Busted.

[Tracii G]

Ok there has been a rash of busted threads so this is for the "I want to get caught but not really caught" ladies what is it about getting caught that makes you get all excited?
The whole notion of trying to get caught seems pretty odd so I would like to know.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Tracii:hugs:, I have often thought that after reading some of the caught threads
I really think that deep down that they secretly do want to get caught...:daydreaming:...

[Lana Mae]

I do not know but I do not want to be caught!! Uh, doing what exactly?? Crossdressing, no i just want to blend in!! Can not blend in and be caught at the same time!! Guess I am not much help!! Hugs Lana Mae

[ellbee]

It's an "easier" way of admitting it to someone? :strugglin

[docrobbysherry]

Tracii, some people don't or can't plan anything their entire lives. They let life kick them around and go whichever direction the wind blows.

I don't understand how folks can live that way. But, they DO and maybe that explains those that r hoping to be exposed?:straightface:

[Allisa]

Maybe they like poking the bear?

[ellbee]

Another possibility?


They're trying to recapture that initial intense "rush" -- so they intentionally add a whole new element into the mix.


Could they be caught? Oh, yes!

Will they? Who knows, let's find out! Weeeeee!!


The brain's pleasure-center is certainly an odd duck...

[Alice_2014_B]

That is how I kind of wanted to tell the wife, by intentionally getting caught; however, I just told her.
:)

[Rachael Leigh]

I think for many it goes back to childhood if they have desired to or dressed that long that being caught they would hope their mom or dad would say it's ok or even encourage them to keep dressing.

[lingerieLiz]

I think their is a desire on many to expand their world outside of living in a closed environment. At some point most of us want to go out and have the freedom to do things. I was lucky in that while young I could pass and be accepted as a girl. It was fun to get dressed up and go out. Young girls my age enjoyed the same thrill. The times that I've been busted I was inside what I thought was a safe haven.

[sometimes_miss]

The desire to 'get caught' is most likely simply a yearning for the target person to find out that you are a crossdresser, and magically accept you love/like you anyway, or, upon finding out that you're a crossdresser, that they might 'punish' you by forcing you to continue to dress and act like a female. Problem is, real life usually doesn't work out that way. Much like if you tried to cut your penis off, and went to the hospital, rather than figuring out that you must really want to be a girl, they will do everything possible to sew it back on. People want other people to be 'normal'. That's just the way it is. And, we're pretty much not considered 'normal' by more than a couple percent of the general population.

[Stephanie47]

Maybe they want to be "found out" by their wives so their wives will initiate divorce proceedings! Free at Last!

[redtea]

It's the ultimate embarrassment for lots of people. embarrassment is a feeling, some people like to exploit it and find the pleasure in it.


As for "trying to get caught", I haven't done anything like that yet. Too scared. I'm guessing people try to get caught when simply being a little ambiguous in public does nothing for them. People who enjoy getting caught probably don't care what people think in the slightest, but still get the same feelings of embarrassment they can relish.

[Tracii G]

Maybe some have a fetish about it so that drives them to do things to get caught.
The divorce angle I never gave that much thought but I could see that working if you wanted out of a relationship.Kind of a severe way to do it IMO.
Thanks for the interesting replies.

[Jenniferathome]

... Young girls my age enjoyed the same thrill. ....

Really? Girls enjoyed the thrill of being dressed as girls? I don't think so.


It's the ultimate embarrassment for lots of people. embarrassment is a feeling, some people like to exploit it and find the pleasure in it. ....

That's called masochism.

[baldy1]

I have been out this morning with the dogs and wearing my denim skirt, i did not want to get caught i just wanted to enjoy the freedom of being able to wear my skirt, on the other hand i would like Trish our friend to catch me with me believing she would be ok with it?

Do i wish to be caught! no

By Trish yes

Julie

[Lorileah]

Actually Jennifer it is closer to exhibitionism. Masochism is pain oriented. ;)

And I agree it seems to be a beta endorphin rush often with the typical crash afterward

[reinasblack]

I don't wanna get caught ,no way.
Its fine in Hollywood and Burbank but other areas being detected is not a pleasant experience.

[josrphine]

Hi Tracil, My wife and I went to Bonefish restrant, They have the high tables in the bar area were you can eat. It is better then a booth, as you can mingle with other people. A women came to our table and asked if the seat next to me was open, before I could say anything my wife said please sit. As the talk started the women ask me a question and I answered her, she stoped and look at me an said are you a man. I said yes and she then said to me an my wife he looks great. The people on the the other side of my wife chimed in, needless to say we had a great time. Was I caught or just outed my self for what ever reason, I'd say no it just was me. I presented my self very well and the whole night went like normal. We live in Venice Fl. Jo

[Krisi]

I suppose letting your wife, parents, neighbors, etc. "catch" you crossdressing seems easier than sitting them down and talking to them about it, but in the long run it's not the best way.

Some people, especially younger people without a lot of experience in the world seem to get a thrill from taking risks and for many of us, prancing around in a tutu and heels when or where people might see us is such a risk. Hopefully, as we get older, we get over this.

[Elizabeth G]

Again, I believe getting caught is the perceived "easy" way out of telling someone the truth. I have not come out to my wife yet, but when I do I certainly hope it isn't this way.

[donnalee]

Getting caught absolves you of the responsibility for hurting your SO (at least in your own mind), because you didn't initiate the outing.

[DIANEF]

I would hate to be caught, though I have had a few close shaves. You would need to choose the right moment, but telling your SO is definately preferable to her finding out.