]

I'm sure I've been seen as I always dress up at home and and walk out my door, leave in my car and drive through the neighborhood when going out.. Though I haven't gotten any comments on that yet.

[Ressie]

My next door neighbors (husband & wife) saw me wearing shorts today. her: what happened to your legs there's no hair on them? him: he shaves 'em babe. The truth is I have very little body hair, and leg hair is very sparse. I usually stop shaving them in early spring, but it looks like I just didn't give a hoot this year. I told her I shaved them once to see if the hair would grow back thicker and it didn't work. Of course, that was looong ago!

Oh, the other day he kind of stared at the neckline of my shirt apparently noticing no hair there either!

[2B Natasha]

Have I told the neighbors? Yes and no I guess. My nearest neighbor is my mother and I told her. She's never seen me, that I am aware of. The rest of the neighborhood. I have no idea if they have seen me leave or come home. Plus I don't really care if they have or have not. But I've not told them anything. It really is none of there business. So why would I or anybody feel obligated to tell their neighbors?

[~Joanne~]

I live in a condo community and there is no such thing as privacy. We are right on top of each other. Hell, the neighbor's probably hear my heels as I go up and down the stairs when dressed. So when I do go out, it's half dressed and well covered and I finish it off some where down the road. Wasn't like this when we lived in an apartment though, I would get fully dressed (no back up bag) and my SO would just pull the car up to the front. Down the stairs, out the door, into the car and off to the rodeo sort to speak.

We have been talking alot lately about getting a house but I want one with very few neighbors so we are waiting for the right one to come along. If I am going to commit to a house I better have the running room outside ;)

[Alice Torn]

Joanne, Privacy seems to have gone the way of the Dodo bird, or two dollar bill! I thought i was moving into a quiet Illinois small town.. It is more noisy here, and less privacy, than when i lived in Tacoma Wash. Nosy neighbor won't let me let myu cats outside at all, watches every move i make, rednecks and Harley bikers flood the town every weekend. Not a good place to out myself. But the nosy neighbor know i dress at times, is only a little problem with it.

[Richelle423]

My neighbors to the left of me know I wear women's jeans all the time but don't care. A couple of nights ago I was sitting on my front steps wearing Danskin Capri leggings and my neighbor on the right pulls into his driveway he must have saw me I wanted to get up and run inside but I figured if I was sitting it woudnt to obvious I was wearing girly clothes so I kept sitting till he pulled in .
0I figured if I got up he would have seen me in girly clothes

[Diversity]

I think I got caught out once when I was in my nightgown, and had gone downstairs early in the morning to put the kettle on. However my neighbor has never mentioned it and if she did see me, she has been good to me by keeping it quiet.
Di

[Barbara Black]

I'm never sure. I thought for sure my daughter was aware, but she exploded when she noticed my bra. I try not to walk directly in front of them while I'm wearing a skirt and blouse (I seldom wear dresses outside), but I don't hide either. So undoubtedly they have seen me walking around, probably headed back inside to avoid their exposure to me because I won't run and hide. I will however keep the bushes and trees between us if possible, without ducking or running. So yes, they probably do know, but I've been wrong before.

[Katya@]

I have been walking my dog late at night 11pm-12am since December and often if i was already dressed - i make an effort to be brave enough and not to change back into guys clothes. in winter it was easier to leave the house wearing my wife's coat / hat. things got trickie with hot temperature upon us. skirt and tank top is hard to hide. when i hear a car is approaching, i still get a bit nervous. sometimes i turn my back, sometimes i step into shade, and yesterday i just kept walking straight as it was approaching from ahead. I walk a lot during the day withdog, my daughters in guy clothes. Neighbors know me. so they should probably have easy time recognizing me in skirt. But part of me wants to get "caught" this way. I guess this is my way to come out.

[AmyGaleRT]

I'm sure they've seen me, but I don't know them very well, so I don't know if any of them have put two and two together. Maybe they think I'm two separate people.

I actually saw one of my neighbors walking to his car earlier today, as I was getting some things out of mine. (I was full-Amy, in sundress and sandals.) I didn't know whether he'd seen me or not, so I waved. He waved back.

At least once, one of my other neighbors asked me to help jump start his car. (He spotted me locking my front door, and asked, "Excuse me, ma'am, do you have jumper cables?") He didn't act like I was anything other than a woman.

- Amy

[lingerieLiz]

I've lived all over this great land (country) and I think all my neighbors have known. Even in redneck country I've not had a problem. Met my neighbor wearing a dress the first day. In the early years I passed. Where I live now I'm sure they know. Had interaction with several while wearing obvious women's clothes. Gone shopping with a couple of the women. I don't try and pass, but do wear mostly women's clothes and bras. Neighbor guys have seen me in women's t-shirt with bra. Gone fishing with a couple wearing fem clothes. With "C" girls in a bra it is hard to miss. i'm also the guy that people call if they need help with something. That may be the answer, saving someone a few hundred dollars goes a long way. Have noticed a couple of the neighbors talking to my chest. More than one has looked down my blouse. I think they liked the lace bra I had on. I've played pool with a couple of them while wearing a silk blouse that when I bent over let the girls be seen. Maybe that was why they missed so much. I answer the door as is. As for the women, Wearing a silk robe getting the paper with the wind blowing while talking to them pretty much assures they recognized that I have on a nightgown. Wonder if the lace bodice showing through gave it away? Anyway I don't worry about it. On the other hand I don't have to worry about people spreading the news or at work as some might.

[jacques]

I really don't know - my dressing is private not a secret.
luv J

[Cheryl T]

I'm certain they've seen me from time to time since we go out regularly.
No one has said anything and if it bothers them then it's their issue, not mine.

[Lauri K]

Oh yeah, the neighbors have seen Lauri for sure.........

But like others have said, no one has commented one way or the other......I am sure they have seen me enough times now that it doesn't even faze them

[wanda66]

Omy i forgot to remove my hoop ear rings and lipstick and the lady next door engaged me in a conversation, when i went out to dunp the trash during the conversation she mentioned she liked my ear rings. I was a bit embarrassed and i could feel my face turn red, she grabed my arm and said "your blushing but it dose match your lip stick" she smiled gave me a hug and said her good bys .she was soo sweet.

[TrishaTX]

Nope ...noone but my wife knows(and my therapist) ...I don't want them to know

[Tabitha_Sinn]

Hi Tatiana. My current neighbours don't know, but neighbours in the past have. I don't own a house, so I live in apartments. The last time my neighbours knew was when one knocked on the door. I opened it fully dressed. He didn't say anything about it, but told all the other neighbours, who were then asking me about it. Wasn't a big deal to me, because I'm not in anyway hiding, but probably was rather rude of him, wouldn't you say?

Edit: nobody said anything negative about it BTW. I think they were just curious.

The time before that, I went to check on another neighbour who hadn't been home for a few days, while I was dressed. She simply asked "Who are you?" So I told her. She moved out shortly after. Related? I honestly don't know. Could have just been a coincidence. :-)

[Mollyanne]

As far as I know my neighbors don't know and/or haven't seen me dressed. If I do go out, I get into my car as gracefully as possible so as NOT to draw attention to myself.

Molly

[Lee Andrews]

I'm out in the backyard a lot in various degrees of Lee. Most of the yard is private but there is a few places one of them could catch a glimpse. If they have, no one has said anything and I'm getting to a point where I don't give a damn.

[Ceera]

Let me start by saying that I am lucky enough to be able to pass pretty well. Even when someone stops to talk to me, I can present a believable impression that I am a genetic girl, as long as I am careful with my voice to stay in my 'female mode' when speaking. All my neighbors have had occasions to see me coming and going en-femme, in full daylight, since we moved here a few months ago.

I've had one male neighbor talk to me while I was en-femme, as I was returning from an afternoon shopping trip and he was walking back to the house next door to mine from getting his mail. We were about ten feet apart, with me in the driveway and him on the sidewalk. He smiled at me as he saw me heading to my door, and said something like, "Hi! I'm your neighbor." I smiled back, and said something like, "Oh! Hi! Nice to meet you," and then ducked inside, because, quite honestly, I really needed to use the bathroom. I don't yet know if he realized it was the guy who owned the house that he was talking to, or if he assumed that he was talking to my college aged daughter. I don't see him very often, so I haven't gotten any follow-up to his impression of that encounter.

My back fence neighbor lady has talked to me in male mode a lot about a planned replacement of the fence between our properties, which we are going to split the cost on. She came to my front door a while back when my daughter and I were just about to go out to dinner together, with me fully en-femme. She wanted to talk more about the fence project. Well, my daughter was still getting a shower and getting dressed, and I just invited the lady inside, using my male voice since she didn't seem to notice or care about my dress or long hair or female figure and makeup. As we talked, I shifted my voice slowly back to feminine. I needed to step out into the back yard for a moment to measure the height of the fence, and my daughter came into the room just as I left. Apparently, and soon as I left, the lady looked at my daughter, then back at me in the yard, and asked her, "Wait... is that Jay?" Apparently she had assumed she was talking to my daughter when she was greeted by a woman at the door, since she didn't know my daughter well yet, but knew I lived here alone except for my daughter! My daughter confirmed that yes, that was her dad, and when I came back in, the neighbor lady continued our talk about the fence as if nothing odd was going on. I guess she just took it in stride and didn't mind that I dressed, and she hasn't mentioned it since then.

Just last weekend I came back to the house dressed in a female Renaissance style outfit, as I had been at a historical reenactment group's weekend event. I had needed to get the mail and some parcels from our on-street mail box into the house, and needed to get some stuff from the house for the remainder of the camping trip. There were four boys playing basketball in front of my home, at a hoop they have set up across the street and right next to the mail boxes. Three were college aged, and one was late elementary school or early high school aged. I just went into the house, got a large shopping bag to carry the mail and parcels in, and walked around their game to get my mail, without really interacting with them. Yet I was only a few feet to one side of their game as I went to the mailbox, and facing them as I got my things out of the mail box. As I got my mail, they ended their game and went down the block to see another neighbor's new litter of puppies. I finished getting what I needed, and drove back past them as I left. No one made any comments or gave me any odd looks. Again, maybe they thought I was my daughter?

So, have they seen me? Yes, a lot. Do they 'know' I am transgender? Probably, but it still may be sinking in. So far, no bad reactions at all.

[CynthiaD]

All my neighbors have seen me dressed. I spend a lot of time outside, almost always fully en femme.

[Kate Simmons]

I'm assuming they do as when I leave my house en femme when it's still daylight, I usually wave and they wave back. :)

[MissVirginia-Mae]

My current neighbors do not know although one set (4 Lesbian girls) prob wouldnt care while the other side is a elderly gentleman and his wife that prob would defin care.
I keep things rather quiet but when I lived in the city, I would go down for the mail dressed in a nightgown with wig and forms of course.....
It was a large apartment building so im sure one of the older neighbors noticed me at some point.

[Sharon B.]

They have seen me dresses as a woman but haven't made any comments. The worst thing I heard was one time was a door slamming shut.