Anne K
11-01-2016, 10:22 PM
I have planning my first night out on Halloween. My plan was to dress, etc and go to dinner at an upscale, outdoor mall in Miami. My wife was very supportive and encouraging. Monday afternoon, I began to get the jitters and decided to cancel. My issue was not centered around dressing/passing. My issue was about shoes! I have a mobility problem, and was afraid I would have to move -very awkwardly- through a restaurant in shoes that I was unsure about. My wife talked me back to Earth and reminded me that Halloween in Miami is a perfect night for my first outing. So, I dressed and tried my shoes on. I moved around and began to feel comfortable. After a bit of thought, I decided to go for it. My wife and I had a lot of fun doing makeup and I must admit that I looked very nice. After that, i was not nervous at all. We had a giggle when the waiter approached our table and in his heavy, Cuban accent asked,"Well, Ladies, what would you like to drink." For the most part, NOBODY paid any attention to us!
I thought it would be helpful if I mentioned some of the preparations I made to insure a safe and fun outing.
1) I wore age and occasion clothing. I did not want to stand out at all.
2) I had painted toe nails and fingernails. Yes, we can wear open toe shoes in November in Miami!
3) The jewelry I wore was tasteful, though I have to admit the "diamond" tennis bracelet and "diamond" ring really added some bling.
4) The mall had patrolled, well lit parking.
5) My wife reminded me to smile and I certainly was smiling.
6) I sat up straight. I ate slowly.
7) I did not try to disguise my voice. I tried not to speak too loud.
8) I acted confidently.
9) I had my first glass of wine in 6 months. In fact I had two!
Our plan is to do this on a regular basis and we will return to the same restaurant. We feel that the staff will become familiar with me and that will make the experience more fun.There were a lot of Latin women there and I think I have to study how they dress. I wonder if i could pull that off?
I thought it would be helpful if I mentioned some of the preparations I made to insure a safe and fun outing.
1) I wore age and occasion clothing. I did not want to stand out at all.
2) I had painted toe nails and fingernails. Yes, we can wear open toe shoes in November in Miami!
3) The jewelry I wore was tasteful, though I have to admit the "diamond" tennis bracelet and "diamond" ring really added some bling.
4) The mall had patrolled, well lit parking.
5) My wife reminded me to smile and I certainly was smiling.
6) I sat up straight. I ate slowly.
7) I did not try to disguise my voice. I tried not to speak too loud.
8) I acted confidently.
9) I had my first glass of wine in 6 months. In fact I had two!
Our plan is to do this on a regular basis and we will return to the same restaurant. We feel that the staff will become familiar with me and that will make the experience more fun.There were a lot of Latin women there and I think I have to study how they dress. I wonder if i could pull that off?