Jerry
03-02-2006, 10:11 PM
Remember the Star Trek concept of "First Contact"? This is where The Federation makes the first contact with an alien race. It has to be handled delicately so not to freak out the new civilization.
Two years ago I told my wife about my cross dressing. The process of dealing with it has been tough for her. She gives me time, but it is always alone. She has been slightly more receptive recently and I'm now thinking there may be a day in the future where she may be willing to participate in my dressing.
I'm looking for input. If and when this first encounter happens should I:
1. Be me. The cross dressing husband. Talk about my feelings. Talk about the things I've always wanted to talk about. Gently expose her to my alternative life (questions, desires, inspirations, fashion).
or
2. Start with a no pressure game. Make it play. Just a game of dress up where we are girl friends or sisters. The "heavy" stuff can flow out from there.
I can make arguments for both cases. What are your thoughts and experiences? What would you like to do if you haven't had that First Contact yet?
Hog hugs from Arkansas
Jerry
Two years ago I told my wife about my cross dressing. The process of dealing with it has been tough for her. She gives me time, but it is always alone. She has been slightly more receptive recently and I'm now thinking there may be a day in the future where she may be willing to participate in my dressing.
I'm looking for input. If and when this first encounter happens should I:
1. Be me. The cross dressing husband. Talk about my feelings. Talk about the things I've always wanted to talk about. Gently expose her to my alternative life (questions, desires, inspirations, fashion).
or
2. Start with a no pressure game. Make it play. Just a game of dress up where we are girl friends or sisters. The "heavy" stuff can flow out from there.
I can make arguments for both cases. What are your thoughts and experiences? What would you like to do if you haven't had that First Contact yet?
Hog hugs from Arkansas
Jerry