Yoyo Effect

[Krystal Lee]

Gurls,

Do you have days when it just would not matter what happened while you were dressed?

I mean sometimes I will go out in my town and not worry if I run into someone I know and other days it's like hide behind the racks at the stores so no one will see me.

I tend to press things pretty hard all the time and honestly have never had a problem but somedays even being out and about at all is a challenge. I don't mean in drag but girlyised (is that a word?).

Went into one of my favorite stores yesterday (Fashion Bug) and could not relax enough to shop. Wasen't a crowd or even people I did not want to see me in the store. I just was not comfortable so left without shopping.

This is one of my favorite shopping spots and they let me use the fitting rooms on a regular basis so I don't understand my own feelings here!

Am I going through something weird or has this happened to any of you also?

Hugs Krystal.

[Jennaie]

I have had the same experience on several occasions. I just walk into a place and don't feel comfortable and decide to leave. Other times I could care less who knows what I am doing or buying or trying on.

Often when I go to a large dept store I will pick out what I want to try on in the womens dept and then carry it up to the mens dept and walk into the dressing room to try it on. I have never been questioned or approached by any store personnel while doing this but if I ever was, I have already prepared my response: "Would you prefer that I try these things on in the ladies dressing room downstairs or did you not want me to spend my money in this store"?

Sometimes I just get an uncomfortable feeling and leave. Such is the life of a transgendered.

[Stephanie]

I can relate to this issue VERY WELL. Although my outings while "en femme" have thus far been limited, I have found that it is very easy when I am in the privacy of my own home to feel like I could care less about what people might think about me crossdressing but when I actually go out "en femme" I always start feeling super-conscious about my appearance and start worrying about people recognizing me as a man dressed in womens clothing(although I suppose it's inevitable that at least SOMEBODY is going to "clock" me no matter what). I do occasionally wear womens jeans and colorful womens turtlenecks(nothing TOO flamboyant but definitely more colorful than mens clothing) to work and I always feel extremely self-conscious about THAT clothing even though the one and only comment that I have received so far about it was actually complimentary. I have issues with confidence and self-esteem in general and wish that I could learn how to NOT worry so much about how other people think about me.

[Nikki Dee]

Sounds like typical TG confidence crisis to me...nothing abnormal there methinks...I guess we all suffer from that at some time....so I just ensure I enjoy the really confident times.!!!!
Nikki. x