The sissy word

[Josie]

I hear the word sissy used somewhat regularly here and I have to admit that when I look in the mirror fully dressed like today,I'm a total a sissy. Does anyone else feel that way or is it just me?

[trissy]

I feel that way. It seems that the term "sissy" itself is very hot-button for some. I think it describes the way I feel when dressed.

[Ressie]

I've been to some sissy websites and I just don't fit in with those groups. Don't classify yourself as a sissy until you know what it's all about now days.

[Jenniferathome]

I never feel that way. For me, "sissy" is a derogatory term.

[Jodi]

I've never felt like a sissy in my life, regardless of how I'm dressed.

jodi

[nikkiwindsor]

I really really hate the word "sissy"...it conjures up a lot of bad memories while growing up and being picked on for my feminine spirit :(

[Josie]

I was only ever once referred to as feminine and I actually relish that statement, I feel more sissy than masculine. I really like feeling like a sissy! I'm dressed totally like a women and it feels good so why am I not totally sissy?

[Meghan4now]

I absolutely abhor the term. As previously mentioned, it is a derogatory term meaning weak and ineffectual, weak willed, unwilling to defend ones self, unwilling to get dirty or make a physical effort. Not only is it offensive to males, it is also offensive to females as it epitomizes the absolute worst stereotypes assigned to the female gender.

I would never aspire to be a sissy as a man, or as a woman. For me, part of my dressing is an expression of what I see as ideal in women. Those ideals do not jive with being a sissy.

[Josie]

Maybe I'm confusing sissy with feminine, but I like thinking of myself as a sissy, maybe it's another way of saying feminine.

[carhill2mn]

I think that the word "sissy" is derogatory. I cannot think of any situation where it would be a good word to use.

[Josie]

Today I'm totally dressed as a women, I feel great and anything better masculine. So what am I today?

[MartineCD]

The term sissy is loaded with so many negative connotations and for many brings up and bad and painful memories and emotions. Imho and no offence intended to anyone who identifies with the modern interpretation of the term as used in the porn industry, I don't think it helps with the general populations perception of mtf crossdressers.

M x

[NicoleScott]

There's a sissy lifestyle or roleplay that Ressie may he referring to. I'm not into that. There's sissy style, a certain overly girly look characterized by frilly dresses with lots of ruffles and lace (as I see it, anyway. Others define it differently). I love this style, but still haven't bought that perfect Lolita-style dress I want. And then there are the [often bad] memories of childhood many have experienced.
We shouldn't call crossdressers sissies collectively, because some don't want to be called sissies, believing it to be derogatory or offensive. But the word shouldn't be banned just because some don't like it. Those who identify as sissy don't mind the tag. If I'm dressed sissy style, you can call me a sissy.

[DIANEF]

To me the word sissy conjures up images of guys dressed as maids being ordered around by a dominatrix, or have I just been looking at too many websites? I dress fully as a 'normal' woman but a bit of sissy dress up might be fun.....

[trissy]

A wonderful, expressive person?

[Meghan4now]

Nicole,

Well stated, and since Josie asked for personal opinions as to if we felt like a sissy, I think we are responding appropriately. If Josie wants to be a sissy, then that's Josie choice. However, when Josie asked, it was not too clear that she had the same impression of the word as what is commonly understood.

[Louise DK]

If anyone Called me a sissy, regardless of how I am dressed at the time, I would knock them out.:kickbutt:

Louise.

[Lorileah]

Today I'm totally dressed as a women, I feel great and anything better masculine. So what am I today?

:thinking: um... you are Josie? Since you are dressed as a woman, maybe that is the term you seek

[leannejacobs]

I'm just a bloke that likes wearing clothes normally associated with females, fed up of the arguments about which label people should use.

[Desiree2bababe]

My wife uses it in a derogatory manner but it bothers me not.

[CONSUELO]

I dislike the term "Sissy" not because it might be used to describe me but because it is really demeaning to women. Another word with a bad connotation for women is "girly". I remember Gov Schwartzeneger of CA used to refer to "girly men". So, is being like a woman a bad thing? Are women still some sort of lesser beings compared to men? A lot of women I know are much stronger than men and lots of beefy men I have come across over the years turn out to be weak and cowardly characters that are all bluster and no substance.

[MartineCD]

Leanne you are so right. Acceptance doesn't require labeling, pigeonholing or defining.

M x

[trissy]

I'm just a bloke that likes wearing clothes normally associated with females, fed up of the arguments about which label people should use.

Yes, this! Well said, Leanne.

[Tracii G]

I'm not a sissy in either mode and find it offensive.
It looks like you don't understand the term in construct of trangerism or roleplay/fetish world.
If you don't dress in ultra girly (Lolita) fetish outfits then I wouldn't call you a sissy and just a crossdresser.
Then again you may be an ineffectual weak man so maybe you are one in the dictionary sense of the word.

[reinasblack]

You ever heard of a Butch Queen ?
A masculine acting and are looking CD are drag queen instead of a feminine acting are sissy girly transgender.
TV's might be butch queens .

Ballroom and transgender pageant talk/urban talk.
Real talk= the truth=straight up=not beating around the bush=Being frank=not holding nothing back=hitting them with knowledge. See Reina knows how to get Flawless by beating that face! Beating the face is makeup application using stipple motion to look flawless.

If someone a cd looks like a brick,they look ruff and masculine.
If a CD looks fishy ,they look like a GG woman.

They thought i had real breast and cleavage instead of duct taoe and breast forms cause they don't know the T.

If they dont know the T,you are on stealth mode and havr not been figured out are discovered.
The T is short for time,you dont know what time it is ,its not refering to the clock but its about Awareness.
Some guys mary postop transsexual cause they dont know what time it is.they dont know the T about Miriam (there's something about Miriam).
Get it!?



What time is it?

Reina's urban dictionary lol

[ReineD]

Maybe I'm confusing sissy with feminine, but I like thinking of myself as a sissy, maybe it's another way of saying feminine.

Yes, you are confusing the definition, and no, "sissy" does not mean "feminine".

Sis·sy
Noun (informal):
1. a person regarded as effeminate or cowardly. Synonyms: coward, weakling, milksop, namby-pamby, baby, wimp. Informal: softie, chicken, milquetoast; mama's boy, pantywaist, twinkie, crybaby, powder puff.

Adjective:
1. feeble and cowardlyynonyms: effeminate, effete, unmanly.

Note, I've also seen the word "sissy" used a lot in fetish feminization websites. To some men, it is kinky to be demeaned.

Feminine
Noun:
1. the female sex or gender.

Adjective:
1. having qualities or appearance traditionally associated with women, especially delicacy and prettiness. Synonyms: womanly, ladylike.
2. Grammar: of or denoting a gender of nouns and adjectives, conventionally regarded as female.

[Josie]

I can't help feeling like a sissy when fully dressed, but only somewhat when drab. But I always am underdressed, I haven't worn anything but panties in quite awhile. I don't subscribe to the internet definition of Sissy but yet I feel most often like a Sissy. Maybe there should be another word to describe me. In truth I'm just a feminine little bitch.

[Being_Me]

Yes, this is a charged word with different connotations for different folks in different contexts. It tends to make me think of men who want to wear frilly things, can't accept that about themselves, and get another to "force" them to wear such things. It's probably a horribly distorted view of a lifestyle/sexual preference that I admittedly don't understand. There are certainly other definitions!

[trissy]

In truth I'm just a feminine little bitch.

Again, I can strongly identify. Whatever you call it, feminizination feels great, to me...

[nikkiwindsor]

There are a multitude of words, phrases and objects (e.g. Confederate Battle Flag...symbol of Southern Heritage and State's rights to some and a symbol of slavery to oh so many others!) that conjure up both positive and negative feelings for different populations. Since "sissy" is found offensive by so many in the trans-community, why would anyone want to use it despite however they personally feel about the term. Just simply know that the term is profoundly derogatory/abusive/insulting to many of us where this word was an offensive weapon (yes, words hurt...the pen is truly mightier than the sword) used against us while growing up (our impressionable and formative years). Again, really, why would you want to use a word once you realize it hurts others??

[Nadine Spirit]

I don't subscribe to the internet definition of Sissy but yet I feel most often like a Sissy. Maybe there should be another word to describe me. In truth I'm just a feminine little bitch.

I don't subscribe to the definition of what a stapler is, I refer to them as bananas. Who cares if know one else understands what I am talking about. I know what I mean.

Personally, I wouldn't want to be called a sissy, or a feminine little bitch. Either one would be offensive. Referenced as feminine. That's fine.

[Josie]

ReineD
I'll adhere to the second definition of you don't mind.

[Teresa]

Josie,
It's something some of us go through during our Cding lifetime, I had a real thing about the French maid dresses and being a forced to act subservient , some of the sites became too explicit to the point of repulsion , did I ever consider myself sissy , not really, it's more to do with wearing the frills and lace . I still have a couple of outfits which are fun to wear occasionally but having to fight and struggle to be out as a Cder has left subservience behind, dressing expresses a part of me, if you are out it takes some courage as most will testify so I'm far from sissy .

If some like the term and enjoy that lifestyle we shouldn't knock it .

[Josie]

Call me what you like, just make it feminine. Sometimes I'm a real bitch and sometimes I'm a sweet sexy submissive. Go figure!

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The truth is I like being a bitch sometimes and sometimes a submissive women. I love being the one that cooks and cleans. I'm more a housewife than anything and I like it!

[TaniaR]

Dear Josie,
There are many heart felt points already here with which I too agree.
Your last post seems to sum up what often happens to me, I have so many different moods on different days it is not sensible to use labels as tomorrow I feel quite differently a different label would be better...so let's go without the labels please.

Tania
X

[Stephanie47]

I never feel that way. For me, "sissy" is a derogatory term.

Amen to that. Unless you're directing the word to a person who has a fetish for being a "sissy," keep it out of the conversation. I find it offensive. This issue has been on this forum before. I really detest the word appearing on eBay when advertising women's lingerie. Does a plus size woman who regularly buys clothes at Catherine's, Roaman's, et al like being lured in with "sissy?" I think not.

When I was growing up the term "sissy" was always directed toward other boys who were not athletic. "Sissy" is up there with "candy ass" and "pansy" and other derogatory terms to attack a boy's or man's lack of perceived "manliness."

[Josie]

I just pee'd and I sat down to do it! I always sit down to pee. I like it that way.

[CorsetsnPetticoats]

Sissy....Some like it, some do not. Just ask who ever you talk to. I dress in "sissy maid" dresses from time to time and I still kind of cringe when I hear the word sissy. I am pretty masculine and in control in day to day life. I simply adore the look....I mean, look at my screenname! I am pretty confident in general though, so if someone calls me that, I simply tell them I am not a fan of the word and they move on.

No big deal to me either way though. I work out to stay in shape so I can fit in dresses, it keeps me secure as a side effect. A word coming from someone I do not care about does not offend me.

[Katie01]

The term "sissy" isn't bad in and of itself. EXECEPT, it is nearly always used in a context of power. I hate it when someone uses it to establish their power over me. I'm ok with it if I choose to relinquish power. I see it more or less like the term "girl" is for a gg. If that makes any sense.

[Jenniferathome]

I don't subscribe to the definition of what a stapler is, I refer to them as bananas. Who cares if know one else understands what I am talking about. I know what I mean....

Crack up!

[sometimes_miss]

While it's not the nicest word in the world, all I can say is that if I could find a woman who was in the least bit ok with crossdressing or roleplay, if she wanted to refer to me as a sissy, or anything else for that matter, she could call me whatever she wanted to. 'Sticks and stones', and all that jazz. If it's all in fun, it's OK with me.

[Crissy Kay]

There's a sissy lifestyle or roleplay that Ressie may he referring to. I'm not into that. There's sissy style, a certain overly girly look characterized by frilly dresses with lots of ruffles and lace (as I see it, anyway. Others define it differently). I love this style, but still haven't bought that perfect Lolita-style dress I want. And then there are the [often bad] memories of childhood many have experienced.
We shouldn't call crossdressers sissies collectively, because some don't want to be called sissies, believing it to be derogatory or offensive. But the word shouldn't be banned just because some don't like it. Those who identify as sissy don't mind the tag. If I'm dressed sissy style, you can call me a sissy.
I think Nicole is right on the money here. Its what we think of ourselves. Some of us are OK with the word, and some are not.

[ChristinaK]

It's curious to me how some nomenclatures are so controversial. Even in Reine's definitions, there is a wide variety of descriptions.

While in male mode, if one referred to me as sissy, I would be nonplused and offended. However, I have always wanted the satin dress with Peter Pan collar, puffy sleeves, poofy skirt, etc. Even better would be my wife and I BOTH dressed in such outfits. Does that make me sissy? Well, maybe in that role. Fetish? Of course. Sissy? depends on your definition. I was a real ass kicker when I was young. I didn't take s&)t off of anybody.

I knew a girl that was nicknamed "sissy" and she really was; just the kind of dressing I find so erotic. She didn't find it offensive at all.

Are we today too wrapped up in labels? So and so is racist! So and so is homophobic! So and so is anti-Islamic! I threw up a little, but swallowed hard. Sorry. If you're too frikkin' offended by the "sissy" label, maybe you're a sissy at heart because you get easily offended by such an innocuous and unspecific and ambiguous word.

[lingerieLiz]

Today is one of the few days that I'm wearing a dress. While I feel feminine in many ways I've never felt sissy. I was called that a few times as a derogatory statement.

I went shopping with a gg friend. We were caught in the rain and when I came home I put on a cotton maxi dress that I've had for months and never wore.

[Nadine Spirit]

Sis·sy
Noun (informal):
1. a person regarded as effeminate or cowardly. Synonyms: coward, weakling, milksop, namby-pamby, baby, wimp. Informal: softie, chicken, milquetoast; mama's boy, pantywaist, twinkie, crybaby, powder puff.

Adjective:
1. feeble and cowardlyynonyms: effeminate, effete, unmanly.




It's curious to me how some nomenclatures are so controversial. Even in Reine's definitions, there is a wide variety of descriptions.

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If you're too frikkin' offended by the "sissy" label, maybe you're a sissy at heart because you get easily offended by such an innocuous and unspecific and ambiguous word.

Are you reading the same definition I am? So, if I pick any random label I choose to, and I call you it, if you don't like it, all it really means, is that you are exactly that very thing at heart? Wow, very weird logic. Some reasoning leaves me so confused.

[gina shiney]

It's just a word. In this context a self applied label. To some offensive (their thinking) but so are some pet names.
Gina

[CONSUELO]

I don't subscribe to the definition of what a stapler is, I refer to them as bananas. Who cares if know one else understands what I am talking about. I know what I mean.

Personally, I wouldn't want to be called a sissy, or a feminine little bitch. Either one would be offensive. Referenced as feminine. That's fine.

Every time I call my stapler a BANANA it jams.

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This thread reminded me of something deep in my past. I was very young, perhaps around 7 years old and my short trousers that I always wore at that age were slipping down. I remember using my forearms to grip against the waist band and work the pants back up again. My Father saw me doing that and said I was behaving like a girl and should grip the waistband with my fingers and pull the pants up.
I still remember the confusion I felt and wondering what was wrong with doing something in the same way that girls did. I suppose he was referring to the way a girl whose knickers were slipping down beneath her dress would use her forearms to wiggle them back up. So I suppose in my Father's eyes I was being "sissy" and he didn't want to have a "sissy" boy.
I think it was starting at that time I realized that somehow I was just different.

Strange how these memory fragments suddenly surface.

[CDTiffany]

OK Girls. I am a little experienced in the "SISSY" Dressing style. SEE my flicker link below my signature. I from time to time enjoy dressing as a "SISSY"
In the t-girl world it is not a derogatory saying. It's a particular way of dressing up like a little girl going to a party. In a very frilly dress with a petticoat.
For me it is not a submissive thing I just love the VERY VERY Feminine way it make me feel.. TOO much fun wearing mary jane shoes with frilly socks. Pigtails with ribbons. Basically, i am just saying it another form of crossdressing. That should be accepted on this forum.

XOXO Tiffany Amber Rhoads.

[redtea]

i dislike the word sissy, it's degrading to all men who still hold on to their man card to some degree. Especially once you expose yourself to what the internet thinks "sissy" means. Sissy is pretty much "gay femme boy" but most of us aren't gay as our attraction to women is so strong we feminize a part of ourselves to reach our desires.

Being a sissy implies that your man card is completely gone, it's a label that doesn't serve many of us who live on both sides of the spectrum.

[Cheryl T]

I'm not a fan of the term "sissy" either.
There are those that like the term and dress in a way that most would call sissy, the frilly little girl style seems to come to mind. For those that enjoy that fine, for me I don't care for it and don't wish to be referred to as a sissy at any time whether I'm dressed or not.

[Nadine Spirit]

I'm dressed totally like a women and it feels good so why am I not totally sissy?

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Maybe I'm confusing sissy with feminine, but I like thinking of myself as a sissy, maybe it's another way of saying feminine.

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I don't subscribe to the internet definition of Sissy but yet I feel most often like a Sissy. Maybe there should be another word to describe me. In truth I'm just a feminine little bitch.

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Call me what you like, just make it feminine. Sometimes I'm a real bitch and sometimes I'm a sweet sexy submissive.

The truth is I like being a bitch sometimes and sometimes a submissive women. I love being the one that cooks and cleans. I'm more a housewife than anything and I like it!

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I just pee'd and I sat down to do it! I always sit down to pee. I like it that way.



Basically, i am just saying it another form of crossdressing. That should be accepted on this forum.



Tiffany - I think that what you describe is accepted just fine on this forum. But that is clearly not what the OP is describing. She is describing simply dressing up as a woman is what makes her a sissy (or apparently a bitch.) That, I think is what most of us are objecting to - that simply as dressing as a woman makes one a sissy (or a bitch.) Maybe this is part of the concern that some GGs have with some CDs??? A bit demeaning, no??

[HollyGreene]

As a kid, the word sissy was used as a derogatory term, and even though it's use might have changed over the years, I still see it the same way. So I never use the term in relation to CDing.

[Lacy PJs]

It's like so many other words... it depends on the context. As stated previously, some people go for the "sissy" look; others don't. Personally, I don't like the word in most cases and have shied away from products that I might otherwise want because they were marketed towards "sissies." So many of the long sheer peignoirs I'd like to find are advertised this way.

I suppose that there is a line that gets blurred when one goes for an ultra-feminine younger look... that might be a sissy look in some eyes.

Lacy PJs

[Natalie_393]

I've been dressing in a "sissy style" for a few years now which is definitely an over the top feminine look I do enjoy it but I call myself a crossdresser none the less I'm not one for labels but I wouldn't be offended if someone called me a sissy because of what I like to wear I look at "sissy style" a form of over the top or extreme crossdressing that's my take on the word sissy.

[baldy1]

The meaning of the word Sissy;

a person regarded as effeminate or cowardly.
"he would hate the other boys to think he was a sissy"
synonyms: coward, weakling, milksop, Milquetoast, namby-pamby, crybaby, baby;

"I'd hate the other boys to think he was a sissy"

adjective
adjective: sissy; comparative adjective: sissier; superlative adjective: sissiest; adjective: cissy; comparative adjective: cissier; superlative adjective: cissiest

1.
feeble and cowardly.
synonyms: cowardly, weak, feeble, spineless, effeminate, effete, limp-wristed, womanish, unmanly, soft;
"he felt sure his father would think the whole idea was sissy"

So if you are one of these then yes you are a Sissy

Julie

[LilSissyStevie]

When I was growing up the definition of a sissy was simply a male that engaged in some activity or behavior that was perceived as feminine. I'm sure there's no one here like that! Of course, femininity is relative and the girls in my neighborhood were pretty tough. But girls still fought by different rules than boys. If a boy kicked, scratched, pulled hair, bit, or tried to rip an opponents clothes off that would be considered "sissy" fighting although it was perfectly acceptable for girls to fight that way. As for myself, I avoided fighting unless I had an overwhelming advantage - not so much because I was a sissy but because I was smarter than the average lumpen-proletarian.

[ReineD]

For me it is not a submissive thing I just love the VERY VERY Feminine way it make me feel.. TOO much fun wearing mary jane shoes with frilly socks. Pigtails with ribbons. Basically, i am just saying it another form of crossdressing. That should be accepted on this forum.

Hi Tiffany, long time no see! :)

You're right, it is a style that is adopted by some CDers and it should be accepted in this forum, as should any other style ... even the CDers who choose to wear beards.

But "sissy" definitely does not mean "feminine" in the sense that most people in and outside this community think of feminine. For example, I am feminine because I am a woman, even if I wear blue jeans most of the time. :) And I am decidedly not a sissy. lol. And although frilly dresses, ankle socks, mary-janes, golden locks, and short white gloves are feminine, the little girls who wear these things are not considered sissies.

Transsexuals are feminine, and they are not sissies either.

I'm wanting to point out that if a birth male wears feminine clothing for reasons of identity (whether transsexual or non-binary), I doubt very much she or he would consider themselves a sissy.

[sissy meg]

When I first signed up here I thought like many of you it just meant a boy being fem. Now as I see more and more I realize it is probably wrong and demeaning. But I guess I am stuck with my name

[Kate Simmons]

I always say if the shoe fits, wear it. If not, don't. Names don't bother me in the least. Sticks and stones, you know? :battingeyelashes::)

[Barbara Black]

I surely feel 'girly', or 'feminine', but as said above, 'sissy' is a term for being submissive and not really the same thing. You might feel submissive as a 'female' as part of how dressing makes you feel, but it is not the general feeling I get from dressing up.

[Alexa CD]

I don't really see a big deal personally, it's obviously going to vary from person to person but I'd try not to see it as derogatory unless it's purposefully used as an insult. Maybe someone doesn't like the word, that doesn't mean they should think less of someone who does. There are many different types of crossdressers, some will highly dislike the word, others will like it, whatever.

[Krisi]

I never feel that way. For me, "sissy" is a derogatory term.

I agree. I seldom see it written here to describe crossdressers. I'm far too old to be a "sissy".




I was only ever once referred to as feminine and I actually relish that statement, I feel more sissy than masculine. I really like feeling like a sissy! I'm dressed totally like a women and it feels good so why am I not totally sissy?

Because women are not "sissies". Women just are people who have different DNA and genitals than men.




Today I'm totally dressed as a women, I feel great and anything better masculine. So what am I today?

You are a MtF crossdresser.

[CarlaWestin]

To me, Sissy is primarily just another role play character that I enjoy although, when I'm not in male mode,
I always wear my cute jingly necklace with the hanging letters that proudly say S-I-S-S-Y.
It's just a thing with me.

[Dana44]

When I was was young being called a sissy generally started a big fight. It was a term I did not like. But growing up and seeing a new version of sissy, it does not seem that bad just don't call me one. I don't think any here as cross dressers are the real sissy's these are those boys under BDSM and sissified and not even girly. A very derogatory term for a male.

[Tina_gm]

I've been to some sissy websites and I just don't fit in with those groups. Don't classify yourself as a sissy until you know what it's all about now days.

You are correct about this. Being a "sissy" 40 years ago meant you were a boy or young man but was not brave or perhaps not possessing strength or other masculine characteristics or abilities. "sissy" nowadays actually can very well mean a man who is into being seriously berated, usually by a dominatrix and be forced into very humiliating behaviors. Although they do in fact like it. It is a means of being dominated while being dressed.

Sissy as in just a weak person and feminine I believe are not one in the same. I think a woman can be a strong person of character, a leader and yet still possess femininity. I personally cannot say I have ever felt like a "sissy" in the old term, and have no interest in the new alternative lifestyle either. Not really sure how new it is though.... I think it might be getting a bit more popular now.

[CDTiffany]

Hey T-girls, It's 2016. If any one of you have been called a Sissy by some idiot. at a bar. restaurant, club or just walking down the streets.
Just ignore it. They are living in the 1960's. We are very proud to have all experienced our journey. and the times are changing.
Were your heels and and walk down the streets, And enjoy the sound of your heels hitting the ground. WE ROCK!!!!!!!!!!!

XOXO Tiffany Amber Rhoads.

[stephNE]

I try hard to not care about words.
My wife has called me sissy and girly a number of times. I know she means it in a good way, and I don't mind at all.
But when I was young, my parents caught me cross dressed a couple times. They told me to stop and threatened to go to my school and tell everyone what I did, and they said the others would all call me "sissy" and beat me up, and no one would like me. Nice parents huh?

[Lily Catherine]

I don't hate the term, but then again I don't care for the term. I mostly see it rampant in fetish fiction (whose tropes don't do much for me either) and it has strong connotations of humiliation tied down to it - if you apply it to yourself then there really isn't anything against that either. But I wouldn't even if I am dressed in a hyper-girlish (distinguished from merely hyperfeminine) manner.

[CatchQueen]

I sort of like the sissy style...and I have no probs with the term either...In fact I embrace it lol...truth is though I've never been called that.

[Mickitv]

I am not fond of the word "Sissy" it sounds derogatory to me. When I am dressed I am just like any other female just with something extra. I had a girls night out once after a professional makeover. I felt just like the real girls. Feminine and pretty.

[docrobbysherry]

As Nicole said, "sissy" has fetish connotations for a certain group of dressers.

I know a lot about fetishes. But, that's NOT one of mine. I may dress, but I ain't no sissy!:Angry3:

[Mayo]

There's a corner of the fetish community where things like forced feminization, bimbofication, and humiliation all rub shoulders while dressed in frilly skirts and maid outfits. From the OPs posts I don't think she's necessarily into these things (I could be wrong) but rather subscribes to an interpretation of women (and the CDs who wish to emulate them) as effeminate and submissive. Fetish or not, it draws on interpretations of femaleness and femininity that are now considered inappropriate at best and outright misogynistic at worst. IMO, for these reasons alone (and others that some people have touched on as well) it's an offensive term and shouldn't be used unless the person being addressed specifically requests it.

[LelaK]

I like the word, Sissy. We used to call my sister that. Now I call her Sis. It means sister, so what's the problem? I much prefer being a sissy to being manly.

[AnnieMac]

It's not a derogatory term if we "own" it, stick an a on the end of it like "Whaasupp mah sissas?
But then we are the only ones that can say that to each other. :)

[Lorileah]

"owning" words is a cop out. If you can say it, then it should be allowed by anyone. If someone outside your community uses it and you find it derogatory, then you shouldn't use it either. It's just an excuse to hold power over someone else

[Georgette_USA]

When I was young being called a sissy was not nice to be called. I had been called that or girly at times, even had a gym coach call me Suzie once, I guess to shame me, I didn't think I was projecting that. I don't think I ever really thought about that at the time. The whole idea of Gender Dysphoria was not yet out there.
Once got pushed into a fight, and he said "even fights like a girl". Sometimes our childhood is something we have to survive.

[Christina Page]

I think that if one self-identifies as a "sissy", whether in terms of a fashion style or fetish lifestyle, then it's ok to call oneself a sissy.

But it's not ok to call another crossdresser a sissy as it's offensive to so many.

[EffyJaspers]

My two cents go along with what Lilyy137 + Mayo said - google sissy and the images and fanfic/bimbofication/etc stuff is what now comes to my mind. Some of them use the term sissyboy to get the message across but the simple term of sissy was also engulfed with that. I'd rather stay away from it for that reason. If you tell people you are a crossdresser or a sissy googling it comes across significantly differently.

[LilSissyStevie]

I like most of what this guy has to say about it. But, as opposed to him, both my effeminacy and homosexuality are rooted more in anxiety than reality. Also I think I'm a little further along in accepting and celebrating my inner fairy.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/getting-out-of-my-own-way-accepting-and-loving-all_us_57bf31b6e4b00c54015cc4a8

[JaniceP]

I like to think of it as being GIRLY, cute and Totally FEM.!

But Sissy is nice too.:love:

[julia marie]

I know what I thought "sissy' meant a few decades ago. Not any longer, and it doesn't really matter any more. If sissy meant that someone was a homosexual or wanted to be a gurl, then does that mean a guy who was "macho" couldn't be a homosexual or crossdresser? I think we all know the answer, and many of us have reached the point of not feeling the need to define or care about any of those terms.

[Crissy Kay]

I like to think of it as being GIRLY, cute and Totally FEM.!

But Sissy is nice too.:love:

I agree with that!! Anyway here I am at 1AM in my petticoats and a bra, [underdressed for me], looking at myself in a mirror, and thinking, what a sissy I am at times!! To me, sissy is just another word for fun.

[Alice_2014_B]

Cannot say I feel like a sissy when I'm dressed up; I feel great, I know that for sure.
I do feel limited when in high heels, but I love that feeling.
:)

[Lana Mae]

As Meghan4now said as well as others , it is a very derogatory word!! Picture frilly, overly feminine, add Meghan4now's comments!! Yuk even genetic females loathe that word!!! You are looking for a word that means feminine without those negative connotations! Even the term ultrafeminine does not have those connotations!! Hugs Lana Mae

[GBJoker]

I can't say that I've ever felt like a sissy. Not even sure what it would feel like. But, I'm not bothered in the slightest if called a sissy.

[krissy]

I dont feel like a sissy when i look in a mirror i see me i see my whole self

[Terrafora]

Even though I like a woman taking control and dominating me I can't say I feel like a sissy, especially when I'm dressed up. I just feel pretty and like i know what i want.

[RobynT]

While I wouldn't classify myself as a"Sissy" I believe it to be just one more of the offshoots of what is this wonderful world we occupy. The whole Sub part of it, is just not me, but I can still enjoy and respect the frilliness of it all. At the end of the day its a word..... How it is used, is what is important. Intentionally spat out to hurt is one thing..... As a general description of a facet of our world, entirely different. So go on Gurls, grab your pink, and let your frills fly...:)

[NicoleScott]

The next re-supply mission to the ISS will include a requested DVD of "Coal Miner's Daughter" to be delivered by a spacecraft named the Sissy SpaceX. Sorry.

[Micki_Finn]

Merriam-Webster says: : a boy who is weak or who likes things that girls usually like
: a person who is weak and fearful

Ok the first definition seems to apply to us, but the second? I think it's important to realize that that isn't a whole different definition, but rather coloration of the first. That is, traditionally when a person was referred to as a sissy, they were said to be embodying the most NEGATIVE [percieved] traits of femininity. I.e. Weakness, fearfulness, powerlessness. If you don't mind those descriptors applying to you then that's your deal. I for one don't feel that way about myself so I would never call myself that, nor would I refer to anyone else as such.

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The next re-supply mission to the ISS will include a requested DVD of "Coal Miner's Daughter" to be delivered by a spacecraft named the Sissy SpaceX. Sorry.

The quip was hilarious. That I'm old enough to get it... Not as funny.

[melissalynn]

baldy1 used the dictionary definition of sissy. Social media, particularly tumblr, has seemed to fix on a meaning. And so it goes.

Crossdressers may be many things but I don't think you can be weak or a coward to do what we do. So that part of the doesn't IMO seem to apply.

[susancheerleader]

The only weakness or cowardly thing about being a cross dresser. Is being afraid to do it outside the safety of your house.
I'm there. But am very slowly working on it.

[atxpantyboy]

I love the term and use it myself to describe my dressing and gender identity to others. I don't fully dress or try to present as a woman, but simply enjoy being a male with some subtle but noticeable feminine traits or features - painted toes, waxed/shaved body, feminine bikini bottoms and shorts, perfume, etc. That's generally my everyday routine. I just love to incorporate several feminine cues into my otherwise masculine appearance. The term 'sissy' has definitely turned into a pejorative, but I think it perfectly describes my gender/sexuality - feminine, submissive, bi/gay. I know many of you are not submissive or bi/gay, so I can certainly understand why you'd find it less appealing, though. But it's perfect for me. ;)