The FINAL purge? No, probably not.

[Jill_cd]

Well I turned (gulp) 50 this year and I've been feeling that I will eventually purge everything. Maybe a bit of a mid-life crisis. My children don't know and I don't think that the ex has said anything. I don't want the following conversation to take place:
Friend of my son: "I heard that your dad broke his ankle. I know he runs, did he do it while logging some miles?"
Son: "No, turns out he's a crossdresser and he lost his balance while wearing a tight skirt and high heels."

So I cut back on the runs (the weather in Northern VA/Washington DC has been horrid the last several weeks anyway) and have been lifting weights. I did NOT purge anything, just put everything in the back of the closet, out of sight, out of mind.
Anyway, earlier this week, I went to Dunkin' Donuts with a colleague for coffee and saw a young woman in line. She was wearing a skirt and heels.
I must have let my gaze linger a bit too long on those heels, because I thought, "I'd like to dress up this Saturday."
So I went for a run this morning and then showered, shaved, did my makeup and got dressed. So here I sit in a pencil skirt, blouse, heels, wig and makeup. Every now and then my wig hair sticks to my lipstick and I can smell my perfume. It feels awesome!

I'm thinking that with the long weekend (Labor Day here in the States) I might just stay en femme for the whole weekend, which I've never done before. With that in mind, I'll probably start thinking about going out somewhere. I'll very likely bump into a neighbor, give them a big smile and they might not ever talk to me again, but I feel soooo good right now. The pink fog has me in it's grasp.

Anyway, the moral of the story is that this 'condition' we share will never leave us and the desire to dress can pop up into our consciousness without any warning whatsoever.

[Dana44]

Jill, you said it all. Yep it will never leave us if the pink fog is there. But I must say that it is so nice to get in touch with our feminine side. Most men never even consider it and we have gone where they never have gone.

[Heidi Stevens]

You have also proven a point we all stress here, Jill: never purge your stuff! I wish I had heeded that rule 3 times over the past 40 years. You did the right thing and just put it away for a while. Have fun!

[Teresa]

Jill,
I can't believe you consider purging at fifty I'm only just getting decent outfits together ! With the long lingering stare at those heels I doubt it's going to happen any time soon .

Telling my son wasn't so bad , all my family and their married partners know now and I have their acceptance and support. My son does now make the odd sarcastic comment about making sure I've removed all my nail polish but I can give as good as I get as long as it remains in fun that's OK by me.
Yes I now accept CDing is for life so you have to come to terms with eventually which to me means no hiding in the closet and feeling guilty about being caught out.

[ellbee]

Amazing what random things can set us off sometimes, eh? If that GG only knew, LOL!


I've stayed en femme 24/7 for a pretty long time in the past. At least a week, anyway, if not more, during a stay-at-home vacation. Then again, I can be a bit of a hermit sometimes, ha! Definitely a fun experience. Go for it, if ya can! :)



Purging is pointless & silly. Simply wash everything, pack it nicely, and store out of sight.

My last purge several years ago was only some basics (skirt, top, panties, tights, heels, eyeliner & lip) that didn't really break the bank. Not really a huge deal, really. But the BIG one before that? I cry. So many nice things either tossed or donated. I try not to beat myself up over that one, but it's difficult not to sometimes. :(

[DIANEF]

NEVER purge, you'll always regret it, I'm a similar age to you and never have. And its great having a decent amount of time to explore your femme side . I once had a full week to myself. I'd kill for it again (not literally...) Whatever time you get. go for it and enjoy!!

[Lana Mae]

I am relatively new to this and if I have learned one thing from the others it is DO NOT PURGE!!! I have only been doing this for a year and it will sneak up on you and totally engulf you! AND it does not go away permanently!! I am the big 65 so do not feel bad some here are even older!! Buck up it is not that bad!!! LOL Hugs Lana Mae

[Paula_56]

In 2009 I was emerging from the darkness of yet another cross-dressing purge. But as any transgender person knows purging doesn’t work. My need for feminine expression had returned with a vengeance. I had tried to solve the problem by myself for 50 years. I tried reading all the books and websites, wrote countless emails to peers and posted on all the forums. Finding an objective and informed person you can discuss, share and solve your issues with was a key ingredient in my journey. In my case this was a therapist. I’ve grown a lot over the last 4 years. I no longer see my cross-dressing as a problem to be solved. I am not doing anything wrong. I’ve cast off society’s condemnation of being transgender and realized that I am a good person, and that part of my personality and character involves being transgender. Attributes I see missing in many men, such as nurturing, kindness, compassion, and cooperation are parts of my personality that I believe come from my feminine side.
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[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Jill:hugs:, As I have said before, "Crossdressing is like the Mafia, You just can't quit."

Now here are the Rules for Purging,

Rule No. 1. Never ever Purge. !

Rule No. 2. If you absolutely really must Purge please read rule #1 again.

These are rules that will serve all Crossdressers very well...:daydreaming:...