Wonder What Makes

[deebra]

Do you every, have you ever wondered what makes us CD? What comes into our mind that makes us want to get up and go put on a pair of panties? Why are we turned on by the way they look and feel? Once on why isn't that enough, we are compelled to add more clothing of a sex we are not. Why? We love the feel, look, wearing, walking in and the facial makeover of a woman, the weaker sex, why do we want this? Men are physically stronger and bigger, why would we choose to be weaker and smaller? As I set here writing this post I am truly enjoying the feeling of having on a pink nylon thong, my maleness tucked away to disappear and present as a woman and feeling the tightness and softness of girl jeans. I get an inner feeling of happiness when out in public, dressed in women's clothes, walking in women's heels and blending as a woman. Males and females that aren't CDs don't get this happiness, they just wear the clothes they have worn all their life and their is no sensual feeling attached. Wonder why we enjoy it so much, are we blessed or cursed, what made us CDs? Why are we males drawn to be women and love wearing their clothes?

[CarlaWestin]

I have wondered that quite a bit over the years. Although at this point, I just couldn't imagine not crossdressing.

[CONSUELO]

its a question wrapped in a conundrum inside and enigma.

[Tracy Irving]

I hope that question never gets answered. They might find a cure for it. lol.

[deebra]

Tracy, love your answer.

[cd mark]

I honestly don't know why we're the way we are perhaps were all broken souls trying to find acceptance in a different world than our own or mabye were formed different but when it comes down to it my guess is that we just what to be someone else

[Keely]

I sure don't know why we do it. It just makes me happy:daydreaming:

[Helen_Highwater]

This question has been chewed on, mulled over, considered, worried about, you name it. I've yet to see a convincing argument that will encompass a small fraction of us let alone everyone. It could be as simple as why you prefer Fords to GM or long sleeves to short. You just do.

So don't worry over it. Just enjoy the pleasure it brings you.

[Lily Catherine]

I'm not sure. Maybe I'm afraid of an unsavoury truth of some form, come what may. Maybe I'm merely afraid of missing the (non-sexual) gratification I derive from it. If you ask me, there're as many other ways of making myself 'beautiful' by a number of different standards, so it's not a simple matter of 'feeling pretty' - it's a side effect at best. I don't get anything sexual out of this - the very thought of being sexualised now creeps me out.

There're as many theories covering a reasonable number of us as there are people like us. However until there's a universal, uniting theory that explains a single, easily simplified behaviour, any attempt at theory is speculative at best, and doesn't provide a fully valid representation. I would perhaps leave it as a matter of personal choice, at the least end of the spectrum.

[Nikki A.]

I can only speak for myself. I was raised by my mom and grand mom in a very matriarchal setting. I started with my mom's undies (I can still remember the old rubber girdles women wore.
For a while in my teens and early adulthood (1960s & 70s) I did try to stop dressing, but here I am. Maybe if I had all the information that is available now, maybe I would have transitioned, maybe I'm more than a CD. I've had TG friends tell me that I will eventually transition but at this point of my life I think it's too late.

[Dana44]

I don't think anyone could answer that question. Not even a psychiatrist can figure that out. It just is and we enjoy it for we have feminine desires. But I don't think that women are the weakest sex. I know as I aged that many of our women are much stronger that many men realize.

[Teresa]

Deebra,
For me I know I was born like it , just wired slightly different with a female overlay , all the lose ends were tied together at the age of 8-9 years. It's possibly when I became bi-gender and my GD kicked in.
I don't dress for one reason it's a combination of sexual needs and satisfying an inner feeling and trying to reveal my female trait.

Maybe we enjoy it so much because it allows us for a limited period to enter a comfort zone where the desires in our brains are being satisfied in reality, we talk about stress relief , to have those feelings must be deeply entrenched , for most of us it's for life , we have to come to terms with it and totally accept it .

I don't think the physical stereotypes have anything to do we it, we are equal in abilities but in different areas.
Women must get sensual feelings from certain clothes , Cders are very fortunate that we have the opportunity to share those feelings.

To me I feel I'm blessed now I've come to terms with it, those that can't or won't see it may think it's a curse !

Cd Mark,
I don't feel we are broken souls, we just have to find ourselves.

[NicoleScott]

I have always wondered why. I used to be distressed about it, but no longer. It is what it is. But I still wonder why.
I believe there is no single answer.

[Lana Mae]

I read one good simple explanation a CDer gave to a little girl, "I have a boy's body but a girl's brain." Not true of everyone but one way to look at it. I think everyone has both male and female in them and some of us wish to see both sides. Just some thoughts on the matter. Hugs Lana Mae

[Tracii G]

I have no idea.

[Kiersten]

I always wondered and still do from time to time. I don't believe there is one simple answer to it.

[Lorileah]

Made up definitions found in books that define something no one should really care about

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Deebra:hugs:, See line #2 in my signature.

It's just who I am & It's just what I do...:daydreaming:...

[Shely]

It's the clothes... The colors, the styles, the shapes, the materials, The cut and fit, the way they swish when we walk. the sound of high heels on the hard floor. it's the whole ball of wax. Mens clothes are boring as a rain delay in a baseball game. hope this helps.

[alwayshave]

As long as I can remember I have wanted to wear women's clothes. I don't really question it, it just is.

[Confucius]

Well, the way I see it, our brains are hardwired to interpret crossdressing as actual contact (identity) with a female. So when we crossdress our brains release a host of feel-good neurotransmitters (dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and others) with produce the sensations of well-being, pleasure, comfort, and sexual gratification. So crossdressing makes us happy, but its all due to the neurotransmitters. The bigger question is, why is my brain's neural connections this way? Perhaps it has to do with the way neural connections are made during synaptogenesis and neural pruning.

[Elizabeth G]

If I could answer that question then I would be a tremendously successful therapist and own my own island of the coast of Belize...

[Ineke Vashon]

I think my yin is larger than my yang. Therefore, I dress:battingeyelashes:

Ineke

[Dee-anna]

we all know girls clothes are just fabulous, why question the motive, just were them and smile.

[Robin777]

I am like Teresa, I was born this way. Wired slightly different. It just feels normal to be wearing women's clothes. I agree with everything she wrote.
I don't question why I do it, I just do it because it feels right. I don't bother to psychoanalyze myself.

[IleneD]

DEEBRA

You are the voice of us all.
Loved your paragraph. The Mystery.

[redtea]

what makes me CD? It started as a curious thought lead into a curious action. I then somehow lost the barrier that says "don't do that, that's weird".

Why I CD? The clothes really do feel better and more connected to my body. Also there's a mental need to experience something and CDing plays off this need very well. I got needs for companionship that haven't been fulfilled so CDing acts like a keystone needed to feel fulfilled...What can i say girls will never love me let alone like me. CDing helps keep me from thinking dark bitter thoughts that will damn me to loneliness.

[sometimes_miss]

I don't wonder anymore. It's pointless; I've come to the conclusion that most people don't really want to know why they do it, because they would have trouble dealing with the answer. I mean, this is not like having VD or being obsessed with football or something. It makes us untouchables to far too many people, including our family members. So many just want to pretend that it doesn't exist until they get the urge to do it again.

[DIANEF]

Women are the weaker sex? You might get a counter view. Men are bigger and stronger? Usually, but I know many women who would make two of me! Why do I CD?
Like most here I have no real answer, I always have and always will and just enjoy what I do.
The choice of female clothing is a big attraction. Every morning I watch the early news on the TV. The guy is ALWAYS in suit, shirt, tie; never varies. Every day the female has some fab outfit on, stylish, elegant, colourful. That chance to constantly vary my look is a just one of the things I love about CDing.

[ciel64]

I think that reason would depend on the individual, though for me the way I see it is that crossdressing allows one to express aspects of who they are that they otherwise have difficulty expressing when presenting as male even in private, this could be things such as mannerisms or even how one thinks about things, I think that's the reason why some people also make up a persona, a separate personality in order to express an aspect of themselves (in this case femininity) that they have been barred from by society.

The other thing about clothes is that they have aesthetic and artistic value, and women's clothing has a wider variety of artistic ideas in mind while it comes to clothes while men's clothes are usually fairly uniform and are designed with usefulness in mind.

As to females being the weaker sex, I think that a female body is no more inherently desirable than a male body, aesthetically speaking that all comes down to individual taste, and yeah while males generally are stronger than females, I don't think that's anymore relevant than the fact the females are more flexible and have a lower center of gravity than males. I think that it's not the males are physically "superior" to females but rather that western society holds physical attributes associated with males to a higher value because it's associated with maleness.

[Mickitv]

I think we all have asked ourselves at one time or another - Why? I have accepted the fact that I love to dress . I also feel that something that feels this good to me and brings me so much pleasure should never be though of as being wrong or bad.

[Elizabeth G]

If I knew the actual answer to this question I would be a very well to do therapist instead of an engineer:laughing:

[Ally 2112]

One huge question so many different answers .Just be you and try to enjoy it if you can

[VeronicaMoonlit]

Do you every, have you ever wondered what makes us CD? What Why why isn't that enough, Why? why do we want this?

You've been here for 6 years, why are you asking this question which keeps getting asked over and over? No one knows why.

But real truth is, "Why" doesn't matter one bit. What matters is how you deal with it.

Veronica

[Emily Ann Brown]

12 years and I am no closer to the answer. I have decided it takes away from my thinking about which outfit I look better it. WINK! Em

[Teri Ray]

This is the simplest question ever. The reason we have this desire is caused by the following factors which likely occurred during your birth, or while you were growing up or after you first thought you knew more than your parents. The influencing factors include the following (not in any order of likeliness)

1. Sitting too close to a color TV when you were a child (or in the womb)

2. Crossing your eyes

3. Jumping on the bed

4. Frequently crossing the street without looking both ways.

5. Failure to eat all your vegetables

6. brushing your teeth side to side instead of up and down

7. listening to loud music

8. leaving the toilet seat up after peeing.

and finally if you are a baby boomer the most likely cause is looking at women's lingerie in the sears or Montgomery ward catalog as a youth.

Final Answer........ Geeze this was easy.

[katie_barns]

If you find the answer.... please don't tell me. I'm happy in my blissful uneducated pink fog. :)

[daviolin]

I see Daviolin as my twin sister that was born within me. Sounds simple, but it works for me. Daviolin

[Sandy silk]

I wish I knew why. I have been obsessing over shaving my legs...couldn't get past it. I told my wife...she said try it. I did it today...this is so weird ...for the Last month I keep looking at guys' legs at the gym to see who is hairless or not. I'm afraid someone will ask me. Guess what...a lot of men don't have hairy legs...and now I'm one of them. Just bought an epilator before I signed on here...moving on.

[irene9999]

I'm not sure, I know I was personally drawn to women's clothing from and early age and the concept of crossdressers intrigued me also