Finally Meeting the friends you see online!!

[christylee_sf]

At Last I was able to meet another girl in person!

Really thank Kristyn (aka Hell on Heels) for meeting me for lunch (i was in very drab), and she was dressed (I wish i was dressed).
Talked alot about different things i felt i was all over the place.
But I really felt at easy, and realized how more "normal" we are, with very similar likes.
Love being around people that understand, and want to be able to make more friends.

I was sad when Jenniferathome moved away (She was the one of the first i was able to reach out and become friends with),
but was able via her connections meet with others local in the Bay Area.

Now I have a new friends, and hopefully soon i can go out with her as Christy!


Now if I can hook up with Rachel Sloane and Allie SF (Allie I know i owe you one...perhaps that play and a glass of wine in my lbd)

[Hell on Heels]

That was really cool for me too!
Thank goodness for a day off due to a dental appointment.
And that's how it works people. If you have an interest in meeting
with others, whether it be dressed, or drab, you just have to make it
happen. Take advantage of the moment, and with a few PM's, emails,
and text messages, eventually it will all come together.

Christy, I do have to come back soon to have a cracked filling replaced,
maybe we can get you dressed in those new heels (you wore them all the way home didn't you?)
and out for lunch again.
If not then, let's hope for that day in December.

Thanks again for meeting with me.
Much Love,
Kristyn
Oh and BTW... I was the one that was all over the place
durring our chat!
Oh yeah,(see I'm still all over the place here!) here's a quick pic
on my way home from lunch.
Maybe it belongs in the driving while dressed thread?
And the makeup was done on the dashboard vanity in the dentist parking lot!
It took about a whole 15-20 minuets to complete, and change clothes.
Not toooo bad, I think????

[dolovewell]

Something I would never be able to do. You have a lot more courage than me

I am sure most everyone here and in CD communities in general are perfectly nice and harmless. However with all the creepy and pervy messages I get I just could never risk meeting up with someone from an online site. It could just be someone posing as a nice person only to bait and switch and actually be a pervert.

I won't risk it

[mykell]

hi christy,
i have had the pleasure to talk with kristyn, aka julie,
i also started a local meet-up and have met forum folks there.....will be seeing them again monday and cant wait, i also had someone from here hosting nights at a local gay bar in asbury park, i went in drab as the conditions prevented me from dressing but i felt i needed to meet her, when i introduced myself she did not catch on right away as my name works both ways....i also had the chance to meet others that i had not met previously from my own meet-up so it was a nice time.

after being here for some time i think you can vet out any creeps or pervs and have a little blind faith, meeting in a pubic place and the other safety measures one learns will provide that it goes well....have read many a story of pleasant meetings between forum folk here.....

ow and Julie i realize that the "double dog dare" is in play....

[Teresa]

Christy,
It is great to meet in reality, the forum serves a useful purpose but meeting face to face is totally different, I didn't realise what influence my own story had had on others until someone spoke to me because they recognised me from the forum and told me how much my thoughts had helped them.

I'm sure Kristyn was a great help as well ,maybe it's something to to do with sharing the same star sign and birthday !

Hi Kryistyn I hope you are well maybe we can get together and share a real drink rather than touching glasses on the forum !

[Meghan4now]

Hell of a good time!

Yea! K. Is an awesome person to meet, and so happy for you Christy. This little community of ours rocks. Don't be afraid to reach out when you're in travel either. There are a lot of us that would be happy to be the hostess with the mostess!

[Jenniferathome]

Christy, Glad you and Kristyn could meet. She's good company.



Something I would never be able to do. You have a lot more courage than me

I am sure most everyone here and in CD communities in general are perfectly nice and harmless. However with all the creepy and pervy messages I get I just could never risk meeting up with someone from an online site. It could just be someone posing as a nice person only to bait and switch and actually be a pervert.

I won't risk it


And Dolo, the way to approach this is to know the ground rules in advance. I have never had an untoward visit with another cross dresser. I've not had that many visits, but I always start with, "I'm not looking of a hookup. I'm married, straight but based on what I have read from you, you seem normal." And go from there. I would never meet with someone who was suggestive of anything sexual or if at any level I didn't see eye to eye with their life perspective. So, for example, a cross dressing Nazi would be right out.

[dolovewell]

I guess that makes sense, but I've had so many interactions online with crossdressers that seem normal and nice at first who eventually veer into inappropriate territory. Like they are trying to soften me up and gain my trust and then BAM in comes the inappropriate crap.

[Helen_Highwater]

Something I would never be able to do. You have a lot more courage than me

I am sure most everyone here and in CD communities in general are perfectly nice and harmless. However with all the creepy and pervy messages I get I just could never risk meeting up with someone from an online site. It could just be someone posing as a nice person only to bait and switch and actually be a pervert.

I won't risk it

You're visiting the wrong web sites. I've met up with two others from this site and, having followed the safe meeting guidelines, all went extremely well. If you were to meet up with someone from this forum and they proved to be less that straightforward then report them to the admin. Having said that how many posts have you seen on here that are negative when reporting on get togethers of forum members? What in truth your saying is you're more likely to find trustworthy folk to interact with who are outside our community than from within it. Really?

The rules are simple. Meet somewhere very public. If you feel uncomfortable or threatened at any point get up and leave. Don't share personal info such as addresses. Don't get into a situation where you're alone 1 to 1. Move on from this only once you feel trust has been fully established.

It's too easy to live your life in fear and in doing so miss out on good things. In fact I have the chance to meet up with a forum member in about a weeks time and if my personal circumstances permit I'll do it. I'll be in drab but meeting someone enfemme. It'll be for a coffee in a public place. It's possible we may never have the opportunity to meet up again as this is just a time when we're in the same place at the same time. I would not be put off from meeting by an irrational fear of the bogey man.

There is of course one other option. Go to a group meeting. It's highly unlikely any group would tolerate anyone who exhibits any "pervy" tenancies. Safety in numbers. You really run the risk of missing out on so much.

[Tracii G]

Every one I have met in person from here have been super nice.
Dolovewell I think you are being a little paranoid about the people from this site.
Now if you were on a fetish or a more porny type site I could see that.
The people here on CD.com are like you and not in it for a sexual hook up.
Be bold and live a little.

[Nikki.]

dolove- I don't know if you have other interests that bring you to other online forums, but before I pm'd someone here about meeting in person(I totally need a winggalpal for my first trip or two out), I dug into their posting history here. I did the same on other forums before I would sell stuff (car parts), or send money via money order for parts. If you read enough, and they have enough history, you can get a pretty good vibe for what they're about. This place has a lot of peer pressure not to be pervy, which I appreciate, so maybe peeps can hide it, but I never got burned buying and selling car stuff if I did my research. Meet in public at Starbucks or similar, and if your spidey sense tingles, bail.

[christylee_sf]

BTW, I was where dolovewell for a while, trying to get the nerve, chatting with someone, then realizing that they are fakers. It does take a lot of trust, but it also takes a lot of patiences too.
Like anything in life, you really have to do some homework and take the time to chat to find out how they are. And of course there is that leap of faith, but that comes from getting the vibe from someone that gives off it authentic and true. Took me a bit before i met up with Jennifer, and I learned we really had a lot in common, and the stories were pretty much the same. Keep in mind that dressing has its various shades, and for me, all i wanted to do it to meet up with people that were waiting to dress because it made them good to be a women, YET was ok being a guy. Jennifer's feeling about dressing stuck a cord with me, because that is how i felt, that is why we struck up a relationship and finally met. I'm 53 now, and i only went out in public for the first time two months ago. For me these are huge steps, but because i knew there were more like myself, i did not want to feel alone, i wanted to have companionship with those who felt the way i did.

What really helps is once you know one person, then you can be introduced to others as well. Jennifer introduced me to a few of her friends, and i struck up a friendship with Kristyn. Because Jennifer had told me so much about her, it was like i knew her already, and found new friend now that i can talk to, because she and Jen have had the situation where their wifes know, but mine does not, and still trying to figure out how to deal with that from their experience. I hope too meet Allie and Rachel because if both Jennifer and Kristyn vouches for them, then i know it would be safe to meet up with them!

LOL whats funny is Kristyn said above "you wore them all the way home didn't you?"......wow...how did you know girl?


Anyway, the key to this thread is if you want to meet up, just do you work, BUT trust yourself as well....i know you can determine who is real, and who is FAKE

[April Showers]

I had the opportunity to meet two of the girls from the forum this weekend at a GNO Halloween party. My wife got the chance to meet other wives and we both had a wonderful evening. We met and chatted with other girls and everyone was friendly. We can't wait to go to the Christmas event in December and all future events.

[docrobbysherry]

I saw 2 T girls that I met at DLV in Vegas about 1/2 drive away from me last nite. They were dressed, I wasn't. We went out to dinner and had so much fun chatting and with our very friendly waitress. She was gorgeous and asked to take photos with us.:)

If u r NOT out meeting other dressers? U r missing out! For the most part T's r remarkable individuals! For me, it's the ONLY reason I go out in public dressed.:hugs: