Appointment to see Pyschologist

[kristyk]

I'd like to ask what others would do in my situation. I'm 54 married to my best friend, wouldn't hurt her if my life depended on it. She knows all about my MTF road and was very excepting in me starting HRT. I can't tell you how excited I was the day we discussed me moving in the direction of transitioning. I've lost weight and I look more feminine now than I ever have. She is 16 years older than me and now she has expressed her fear of losing me if I go forward any more than I have. My doctor has encouraged me to have a bilateral orchiectomy. after some discussion is when her fears came out, shes not 70. One big issue for me is I want to go further, when I started HRT and I grew breasts it was the happiest day of my life. When my skin became more feminine and what seemed like my brain is more female then male I can't go back. My feeling is I want to run and go forward.

I'm trying to find a good therapist or psychologist in my area to discuss what to do next. I know having a bilaterial ochi would be healthier for em and I would look better in my jeans. I'm having this fears that we may drift apart as i keep going.

I'm so confused and my heart is saying is being torn any thoughts

KristyK

[pamela7]

getting older together as best friends, sex is increasingly less important. Remember that your friendship and companionship is where it is all at.

[jentay1367]

She is 16 years older than me and now she has expressed her fear of losing me if I go forward any more than I have


Will you leave if you continue? You've indicated you won't. You also stated she was happy for you to transition. If you would never leave her, I'd suggest you share that, unsolicited and very,very often. If in fact you may leave, her fears are completely warranted. Seems your path is clear from this vantage point. What is your concern? I'm a bit confused.

[PretzelGirl]

I'm 54

She is 16 years older than me

shes not 70.

It has been a while since I took math class, but you are not adding up here. ;-)

Okay, she is your best friend and you are married; she is supportive; she has a fear of losing you; her fears are around you having a bilateral orchi (BO).

I also don't know what you mean when you say a BO would be healthier for "em". Who or what is "em"?

Between her fears and you then having fears you may drift apart, get couples counseling with a gender therapist. You need someone that the two of you can talk to about the path who also understands the path. Relationships fail here at a very high rate. If may be something you have to accept as a possibility should you want to move forward. But I certainly support trying to hang on to what you want. Just realize, you are getting into a minefield that many have unsuccessfully navigated before you.

As far as the rest, you might need to clear up what you are saying. I am not sure about the age thing or who "em" is, so I don't know what to say. But if you are not having GRS soon or at all, a BO is not a bad thing. If you might have GRS soon, you might be spending money you don't need to. Decide what your path is and that will tell you your direction.