First time out en femme during the middle of the day

[cindy777]

Yesterday was the first time I was out en femme in the middle of a beautiful sunny day. I have been going out en femme for a several years now but always under the camouflage of darkness. In the past I have no problem driving a standard in girl mode, in other words wearing high heels and a tight fitting dress. I was extremely nervous about the prospect of someone recognizing my car and figuring out who was really driving that car, as we live in a small town and no one knows of my hobby. My legs were shaking so much I really thought that I might drive right off the road as well as changing gears was challenging, so I chickened out and turned back and returned to the safety of my house after driving only two blocks.

It takes a lot of guts to go out in the middle of the day dressed as a woman especially (in a small town) if you get outed you and potentially your family may have a lot to lose. My children do not know of this part of me and plan on keeping it that way.

On the up side it was extremely exciting and did enjoy the experience even thought it was short lived.

Has anyone else have a similar experience?

[BrendaPDX]

Hi Cindy, Congratulations! You are stepping out into a brighter world. I love the feeling of being scared, the adrenaline high. Yes the shaking hands and legs, some times you think you might trip and fall down. I can't imagine driving a clutch in heals and tight skirt. By the way the pick looks great, you have a very pretty figure. Have you thought about driving to a park in the next town? Bring some man clothes, be brave, and try to have fun. Take care Brenda

[sara.rafaela]

This was one of my major steps in dressing. I had been going out to gay and transgendered bars in SF and NY for a few years. This was no problem. I can make myself passable in the dark, or at a distance. Out in the daytime is 100% general public. The other thing was the amount of makeup and apparel needed to make myself semi passable: beard cover and heavy foundation, contouring makeup, and hosiery. It is really challenging to come up with a light, daytime look. Fortunately in places like SF and NY, a woman in dress and heels is a common sight during a week day. Furthermore, going out at night to a crossdresser friendly place involves very little interaction with the general public. Being out in the general public and potentially far from my car or TG friendly placed scared me a lot.

My first time out during the day was to the Union Square shopping area in SF. At the time I was still driving (these days I rely on Uber or taxis). I drove around forever trying to find parking reasonably close. Finally I found a spot, but on the wrong side of 5th Street. Here the area changes from swarmed tourist area to seedy streets with lots of street people hanging around. I wore a just below the knee skirt, brown ankle boots, and a surplice top. I got a few cat calls while I walked the block to the mall where Nordstrom's is located. Once I passed the riff raff, the response from the public was either neutral or non existent. A few young women smiled at me. I went to Nordstrom, Macy's, MAC, and had a drink and some food at one of the bars just north of the cable car station.

[Tracii G]

One step at a time Cindy and before long you will go anywhere you feel like going.

[Stephanie47]

It takes a lot of guts to go out in the middle of the day dressed as a woman especially (in a small town) if you get outed you and potentially your family may have a lot to lose. My children do not know of this part of me and plan on keeping it that way. On the up side it was extremely exciting and did enjoy the experience even thought it was short lived.


Risk vs Reward. I went back and read that you have gone out in the evening with some frequency. Congratulations of your latest adventure. Yes, day trips in the family car can be very daring. We don't live in a vacuum. Just carefully assess what may happen if you're 'outed' in your community. Risk vs Reward

[cindy777]

Like you were saying Stephanie, I was assessing what the rewards were and determined I was risking too much. As I was dressed in a tight fitting high cut dress complete with high heels something that would not normally be worn by the women from this area. Sara mentioned this would be an everyday wear in the city this choice of clothing would also attract unwanted attention in the country.

When driving en femme there is always an emergency make up clean kit with me, as well as, a complete change of men clothes I could change into if the need arose. I did think about going maybe to the nearest city and going out and about but during the evening this time lol.