The thrill of dressing up in secret

[wantstocrossdress]

I'm often in chatrooms when en femme. I tell the people I talk to that I'm a guy who's dressed up as a lady and regularly get asked why I keep my dressing up as a secret from friends and family. I tell them that I'm ok keeping it as a secret, the negative social stigma of finding out that I wear women's clothing, etc. They're all true for me but tonight I had an extra out of the blue answer... I found dressing up in secret thrilling. If I came out, there were no negative reactions, and was allowed to walk around the house or outside en femme, I probably would not do it as the thrill of being caught was gone. I'd still continue to dress up in secret though. Anyone else felt like this?

[Tracii G]

No if I couldn't go out and enjoy life being me whats the point?
If you enjoy being secretive its all good

[JocelynJames]

I feel a little like this. I used to think I had a lot of friends, but have come to realize none of them would accept this part of me. That's alright- my wife is my best friend and she knows/ is supportive . But yeah, I get a slight thrill.

[wanda66]

Dressing in secret is sometims the only alternative.. for some.finding the right apparel can be a real proublem.

[IamWren]

No... I'm afraid I don't feel that way at all.
I'm a closeted dresser although my wife does know and like that I wear women's underwear and women's jeans.
She likes the way they fit and look on me but I wear them because I think they're comfy. So wearing undies or women's jeans that fit my small frame better than men's jeans is because... well because they're clothes that fit me better. Not really thrilling.


When it comes to dressing though when I think of being "en femme", simply wearing panties, girl jeans or putting on a dress isn't enough for me. I want to create as much of a feminine illusion as I can. So the handful of times I've gone full tilt with a waist cincher, three bras with silicone bewbs to create cleavage, four pairs of panties for a flat tuck, hip padding, full blown makeup with contouring and highlighting, wig or hijab and heels... Whew! It's a LOT of work to make this knuckle-dragging guy look like a girl.
It is not thrilling. The tingly feeling in special place is not activated by dressing.

If my wife knew and there was no stigma attached to dressing and appearing like a girl but not really completely pulling it off I would most certainly do it more. I don't know... maybe I wouldn't. It is a lot of work. :)

[Alice Torn]

It used to be, but, it has lost some of its fun. I only go out about tree to seven times a year, and it is very exciting, yet scary, as i am six foot six, and stick out like a totem pole or scarecrow.

[wanda66]

Alice, I am in the same boat ,tall and I feel like it's difficult to blen in .

[JohannaSophia]

I am 6'7" and have always had to enjoy trying to look lovely and feminine bet in private acknowledging that I could never pull it off in public. I really admire the guys who can look like a doll in heels!
As a kid the mirror had to do but eventually my wife was my coach and photographer, love her for all she does for me whether I am in girl or boy mode!

[RADER]

I also like to dress, however, I would never be close to passing even on a dark night.
So I will stay in my "closet" and enjoy my "Hobby"
Rader

[JocelynJames]

On the height note, I'm 5'8" so with a low heel I can blend. Unfortunately, having a size 8 pants or skirts but 12 ( sometimes 10) top would alert others .

[Fiona123]

There is no way I can pass. All my dressing (ecept underdressing) is at home. It is thrilling. I have wondered though if there was no stigma and I could dress at will would the thrill then evaporate?🌺

[Krisi]

Nope, not me. It was very stressful to dress and worry that my wife would find out. Now that she knows, the stress is gone. I do go out from time to time but away from my neighborhood and anyone who would know me. I really enjoy my time out as Krisi. There's still a little bit of worry about getting into a situation, but there's no "thrill of being caught".

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On the height note, I'm 5'8" so with a low heel I can blend. Unfortunately, having a size 8 pants or skirts but 12 ( sometimes 10) top would alert others .

One of the mistakes many crossdressers make is paying attention to the boobs and not the hips and butt. Go online and look at the Veronica 5 padded garment. It's not cheap but it does the trick, at least for me. Get the "extra curvy". "Dress tech" pads are another option that gets good reviews here.

[Sissy_Michelle]

Wantstocrossdress,

That is a very good point. There does exist some excitement to the amount of dressing that I do, the "thrill" of "will someone notice my bra today?". "Will someone see me in the lockeroom putting on my panties." I have had someone walk into the area where I dress in the lockeroom, I was positive he noticed that I was wearing my panties, because I caught him glancing at me as I finished dressing. At that point, I didn't put my bra on, though in hind sight it would have been great to see he face had I put it on. I remember the day one of my coworkers came over to my desk bending over me with hand on my shoulder to help me with what I was working on. Her facial expression and her removal of her hand said she knew. Later she did approach me and ask, and now I have someone to shop with and hang out with... All very thrilling. And worth it.

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Michelle

[Pat]

I remember that thrill. :) It's the general thrill of risk-taking behavior which I used to think I didn't do, then someone sat me down and went over a checklist of things I had done in my past. I always thought I was a quiet wallflower but it turns out I was a stealth risk-taker. :eek: Enjoy it -- it's a great feeling.

[docrobbysherry]

First off, there r a number of dressers who dress in secret and fantasize of being caught. Probably wanting to come out but r afraid to?

Then, there r even more who have had "forced femanization" fantasies. I had those early on it my dressing. But, they ended. Maybe 17 years ago?

But, I'm with Krisi. I was so stressed worried about being fpund out every time I dressed for the year after my 18 y/o daughter moved in with me full time. After I told her, THEN the stress vanished and dressing at home became thrilling again!:D

[Mary ElizabethJordan]

I Love to dress up in Women's clothes because my Wife will not allow me to go through hormone replacement therapy, or sexual reassignment surgery to become a Woman. I hope she accepts my Cross Dressing when I tell her I can not stop.

[sometimes_miss]

Nope, there's nothing thrilling about crossdressing to me. It's more like a cortisone cream that takes the itch away; comforting.