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[GBJoker]

I've been told by many here on the site that I most likely will not receive any help on any aspect of this unless or until I provide more information about myself to others. Thus, my question: How much knowledge about myself would be sufficient?

[Peggie Lee]

1.4 million trans people in the U. S. alone, with 1.4 million stories, we are all different and it's very difficult to give general advice that has any meaning without knowing the other person. We can only offer what has worked for us in a similar situation but without something to go on there's nothing we can say that would mean anything to you.

[phylis anne]

Hi gbjoker,
as the other poster said you have to willing to bare it so to speak ,the majority of the girls here iin the t/g section have seen it all ,experienced it all so it is not likely you will surprise them with your questions , if you like my self are new to the world of experiencing t/g issues ,then you have come to the right place no one here is intentionally mean although to a new person it may seem so but many on here are very upfront in their responses ,I too experienced some of this too but once I realized I needed to step back and read the posting I found in most cases people were kidding with me in a way I took as snarky ,in other cases when I did not commuinicate in a realistic manner they called me out post haste ! so hop to it tell us who you are , what your desires are , your goals ,your concerns etc oh and most importantly THICKEN YOUR SKIN WITH A COAT OF MUD ask me how I know that :heehee:
hugs and good luck phylis anne

[LeaP]

If you want to talk about hormones, you have to provide enough about your health, circumstances, insurance, doctor, etc. to have an intelligent conversation.

Coming out? Need goals, timing, potential audience, job circumstances, etc.

Hair removal? Hair type, color, and density, budget, ability to travel, pain tolerance, etc.

Pick whatever topic(s) you like and provide enough context for an intelligent and helpful conversation. The more relevant context you provide, the better the chances that someone else has dealt with the same topic with the same constraints and concerns.

Think about it. If someone asks "how do I get a job?" ... but won't say what they've done, talk about their education, willingness to train or relocate, physical constraints as applicable, income requirements,and whatever else pertains to THEIR job search, what kind of answer do you think you'll get?

Without context in this forum, you'll (legitimately) get an answer like "no one can give you an answer ... see a therapist, doctor ..." Followed by "thread closed."

[Rianna Humble]

How much knowledge about myself would be sufficient?

However much is needed to engage in a dialogue.

Ask a positive question, give enough information about your circumstances and goals, then answer questions or respond to suggestions.

[KellyJameson]

Besides Lea's points there are also the consequences of supporting and encouraging someone to transition whose life is destroyed and possibly commits suicide because they transitioned.

This is first and foremost a site for crossdressers. Most crossdressers are heterosexual men who emulate women as a mixture of sexual fetish and adoration of women along with some who clearly have mommy issues.

I knew nothing about these types of crossdressers until I joined this forum. I only knew of gay drag queens and trans girls. On this site it is very risky to support people who want to transition because it is very likely they are/were straight guys who came out of a crossdressing environment.

When they transition they are very different from the girls I know. Caitlyn Jenner is a good example of this.

Transitioning can destroy a life just as easily as it can save one.

Anyone with a moral conscience and an understanding of the risks would be cautious about giving advice or supporting someone on a forum without having a personal relationship with that person.

I know of two people on this forum who have transitioned and it does not appear to have helped and has likely made things worse for them.

The dangers of making a mistake are not talked about nearly enough.

Without having a very clear sense of the person you are talking with how can you avoid the danger of supporting someone in transitioning that should not be encouraged ?

I was very naïve when I joined this forum. It never in a million years would have occurred to me that someone who is not a woman would transition, but that is exactly what I have seen and the devastating consequences because of it.

[GBJoker]

All righty. I'll keep all that in mind.

[jentay1367]

All righty. I'll keep all that in mind.


and of course, you're welcome, for the time all these Ladies took to answer your query. quid pro quo goes a long way in life regarding receiving what you want and need from folks.

[Emma Beth]

I would also like to add that asking for resource materials to go along with your questions can help a lot. I do not recommend relying on just one source of information to answer any question.

While some are more knowledgeable than others, we all are quite human and may not remember all the details. Reading articles and reports from reputable sources will go a long way to enlightening. And no one here will knowingly point you in the direction of bad information. (Subject to differing points of view and opinion.)

[GBJoker]

Well, since I'm not willing to reveal anything about myself to people. I guess I won't be getting much help from this site. Oh wells. At least that has now been clarified to me. Thanks all.

[Megan G]

All the advice in the world will never help you until you help yourself.....

[phylis anne]

Well, since I'm not willing to reveal anything about myself. I guess I won't be getting much help from this site. Oh wells. At least that has now been clarified to me. Thanks all.

This is the 2nd time you have posted this either you are totally clueless as to what we have offered here or you are a troll if you really want help here than bare your soul if not --------

[jentay1367]

Well, since I'm not willing to reveal anything about myself to people. I guess I won't be getting much help from this site. Oh wells. At least that has now been clarified to me. Thanks all.

Does this mean you'll no longer be regaling us with your baiting, senseless posts? Really, it's quite obvious you're crying out for help, it may just be you're seeking it out in the wrong venue and for the wrong reasons. You should seek out a therapist and share your feelings of isolation and persecution with them. You may find it opens doors to all kinds of new and enlightening avenues. But frankly, your tact here is really not helping you solve anything. And I say that with your goodwill in mind. Good luck.

[Nigella]

and as the OP has decided we cannot or will not help, thread is done