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Jean 103
01-28-2017, 01:03 PM
I know that looking back decisions I made have lead me here on my journey. Some of it was easier than I would have thought. Mostly because of those that have gone before. The one I was thinking of locally is a person that transitioned while on the local police force. I have not met her but have seen a picture of her. A girl at a local TG support group knows her. One of my roommates was also pulled over by her. I have heard nothing but kind words about her. People have mistaken me for her, we don’t look alike. It’s because of how I am and not who I am. Anyway that doesn’t happen much anymore as most people know me. I live as Jean but don’t try and hide my past. For me the past is the past, I tend to look forward. That brings me to the other question.

Who is steering this bus and where are we going? As for now, I have no plans to fully transition. I live as Jean, I only present as male at work. Everyone knows and I don’t have any real problems living this way. That is besides my wife throwing me out and my whole world came crashing down, and that part is not over. I just refuse to deal with it right now. What I’m trying to come to grips with is it’s been almost a year that I drew a line in the sand, and decided to live full time as a women. My friends would say I am not a women just dress as one. They are basically right, but they also take part in my delusion that I am a women. At the one year mark I told myself I would make a decision on where or not to continue on this path. My friends will support me whatever I decide, they think I’m brave and don’t understand why I do it. I see it as being selfish on my part, as plain and simple as, I dress this way because I like to. The reason I went all in was I feel it is easier for my friends and everyone if they see me one way. There are a few that see me both ways. I’m fine with that now, it use to bother me. I’m just so far past that I don’t care.

Why did I come back here? I don’t know. I do know I have changed. How I looked at things before is not the same way I look at things now. The line in the sand was renting a place as Jean. This was like a year after I had been asked by my wife to and did moved out. What is in store for this year? Stay the course? I guess I’ll have to wait and see.

ronda
01-28-2017, 02:36 PM
sounds like your living the dream and having a ball doing it carry on and enjoy life

Jean 103
01-28-2017, 03:17 PM
Thank you Ronda, Pretty much I am. There has been a lot of ups and downs on this path. Thou I am feeling better. I came down with a cold again. The third time this season. I’m so over being sick, bring on summer.

AllieSF
01-28-2017, 03:22 PM
Thanks for visiting us again and thanks for the simple heartfelt and wonderful story about where you were and where you are at. You have a lot going in your favor and I think one of the most important one is your attitude, which is very positive, common sense and in my definition, mature. Thanks for sharing for sharing this part of you and please keep on doing it, as we do need the positive side of life too.

Jaylyn
01-28-2017, 03:23 PM
I'd say I guess by some you are living the dream. You look younger than I am. Your very pretty and live in a state that is accepting somewhat. Every persons situation is different and every ones progression is left up to each person. What ever makes you the happiest and is legal is far you can progress and where can go from your present place. Only you can make that decision. I wish you the best with the wife, it sounds like a battle might be in the making or not. We can all look back but looking into the future and where to step next is up to each individual. Step carefully but enjoy the road and the path you take.