R u into the social "Trans life style"?

[docrobbysherry]

I know a lot of trans. Met a lot of trans. Seen many more at national events. They meet up often. The ones that have the time and money travel all over the country to hang with the T friends they've met at events. :drink:

There's a local LA/OC Calif. group of girls I see regularly. Maybe I go out once or twice a month. Because I don't feel as comfortable out dressed as they do. Many live as women and others r CD's. Only dressing when out with other girls. Many r continually out socializing with other T girls. They drive all over LA and Orange county to meet up for dinner and drinks multiple times a week. :hugs:

Others drive between states or fly all over the country to socialize with their girlfriends. Pics show up on my FB page of the same girls; in Frisco one week, Vegas the next, and, the East Coast the following month. Posting pics of their stunning selves with their beautifully presented T friends. Usually taken in dramatic and exciting clubs and nite spots. I think of them as the truly "beautiful socialites" of the trans community.:battingeyelashes:

I know some of u, if not active in the social trans life style, must know some who r?:straightface:

[dolovewell]

No. I kno that there r CDs & TGs that like 2 interact with other CDs & TGs & b social but that is not 4 me. I like 2 keep thing 2 myself and do my own thing when I am out. U may ask. Y? I have many reasons. 1, I only would consider hanging out with CDs & TGs my own age. 2, it is 2 risky as there r 2 many creeps on the net. How can I trust them? I would not want 2 risk meeting up w/ a creeper. 3, it just doesn't seem appealing 2 me. I dont kno. If I were to hang out w/ ppl when dressed I'd probably want 2 hang out w/ cis women. That's just me. Every1 is different.

[Micki_Finn]

I've never really thought of trans as a lifestyle. Are you saying someone who wants to transition and spend her days gardening and playing with her grand children isn't living a "trans lifestyle"? I wasn't aware that being trans meant you had to jetset and go to clubs. Yes that's a lifestyle, but I don't see how that has ANYthing to do with gender or gender identity.

[docrobbysherry]

I guess u missed the "Social" part of my post, Micki?:straightface:

Quite a number of the T's I mentioned live as women. Or, wish to.

[nonameyet1234]

Personally I think I'd be most comfortable going out to a bar or club with a group of CDs and/or T's. I just can't manage to find one in my area. I wouldn't feel comfortable going out one on one with someone I didn't know due to the potential creeper factor, but meeting a group would be ideal I think. The only group I have found in my area is more of a support group and seems a bit more formal than I'd be interested in.

[Teresa]

Sherry,
I only visit one venue local to me but I could visit two more and attend a dining out night, if I had the total freedom in my situation . Through the forum a member in France has invited me and another member to join her. Being able to socialise while dressed is very special, I'm only sorry it hasn't happened sooner.

Beautiful socialites, I'm not so sure, as they saying goes beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. To me it's fulfilling an inner need it just feels natural !

[Adriana Moretti]

all that glitters isnt gold....

[2B Natasha]

I don't think I have " hung " with another CD or Trans person in about two years or so. I mostly hang with my friends or my wife or relatives. Go to the movies or theatre or shopping or dinner or all of the above. Now I am sure hat trans folk are nice enough and so are the Cd's. But having one thing to connect with just doesn't cut it for me. Hanging with just one group seems so shallow to me. Still to each their own.

[GBJoker]

I know there's a really big transgender... group/club/ I dunno what, in the city that I live in, but I've never made any attempt to contact them. Nor have I ever been aware of any one on the TG spectrum near me.

[Rogina B]

Quite a number of the T's I mentioned live as women. Or, wish to.

I know of a couple of the ones you speak about. But the two that I know of lead a selectively closeted lifestyle. They do all their playing and showing off away from their business world and associates.So Vegas and ski resorts,etc are the places they play and no one knows their real names there. And they look good playing and take and post lots of pictures of it. I live an out life and everybody knows my name and where to find me and what I do,etc..Not the way these "socialites" conduct theirs.

[Kate Simmons]

Jet setters in frocks RS? Whatever floats your yacht I guess. :battingeyelashes::)

[ellbee]

I've never really thought of trans as a lifestyle. Are you saying someone who wants to transition and spend her days gardening and playing with her grand children isn't living a "trans lifestyle"? I wasn't aware that being trans meant you had to jetset and go to clubs. Yes that's a lifestyle, but I don't see how that has ANYthing to do with gender or gender identity.

You'd be surprised. Some make this like their *whole* life.


I used to hang with a drag queen who fit the bill -- actually, it was probably more of the "gay thing" she did, but the intertwined drag part was also quite present. It's like their entire identity, every waking moment. It's actually kind of sad, IMO. And from others' perspectives, it does get a little annoying to be with them after a while, and not want to be around them as much anymore.

And don't get me wrong: It's great for them to get involved the way they do. But it's like: Damn, girl.. pick up a little hobby on the side or something, so you can get away from it all for a bit & recharge your batteries, and expand your horizon a little, so you're not this tedious one-track mind.



Anyway, I've socialized with all kinds while en femme... Men, GG's, hetero, gay, CD's, drag queens, gender-fluid. No TS's, though (at least not on a personal level -- I'm sure I've been in the same bar/club as them, heh).

However, here's the thing: I'm fine if a friend/acquaintance wants to present as female, along with me in public-- but *only* if it's at an LGBT venue, or Halloween stuff if a hetero venue.


And admittedly, it's for "selfish" reasons. I'd try hard as heck not to get read/clocked, especially as I got older & more experienced. I'd prefer to be viewed as a GG as much/often as I could, and to experience as much as possible as a GG would... Or at the very least, as someone who's transitioning, and not just as some "dude in a dress." (And I'm speaking how a "normal" would probably view it, keep in mind. No disrespect to anyone reading this.)

So, in order for me to stack the deck as heavily in my favor, I'd prefer not to be around another dressed CD'er. Because it's at that point that the general public starts scrutinizing the rest of the associated group, including myself. I really don't want the CD'er to blow my cover while out in hetero vanilla land -- I'm able to sometimes do that just fine on my own, thanks. :laughing:


I suppose one could argue that it's kind of jerky of me. At the same time, I have my very valid reasons. And besides, I'd prefer not to blow *their* cover. See how that can work both ways? ;)

[Teresa]

Laura,
Why does blowing your cover or theirs really matter , if they are not only CDers but friends as well. Some other commemts appear to suggest you may be ashamed to be seen with another CDer, if they are good company why does it matter. We do have the same male conversations but then the CDing side puts far more humour into the more femme conversations, besides that I find it good to talk to the wives and partners, their presence does keep things on a nice level .

We also support each other, I was a new member less than a year ago but now I can pass on some support to a CDer just coming out, besides it's also good to get the views of the TS members .

[Ressie]

No, I don't have free time or money to spend to socialize on that scale as a CD. But, I have met CDs that kind of fit into that group. I have socialized with other CDs, TSs, but not too often and it's been closer to home. It's a fun scene meeting others and hearing their stories. I'd love to do more of it if I could.

[ellbee]

Some other commemts appear to suggest you may be ashamed to be seen with another CDer...

Really has nothing to do with being ashamed, because I'm not.

And I didn't say I hated it when they dressed in vanilla world -- just that I preferred it when I was the only one.

It goes deeper than what it might appear. And honestly, discussing something like this would probably belong better on the NB sub-forum. Perhaps I'll start a thread there on it at some point.


Regardless, you probably won't find me attending meetings at a hotel and/or joining up with a bunch of dressed CD'ers in a restaurant or something. Nothing wrong with those who do -- just not my thing. :)

[Teresa]

Laura,
I was referring to other member's comments about feeling ashamed .