Told my son about my crossdressing

[Billy]

My son is home from college. As mentioned in other threads, my children are very accepting of people. I do many projects with my son and the last thing I want to be concerned about is my shirt not covering when I bend over. When I work I work and I see no reason to deal with this issue. We were discussing gender, political correctness, and crossdressing. I told him I got rid of all my male briefs and now wear panties. He said, "yeah sure dad." I explained that I was serious and told him about discussions I had with his mother. We discussed and he agreed that there is discrimination in regards to male clothing. The conversation didn't phase him one way or the other and was simply information. I did ask him to not tell his girlfriend or sister since my wife didn't want people to know. I felt that my son needed to know because I know he would eventually see the panties if he hadn't already. Yesterday we changed an alternator on a 1970 3/4 ton 4x4 in the cold. Couple days ago we replaced knock sensors in his 2000 Yukon. Bending over, standing up, reaching this way or that and worried about exposure is not something I want to be concerned with. If it were up to me I wouldn't care who knew. I would like the freedom to dress in whatever I want whenever I want.

[Micki_Finn]

Kids these days are growing up with a very different attitude towards gender identity than we experienced when we were young. It's very encouraging.

[Tracy Irving]

It isn't fun to have to limit your movement and always be thinking about exposure. I wear bikini style panties in summer. They sit low and never show over my shorts. When the weather cools they get put away and the granny panties come out.

[Jenny22]

Billy, did you tell him that you wore ONLY panties, or did you fully reveal?

[Lana Mae]

Congrats on coming out to your son! I am out to mine and feel good about it as he is totally accepting! It means I (and my wife) raised him right! Hugs Lana Mae

[Billy]

I would say it was a partial full reveal. I told him that I thought skirts were comfortable. I expressed my dislike for male pants. Told him I purchased female slacks and modeled them for his mother. Told him how comfortable they were. Not afraid to tell him anything. Just told him enough to keep things stable. I didn't know if he saw me wearing panties and pantyhose over the last days. He knows I would accept him for who he is regardless of who that is. Very strong relationship with this son. I have nothing to hide. I would tell him anything if he asked. He will not and does not judge. Great kid.

[Jaylyn]

Billy you are tougher than me... It was too dang cold yesterday for me to do anything outside except break ice so animals could water. Also I'm not going to tell my son. He is a one way thinker and it would be his way or the highway type guy. I really think he'd never speak to me again. We have a good relationship but it's all manly type so why rock his boat. Every one has to live in different ways and every one has different situations. You did right it sounds in telling your son as it sounds like he is old enough to understand and will still keep you close. I do share with my son in that we rebuilt an old pickup, but not in the cold.... Lol keep enjoying the freedom to dress and the good feelings it gives us.

[Gabriella111]

That's great, Billy. So glad you had this experience with your son. Hopefully your wife will come around to you being more open with it soon!

[Billy]

I don't think there is any problem with the wife. Total love and acceptance. Got her opinion on women's slacks yesterday and modeled them for her. She thought the clothing looked very nice and said she would go out with me wearing the slacks and would go out to with me to pick out some good tops. She suggested I return the slacks and get one size smaller.

[Tracii G]

You did the right thing and your son seems like a decent person that loves his Dad no matter what.

[Teresa]

Billy,
It's good you managed to tell your son and I'm so pleased it went OK.

Telling my son was my wife's big fear, we have grandchildren and the fear was we might be cut off from them, he was OK about it and surprisingly told his wife . I did tell him in a more fundamental way than breaking it by telling him I wear panties as I was having gender counselling at the time, so not surprisingly having to explain about my gender and sexuality was something he needed to know .

When we say they don't have a problem , to be realistic it does change things, it would be naive to think it wouldn't . The only difference none of my family have seen me dressed, perhaps you should take some care he may get fed up with having your dressing pushed under his nose all the time.

[Billy]

I am not planning on pushing anything under anyone's nose. I just wanted him to be aware so it would not take him by surprise. I feel discriminated against in terms of apparel approval. So if he or anyone else in my family takes comfort in thinking that my dressing is in some way a revolution or statement then so be it. My wife is beautiful and has elegant taste. Maybe with her help I can achieve what I am looking for. Bottom line is for years I wore clothing that didn't fit well and decided I no longer liked my underwear. I know that I love my wife and kids and they love me. I know that I have no desire to be a woman. I know this from true self exploration and sincere introspection. I have never been a hypocrite and highly value honesty. When I decided to dress, I made that desire known almost immediately to my wife. She is rock solid and knows I have always loved her and I know she sincerely loves me. I desire no other person except for her.

I have another son that is 28, a daughter that is 30 that has 2 children, and another daughter that will be 18 next month and 4 brothers and a sister. I see no need to come out to them. As mentioned before, I personally do not care who knows but obviously the shame is not on me but those that are related to me. Dressing in the house could be an issue at times because we care for my wife's elderly parents that now live with us. I honestly don't think my wife cares what I wear or thinks me any less of a person or man for this revelation but I think she would be concerned what other people think of her husband. That is probably the biggest issue with our loved ones.

[Teresa]

Billy,
Please believe when they all know about your dressing not much changes especially if you have been a good husband, father and now grandfather, my family don't love me any less but there is no shame associated with my dressing. I personnaly don't care who knows and my wife knows this, my son and daughter and their married partners are all OK about it. I have said before that I know I'm not fully out to them because they haven't seen me dressed which is a big difference. Before that happens I feel they should know the full facts about why I do it . Unlike you I'm not promising I don't want to go further because I still don't know that myself so I too don't want to appear a hypocrite.

[Gabriella111]

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this, Ozark. Hopefully your son gets the help he needs and processes those things that haunt him.

[pantyhoselvr kendra]

You are brave. It sounds like you will become closer to your son by being so honest. Good luck with him as well as your wife