Sex whilst dressed

[GaleWarning]

My 2,00th post ... and to celebrate I thought I would talk about an age-old problem, how to enjoy sex whilst dressed. So many threads and posts speak of the difficulty SOs in particular have with the notion.

My SO has been rather ill lately and recently underwent a successful operation. A couple of nights ago she told me that she craved my bod (or words to that effect) and I told her how much I had missed hers too (a bit more graphically, as you can imagine). We decided what we would do about it and went to sleep (at our age, anticipation is an important part of the foreplay).

The next morning I got dressed up and we did all the things we wanted to, in order to satisfy one another. After 45 minutes, there were two very happy bunnies in our house!

My point is this: in a loving relationship, each partner ought to be prepared to do those things which will heighten each other's sexual desire. It does not matter how each person is dressed or undressed. What does matter, is that at the end of the day (or night) the couple feels fulfilled and deeply in love with one another.

[franlee]

Gale congratulations on 2k post and your great success in marital bliss. Your post is one of the most positive and easily understood in a long time when dealing with intimacy. I sure hope the two of you continue to enjoy good health and gratification as well.

[Alice Torn]

Gale, At 62, still single and a virgin, at least physically, i am envious! Congrats to you on the success in this with your wife! I would guess it is not too common with most, as no woman i met would consider me, partly because i am poor, and partly because I CD. I wonder what being married would be like with a woman who accepts this, but i am learning to accept that i cannot be married in this life. We live in different worlds. Singles and marrieds. You have a rare, wonderful mate!

[Krisi]

Sex (with your wife) while dressed can be fun but at some point the clothes have to come off and then it's "normal" sex. My wife is rarely into it. Usually it's "Take off your boobs!"

[Robin777]

I used to have sex while dressed,but that was a long time ago when we were both a lot younger and into more kinky things, Now it's just foreplay while dressed and most everything has to come off. Like Krisi said "Take off your boobs!"

[Scarlett398]

I would love to be able to make love to my wife while dressed as a girl. That would be my ultimate fantasy but she is very conservative and would freak out if she knew I crossed dressed on a very regular basis.

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Wow, Gale, you are so lucky to be able to make love to your wife while dressed up. One of my ultimate fantasies that won't ever happen because of how conservative my wife is.
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Gale, congrats on your 2,000th post. I just had my third. I've never let anyone know about my cross dressing and I'm so glad we have a forum like this to discuss these matters with other cross dressers who understand why we have a need to do this. I bet there are a lot more of us out there like me who will never be able to come out of the closet with their cross dressing.

[Lilly 40C]

For me, foreplay while dressed is exciting but when the sex starts I want both me and my partner to be naked.

[wendy]

congrats on your 2000th post, and a very good and positive post.

[Jenniferathome]

...My point is this: in a loving relationship, each partner ought to be prepared to do those things which will heighten each other's sexual desire....

This smacks of an "obligation" and not a choice. Some women WILL engage in some activity that they do not actually enjoy but do it because their husband or BF enjoys it. The key here is that "doing it" whatever that is, is not the same as "enjoying it." No partner should feel obligated to entertain any and all fantasies. A wife is not less than for refusing such a request.

[docrobbysherry]

Unfortunately, after awhile with many marrieds the thot of all the work involved in satisfying the other person is more of a turn off than a turn on.:sad:

U r very lucky that u both still care enuff about each other that u can still enjoy sex, Gale. :thumbsup:

[TrishaTX]

I love being dressed during sex and I get it often enough to be happy about that situation.I do not have to be naked lol!

[MissVirginia-Mae]

My Ex used to enjoy having me dressed while we did the deed.....
I think she enjoyed seeing me in my nightgowns and lingerie
Sounds like you both have a healthly happy, relationship!
:hugs:

[Leslie Langford]

Maybe not as much as your thought at the time, Miss V-M. You did say she was your Ex... :sad:

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Lesie:hugs:, I picked up on the EX thing too...:daydreaming:...

[GaleWarning]

This smacks of an "obligation" and not a choice. Some women WILL engage in some activity that they do not actually enjoy but do it because their husband or BF enjoys it. The key here is that "doing it" whatever that is, is not the same as "enjoying it." No partner should feel obligated to entertain any and all fantasies. A wife is not less than for refusing such a request.

Jennifer, did you notice that we both ended up happy? The things we did were negotiated beforehand. No obligations were demanded, no-one was harmed during the session. The key, as mentioned time and again on this forum, is communication.

[Alice_2014_B]

I've had sex just wearing high heels a number of times; and that's as far as I personally care to go.
:)

[kimberly c]

Sex while dressed in lingerie, yes, yes, yes. the boobs also stay on!!!

[VioletDoll]

I have sex dressed as well.. maybe fully dressed, maybe just stockings or panties.. maybe violet toenails.. (ok, always those)

[valerie anne]

Smudged makeup and laddered hose, no thanks!

[Tracii G]

I thought you had to be naked to have sex.

[Kendra Sue]

LOL. That is true

[VioletDoll]

I thought you had to be naked to have sex.

Wha? I never saw that memo.. I just find it hard when you're wearing pants

[Army Aimee]

While my SO has no idea about Aimee, I have had sex a couple times while dressed. I find it to be incredibly empowering to see the effect I can have on a partner while I'm dressed.

[Krisi]

This smacks of an "obligation" and not a choice. Some women WILL engage in some activity that they do not actually enjoy but do it because their husband or BF enjoys it. The key here is that "doing it" whatever that is, is not the same as "enjoying it." No partner should feel obligated to entertain any and all fantasies. A wife is not less than for refusing such a request.

Sometimes the enjoyment comes not from the act itself but from pleasing the partner (it goes both ways, BTW).

[Angie G]

Awesome Gale you go girl.:hugs:
Angie

[Yinlingyen]

This is a very interesting topic.
When I am dressed I only aspire to being penetrated.
I only want to be the passive person, perhaps to the degree of submissive.
What does this make me? Gay ? or Simply wanting to be female?

[Krisi]

You can't be female so you must be gay.

Seriously, many of us might wonder what it is like to have sex as a female but all we can do is wonder because we don't have the correct parts. There are other ways to do it but they would be considered "gay" sex.

What's important to remember is, strapping on a wig and a pair of boobs doesn't change who you are and it doesn't change your sexual orientation. If you are a male but dress up as a female and have sex with other males, that doesn't make you any less gay. Not that there's anything wrong with being gay, just don't try to fool yourself into thinking you are not because you are wearing a set of silicone boobs.

[Majella St Gerard]

Wearing women's clothes and being penetrated during sex either by a man or a woman does not mean you are gay, sex is sex, fun is fun. I've had oral sex with men, it's fun but I am not gay, I love women, I could never fall in love with a man, wouldn't even go on a date with one. Being gay is in your head it's who you are. IMHO. That be said I have had sex with the wife many many times while dressed, it was a turn on for both of us, she liked me in certain outfits. I would be submissive and domanite during play time. Submissive during foreplay but domanite during the act. I wouldn't dress every time but most.

[Army Aimee]

This is a very interesting topic.
When I am dressed I only aspire to being penetrated.
I only want to be the passive person, perhaps to the degree of submissive.
What does this make me? Gay ? or Simply wanting to be female?

Really the same way here. If I'm dressing, I want to be treated like the woman. And I realize that this makes me bisexual, but I'm okay with that.

[Yinlingyen]

How would all compare the orgasm you get while having sex dressed and undressed?
The last time I had been penetrated en femme and dressed (in lingerie and high heel sandals) I had a most intense orgasm that
I cannot really describe. It was I guess a sensation over load. I could not believe that I actually screamed and I had to lie still for a few minutes to catch my breath.

[VioletDoll]

^^^
"I'll have what she's having!"

-yeah, I've had a few of those.. different, eh?

[Army Aimee]

How would all compare the orgasm you get while having sex dressed and undressed?
The last time I had been penetrated en femme and dressed (in lingerie and high heel sandals) I had a most intense orgasm that
I cannot really describe. It was I guess a sensation over load. I could not believe that I actually screamed and I had to lie still for a few minutes to catch my breath.

I have times I have reached orgasm while being penetrated was while dressed. Sensation overload is a great way to describe it. I probably shook for a half hour afterwards while trying to collect myself.

[kimberly c]

I always dress for sex and being penetrated is very intense, love every minute of it. When dressed as a women I dont see it as being gay sex,

[Sarah S]

My wife love's having sex with me dressed as Sarah

[Jessica86]

My point is this: in a loving relationship, each partner ought to be prepared to do those things which will heighten each other's sexual desire.

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Hoo boy.....I know some GGs on here that are going to be :tantrum:


Anyway, completely agree with this. That is why I am back. You hit the nail on the head to me. I do a lot of things that I found many guys don't! Oral? Who knew so FEW guys liked to do that to a woman? I do but don't. Neither here nor there. Point is she likes it, so I do it. A lot of times it doesn't seem to work the other way around.....

[kimberly c]

I love to be dressed during sex I feel like a woman and when my SO penetrates me it leads to a very intense orgasm.

[Kathie Pantyhose]

I've been with men and woman while dressed fem and both experiences were amazing but sadly that was 20 years ago. Happily married now for 18 years despite the wife won't let me dress when she is home. I have tried to have sex while at least wearing pantyhose with her her but was a no. I would do it again in a heartbeat if the chance ever came but it would definitely have to be the right person and the right time. For now, I'm left to my own devices and internet porn, lol

[Lorileah]

Yeah...um...you know people we really don't need to know what sexual things you like.

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