How do you present as a woman?

[Jenny Alice]

Hello, This occurred to me on Saturday night when I went out with some friends. I wore an engagement ring and a wedding ring (and other things of course!) and I realised I often do this. Then I wondered if it were a symbol of the desire to present to the outside world as a wife and to pass as one. Like most of us I suspect I love the thought of passers bye seeing me as a woman. I have even had the occasional comment a woman might get when she passes a man. You know the kind of comment I mean and in a way I find it confirming my female identity. From this I wondered how others like to present themselves. Do others wish to pass as a married lady possibly with children? Or do you wish to be the flirty type who would like to attract men. Or perhaps a professional woman who wears a dark skirt and jacket and a cream white blouse during the day. There are many variations and if this is not too personal I would love to how you would like others to see you as a woman. Love, Jenny

[Linda E. Woodworth]

Hi Jenny,

I've been wearing a wedding band and engagement ring (cubic zirconium) for years. I wear them because I am married to my wife and want to show that. I admit that I also use it to let others know that I am not available for any handy panky.

Over all I try to present myself as a professional woman / housewife of my age.

[Tracii G]

I found out long ago wearing a wedding set to top off the image of femininity was a good idea.
In the beginning I got hit on by guys a bit and really it got annoying.
With a wedding and engagement ring it does send out a message to men and women alike that you are taken.
I have had women remark on my set a few times in a nice way and that kind of validates the image I am going for.

[BrendaPDX]

Hi Jenny, I like to present myself as an office worker or a single woman of my age, well maybe a little younger. I did pick up a few rings but they will go on the fingers that they happen to fit. Brenda

[JanetM.]

The last thing I want to do is to stand out in public and attract lots of attention. Crossdressing is more of a personal thing with me and I simply love the feeling of stepping into a totally different person with different looks, personality and name. I try to dress like an "everyday" woman would, often in jeans and a top but occasionally in a skirt or jumper dress. The hair I choose is usually shoulder length or longer and always with bangs. It is always fun to drive during the day with large fem sunglasses on as most women do. So to answer the question, I just want to fit in and look natural.

[NancySue]

I have to be very flexible. We live in a smaller town where most women dress very casually...very. No makeup, jeans, flip flops, casual top, slightly combed hair, no jewelry, etc. My appearance generally includes most female things not seen around here...very frustrating. I love pencil skirts, makeup, earrings, hose (a definite no-no), heels, blouses, both sleeveless and 3/4 sleeves, etc. All causing unwanted attention. I have a supportive wife. We agree, Discovery would be a disaster. I work at a bank. This town is absolutely not ready for us. Our Board recently discussed the transgender bathroom issue. Many of the comments were very negative. I kept thinking...if they only knew. Nothing was done, either. We go to an upscale mall about 20 miles away to shop, take in a movie, etc. I/we fit in much better there. The "professional" woman is my favorite mode.

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[Elizabeth G]

I like the idea of engagement/wedding rings as it helps avoid unwanted attention. I like aprofessional office look. It helps explain being dressed up in our increasingly casual society and looks feminine but not out of place in the right setting.

Elizabeth

[bonni]

professional mode and casual

[Dana44]

I always wear an engagement ring. Here in Texas, women do go casual but you see several in skirts or dresses also. I try to always have a skirt or dress on and it does not look unusual.

[Heidi Stevens]

Hey Jenny. Since you do go out with friends, you undoubtably have picked up on the fact to dress as the group has chosen. The group should be dressed like the others in the place you're going, so you shouldn't attract attention needlessly. I always dress to fit the occasion and in the best, clean, well kept clothes to fit the situation. (You don't wear a club dress to go grocery shopping!)
I wear a wedding set as well, not only for that extra layer of protection, but to also honor the lady I am married to. Now don't think this will make you immune from being hit on! There are guys out there who could care less if a lady is married or not. Have a back up line to feed these idiots who forget what the ring represents. (I use the old stand by: sorry, but I'm not into guys. And give them a smile).
If you want to look your best, find high quality pieces to fill out your wardrobe. They may cost more, but they hold up and look much better on you than the cheap stuff. Check out consignment shops for gently used articles like this at a reasonable price.
If you think for just a second, what would the other women wear to where I'm going? That then should be your clue on what to wear. Have fun out there!

[Amy Fakley]

I wear an engagement ring and wedding band set when I go out too. For one thing, I am a married woman (though I'm sure it's pure vanity to imagine anyone would be interested). The other thing is that I'm either gonna have a huge "crop circle" on my finger where my wedding ring normally is, or a big ol man-ring ... I'd rather have something fabulous, and it's simply amazing how much absoloutely convincing cubic zirconia you can buy for $10 direct from China these days.

Honestly, my style in girl mode is about like my style in guy mode. Preppy/professional with a side of nerd and a big old helping of soccer mom. My wife says I have boring fashion taste LOL. Can't hide who I am ... I'm a nerd through and through, even in girl mode.

[Jenniferathome]

I wear my wedding band and a traditionally female engagement ring whenI am out. I AM married after all. I used to think this would prevent men from approaching me, but I doubt most men approaching strange actually look for a ring. I think what keeps men away is my age, where I go, and, oh yeah, the fact that I am a cross dresser and clearly not female.

I always try to present as best I can. I can only work with what I have.

[Stephanie47]

At almost seventy years old there is no problem keeping men away! Anyway, I have not had my wedding band off, even for surgery, ever since it went on. I dress to project how I feel. I always wear a dress, hosiery and heels. The dress is appropriate for any woman in her thirties to her sixties and older.

[ClosetED]

I have not ventured out, but I present myself here in the style I call catalog women - focused on looking pretty / feminine. I am considering joining a local support group - Tiffany Club - and would probably goes in a more blendable outfit, but still pretty and feminine. I did grab 90 minutes this AM to fully dress for first time in almost 3 months, so can post some pics later. One is in size 6 pants.
Hugs, Ellen

[Lorileah]

Funny :thinking: I find that a wedding set is the best bait to get men to hit on you. They think you're safe and won't want a long term commitment

[Joan58]

Ellen ,

Looking forward to seeing your pics, Was 90 minutes enough?

[Ceera]

When my wife was alive, neither of us wore a ring of any kind, under normal circumstances. We both did to much with our hands, where a ring might be a safety hazard, or would be damaged or messed up by what we were doing. She had a nice wedding ring that I made for her - sterling silver cast in the form of a rose, and set with water opal that shone more than a diamond in direct sunlight. It remained in our safe, except for special formal occasions. I never had a wedding ring myself.

Now I have a 'wedding ring', which, when I am out at a more formal occasion, I wear on the ring finger of my right hand, as befits a widow. It's a fairly large cubic zirconia in a nice Tiffany setting, and the ring looks like white gold. When asked, as Ceera I state that I am widowed, even if I am not wearing that ring.

[Antonia Flemming]

from the neck down( Fabulous) But the neck up.... Car crash lol264012264012

[Teresa]

Jenny,
I've just answered a comment to Dana, about presentation, when she said my bodycon dress made me look like the woman.

Personally I like to keep it as natural as possible, try and think how a woman would dress in the same circumstances, obviously this relates to me going out to social evenings, they don't need to be OTT but smart without being dressy. Not excessive with the makeup , forms just big enough to achieve a natural figure . I don't dress to stand out , but just look as close to a woman as I can. I don't bother with rings, I'm not going to pass 100% to fool anyone if I'm a married woman or not besides I'm not looking for a relationship .

Only today I spoke to an old friend I hadn't seen in twenty years, she knew about my CDing from my wife so I brought her up to date and showed her my recent pictures, she was just blown away how passable I was ( in her words , not mine !). As usual I had the envious comment about my legs, but she was so overwhelmed how I managed to put the whole thing together.

[PaulaQ]

I'm just me. I wear dresses and flats. Makeup when I have time.

I'm engaged, so I wear an engagement ring. This doesn't deter anyone from flirting.

My personality is more noticeable than my appearance.

[Cheryl T]

I always wear at least a wedding band.
I'm happy and proud being married and love being seen as a married woman.

[Teresa]

Paula,
I missed that point but you're so right about personality, it can also make make or break the appearance !
I don't think I've stopped smiling at the meetings yet !

[Khaleesi81]

I think I pretty much present as the same personality, whether I'm male or female. Though the female side is more dressy, as the male side doesn't have that option. I wear my wedding band, as what I'm dressed like doesn't change who I am! It also might serve to ward of 'admirers' as well.

[pamela7]

Hmmn, I'm me, t-i-double-gerr-err. I do wear the wedding band out and about, apart from that casual/comfortable, almost always a skirt or dress.

[Kate Simmons]

I just present as myself. Any other perception is in the mind of the observer. :battingeyelashes::)

[Lana Mae]

Not out yet but would present as girl next door! Around here, some skirts and blouses and a few dresses mostly jeans/pants and some kind of top! Most wear sneakers or flats! High heels are for more formal wear here! Just my observations!! Hugs Lana Mae

[Alice Torn]

At 62, I have never worn a ring in my life, other than "ring around the collar". I do too much with my hands, also, to wear any ring. This thread gives me an idea, though, to maybe buy a low end ring, for when i am out. Guys on the internet have wanted to marry me, even though we never met.

[Sometimes Steffi]

I wear a wedding set as well, not only for that extra layer of protection, but to also honor the lady I am married to. Now don't think this will make you immune from being hit on! There are guys out there who could care less if a lady is married or not. Have a back up line to feed these idiots who forget what the ring represents. (I use the old stand by: sorry, but I'm not into guys. And give them a smile).


Heidi: We think the same. I wear my own wedding ring but match with an impossible to miss engagement ring, mostly as an attempt to keep guys away, but also because I really am married.

I've never had to use it, but my backup line is similar to yours, "Sorry, but I'm only into women." I think this excuse has the added benefit of letting the dude down easily, and giving him a story to tell the other dudes he may be with, and not be embarrassed by being shot down. I guess the down side is that it wouldn't work on a girl who might be interested in me. But that wouldn't be so bad anyhow, but I wouldn't break my wedding vows for even a cute girl.

Normally, when I'm going out, it's for a Girl's Night Out, so I would dress a little fancy, but not ****ty. I usually wear a long wig, and my clothes aren't age appropriate, but I can imagine myself any way I want. For just shopping or going out to eat, I usually wear jeans and a top, a very casual skirt and a top, or a casual dress, like a sun dress. I call this "girl lite."

[barbara gordon]

Only for When I go out , I Often wear an cubic zirconia engagement ring that i bought for about $10 at a claire's jewelry store several years ago ...
it doesn't keep everyone away , but it sure weeds them out a bit .
If any one notices , Wearing it does turn many conversations into about how or if girls like me can have a good relationship with a significant other ... all in a good way .

[phylis anne]

not toally out but present as kinda tomboy/girl so unless I am in a real seedy venue I don't gethit on too much

[Jessica May]

I typically try to look like a girl my age. Jeans and a top or sundress if the weather is nice. I also where a ring to indicate that I am married ( I love my wife and want to show it). Sometimes looking like a business professional is fun too.

[franlee]

I wear a wedding set out and about most times. I also present in accordance to the setting using my wife as a role model. We are retired so the attire we wore when we were selling real estate is not worn as often. But that is the look I adore and enjoy wearing out in the public. But for running to town such as Wally-world it is casual, jeans, blouse and sneakers. Just as any of the local women wear.

[flatlander_48]

Interesting. This is something I've never really thought about. I do wear a wedding ring. It was from my first marriage. However, the problem is that I have been unable to take it off for probably better than 15 years. I've had arthritis since I was a kid and my knuckles swelled to the point where I couldn't take it off. But I have to admit that I've never thought about it when I dress, one way or the other.

I'll also confess that I've never thought about married, single or whatever when I dress. I try to dress in a colorful and stylish way, but that's about the extent of it. I've never tried to blend in. Not sure if I could, but the thought doesn't have much appeal anyway.

DeeAnn

[Vintage4sarah]

I always in the public eye (including going to Tgirl events) wish to present myself as a classy, mature lady. This is especially so now that I am in my 60s. It also helps that I have an eye out for real women of my age and how the most attractive ones look. On the few occasions that I was really out in the public that classy, mature look really appears to help me blend in. On the occasions that I am with Tgirl friends, I then can bend my own rules and get a little more provocative (which is still a lot of fun to achieve).

[gokatiegirl]

Lately everything has been at knee length, and always wear a wedding ring. I cut back on my makeup and only use what is necessary. I don't try to draw attention but at 6-1 it's not easy to hide. I would love to be seen as a woman but I'm not and don't pretend to be. I just be myself and don't worry about what others think.

[CarlaWestin]

No matter which appearance I've decided to emulate, I always wear my wedding ring.
After all, even if I'm wearing six inch heels, giant boobs and a leather mini-skirt, I'm still a happily married man.

[Robin414]

I like looking like a hooker 😊 ...screech..
wait a minute...I meant to say 'cougar'...ummm...well dressed MILF...?

I'm old...ask me no questions and I'll tell you no lies!!

[AmberNation]

I also wear a cubic zirconia wedding set sometimes. It looks real enough, but I'm starting to feel like it doesn't look expensive enough, even though it is fake. I might get another one if I see any cheap ones.