How Many are Straight?

[Krisi]

There is a current thread asking how many are bi-sexual and apparently it caused some confusion for those of us who answered that we weren't. So:

How many here are straight males whose sexual orientation does not change when they dress?

Moderator addendum: The OP wants only straight males who crossdress to reply

" For MTF crossdressers only, how many are "straight" (sexually attracted to women only)?"

[DIANEF]

Me! 100 per-cent hetero in drab or dress. Fact is I love women and find men totally unappealing. Let me just say though I have nothing against being gay or bi. My son is gay and it has made no difference at all to our relationship. I actually had a post deleted from the thread in question, as did several others it seems.

[Samm]

Straight as an arrow. The wife, on the other hand, is bi. Which is good for her. She gets the best of both worlds from me.

[dolovewell]

Me.
..........

[AnnieMac]

I guess I'm straight as heck. I say "guess", because after all I do have a strong attraction to female fashions, socializing and activities, and think a lot of "girly" thoughts, and I suppose your typical straight guy does not do that. That I suppose is always the big paradox when it comes to us crossdressing types - straight guy but girly-girl. Oh I will admit to having those little fantasies a few times when dressed about being desired by a man, but that is never reflected in reality. Those fantasies only seem to be there to support me feeling more female. When I think about doing anything like that in reality, there is no-way. I really don't want much to do with guys. I enjoy socializing with women and I enjoy my female fashions and side along with that. I think that's about as honest as I can be - Annie

[JeanTG]

I am straight in the sense that I am only sexually attracted to women. However, when my gender leanings are more female than male (as now) my sexuality is lesbian, both in attraction but also in the types of sexual activity I engage in with my spouse and in my fantasies. So in a sense my orientation does change when I am in femme mode, but not the focus of my attraction (women).

In fact I absolutely loathe all things masculine even though about 40% of the time I feel somewhat more male than female (and why I never transitioned).

[Beverley Sims]

I am sure I am straighter now, when I was twenty my girlfriends taught me how to seduce men without too much intimacy.

My boyfriends? always thought I was a girl, one got so infatuated with me I supposedly had to move interstate.

Really, women are always my only choice.

[S. Lisa Smith]

Straight. I just like to dress as the woman I would have been...

[Seana Summer]

I'm straight.

There is nothing about other men I find sexually attractive, now or in the past, and I would bet the future will be the same too. For some mysterious reason I like to wear women's clothing. Soft nylon and silk feel amazing and so many of the cloths make me feel like I am being pampered. Biggest mystery is why so many people assume that there must be more.

[Krisi]

I forgot to answer my own post. I am straight. I've never had the desire or come close to having sex with or even kissing another man. Dressing as a woman doesn't change this one bit. I've never seen a man in person or on TV who caused me to have sexual thoughts regardless of whether I'm wearing a wig and boobs.

I have wondered what it would feel like to have sex as a woman (obviously with a man) but I don't have the necessary body parts so I'll just have to wonder until the day I die.

BTW: I don't mean this thread to imply that I have anything against gay or lesbian people. You are who you are and that's fine. It's more of a way to count the "straights" like the other thread counted the "bisexuals".

It's a shame this forum doesn't have a "poll" feature where we could "vote".

BTW again: The question of being straight, bisexual or gay has nothing to do with fashion or dressing, it's simply sexual orientation.

[nonameyet1234]

I'm straight as well. I've never found anything about men appealing. I think part of the drive to dress for me is to become the thing I'm attracted to/admire.

[rockerreds]

Extremely straight, always have been.

[Jackie7]

Straight hetero here, mostly monogamous with the occasional mutually-agreed guest star. However when we flirt as well as when we make love, my wife and I both shift along the spectrum from aggressor (masculine role) to responder (feminine role). There is some kind of limbic system call-and-response going on that we both enjoy very much.

[Exris]

Boring and straight here too.

I have pondered the question in the past. Finding a really nice girl is very hard. Finding a quick fix, even for just a night in men is very easy. It's so easy, and I got offered the "opportunity" so often at one stage in my life I had to have a sit down with myself.

No, never. I couldnt. I wont. I cant. I absolutely dont want to.

I have a problem in pedestaling women. I know I do that. I do it because I just love them. Even the smallest thing - drives me nuts not being able to join in.

So I'll stick to admiring women. I will sleep with you less and less as I become older and greyer and less attractive. But I reflect on the majority of our past fondly. And to the few gay friends I have... and the only gay one that "knows"... thanks. But after 20 or so years the weekend pantomime we used to go through where I "You just must be!!!" when drunk after hitting the bars... it's time that ended.

[Laurana]

Just because I stick on a pair of fakes tits doesn't mean I want some guy pounding away at my backside.

I am the same whether wearing a shirt and tie or a skirt and tights.

[ClosetED]

Straight. I have no interest in men, other than the appreciation of humans (of whatever gender) in my appearance. They can look but not touch.
Hugs, Ellen

[sara66]

Straight also. I just like looking like a girl some of the time.
Sara:straightface:

[Lana Mae]

I was straight my whole life. Now almost asexual with little desire at all! But it definately would not be a man at this point! I admire everyone in the LGBTQ+ community and feel they have the right to express however but just not for me! With deepest respect! Hugs Lana Mae

[IamWren]

I too had posts deleted from the other thread. I was just venting my frustration over all the male creeps who hit me up thinking that for some reason I'd be interested in them.

Yeah.... sooooo, apparently I wasn't the only one of many who got dinged for adding commentary to my answer on the “Bi exual” (sic) thread. I was told “How about reading responding to the question, comments were not asked for” Apparently we shouldn't add commentary or posit other queries to add discussion toward the spirit of the question. Sorry... didn't know.

So I guess I’ll just respond to the question.
Krisi, of the more than 29,000 members of CD.com I couldn’t possible know “how many here are straight males whose orientation does not change when they dress.” My answer to the question is: I don't know.

[Taylor186]

I'm straight no matter how I'm dressed or undressed. Always have been. Never quite understood how the clothes one wears could change their desired sexual partners. After all, they're only clothes and they come off pretty quickly once the action starts.

[IleneD]

Straight, married in faithful monogamous relationship of 39 yrs.
However....... I've always thought that there's a little bit of "gay" in any man eager to don a dress and earrings; even if it's not sexual in nature. Even me. LOL.

[Lacy PJs]

No interest in men whatsoever...

Lacy PJs

[Exris]

Just because I stick on a pair of fakes tits doesn't mean I want some guy pounding away at my backside.

I am the same whether wearing a shirt and tie or a skirt and tights.


Post of the week.

Laurana, I started with a smile at that comment. Read the other comments... went back to yours... and GAWFAWED!

Perfectly put :D Thanks!

[DIANEF]

So I guess I’ll just respond to the question.
Krisi, of the more than 29,000 members of CD.com I couldn’t possible know “how many here are straight males whose orientation does not change when they dress.” My answer to the question is: I don't know.

I don't think Krisi was looking for a round figure (correct me if I'm wrong Krisi), rather this thread is a response to the 'Bi-exual' thread posted recently. And Laurana, love your answer!

[ellbee]

Not mine. But still thought it was funny. :heehee:



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[IamWren]

Yes, I'm quite aware of that Diane.
And that's my point. (perhaps I should have used my sarcasm font)
Regarding the "bi exual" thread, I was told by mods to stick to the question and that no comments were asked for. In the "bi exual" thread I answered the way most everyone is answering on this one but like DoLove and many others, my comment was removed.

So I stuck to the question.

[Lucy23]

I'm straight too. Although I find it funny what little it takes to doubt a man's sexuality. Okay, maybe wearing women's clothes is not that little, but I was asked once whether I was gay when I had red pants on...

[DIANEF]

Sue, see what you mean. no offence (oh, hope that doesn't count as a comment..)

[Stephanie47]

However....... I've always thought that there's a little bit of "gay" in any man eager to don a dress and earrings; even if it's not sexual in nature. LOL.

I have never had any interest in men. I"m sure Ilene comment reflects the reason so many men who wear women's clothing hide it from everyone. I know before I entered puberty I had no interest in sex at all. Of course back in the 1950's sexual stimuli was not persuasive in society. At best there were the advertisements in magazines and newspapers for a youth to view. So, as I entered puberty and started to recognize and appreciate girls in a sexual way the idea of wearing my mother's clothing really caused a lot of turmoil. How could a young teen who wore women's clothing reconcile that feeling with being attracted to women? So, as a totally straight guy with an extensive wardrobe it still does not compute. The only difference with my feelings of fifty years ago is I have come to the conclusion both feelings are separate and have really nothing to do with the other.

I really do not think there's a little bit of "gay" in me.

[Judy-Somthing]

I guess dressing as a woman when I was a teen had some of my friends guessing.
Some of them tried to get me to experiment with them, which I passed on.

Put me on the (Straight List).

[TracyUK]

I am as straight as they come, married for forty years and never strayed. Men have never had any appeal for me not that I'm saying there is any problem with that.
Different strokes for different folks as they say, I have many friends that are LGBT. All is ''NORMAL'' which every group we fall into.

[Lorileah]

To paraphrase, I was straight before I wasn't. At least I don't have to worry that this thread is a ruse to hook up with others here

Love how we keep making little cliques here. Now, who like spaghetti?

[Nicolesmyth]

Straight for me!

[Kiersten]

I'm straight no matter how I'm dressed.



Just because I stick on a pair of fakes tits doesn't mean I want some guy pounding away at my backside.

I am the same whether wearing a shirt and tie or a skirt and tights.


Laurana, Love your response it's perfect.

[TinaMc]

I think there are people who are genuine bisexual men who happen to CD, which is one thing, but then there are also a whole bunch of CDers who would like to use a man as a prop in their feminine sexual fantasy. Not myself, I mean I'm married and faithful to my wife. I guess I could potentially be bi, but it's not something I've tried and not something I have to try in order to have a fulfilled life or what have you. I think sexuality is probably a lot more fluid (for want of a better and er less icky word) than we like to think...

[Cheryl T]

Personally straight...but when dressed I'm a lesbian...

[ClosetED]

To paraphrase, I was straight before I wasn't. At least I don't have to worry that this thread is a ruse to hook up with others here

Love how we keep making little cliques here. Now, who like spaghetti?

I like spaghetti - it starts out straight but shows off its curves later!
:)
Ellen

[CassandraRae]

Straight, married in faithful monogamous relationship of 39 yrs.
However....... I've always thought that there's a little bit of "gay" in any man eager to don a dress and earrings; even if it's not sexual in nature. Even me. LOL.

Exactly. Straight, married in faithful monogamous relationship over 30 years. Men are mostly boring blobs to me. Yet, when I'm in a tight dress, stockings and heels I can't help feeling like an approving look from a man wouldn't be all that bad. An open door, a helping hand out of the car and someone else picking up the check would be awesome as well. If those impossible events ever happened, who knows how I might feel?

[JustJoni]

Hetero all the way through. I like women no matter how I am dressed, guy or girl. VERY happily married, and stayed monogamous in all of my previous relationships (although I wish that had been reciprocated).

[PattiL]

I'm straight 100%

[NicoleScott]

To answer the question, I'm straight, dressed or not.
Krisi, I don't believe there was confusion in the other thread. The topic was identifying as bisexual and having sex while dressed. It seems reasonable to me that if you're not bi and don't have sex while dressed, you don't have anything to contribute. But for some reason some folks take advantage of every opportunity to tell how straight they are, and this seemed like such an opportunity.
The comments deleted on that thread but allowed here is because of relevancy. Years ago there was a thread titled "what's your fetish?". If you have no fetishes, you have nothing to contribute, but many weighed in anyway with "I have no fetishes. Dressing is not sexual for me".
I wonder why people feel the need to tell how pure they are, even when not asked, but that's a topic for another thread.

[hiheeledbabe]

Straight

[leannejacobs]

Straight as a die, there is no sexual element to my dressing what so ever, I'm a very happily married man (to a woman) who enjoys wearing women's clothes for some reason, there is no attraction to men in any way shape or form, I do admit to liking seeing how well other dressers can present but again no sexual interest.
Each to their own though I have no issues with others sexuality.

[Amber83]

I am straight all the way when in drab. When en femme I like to consider myself a lesbian lol.

[Bonnie Chan]

When dressing as a boy, I'm straight. When dressing as a girl, I guess I'm nothing :) because I never have a thought of sexual activity with someone else when dressed.

- Bonnie

[Marcelo]

I like working alone so count me as a solosexual.

[sometimes_miss]

Straight. Even the scent of a men's locker room seems disgusting.

[StephanieJ]

Guess I broke the mold... I identify as a 4 on the Kinsey Scale which makes me more gay than straight. Was in a hetero marriage for 18 years and it nearly killed me. Now I stay celibate for religious reasons but, I fantasize about having a straight guy want me all the time.

[HollyGreene]

Totally straight. But if I was a real girl, I'm sure I'd be a lesbian. I have no attraction whatsoever to men.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Krisi:hugs:, Straight as an Arrow for almost 74years now...:daydreaming:...

[Steph_CD_62]

I heard the term "male lesbian" and I thought that fit me pretty good.
I am 100% straight with no desire to be with a man, but I also enjoy those few times I was intimate with my wife while I was dressed as a woman.

[I Am Paula]

Straight is for pool cues, and bourbon whiskey.

[Lorileah]

"male lesbian" is an oxymoron and very insulting to lesbians. BTW you men (since so many like to make that a point that that is what you really are) who are straight but still like women aren't in any way shape or form a lesbian, you're straight men who wear clothing designed for women who like women...otherwise known as straight. Now if you're willing to have SRS and then have sex with women without having that appendage, you can call yourself a lesbian.:brolleyes:


I really do not think there's a little bit of "gay" in me. no...that would be too easy to comment on

[franlee]

I'm hetro now and always have been and to happy being me to ever change.

[immindy]

I am one who has concluded they are Transgender but have no plans to completly transition at this time. I do consider my self straight and am faithful to my wife . Now if I were to transition, and have SRS, I believe I would still consider my straight and would want to be with a man.

[ImJessicaNow]

Im sexually attracted to sex, with that being said I would like to try a guy out but I am not sexually attracted to men.. its hard to explain.

[Deane]

When I'm in "drab", I'm straight. When I'm in a skirt, bra, and cami, I'm still straight. I don't understand why anyone would think clothes would change that?

[Becky Blue]

No attraction to men at all ever

[Cara Lacey]

I am straight as a string, even when I'm dressed, I am all dude!

[Josie]

I'm lifelong straight.

[Majella St Gerard]

I consider myself to be straight

[Lacey New]

I like women so much that I even dress like one. Yes, I am completely hetero. I have heard the description "male lesbian" and in deference to a genetic lesbian, I will not call myself that but I would enjoy being intimate with a woman while dressed as one. I have no interest in sex with another male.

[steffigirl37]

Completely straight. Married 35 years to the same woman. 4 children. Never had a homosexual experience. Enjoy sharing my crossdressing with my wife. Never shared it with anyone else. My sexuality has been question by some people over the years, but I really can't say why. Several times I have been asked if I were gay. I will admit I do enjoy viewing other crossdressers and admire the way the dress, but I don't consider that to be gay.

[tall sam]

Straight but curious. Does that make sense?
Definitely not interested in men when not dressed but when dressed and feeling all feminine I go get this desire to be treated as a woman by a man.

[Happygirl!]

Lots of strong "straight" affirmations. How much of this is innate, and how much is conditioning? Posts about wanting to be taken as a woman when dressesed but still "straight". Thought a lot about this for myself, and not turned on by male form, but even I wonder how much of this is conditioned learned behavior, and how much is innate. What about those of us attracted to transsexuals with some of both parts?

[Ally 2112]

I not only like girls i dress like one and i am very happy with that all of this

[tictac43]

I'm straight as well 😊

[Laurana]

Totally straight. But if I was a real girl, I'm sure I'd be a lesbian. I have no attraction whatsoever to men.


You can't possibly know that.

If you were born a different gender you'd be a totally different person from the get go. Therefore you'd have a different mindset.

[CarlaWestin]

I am surely heterocentric. Definitely have no homosexual desires or attractions. But, in a submissive role no telling what might happen. I'd really need a safe word.

[Kristy 56]

Straight,but bi curious

[Steeltownfella]

Monogomous best describes it. Been bi guess I still am wife fully aware. When Im dressed in lingerie im her gurl so I guess Im a lesbian if that makes sense.

[Fiona123]

I'm straight. Though I have fantasized about gay encounters when aroused esp while en femme. IRL I would not be attracted to a male. Does that make any sense at all?

[Diane Smith]

I will avoid the "s-------" word because I'm not sure what it means as my presentation changes. But I am only attracted to biological females sexually and emotionally. Men are too rough, aren't interested in the same things as me, and smell bad. There's no way I would want to be intimate with one.

- Diane

[ellbee]

Lots of strong "straight" affirmations. How much of this is innate, and how much is conditioning? Posts about wanting to be taken as a woman when dressesed but still "straight". Thought a lot about this for myself, and not turned on by male form, but even I wonder how much of this is conditioned learned behavior, and how much is innate. What about those of us attracted to transsexuals with some of both parts?

I also wonder how many (if any) would be singing a slightly different tune had they not been married for 10, 20, 30+ years -- but instead had been free & single for a good chunk of their adult CD-ing years.

Hey, sometimes the mind can wander & stuff happens under different life circumstances, ya know. ;)


Anyway, I suppose this thread helps to prove that most here are only into GG's, and they can now stop bitching about "all these 'being with a guy' threads." :laughing: :)

[Teresa]

Krisi,
I will answer this thread like I answered that one by saying I'm bi-gender and only interested in women, I don't have problem with bi-sexual or gay , I just accept they're wired differently.

Lorileah ,
I was corrected for the misuse of the label Male lesbian, it still feels right with the way my CDing started but it was suggested that I use bi-gender as an alternative. All I can say is that's how I'm wired and and it's never changed over fifty years . I was having this conversation last night with a TS who knew a F/M TS , she was described as a Male Lesbian by her counsellors , she was a lesbian before transition.

[sara66]

Laurababe,
I was almost 40 when I met my wife. She was only the second person I ever dated. I dressed a lot before I met my wife and can say I really never have been attracted to guys.
Sara

[Seana Summer]

Love how we keep making little cliques here. Now, who like spaghetti?

Maybe its about making cliques..........but maybe its just reaffirming that we are not alone. Lots of different views here, some like spaghetti and some are intolerant of gluten:)

[Scarlett398]

Me too, Josie...Life long straight, conservative, Republican (hope that doesn't offend anyone), married and loyal to my long term wife. I have to stay in the closet with my cross dressing out of respect for her. She's conservative as well and does not like me dressing in girls clothing. So I keep all of my femme stuff hidden and out of sight. I wonder how many happily married straight cross dressers are in the same situation I'm in where you love to dress up and out of respect for your wife's feelings about it, you have to keep things about cross dressing in the closet. When dressed up in girl clothes I have no desire to be with any man at all. I guess I would be considered a lesbian while dressed up. The part about my individual cross dressing is that there is absolutely no possible way to tell that I am a guy when dressed as a girl. If I would find out how to post photos on this site, you could not tell I was a guy while dressed up. Now this took a long time learning about what clothes looked and felt right on me and how to get really good at applying makeup by watching professional videos regarding the application of makeup on line. I will always be straight, will never fool around and always be loyal and true to my wife, and will always enjoy the cross dressing side of my life. Thanks for reading my post...Scarlett

[baldy1]

I'm straight

Julie

[CarlaRenae_arkie]

Scarlett398, I am in the same situation as you. My wife is not at all supportive and I am deep in the closet. However, I am not very presentable in female mode. I hope to change that someday.

As to the question, I am straight but a a little bi-curious with other transgender females. If I were to ever fully transition, I would only be interested in women.

[Robinsinclair]

Attracted to women.

That's why I dress.

Still attracted to women when dressed.

[Dee-anna]

I am straight , i just like dressing as a girl. Dee

[DIANEF]

l If I would find out how to post photos on this site, you could not tell I was a guy while dressed up.

It's really easy. In the reply to thread box there is a row of symbols at the top, third from right is a square icon, click on that and use the browse button to select your picture and download it. Just need to make sure your image is about 30-40kb or less. I think we'd all like to see how good you look.

[Kathi-Anne]

Straight. But I've had thoughts of being submissive while being dressed;).

[sherlynn]

I'm straight. I love women but I also happen to love women's clothes.

[CartoonistChick]

I too love women & love wearing women's clothes...

...which are now MY clothes since they're now in my possession. lol! ;)

[Wendy me]

He is straight..... Wendy is a lesbian... That's simple

[sapphire209]

i am straight I just like cross dressing for sex

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I just like lingerie

[ShirleyN]

I'm absolutely straight and love women as well. For me, it about the clothes and sexuality for me doesn't really come into it TBCH. I mainly dress for comfort and relaxation and as form of expression but for no other reasons beyond that.

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yes I've had the same thoughts as well about being crossdressed with another woman. Quite exciting thoughts actually.

[IleneD]

I love and enjoy women so much....... I wanted to join The Club.
No more beautiful creature in Life than a beautiful woman.
My admiration and respect for Women goes much deeper than appreciation of superficial beauty. Women (IMO) are magic. They have spirit, powers & abilities that men can't fathom. Women have been at the core of my life (when I think about it); Mother, Wife... even my daughters. Strongly influenced by women, I have been; more so than any sports coaches, teachers or my father. I've come to appreciate how special a human life form that Woman can be.

Think that says it all.

[BillieAnneJean]

Most CDers are straight. Not a judgement, just an observation. We have room for all in our ranks. All are welcome.

I am straight. Not claiming it as an attribute. My SO is everything to me.

[Robbiegirl]

Straight as an arrow Adore women maybe a bit too much !

[Julia Welch]

Me ... I am attracted to women and their feminine clothes ...

[Lacyfem]

Wow, so many here are straight. I thought I was straight for a long time until one man I knew who had seen me dressed asked to visit me if I would dress for him which I did and was scared to death to do so. I guess it must have been like most women on their first date putting on the makeup right, selection the right dress, shoes and definitely sexy lingerie just in case. Well, he showed up and was quite a gentleman and we chatted and sipped bourbon for quite awhile and he asked how and why I dressed and if I really enjoy being a woman which I obviously said yes. Well, things progressed and he asked if he could kiss me and that was it as I knew I was meant to be a gurl. It was, without going into details a lovely night and one in which he didn't leave until morning. So I guess the answer to this question for me is, no I'm not straight and must say when dressed I really prefer a man.

[Ressie]

25,000+ members and only 90-something are straight so far!

[ellbee]

LOL, Ressie :laughing:


The rest probably just quit CD'ing. </sarcasm>

[FrannGurl]

So I guess the answer to this question for me is, no I'm not straight and must say when dressed I really prefer a man.

I can relate very well to this.
I too, thought I was straight for many years. I began dressing in my teens, although not fully at the time. After the internet came about, I met a man online who seemed interested in me and seemed like a total gentleman. We exchanged pictures and I have to admit,he was quite charming, complimenting me on my looks, ect. After chatting online for some time and talking on the phone with him a few times, I decided to take a chance and invite him over one evening. We watched a romance/comedy movie together and we ended up spending the night together. We ended up seeing each other for several years. Since then, I have had two other long term boyfriends and actually lived with one of them. I still like women, but now I lean more towards men. Its not for everyone of course, but if you are single you might find that you like it, if you're willing to take a chance.

[Jodi]

Oh yeah--totally straight. I dig women.

jodi

[Amanda Park]

Straight here. I'm not attracted to men and never have been. There are lots of reasons why I love my Amanda-side, but attracting a man is not on the list.

[Maria Darkspace]

I am completely and whole heartedly straight, even when I'm dressing. I have no sexual interest in men or male crossdressers. I worship the female body, which, I guess, is the reason I crossdress. When I'm dressing, I guess you could call me lesbian. There are times I wish I had been born female, but I feel I would still prefer women.

[Oria]

I am mostly straight. I love women, no matter how I am dressed. Occasionally I will play with a guy but unless the guy is really feminine I will not want to kiss them. I find gurls sexy but they are not my first pick.

[Julie Gaum]

Having read and recorded many hundreds of comments by those in all parts of the TG spectrum (See my more than 75 published blogs). I had first come up with some 85+ percent as hetero and the rest BI or Gay. However I noticed a good number who over the years gravitated to BI as they spent more time cross dressing. So the best guess now is roughly 80% straight and about 15% BI with a small percent gay. Also found that the majority of gay men resent the CD community as, after all, they are attracted to their own.
Julie

[L'eggs n' heels]

Straight.

[DrFabulous0]

Almost entirely straight, I am not against pushing the boundaries but only if my wife is involved.

[Karmen]

It's a hard question for me, because I consider myself straight, but in imagination or looking at the pictures and movies, I also get turned on by men in female clothes, but only if they look more feminine, basically a lady with a penis, not a usual masculan type of man.

[ronniegirl]

add me to those heterosexual males whose sexual orientation does not change whether en femme or not...I suspect that one of the reasons I enjoy crossdressing is that the female personna I create maybe the idealized version of a woman I would love to be intimate with...I suspect that there are others out there who may feel the same...now I want to be clear here..I am not saying I want to make love to myself, I want to be intimate with the idealized female I see in the mirror...so much for psychologyl 101...:heehee:

[Chelsea B]

I am straight whether drab or dressed. I love women, always have, and I suspect my desire to femulate is connected to that. It has no effect on my sexuality.

[Valery L]

I am 100% sure that I cannot be romantically involved with men, only women. However, I thought that I might be bisexual since sexually I have fantasized about being the woman in the sexual act (my partner is a man), but recently I had the opportunity to have sexual intercourse with a man while dressed, and I only felt disgust, it is something that belongs exclusively to my fantasies, and not something that I would like to experiment in real life, so maybe I could say I am completely straight.

[prene]

I think I am straight.
I have only been out with women/girls. Love them.
Guys are hard, lumpy, hairy(YUCK) and usually not very nice.
But to tell the truth when I fantasize that I am female, I have wondered what it would be like to be the girl with a guy.
I just do not have the plumbing...so I have never been there.
If I could pass I bet I would try it at least.
If I was a girl I know I would at least be with a guy because I would love to have children.
So am I straight?
Confused Prene

[dolovewell]

I'd hitchhike up to Seattle, set myself on fire and jump off the Space Needle before even considering doing something with a guy.

[Nikki.]

"the lady doth protest too much methinks."

DLW, that's how it comes across...

[TrishaLake]

Not me....:)

[Beauty Parlor Bev]

I was going to respond to the other thread and didn't. Then when I saw this thread, I thought I would respond with basically the same response that I didn't post on the other thread. Then I thought about it and decided not to......so there you go!

[Loveday]

Totally straight, but dead below the waist, so I do not know if my opinion matters. Males and male things I find very boring. Love being around women.

[Cassiek]

100% straight married to beautiful wife no desire to be with men. This also applies when I am dressed expressing my feminine side.

[Adriana Moretti]

ok I will bite....I am Bi....boys, girls, trans, whatever LOL.... its all love xoxo

[paulaprimo]

Now, who like spaghetti?

i do, i do... i love pasta, so keeping in that theme, i'm as straight as cooked spaghetti,
al dente, but still cooked! ;)

[Shely]

Paint me with a STRAIGHT brush, I only love to look and FEEL like a woman. I do play golf with men though.

[ringedjohn]

I'm straight as well. I've never found anything about men appealing. I think part of the drive to dress for me is to become the thing I'm attracted to/admire.

Me too. I just like women - and wearing their clothes.

[Marianne S]

Straight... for all practical purposes! Actually I can identify with Valery L's remark, except that I've never had (nor looked for) an "opportunity" to have sex with a man in real life. But I hope to say more about that detail in a separate, longer post.

[redtea]

emotionally Im straight
physically im straight

But my fantasies are getting pretty gay.

[kimberly c]

Straight, but when dressed like to take the role of the woman in bed.

[Milly1410]

Not my case, absolutely. En homme absolutely straight (I also have a gf), but as my femme-me, i call myself lesbian.

[Alice_2014_B]

Straight here, whether dressed or not.
Have never had any attraction towards men.
:)

[Michelle Cheli]

Very much straight. I love dressing as sexy as I can, and yet I don't wish to attract male attention. It's a conundrum.

[Lacyfem]

I've really already replied to this thread but find myself with a few questions as I've figured out when dressed I love men who love me fem. So many here are straight and love to dress as women and women dress initially to impress men but love that other women like the way they dress. However, most women if you ask them hate crossdressers as my wife does. So are you only dressing to be what? When I first dressed for a man I was nervous and had to put my makeup on right and put on the right lingerie and dress and it was fun. I also find dressing fun for just dressing. However, you dress as a woman and don't you want someone to like you dressed, so if it's not a man and you're straight are you hoping your wife or girl friend likes it as they definitely are in the minority as many married men will tell you. So my feeling, which you may not like, is that too many here do protest as think they might like the attention of a nice man when they are dressed which would be the ultimate compliment to them as a woman.

[Tracii G]

Lacy many here will say they don't dress for men but I think a lot do just because they have a fantasy about being with a man.
Getting them to admit it will never happen .
Gosh I feel so alone in this thread am I the only gay person in here?

[DIANEF]

However, you dress as a woman and don't you want someone to like you dressed, so if it's not a man and you're straight are you hoping your wife or girl friend likes it as they definitely are in the minority as many married men will tell you. So my feeling, which you may not like, is that too many here do protest as think they might like the attention of a nice man when they are dressed which would be the ultimate compliment to them as a woman.

I can't speak for others but personally when I dress I am totally uninterested if it is attractive to anyone , male or female, I do it purely because I enjoy it and for no other reason. I dress as well as I can and present as a 'typical' GG, but trying to gain attention from 'a nice man' couldn't be further from my mind.

[Steeltownfella]

Lacy many here will say they don't dress for men but I think a lot do just because they have a fantasy about being with a man.
Getting them to admit it will never happen .
Gosh I feel so alone in this thread am I the only gay person in here?

Ive been with men in the past am now married and wife knows of my bi past. We fantasies about same sex encounters and when dresses I am my wifes gurl. Being monogomous is tough for me while I explore this lingerie lifestyle as I do wonder what satisfying a male while dressed would be like. But its not worth risking a lovely lively marriage. So I am bi but monogomously a lesbian lol

[Angie G]

I'm very straight and so is my wife.:hugs:
Angie

[Janet Bern]

I am straight

[Tania]

I am straight all the way when in drab. When en femme I like to consider myself a lesbian lol.

Ditto! 😏

[dolovewell]

Lacy many here will say they don't dress for men but I think a lot do just because they have a fantasy about being with a man.
Getting them to admit it will never happen .
Gosh I feel so alone in this thread am I the only gay person in here?

Women don't dress for men.

They dress to impress other women and/or compete with other women.

[Jaime77]

Well put, and I'm with you there Carla. :)

[Lorileah]

dolove...do they? really? So lingerie and minis and heels are a throw down to women? Amazing since I was reminded last night that men are the visual creatures

[Zooey]

It's not really fair to say that women dress for other women. Women dress to convey the message we want to other people, men and women, and ourselves. When I'm at work, I dress very casually, because that's the environment in our office. When I have to talk with our legal team, I dress nicer because that's part of their way of seeing power/respect in the office and I don't want to be seen as weaker or less prepared. When my besties and I stay in, we wear pajamas. When we go wine tasting, we often dress nicer to make ourselves feel fancy. When I'm on a first date, I wear what I think will make that guy see me the way I want to be seen by him. Sometimes that's super casual, sometimes it's super put-together, sometimes in between, depending on our vibe and what kind of attraction we have for each other.

While it's true that more women than men are fashion-conscious (and that's definitely not entirely by choice), the same is true of most fashion-conscious men I know. People dress to make a statement, even if that statement is "I don't care how I'm dressed right now".

Oh, and re: the OP... I was effectively straight (95% dated women) before transition, and I'm effectively straight (95% dating men) after transition. Funny what happens when HRT starts changing the way all of your receptors for smell, etc. respond.

[Amy07]

When I dress Amy, I am open to any other things if it's safe and legal. Except in Vegas?

[Becky Blue]

Lacy many here will say they don't dress for men but I think a lot do just because they have a fantasy about being with a man.
Getting them to admit it will never happen .
Gosh I feel so alone in this thread am I the only gay person in here?

Tracii I disagree with your post, why would a guy admit to dressing up like a woman but be ashamed to admit they would like to be with a guy?

I can only speak for myself but dressing has nothing to with anything sexual, its not about Guys, GG's or TG's when I am Becky matters sexual are the last thing on my mind.

[Tracii G]

You may have missed my point Becky.
They are all supposedly straight right?

[Tina_gm]

Sexually attracted to women only. That makes me biologically hetero. Since I'm somewhere in the "other" category as far as gender identity... possibly part of the non binary crowd, I'm not sure what my sexual attraction to women only is, other than only women I guess....

[Amy Lynn3]

Been straight all my life. When dresses my interest is still in women.

[TrishaLake]

ok I will bite....I am Bi....boys, girls, trans, whatever LOL.... its all love xoxo


I have the exact same preferences...lol

[Becky Blue]

You may have missed my point Becky.
They are all supposedly straight right?

I don't believe I have Tracii, I do not agree that many at all dress because they have a fantasy about being with a man.

I am saying that if one admits to dressing as a woman its not a lot more 'embarrasing' for want of a better word to admit to being attracted to guys. So i believe that very few people dress because they have a fantasy about being with a man.

[Contessa]

I am not confused when it comes to who I want to love. I am just trans and as a transwoman I must be considered gay. No I am not a straight woman but that is because I was not a gay man. Crossdressing I don't believe changes your orientation.

[Gabriella111]

My CD is only attracted to women, even when dressed. He doesn't find men at all attractive. And he dresses in what makes him feel good, and now he considers what I've said I like when we have plans to see each other.

[Jacqueline85]

The short answer is: I'm Straight. The long answer is, like Eddie Izzard says, I'm a male lesbian.

[Tracii G]

I don't believe I have Tracii, I do not agree that many at all dress because they have a fantasy about being with a man.

I am saying that if one admits to dressing as a woman its not a lot more 'embarrasing' for want of a better word to admit to being attracted to guys. So i believe that very few people dress because they have a fantasy about being with a man.

I have read lots of posts here where guys say when they are dressed they have urges or fantasies about being with a man.
I wasn't saying all male CDers feel that way.
There are plenty who dress to impress or to the nines as they call it so who are they trying to impress?
I understand wanting to look as feminine as possible and look nice but they also know men are going to be looking and yet the straight CDer is fine with that.
If a man comes up they say it makes them feel vindicated that they pass and it makes them feel good or very womanly.
They would never admit to anyone they know in real life that they enjoyed the attention a man gave them.
I Love it when I get a man's attention and he comes up to say hi but in my case finding a gay man interested in me as a CDer is pretty slim.

[Rhonda Darling]

As a lifelong CD having strong TG feelings, but not planning on transitioning, I'm straight heterosexual when I'm in male mode, and only interested in women when in full femme mode (that would be lesbian if I were to act on it, but being happily married to an understanding and accepting woman, I have no need or desire to stray).

Now, if I were to transition fully, including GCS, I believe I would be bisexual. I can imagine myself having sex with a man if I were a woman, but cannot imagine myself, and have no desire of, having sex with a man as a man.

[Krisi]

I've been away for a few days and this thread really got off track. It was supposed to be about how many members here are straight, not who is gay or transsexual and certainly not about whether women dress for men or other women.

And if you have sex with men only when you are dressed as a woman, you are not "straight", at the very least you are bisexual.

[Ressie]

Women don't dress for men.

I read somewhere that women dress more sexy when they're ovulating. Could it be the similar for CDs? Those that dress in sexy outfits seem to have the goal of attracting men.

I might have thought I was completely straight when I was young, but now I know I'm not. My first sexual experience was with a boy, and the memory of that eventually led to curiosity - and more encounters with men.


It was supposed to be about how many members here are straight, not who is gay

and it's led to more interesting discussion. Did you want to just take a poll? Did you want only heteros to respond?

[Princess Chantal]

Thought that the majority of the heterosexual crossdressers here describe their sexual preference within the first sentence of their introductions.....

[laura.lapinski]

When you look at everything in whole, I would have to consider myself bi. I have always been straight (never had sex with another CD or male), but I have certain fantasies, and being dressed plays into it. I could give several valid reasons I have these fantasies and feelings, but what's the point? I'm not trying to convince myself or anyone of anything, so I just accept me for who I am. I can fully relate to the others who say they only have CD or male fantasies when dressed. I also know there are many who can't wrap their minds around that. I get that too. Things just are what they are. We have to take people at their word when they say they are straight (Unless evidence contradicts), for they are the best knowers of their own minds.

[Jessica S]

Put me in the Straight Column.

[Krisi]

............ and it's led to more interesting discussion. Did you want to just take a poll? Did you want only heteros to respond?

Yes. Just like in the "How many are bisexual" thread. Any comments in that thread that weren't direct responses were removed.

This wasn't intended as a sexual orientation thread, just a question of how many were straight.

Someone (you) could start a thread about sexual orientation.

[Scarlett398]

No interest in men whatsoever...

Lacy PJs

I am the same, Lacy. Not interested in men at all. Extremely happily married for many years to my sexy redhead. Out of respect for her, I don't dress up unless she will be gone all day or out of town. Even though you can't tell I am a guy when I am dressed as a girl, my wife isn't in to cross dressing so I have to keep everything in the closet. I love to dress up and look sexy and classy and don't overdo the makeup making me look like a guy in drag. I love everything about cross dressing - the excitement of shopping for the perfect skirts and tops, the buying of boots, booties, tights (black or brown), the putting on the makeup and the wig, putting together the jewelry and accessories, buying and putting on the undergarments. About the only thing I dislike about the process is the removal of the makeup and nail polish. I have found out that the best product to remove makeup is the Neutragena makeup wipes. The generic brands of these wipes don't work anywhere near as well as the Neutragena brand. Not sure about the spelling of "Neutragena" - sorry about that. As far as nail polish removal is concerned, any brand will do but I find I have to use a nail brush in addition to tissue or cotton balls to remove all of the polish.
I do wish I had more time to go out in public while dressed up. I don't go out with a group of people, I go by myself. I have only been to the local movie theatre for a few late movies but would love to stroll through a mall or some place with more people around while dressed.
But back to the original subject, I have great friends who are gay or bi but I have never had any inclination to be with anyone but my wife. When I dress up, I feel very feminine because of the way I look and because of the way my self photos turn out. But I still have no desire to be with a man. I do have a desire to be with my wife while dressed, but I know that will never happen and I have to accept that fact. I do wonder if there are any other guys out there who have a similar situation like mine. If so, I would love to hear their input or feedback from you. That's it for now and thanks a bunch for reading my post....Scarlett

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Me too, Jacqueline...Nice sexy name by the way. I'm straight too and while dressed I guess I am a male lesbian who only has a desire to be with my wife...Scarlett

[Lorileah]

Yes. Just like in the "How many are bisexual" thread. Any comments in that thread that weren't direct responses were removed.

. No they weren't there were many responses who said they were straight there

And do you mean a specific number...like maybe 7329?

[Krisi]

I meant exactly what I posted. My post and apparently many others were deleted from the "How many of you are bisexual".

[Exris]

The short answer is: I'm Straight. The long answer is, like Eddie Izzard says, I'm a male lesbian.

Pretty much my feelings exactly.

Im not here to diminish anyone else's sexuality or feelings. But those are mine. I see no chance of it changing.

Zooey's comments are interesting. And it's something I know is not at all unusual. In that once transitioned you might change.

And Im completely neutral on the subject. I wouldnt expect it to affect me that way, but I know it might. And if it did - so what? If someone's preferences change then they are only making a change that suits them.

I dont judge other people sexuality and I prefer that people dont judge mine. I know what I prefer. In fact I couldnt even face the prospect of "the other". Not because of social conventions - but because it would kill me inside.

Hope that makes sense.

[Vickie_CDTV]

Who are they trying to impress when they dress up? In some cases, it is simple, themselves.

I dress to please me, not other men. Personally, I don't believe I am even attractive to men, or anyone else... other than myself.

[Becky Blue]

There are plenty who dress to impress or to the nines as they call it so who are they trying to impress?
I understand wanting to look as feminine as possible and look nice but they also know men are going to be looking and yet the straight CDer is fine with that.
If a man comes up they say it makes them feel vindicated that they pass and it makes them feel good or very womanly.
They would never admit to anyone they know in real life that they enjoyed the attention a man gave them.
I Love it when I get a man's attention and he comes up to say hi but in my case finding a gay man interested in me as a CDer is pretty slim.

Tracii sometimes when i go out I dress to blend in, other times it may be to impress. So whom am i impressing? in order - firstly and primarily myself, secondly my friends I am out with, thirdly other people (men and women). Yes at times i have enjoyed getting some attention from guys, but I have equally enjoyed getting some attention from women.

My enjoyment of the attention is not in anyway sexual, its affirming to know that someone thinks I am attractive when dressed as a woman.

[jennifer0918]

I'm straight I cd because I like it and been doing it since I was a kid.

[Kelli Jo-ann]

I was confused when younger. I thought I may be gay. I had to be right? because everyone knows all crossdressers are gay. or so everyone said.
as I've gotten older I know for a fact that I'm not.
I am married, and love my wife dearly . she thinks I'm bi. however I have never hit on another man while dressed, even when drinking.
Kelli

[Megan182]

I thought I was straight for a while but at this point I'd say I'm bi-curious. I was kinda afraid to admit it to myself for a while and dressing actually helped me open up to the thought of liking guys as well. I've never been with a guy at all and I'm not sure if I could be romantically attracted to a guy but I'm definitely sexually attracted to other men. Being en femme only adds to this

[Stephanie Julianna]

Bi! Probably have been most of my life but did not act on it until my early 30's. I am what I am, no excuses or explanations.

[JocelynJames]

Straight and late- to this thread

[MarinaSweden]

I am. I love women as much as I like every aspect of femininity.

[Jenny22]

Ditto Megan182's comments.

[Patti Remick]

Straight. No attraction to men.

Patti

[Laura28]

Hard to say so will say bi curious, my wife says I am as well. My motto if it is pleasurable and harms no one why wouldnt you partake?

[Cheryl James]

Straight with zero attraction to men. I will admit to being curious about my feelings toward other gurls, though.

[Doctorrock30]

I am a genetic female and consider myself to be straight. I just love straight men that wear woman's clothing. Never had an attraction to women.

[mona lisa]

I am straight but at times when dressed I have had a bit of bi curiosity. But at the same time, I have no attraction to men though.

[DarthDaddicus]

I am 100% straight. That being said; if there happens to be a beautiful lady, and she happens to have a penis, she is still a lady in my eyes. My wife agrees to that statement and has encouraged me to consider finding a willing lady to join us in the future.

[renee elizabeth]

i'm straight, no matter if i'm dressed as a woman or in drab, i find nothing appealing about men at all

[DarthDaddicus]

Lots of strong "straight" affirmations. How much of this is innate, and how much is conditioning? Posts about wanting to be taken as a woman when dressesed but still "straight". Thought a lot about this for myself, and not turned on by male form, but even I wonder how much of this is conditioned learned behavior, and how much is innate. What about those of us attracted to transsexuals with some of both parts?

We should get our own thread with our own question, I suppose, because that's where I am.

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"male lesbian" is an oxymoron and very insulting to lesbians. BTW you men (since so many like to make that a point that that is what you really are) who are straight but still like women aren't in any way shape or form a lesbian, you're straight men who wear clothing designed for women who like women...otherwise known as straight. Now if you're willing to have SRS and then have sex with women without having that appendage, you can call yourself a lesbian.:brolleyes:

no...that would be too easy to comment on

I don't personally believe they could actually refer to themselves as a lesbian even if they have the SRS Back to the point; if we are born genetic males, we can not claim to be anything exclusive to a genetic female, like being a lesbian. I agree with you.

[StacyCD]

100% heterosexual--dressed or not.

[EffyJaspers]

Currently straight. While fantasies are just fantasies, if I ever decide to experiment and find that I like some of that stuff then I could change my answer to bi-sexual for sex, but I don't find men attractive at all (so likely straight with a possibility of sexual kinks). And I've never fully dressed up and went out so along those lines... no lo sé.

[PaulaQ]

Now if you'd said that transwomen didn't face other issues that women face in a misogynistic, man-centric world, you'd perhaps be on the same footing as the TERFS. For example, we don't face the threat of rape. Oh no wait, I've faced that. In fact many of us who are raped face especially savage rapes. Guys don't target us as victims of crime because we aren't real women. Oh wait, no, that's happened to me too. In fact, I worry about being out on the street after dark now. We definitely aren't talked over by men, ignored, or our input totally disregarded. Except - all those things happen to me on a routine basis now.

If you mean I should continue to be punished because I had a hellish, nightmare existence where I desperately tried to be something I just wasn't (a man), and because I missed out on both good events in a young woman's life, as well as some bad ones, then i just think you are kind of mean spirited.

Oh, to answer the question originally posed by this thread, and the logic many of you seem to use, obviously I'm arrow straight. Yup, straighter than straight. Before transition, I was married to two different women. And apparently, since my transition doesn't count, I guess the label for my sexual orientation didn't change either? So what am I? What if I date a cisgender woman now? What would you call my sexual orientation? How about if I date another trans woman? Or, as is the case for me, what if I'm engaged to a transgender (FtM) man? Am I straight in that case, because in your mind I'm a man and he's a woman? Or if I date a trans woman, are we both just a couple of gay dudes with boobs?

But don't worry much if I seem to be chiding you over your use of terminology. Hey, the CDC classifies me and my fiancé (trans woman + trans man) as if we are both just a couple of gay dudes - we are listed as "men who have sex with men" and prohibited from blood donation. Perhaps you can explain that one to me.

Oh, one last thing - something I've observed over my lifetime. People who are really straight don't talk about how straight they are. Seriously, they just don't. :)



I don't personally believe they could actually refer to themselves as a lesbian even if they have the SRS because they have never had to deal with a bloody pair of panties on some random Tuesday at the age of 13 or being thrust into a male-centric world where women are forced to adapt to things like having to sit down on a used toilet seat to pee when men can just stand and not have to share the body warmth of a complete stranger. Why in the world has there not been a urinal designed for women yet anyway? Back to the point; if we are born genetic males, we can not claim to be anything exclusive to a genetic female, like being a lesbian. I agree with you.

[DarthDaddicus]

@ PaulaQ

I certainly didn't mean to open your particular can of worms there, but I mean what I say. Those who are born and raised as boys can not claim to be anything which is regarded as strictly female. Only genetic females can be lesbian. I was born with masculine parts, so I am straight. Even though I've always felt like a lady, I am a man and I have all of the ridiculous privileges that come along with it. Life may have been harder for you in your particular case, but for the most part, men have it too easy to go around claiming they can be anything a woman can be. That's especially true because women have been denied rights equal to men for too long for them to have to tolerate a male coming around claiming they are a female when they most certainly are not.

[Zooey]

Neato. There are actually parts of what you wrote that are almost sensible, but you veered off course around the middle.

I'll be sure to let all those men know to stop oppressing me like other women, because it doesn't count for their scoreboard according to a dude in a dress on the Internet.

[Aunt Kelly]

What would you call my sexual orientation?

Somewhere along a spectrum. Seriously. Labels are so often inadequate and/or inaccurate. Yes, they're handy. I am a "cross dresser", but that doesn't define my sexual preference. Nor does it, really, define my gender identity. Not all the time. It's just a handy term for the guy that likes to be Kelly sometimes.
If one is comfortable adopting a label, that's fine. To be sure, there is frequently some comfort in that kind of "conformity", but we should never force others into this or that box, nor should we tell them that they can't use this or that label because they don't fit the "standard" (or your particular) definition. By the same token, I bristle every time I hear the expression "just a [insert label here]", referring either to others or one's self.

[Krisi]

Getting a bit off topic aren't we?

The term "male lesbian" would be a topic for a different thread.

[Mickitv]

Definitely bisexual

[ReineD]

Words that we have traditionally used, in the cis-world, to describe someone’s sexual orientation cannot be used in the trans-world with the same understanding. Words like "straight", "gay", "lesbian" traditionally describe not only a person’s sexual orientation, they also describe a person’s gender identity.

The cis-world presumes that a person’s gender identity matches their birth sex and in this scenario, the following words have these meanings:


Straight: the attraction of one sex to another.
Gay: the attraction of one male-sex person to another male-sex person.
Lesbian: the attraction of one female-sex person to another female-sex person.
Bi: the attraction of one sex to both the other sexes.



In the trans/CD-world, these situations exist:



Male-sex presenting as a woman, attracted to male-sex presenting as a man.
Transitioned female (with new vagina), attracted to male-sex presenting as a man.
Female-sex presenting as a man, attracted to male-sex presenting as a man.
Transitioned male (with bottom surgery), attracted to male-sex presenting as a man.


Male-sex presenting as a woman, attracted to male-sex presenting as a woman.
Transitioned female (with new vagina), attracted to male-sex presenting as a woman.
Female-sex presenting as a man, attracted to male-sex presenting as a woman.
Transitioned male (with bottom surgery), attracted to male-sex presenting as a woman.


Male-sex presenting as a woman, attracted to transitioned female (with new vagina).
Transitioned female (with new vagina), attracted to transitioned female (with new vagina).
Female-sex presenting as a man, attracted to transitioned female (with new vagina).
Transitioned male (with bottom surgery), attracted to transitioned female (with new vagina).


Male-sex presenting as a woman, attracted to female-sex presenting as a woman.
Transitioned female (with new vagina), attracted to female-sex presenting as a woman.
Female-sex presenting as a man, attracted to female-sex presenting as a woman.
Transitioned male (with bottom surgery), attracted to female-sex presenting as a woman.


Male-sex presenting as a woman, attracted to female-sex presenting as a man.
Transitioned female (with new vagina), attracted to female-sex presenting as a man.
Female-sex presenting as a man, attracted to female-sex presenting as a man.
Transitioned male (with bottom surgery), attracted to female-sex presenting as a man.


Male-sex presenting as a woman, attracted to transitioned male (with bottom surgery.
Transitioned female (with new vagina), attracted to transitioned male (with bottom surgery.
Female-sex presenting as a man, attracted to transitioned male (with bottom surgery.
Transitioned male (with bottom surgery), attracted to transitioned male (with bottom surgery.


Male-sex presenting as a woman, attracted to any combination of male-sex presenting as a man, male-sex presenting as a woman, transitioned female (with new vagina).
Male-sex presenting as a woman, attracted to any combination of female-sex presenting as a woman, female-sex presenting as a man, transitioned male (with bottom surgery).


Transitioned female (with new vagina), attracted to any combination of male-sex presenting as a man, male-sex presenting as a woman, transitioned female (with new vagina).
Transitioned female (with new vagina), attracted to any combination of female-sex presenting as a woman, female-sex presenting as a man, transitioned male (with bottom surgery).


Female-sex presenting as a man, attracted to any combination of male-sex presenting as a man, male-sex presenting as a woman, transitioned female (with new vagina).
Female-sex presenting as a man, attracted to any combination of female-sex presenting as a woman, female-sex presenting as a man, transitioned male (with bottom surgery).


Transitioned male (with bottom surgery), attracted to any combination of male-sex presenting as a man, male-sex presenting as a woman, transitioned female (with new vagina).
Transitioned male (with bottom surgery), attracted to any combination of female-sex presenting as a woman, female-sex presenting as a man, transitioned male (with bottom surgery).


Male-sex presenting as a man, attracted to male-sex presenting as a woman.
Male-sex presenting as a man, attracted to a transitioned female (with new vagina).
Male-sex presenting as a man, attracted to female-sex presenting as a man,.
Male-sex presenting as a man, attracted to a transitioned male (with bottom surgery).


Female-sex presenting as a woman, attracted to male-sex presenting as a woman.
Female-sex presenting as a woman, attracted to a transitioned female (with new vagina).
Female-sex presenting as a woman, attracted to female-sex presenting as a man,.
Female-sex presenting as a woman, attracted to a transitioned male (with bottom surgery).



Can you all see what the problem is here? In the trans-world,we need to stop trying to use words that describe at the same time, a person’s gender ID and their sexual orientation. We need simply to say, "I’m attracted to my partner". :)

... or, we need to come up with 40+ new words. I didn't even get into the "sometimes" scenarios, as in "I'm attracted to "x" while dressed, but "y" while not dressed".

[Tina_gm]

That darned vowel, and sometimes Y lol. My response was sort of what you are talking about. I'm sexually attracted to women, I didn't label it.

[Lorileah]

we're 180+ responses into this. The OP can define "straight" otherwise the discussion of the variants continues. Reine has listed options. Is a crossdresser who likes men while dressed "straight"? I would say the TSs here who have responded are "straight" in that they like men.

OP, do you wish to amend your question and make it clearer?

[PaulaQ]

Words that we have traditionally used, in the cis-world, to describe someone’s sexual orientation cannot be used in the trans-world with the same understanding. Words like "straight", "gay", "lesbian" traditionally describe not only a person’s sexual orientation, they also describe a person’s gender identity.

The cis-world presumes that a person’s gender identity matches their birth sex and in this scenario, the following words have these meanings:


Straight: the attraction of one sex to another.
Gay: the attraction of one male-sex person to another male-sex person.
Lesbian: the attraction of one female-sex person to another female-sex person.
Bi: the attraction of one sex to both the other sexes.



In the trans/CD-world, these situations exist:



Male-sex presenting as a woman, attracted to male-sex presenting as a man.
Transitioned female (with new vagina), attracted to male-sex presenting as a man.
Female-sex presenting as a man, attracted to male-sex presenting as a man.
Transitioned male (with bottom surgery), attracted to male-sex presenting as a man.
...



Can you all see what the problem is here? In the trans-world,we need to stop trying to use words that describe at the same time, a person’s gender ID and their sexual orientation. We need simply to say, "I’m attracted to my partner". :)

... or, we need to come up with 40+ new words. I didn't even get into the "sometimes" scenarios, as in "I'm attracted to "x" while dressed, but "y" while not dressed".

It's actually much simpler if you simply allow that someone's gender identity is more real than their so-called biological sex. (This notion of biological sex as a binary totally erases intersex people, by the way.) This would imply that trans women are women, trans men are men, and a straight trans woman is attracted to male identified people, a gay transman is attracted to male identified people, a lesbian is attracted to female identified people, etc.

The trouble with saying "I'm attracted to my partner" is that it totally erases gender and sexual minorities. This may not seem like a big deal if you are a cis-het person, but believe me, as a member of a GSM, erasure is awful. It does, in fact, kill people.


I certainly didn't mean to open your particular can of worms there, but I mean what I say. Those who are born and raised as boys can not claim to be anything which is regarded as strictly female.

I guess, though, the party line here is that trans women are still men, and trans men are still women?

Should I be able to have an "F" on my driver's license? Should I be able to use a women's restroom? If I go to jail, should I be housed with the men? (This would be really dangerous for me since I have a vagina!) Should an employer be able to fire me since I won't meet their dress code standards for men? (I don't even look like a man when I'm wearing men's clothing, btw.) In fact should I have any rights at all?

You seem to be implying that all trans women are just men. This is a really mean thing to say to all of the trans women on this forum. If you meant something else - and I don't see how to interpret what you've said and clarified now any other way - I'd love to hear it.

[Lorileah]

however: I will ask that we get back on the OP's question of "are you straight" Thanks

[ReineD]

Yes, I'm straight. And so is my SO. One of my SO's favorite videos: :)

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[XdresserAshley]

Straight here too.

[CourtneyJamieson]

I fall into ReineD's "sometimes" category. I am attracted to "x" while dressed but attracted to "y" while not dressed.

[Samantha2015]

Men are yucky hairy apes .....I know, I'm one most of the time. :D
I will admire a good looking CD but that's where it ends.
I'm only attracted to gg's.

[Samantha54]

What a question. I would consider myself bi. I love women and making love with one. I also like making love with a woman with me dressed as woman. I do have fantasies of be with a man, BUT with conditions. He has to be smooth, little or no body hair, no a hard masculine looking man, a bit softer than most.

Stunning picture Samantha 2015!

Samantha 54

[Andrea2656]

Straight

[Krisi]

we're 180+ responses into this. The OP can define "straight" otherwise the discussion of the variants continues. Reine has listed options. Is a crossdresser who likes men while dressed "straight"? I would say the TSs here who have responded are "straight" in that they like men.

OP, do you wish to amend your question and make it clearer?

I thought I made it pretty clear. I was assuming I was asking MTF crossdressers. I didn't think I had to specify that because I posted in the MTF crossdressers section, not the transsexual section. If it needs clarification, here it is revised:

For MTF crossdressers only, how many are "straight" (sexually attracted to women only)?

[NicoleScott]

Krisi, I sense your frustration. Forum rules allow you to direct questions or topics for discussion to specific groups, and ask those who don't fall into the specified group to refrain from replying. "How many are straight males..." seems clear to me. It's a simple question complicated by those who don't identify as straight males.
My answer: I'm a straight male whose sexual orientation (and gender identity) doesn't change when I crossdress.

[Krisi]

Thank you. It would be simpler if this forum supported polls. Straight? Gay? Bisexual?

[ReineD]

Krisi, your poll would still be skewed for the reasons I tried to explain in my rather long post above (which was an attempt to make a point). You take it that for CDers, "straight" means an attraction to women. But in your poll, there would still be a number of non-TS people who would think themselves same-sex attracted because they are still attracted to their wives when dressed. And if they're attracted to men while dressed, they might well reply "straight". Also, there are people whose attraction changes according to how they're dressed.

It gets really confusing when putting it terms of "straight", "gay", or "bi". Best to ask if they're attracted to men or women. Or if they say they're bi, are they always attracted to both regardless of how they're dressed, or does "both" mean it changes from one to the other depending on the presentation. And then how does one classify an attraction to another CDer, if the responder believes the other CDer is a woman when dressed.

Not wanting to be flippant, just saying we need to find words that don't describe a gender identity at the same time as a sexual attraction if you want an accurate sense of who our members are attracted to.

[Lorileah]

I was assuming I was asking MTF crossdressers.

For MTF crossdressers only, how many are "straight" (sexually attracted to women only)?

Update noted: Please everyone reply in accordance to OP

As to the assumption, if you read the FAQs you will note this section is open to EVERYONE. It is the main section of the site and has no restrictions as to your or any person's gender identity or make up.

[NicoleScott]

I agree that every sex and gender combination being attracted to every sex and gender combination might benefit from new terms to describe all those kinds of relationships. But I still think the question is simple and should get simple answers. Maybe because my square peg fits nicely into the that square hole of a question. I am a straight male (attracted to women only) whose subject of attraction doesn't change when I crossdress. That is, no, I am not attracted to men when I crossdress. The answer to the question is either "yes, me" or "no, not me". Gender identity isn't part of the question or the answer.
For me, I don't think about my attraction to someone when I'm crossdressed. I'm "in the moment" of enjoying my dressup session.

[jennifer0918]

I'm straight when I'm dressed still attracted to woman,I wonder sometimes if I would have been born female if I would have been a lesbian? Who knows .

[Mark B]

sorry to bring up a old post. But I am straight. I had always told my wife that "I was a lesbian trapped in a man's body" this was before she knew I was a CD. We are currently just keeping everything at home. But when we do go out (soon) I will present myself as a man wearing women's clothes. Easy since I shave my head. Actually I think I am homophobic as I don't fell comfortable around gay men that we just met. We have some old friends that are gay, but at first it took me a while to warm up to them.

[joanna4]

Straight but I do have gay tendencies when fantasizing

[Raychel]

100% straight here. Not much more to elaborate on then that. Doesn't matter how I am dressed still all the same.

[Julie MA]

Bisexual, but prefer women, even though they are so much more work.

[Amanda Katharine]

I consider myself translesbian. Totally love feeling like a woman and immensely enjoy the concept of being intimate with my fiancée as a woman. Fortunately she accepts and indulges me in ways such as calling me by my femme name if I'm in femme mode or addressing me as a woman (not going into gory details as this isn't the place for it).

[Nonya Biznis]

straight here

[lisa_vin]

Count me in as straight!

[JessicaL]

I consider myself totally straight: Don't want to be a woman, have no interest in men. Only a guy who enjoys transformation.

[sabrinaedwards]

I am hetro sexual. That being said I do frequent gay clubs, simply because they are typically open to other life styles such as cross dressing. I do get hugs from the gay men, but that does nothing for me, it is just a friendship thing.
Love, Sabrina

[nikinylons]

What Scarlett said, except my wife loves that she got a 2 for 1 deal. What a great thread!


Me too, Josie...Life long straight, conservative, Republican (hope that doesn't offend anyone), married and loyal to my long term wife. ...

[delabole]

I am straight, married with two grown-up kids. We are conservative, and my wife even more so than me. There is no way that she would tolerate my cross dressing, and I have to keep it secret. I feel bad about this, but the truth would devastate her. However, I do feel that I have a feminine side that was crushed as a kid by a brutish father and school, and for my sanity it has to find expression.

Although I love wearing frillies, and skirts (when my wife isn't around) especially topped with a nice fluffy jumper, I am not at all interested in gay sex but would be OK going to a gay club and socialising as long as I was sure that I wouldn't be dragged into having gay sex, which would horrify me. Hugs are perfectly OK but I'd have to be treated as a 'good boy who doesn't ...'. I don't even mind being being naked, but no sex please!

[Tasha McIntyre]

100% straight in 100% of situations, and happily married with children. I just happen to like wearing skirts :)

[Katie Louise]

Actually, the meme above post says it all.

[ShirleyN]

Completely 1,000% straight here too ladies. I've always been attracted to women (and still am!)

[Fiona123]

I am mtf transgender & attracted exclusively to females.

[Tina81]

Straight. Just love the feeling of wearing women's clothes and shoes.

[equestrifemme]

Happily married to understanding wife and straight. But I do have bisexual fantisies when dressed up sometimes and that's all they ever will be.

[Jaycee]

I'm a closeted M2F cross-dresser and I've been married for over 25 years. I love women, especially wearing women's clothes and painting my nails. I've never been with a man and at times I've had fantasies but have never acted on them - maybe I'm too old to try new things.

[XemmaX]

yeah im straight i suppose and i am in a long term relationship with a woman. never really had fantasies of being with a man or anything while dressed.

[Evie82]

I'm bi/pansexual - meaning I'm attracted to what I'm attracted to. I don't usually bother going into much detail cos most people get confused, but that's about the size of it. My partner is the same.

[NancySue]

Put me in the straight category. Married to a wonderful, accepting and helping wife. Love to dress completely. She's my advisor. A real blessing. Two children. Yes, I told her before we said "I do". I recommend it.

[Leslie Mary S]

Straighter than the day is long.

[Cassiek]

Straight as an arrow. Love the feeling of being partially or fully dressed as a woman but only desire being with one woman being by beautiful wife. All this despite my very strong conservative views. Yes I am very open minded.

[joandher]

I'm straight 100%

[FrankieB]

Straight.
And stay attracted to women when dressed.

[Marianne S]

We are conservative, and my wife even more so than me. [...] I don't even mind being being naked, but no sex please!

As the old show title went, "No Sex Please, We're British!" (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/No_Sex_Please,_We're_British) :D

[CarolBrown]

Also straight... I have absolutely no desire to go with a man...

[Confucius]

My sexual orientation = 100% straight
My gender identification = 100% male (Yes, I'm just a man in a dress)
Gender dysphoria = Yes, especially during my childhood. I thought girls were given all the privileges. I thought my mother would love me more if I was born a girl. I thought that all parents preferred girls. As a result, I've been crossdressing for as long as I can remember.

[HollyGreene]

Dead straight.

[susancheerleader]

I am straight too

[Lauri K]

Bad girls will bend and straight girls will break, so I am bent and twisted but not never broken

[cheryl]

Straight as an arrow, only crooked when my heels get out of control!

[Heather Anne]

I am as straight 100% heterosexual guy as I can get. Have never ever considered anything else even when dressed en femme.

[Jessica Thompson]

100% straight!

[leotard fan]

i am sexually attracted to women only...

[Annemarie Dutch]

Used to be 100% straight, but sometimes I am confused. Maybe 99% for now 😜

[Abbey11]

No interest in men sexually what so ever

[osteph]

Straight.

[evadan]

Totally straight and always will be.

[sweetdreams]

Straight as an arrow. Never had the urge to go in a different direction.

[michelemcd55]

I thought I had replied, guess I didn't. I am long time married to a very supportive, understanding spouse and I loved our sex. Unfortuately, she is disabled and has been ill for a long time so that part of our relationship is over. I am bisexual but have practiced monogamy and an affair just doesn't seem right. However, I would really like to meet a man I am attracted and go for it. Haven't been with a man, actually a teen friend, since my teen years, before my SO.

[Karen G]

Straight all the way.

[CDRMolly]

straight,Love being dressed,but only desire to be with women.

[hotskirt]

I'm straight. If I was a women I would be Lesbian, because I only like women.

[lpjamey]

Ok this may be long but to me the question is complicated. I'm totally in amazement of women . everything about them turns me on. I've been dressing since I was a kid and its always their beauty. All of the curves, ,smooth lines, , breast and amazing ass! I've always wanted to have very large breast. I got this from my father's playboy collection. My wife never knew about my dressing until many years after being married to me.we were in a stretch of many years of sexless marriage and I had a affair that she found out about.we made it through this but are stilled strained. She then found my stash of cd stuff and the balloons and large bra freaked her out! So 12 years later many things have happened still sexless and I want to be with my wife. 2 times I have connected with a man just to see if I was more then a crossdresser and it was fun but I want to be with women mostly my wife. I don't consider myself as gay, bi maybe could I be a lesbian, hell yes

[Kristīne89]

Im stright, but i like to dress up to:) i want to try with a cute CD girl somtimes;)

[jessi]

I am straight, and I have no attraction to men.

Probably some people assume I am gay or have gender issues. Sometimes, people take me as female ("ma'am", "miss") when I am dressed in typical male clothing, even after interacting with them. This may be because of mannerisms or my body shape. It's frustrating because I'd rather appear male. I work out, I have good clothes because of my job, and do my best to put forward a competent male image. And I love women, love how they look, act, and smell, love being with them and enjoy romance and sex with them.

I dated a woman who, as I found out after some time together, identified as bisexual. She told me several times that when she was around me, she always felt like she was with another woman. She knew that I was male but felt like I was her girlfriend. Hearing this unsettled me. She said it was my "feminine energy", which still baffles me despite my reading, since books and articles lean heavily on ersatz Eastern mysticism rather than science. I wasn't cross-dressing at the time and never brought it up; for me I feel no need when in a satisfying, intimate relationship. Admittedly, her words stay on my mind when I am getting to know a new potential romantic partner.

[Patty]

Me 100%. Love the female!!

[Antron III]

Totally straight without a doubt. But not "alpha". I've always been most comfortable being first mate and not the captain in work and personal relationships.