Next step?

[GBJoker]

So... Came out of the closet, rebuilding clothing closet after some problems recently, but been informing all the necessary people that I'm a TS. Informing people I meet new in my life that I determine worth telling. But I'm now hitting a brick wall about what to do next.

Any ideas?

[Zooey]

Umm, live?

I don't understand the question... What is your goal?

[GBJoker]

Okay... Well, guess I'll go back to my corner then.

[LydiaL]

No need to back into a corner GBJoker. Like Zooey, I too am confused about your query.

This site has scads of folks willing (& able) to provide assistance.

Elaborate so that ideas will be forthcoming. :hugs:

[KellyJameson]

I never share anything personal on-line. Growing up trans made me acutely aware of the hate and violence directed against those who are different.

This means asking for advice from people who know next to nothing about you is likely to leave them unsure about what to offer.

At best they can offer up the standard replies that you have already read on this site thousands of times.

If you want more than that you would have to be willingly to share more about yourself but think carefully about this because there are different motives that compel a person to transition and receiving advice from someone transitioning for reasons entirely different from your own could lead you to make choices detrimental to your own well being.

In my opinion the best advice is to not transition unless you absolutely have to. It is simply to dangerous to do so otherwise. I'm often amazed at how casually I have seen people start hormones.

You may find this link interesting about stories from parents coping with transitioning children and the second link about the rise in people identifying as trans.

http://www.seattletimes.com/seattle-news/health/readers-share-stories-in-response-to-article-on-transgender-teen/#third

http://www.spiked-online.com/spiked-review/article/the-rise-of-transgender/18922#.WCDWqnlRFhg

[arbon]

It is a very vague question - your coming out some but where are you on everything else like changing id, hair removal, hormones?? Personal I would be working on planning all that out before coming out to people.

[Barbara Ella]

Only one answer that comes to mind that has been set in stone after 70 years of living. Take a breath. If you are uncertain of what is next, you just need to relax and fully enjoy what you have achieved to this point. After sufficient rest and enjoyment the questions and answers will begin to form in your mind and you will be inundated by the number.

Enjoy what you have.

Hugs

Barbara

[jentay1367]

the second link about the rise in people identifying as trans.

http://www.spiked-online.com/spiked-...2#.WCDWqnlRFhg
(http://www.spiked-online.com/spiked-review/article/the-rise-of-transgender/18922#.WCDWqnlRFhg)

Keep in mind if reading articles from spiked that they do have an agenda. They have a very, very conservative perspective on everything...so if you read the article, it's good to be informed regarding their politics.

A long-standing thread in the Spiked critique is what they identify as 'Therapy Culture' – a culture where the "victim" takes ascendancy and where rationality and logic is replaced by emotions and feelings.[18] (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spiked_%28magazine%29#cite_note-18) For Dr Michael Fitzpatrick, the core issues here are about agency and political autonomy and he argues "we should stop surrendering our sovereignty to the 'therapeutic state'".

below is part of their mantra.....so their opinions may or may not align with your own.

The medicalisation of personal problems may relieve the individual of moral responsibility, but at the cost of allowing the therapeutic state to control personal behaviour and psychic life.[ (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spiked_%28magazine%29#cite_note-19)

[GBJoker]

KellyJameson: Well, this site isn't a very friendly place, so I'm only going to reveal the bare minimum.

Barbara Ella: I've achieved... nothing. Really, nothing has truly changed in eight years.

[jentay1367]

Being friends and being friendly is a two way street.



I've achieved... nothing. Really, nothing has truly changed in eight years.

Ever thought about why that might be?

[Exris]

KellyJameson: Well, this site isn't a very friendly place, so I'm only going to reveal the bare minimum.

Barbara Ella: I've achieved... nothing. Really, nothing has truly changed in eight years.

GBJoker. I also dont understand your original question or subsequent posts.

NOT being unfriendly... but please state exactly what you are asking. Otherwise the answers will be unsatisfactory.


I am a straight male. I would MUCH prefer to be a lesbian female. Im a EFFFFing weirdo according to my ex-wife. I cannot transition for a multitude of reasons. Most involve my family. I have bad shit in the closet. And I have another closet... just for me.

Whatever it is thats holding you back... I just said that. It's not "just words". It's how I feel. It's what I want to be.

The internet is impersonal and remote. But for once you can use that to your advantage. Without giving us all your address and email acc... keep it anonymous.


What do you want hun? How can any of us help? There will be many willing to assist you...

[GBJoker]

I'm asking what the next step is. I want to know how far to go, and thus, what the next step is on any path. I honestly cannot think of a better way to word it. What should I do after coming out of the closet?

[jentay1367]

want to know how far to go


you're kidding, right? You're asking us how far you should transition?

[GBJoker]

You know what, forget it. I have seen half the people here say how the other half helped them figure crap out, and I was simply hoping for the same. I don't know what the magic words are to acquire this supposed help. At this point, I'm clearly being harassed, so I'm out.

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