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ellbee
11-08-2016, 05:07 PM
Pretty standard outfit for me today, knowing that I'd be going out in public (in guy-mode, that is)...

Women's pullover hoodie in black, long dark gray tee underneath to help cover my butt & front, full-length leggings in a charcoal heather (yes, thong underneath ;) ), black no-show socks, and women's running shoes in all-black.

Obviously the leggings are really the only true give-away in this entirely 100%-women's outfit. Remember, I'm presenting as a guy, here.


Went to the post office to drop off a package. Several male customers inside ahead of me, no GG's, waiting in sort of this horizontal line (due to the post office set-up). Oh, no! :o

Nobody noticed.

The guys were absorbed in their own world with their task at-hand, and the two GG postal clerks were just trying to clear out the line as best & quickly as they could.

But I was watching -- and no one saw.


Now, mind you, someone like one of the clerks potentially could have seen as I was leaving, since I don't have eyes in the back of my head. But I'd consider today's operation a stealthy success (not that I really care either way, LOL).


Get home. Realize the postal carrier should be delivering a package to me. Kick off my running shoes, but leave the rest of the outfit as is.

Later in the afternoon, my buzzer rings. I live in an apartment complex, so I buzz her in. Meet her in the hallway in front of my apartment.

I intentionally watch her eyes, as I always do... And BAM! They go right to my legs. :laughing:

Only a quick (but obvious) look, lasting a tiny bit longer than it should, which confirms it wasn't just an accident or anything.

I really don't care. Not the first time she's seen me in leggings -- nor will it be the last. :D


And remember, this was the *same* exact outfit I was wearing earlier in the day (sans running shoes).



Anyway, I've been running an experiment for quite a while now, as I have quite a few packages delivered to me like this (not all dressing-related, I swear, LOL!). She's my regular postal carrier, and I see her quite often. Three to 5 times a week is not uncommon.

Some days, I wear bootcut yoga pants. Nothing out of the ordinary from her with those. No look.

But whenever I wear leggings? The eyes go down to look -- *every* time. And these are not obviously-femmy attention-grabbing ones, like in hot-pink or some loud floral pattern. Just some basic masculine colors... Black, grays, brown, navy, olive, whatever. Either in plain, heathered or, "at best," space-dye. Yet they still catch her eye. Every time.


Anyway, yep, some people don't notice this stuff! And yet, others do.

And remember: These are just leggings -- simply worn in guy-mode.


I don't care how good you look or how passable or blendable you might be or think you are... Do you honestly think some people don't notice when you're head-to-toe en femme? Come on. :laughing:

Tracii G
11-08-2016, 05:24 PM
They notice but have the decency not to comment. Well most people.LOL

Dana44
11-08-2016, 05:43 PM
I agree with Tracii, Most people will not talk or are keeping comments to themselves.

Rachael Leigh
11-08-2016, 06:17 PM
As stated in another thread of course some notice when I'm in girl mode, I see them looking hard at me but I don't care.
I much more enjoy it when someone says mam'm to me just makes my day

Tracii G
11-08-2016, 07:10 PM
I agree Leigh

Stephanie Voorhees
11-08-2016, 08:41 PM
I don't know if you were tucked or not, but it you weren't, it was possible she was checking out a different sort of package lol. Sorry, I had to.

Exris
11-08-2016, 09:00 PM
I don't know if you were tucked or not, but it you weren't, it was possible she was checking out a different sort of package lol. Sorry, I had to.

Justified comment.

But anyone answering a door whilst in girl mode... will be tucked. Or at least not showing.

The postal girl has an interest. Acknowledged or not... it's there. And the interest might not even be to the OP. But in other ways challenging her rigid role in the sexual melting pot we all move in.

@OP. Ask her if it's been a hard day. Even if it's 9am. Then invite her in and ask if she's like a chilled Coke... because she looks thirsty.

If she says no then make another plan - or just wipe it away and forget it. If she REALLY is no then obliterate the thought. If she accepts the Coke tho... you are on a starting process.

Good luck however it ends.

JenniferMBlack
11-08-2016, 09:13 PM
Fact of the matter is poeple notice, most don't say anything or even care. There are those who don't notice of course. I was out on Saturday night in guy mode wearing heels and I saw a woman look at my shoes, she was subtle and didn't say anything. Had I not been paying attention I would have never knowen.

Jennifer in CO
11-08-2016, 10:07 PM
Did a job once...I showed up to the customer's door wearing what I wear every day. This day it was a black micro-fiber pull-over square neck 3/4 sleeve blouse, black side-zip slacks and my "Believe" loafers. With the exception of different slacks, the woman who met me at the door was wearing the same outfit (inc the same shoes). I figured I was screwed with that client. About 3 weeks later I got a feedback report...One key note made was that I was dressed very professionally. It boils down to this...if your acting like your doing something wrong, people will notice and probably say something, snicker, whatever. If your "owning it", then even if they notice they wont say anything or it will have no bearing on they're response.

IleneD
11-09-2016, 12:00 AM
I was driving while dressed a couple weeks ago; in the convertible with the top down. Full make up (just came from an Ulta makeover), nails, wig.... the works. And I was having a blast, BTW.
I stopped at a light and a panel delivery truck with open doors (like a UPS truck) pulled up alongside. The driver, I could tell out of my peripheral vision, was checking me out; a pretty good looking blonde in a convertible. Who wouldn't? He called out to me " Hey, do you know where 120th St is?"
I had not perfected a femme voice, so I bellowed out in my male baritone, "It's about 1 mile straight ahead. Stay on this road."
He guy made the very next left turn. He wasn't going to 120th St.
I still laugh about it.

Krisi
11-09-2016, 09:04 AM
It's impossible for w if people notice us unless they say something or we see them pointing and laughing. As several have already posted, most people are polite enough to not comment or laugh at us to our faces. Perhaps we could conceal a video camera in our purse facing behind us and record their reactions.

Some of us know we don't pass, some of us believe we pass in certain circumstances and others believe they pass all the time. Some of u want to be seen as crossdressers while others are hoping we pass as women.

We don't know how others see us.

sometimes_miss
11-09-2016, 11:03 AM
Anyway, yep, some people don't notice this stuff!
Sure they do. A guy in woman's clothing is akin to what you see in all those 'people of walmart' videos. You can't NOT notice. But just like when great grandpa's toupe is on crooked, we just carry on, and pretend not to notice.

ellbee
11-09-2016, 01:12 PM
I don't know if you were tucked or not, but it you weren't, it was possible she was checking out a different sort of package lol. Sorry, I had to.

Nope, not a full tuck. The thong & leggings naturally handle a bit of tucking, on their own. Besides, my tee & hoodie cover it, anyway... I make sure of it. And I'm mindful of it while out in public; that's become second-nature. Believe me, I've tested this before I ever stepped out the door for the 1st time (though I suppose if I were to ever get mugged at gun-point & had to put my hands up way above my head, there goes the cover -- but would also make a good temporary distraction, too :laughing: ).



"Sure they do. A guy in woman's clothing is akin to what you see in all those 'people of walmart' videos. You can't NOT notice. But just like when great grandpa's toupe is on crooked, we just carry on, and pretend not to notice."


If a guy is presenting as a guy, most guys will not be checking out what they're wearing for pants -- especially if the pants don't attract much attention, in the first place. You can definitely "get away" with some stuff most times with most people in certain environments/situations.

And even if they do notice, in my case, odds are they'd chalk it up to men's athletic wear. I'm not presenting as female, and most people don't assume a guy would be partially-dressed like this, to begin with.


However, if I were wearing a skirt & heels in guy-mode, obviously I'd expect -- and get -- a lot more attention from people.