24 hours since i Crossdressed.

[redtea]

That was painful metaphorically speaking and accomplished nothing other than a tiny bit of self control.

I call these moments "detox" because my mind gets heavily into it and starts to think of absurd fantasies that don't check out with reality.

Managed to cry the good cry though, I needed that release of sadness.


I can confirm once again that I really am addicted to crossdressing, That if I don't have at least panties on I start feeling lows.

[Alice Torn]

I know it can completely take over one's life.

[Joni T]

I haven't dressed in a year. Do I miss it? Sometimes, but the thought of the time involved to transition soon makes me not miss it as much. There's a lot I can get done in that 3 hours that are a lot more productive.
Jon

[Tracii G]

Be glad you aren't addicted to heroin or cocaine.
Addicted to crossdressing is a walk in the park respectively so deal with it and do what you have to do to satisfy your CDing urges.

[redtea]

I haven't dressed in a year. Do I miss it? Sometimes, but the thought of the time involved to transition soon makes me not miss it as much. There's a lot I can get done in that 3 hours that are a lot more productive.
Jon

Why are you on the forums then!?!?!?! That's the perfect way to ease CDing back into your life. Not that I think it's bad. But yeah shaving. makeup, dressing up, looking in the mirror and walking around with your girly highs is a bit of a waste of time, especially for aspiring artist.

But I know any attempt to quit cold turkey will result in feeling like a hollow shell for a very long time until i relapse back into it. I just need to manage my time better so that both hobbies win. Not sure how but i will try.

[CarlaWestin]

It's natural for the CD thing to ebb and flow. I've been sleeping pretty every night and dressing up for photoshoots practically every morning for years now. But occasionally, I just give it a break for a while. As a matter of fact, other than wearing panties exclusively, I haven't dressed for five days. But, I can feel the build up for the weekend. All those fabulous outfits dancing in my head. There's nothing wrong with giving it a rest every now and then unless it's because of some pity party guilt trip nonsense. Hopefully that's not where the tears came from.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Redtea:hugs:, So what is the problem, it is so relaxing for me...:daydreaming:...

[Tina_gm]

I hope one day you don't think of it as an addiction. So your comfortable, perhaps more comfortable presenting as a woman. Or just wearing items of clothing. It's not an addiction in itself. You are not physically harming yourself in any way. You are however putting yourself through mental anguish by not fully accepting yourself and creating this idea of addiction.

I'm not suggesting you unravel your entire life, but just accept that your core has a feminine element to it. Cross dressing isn't a failure. You are not a failure, you are just feminine. That last line is something I have often said to myself btw. It has helped me tremendously.

[Brandy Mathews]

Very well said Gender.
Bree :)

[JenniferMBlack]

I haven't crossdressed since Sunday. Just have not had the desire really. I know I will this weekend for pride and next weekend ( in a costume) for a Halloween party. I find if iplan things to do or places to go I have less need or desire between them.

[Tracii G]

redtea you sound like one of those types that likes to complain a lot over nothing.
You weren't an Emo type in high school were you?

[Lana Mae]

Gendermutt said it well. It is not really an addiction it is part of you. You need to accept yourself and grow from there. IMHO Hugs Lana Mae

[Kate Simmons]

My thoughts are being that it is a part of us, the best thing to do is go with the flow and make it work for us. :battingeyelashes::)

[Krisi]

If anyone believes they are "addicted to crossdressing", they have a serious problem and should seek help. Addiction is not good no matter what it involves. You need the self control to do what you need to do or not do what you shouldn't be doing.

[shawnsheila]

I haven't dressed in about 6 months :( though I have under-dressed a few times. It is a lot of time/effort to get outfits picked with makeup and hair (2 - 4 hours for me when I get dressed) but most of the time I feel its worth it when I look in the mirror and see that gal :)

I do want to dress more but some of it has been my work schedule and some of it with an issue with my wife (scheduling family events on the cross dressing support group days) though she has been more supportive lately.

So I do feel your pain sister, many of the gals here already said it, love and accept yourself, under dress when you reasonably can, and get that needed girl time with your self :) not sure if you have but look for a local support group, it really helps.

[Stephanie47]

Maybe redtea needs to modify her usage of words. "Addiction?" "Compulsive disorder?" Sometimes a person finds a need to constantly be en femme because her last session was not sufficiently fulfilling. I've seen a lot of angst on this forum of ladies grabbing what I call "crumbs of time." To me that's when there are constant interruptions and the best laid plans are not fulfilled. When I read a lady write that she locked herself in the bedroom to have ten or fifteen minutes wearing only a skirt, I think "compulsive disorder" or maybe it may be an "addiction" or maybe it's her inner self did not have adequate time to offer her 'total self' the mood to counter act stress and angst.

I've found as a retire when I knew I was going to be able to be en femme my stress level or angst diminished. I think most can weather insufficient time to express ourselves, if there is a good reason. I have not dressed since April because my wife was off from work due to a back operation. Just as she was able to return to work she was diagnosed with aggressive invasive breast cancer. She will not be going back to work until next spring. How do I cope? One, by coming to this site Two, by wearing a pair of panties to sleep. Three, I am still buying femme clothing on the Internet.

For some ladies an "addiction" may be just the woman within trying to break out.

[Periwinkle]

I don't think it's an addiction, really. I see it as a means of self-expression, and like every means of self-expression when it gets stifled, you'll feel a negative impact on your emotional state.

[Brandy Mathews]

Yes,
I agree. Like today, got up, took my bubble bath and shaved my legs. Did my makeup and just slipped into some shorts and a halter top with my 38 C forms on and heels. Just doing house work but it feels so nice doing it like this. That is one thing that society can't take away from us, the feeling that we have when we are dressed. Taking a break from cleaning and doing my nails. So nice having girl time. :)

[Rachael Leigh]

I'm not sure I'm addicted to dressing but makeup wig or not I'm usually dressed before work everyday except weekends with wife around. I do wear panties 24/7 but to me there just my normal underwear.
I think for me I'm trying to understand where I am under the trans umbrella which does require some looking inward.
So we all have our reasons

[phili]

I'm in your corner, redtea. I think a lot of us experience this as an addiction- i.e. we get a little, want more, want even more, it consumes our attention , etc. That said, I think unlike alcohol, it may very well be that I am satisfying a very long overdue uniting with myself emotionally. Crossdressing alone causes the addiction feeling- which I now think is because the underlying need is not being fulfilled. When I am dressed in an outfit I am proud of I feel with others I just feel - "Well! - finally life is the way it should be" , and I don't feel compelled anymore.

Are you connecting with others? Put up some pictures here if not, so you can feel the acceptance and make progress. Or if you are in the closet, which is totally understandable by the way, then make some friends here and PM your pics, chat- etc. Getting out is the best medicine, however, People really do accept us.

[redtea]

redtea you sound like one of those types that likes to complain a lot over nothing.
You weren't an Emo type in high school were you?

No I was never Emo. I kind of regret this thread, The point I was trying to make with it was that I'm into CDing so much that I feel withdrawl and extreme urges from just 1 day of wearing nothing.


@phili I haven't gone into makeup/wig yet to complete the look... I'm having a hard time accepting myself in this way, I feel like I irresponsibly brought this upon myself, That it wasn't just something that interested me as a little kid like many here.

[Tracii G]

You seem to have a lot of guilt which is something you need to work on.
I'm into a lot of things but I never let one take up all of my energy.
Maybe you have a bit of an obsession towards CDing. People do get that but after a while that feeling will diminish.
If you have never used a wig or make up then you have a thing for the clothes and how they feel when you wear them, totally understandable.
If you are the type that gets into a hobby and goes all in and has to buy everything associated with that hobby then you have an obsession.
I had a friend that bought a fishing boat so he bought a new truck to pull it and 15- 20 different kinds of fishing poles and reels.
Did nothing but talk about his boat and fishing for the next 6 months.