Does being physically with a man changes you?

[leonal123]

Hi all,
After chickening out too many times, I am finally thinking about giving it a try, to be physically with a Dom guy.
now when I think about it, It will be huge step for me I suppose. Firstly, already when I see a girl, i check out what she is wearing instead of checking her out. Secondly, after being with an alpha male, i can't imagine myself being alpha. I can act alpha in work place but i believe I will always be a beta male.. Also I am not sure if the experience would be great both physically, emotionally and psychologically. I am talking to this guy and already I am working on my make and dresses to look more attractive to him.

I was wondering if someone could share their experiences. Does it made you feel more feminine?

[Teresa]

Leonal,
Sometimes it's easy to be caught on images on certain websites, but don't forget many of those are stage managed, OK they get involved because they enjoy certain aspects of it but there are also some serious predators out there. They won't be looking for any kind of relationship and they won't care how much they hurt you, that also goes for women that take part .

Some people do become more submissive when dressed, there are numerous reasons for that, you have to be careful how far you go with those feelings depending if you have family who may be very hurt by you activities . The bottom line is it may be a passing fantasy , I'm sure many here will admit to having the same thoughts but look back and have no regrets about not following them up.

[Lana Mae]

I have pondered this one. I have found that it goes against my being. You have to make the decision for yourself and separate the reality and the fantasy. Best wishes on making the right decision! And be safe! Hugs Lana Mae

[Nikkilovesdresses]

Having 'been with' several guys and enjoyed it greatly, I can relate to your desire. However the guys were all gentle and sensitive. 'Dom guy' rings alarm bells for me. I'd urge you to try it at least once with a guy who doesn't have 'ape' tattooed on his forehead, as there is a real possibility of getting hurt.

There's a difference between being taken lovingly and being used as a doormat.

[Maria Blackwood]

Are we talking a professional dom? At least there you'd have safe words and some sort of protocol in play. I've subbed to both doms and dominas, but I don't think I felt feminine with the doms. If anything it's an intensely masculine affair for me. That all predates my crossdressing, though, and I'm coming from a firmly bisexual POV, so, yeah, for what it's worth. :confused2: it didn't change me- I was exploring who I am.

[Amelie]

Yes, being physical with a man will change you, my first time I changed into a pumpkin.

I don't think it will change you. You might have either a good or bad experience but for the most part your beings trans or as you say your feminine feelings will be the same.

I kinda think you pick a dom guy so it might have a feeling of him making you do things that maybe you have a difficult time doing otherwise. Be careful in what you do, loads of crazies out there.

If you want to feel feminine, just do the dishes and make him a samwich.

[Tracii G]

All I can say is don't let a fantasy take place of your reality.
I don't get the whole domination fantasy but if you are into that just be careful and don't get used.
Are you heterosexual or bi curious?

[Rogina B]

The reality is often not as good as the fantasy...NEVER get restrained by anyone that you don't completely know...

[Ressie]

I believe that every experience is unique. And every person is unique in how they will feel about an experience. I don't think this is the right place to share sexual experiences. It's kind of pushing the boundaries of what is allowed here. It might make you feel fem, it might not.

[CONSUELO]

For several of us in this community having a male as a partner has been a good experience but I would never take my own experience and by extension suggest that it would be good for someone else. My advice would be to advance carefully and make sure you protect yourself emotionally and otherwise. Make sure that this is a person whom you find sympathetic and caring.

[Sky]

I mostly dress up for dates and have done so for a very long time. The sorta kinda bad experiences were very few, and none of them truly scary or even threatening, just bad (as in dull, non-arousing, zero chemistry) dates.

Sub/dom games are just like any other kind of relationship, they can be good or bad, but if it's what tickles you, go for it. As for who's ok and who's a creep, save for extreme cases, it's all in the eye of the beholder. I remember being with another girl sipping a drink when a couple guys approached us: I welcomed them and wanted to flirt, but my partner freaked out and dragged me out of the bar while calling them "creeps". They looked like perfectly regular guys to me -the kind I usually date- but I guess if you're scared of them, anybody would look creepy.

[TrishaTX]

I agree with Sky on much of what she said. I too dress more for dates than casually. I enjoy both women and men, and have been with both dom and gentle. I probably prefer the dom route , for direction etc. Im trying to keep this as clean as possible. Everyone has there own wants, at my age I am now comfortable with who I am. Please be careful and make sure it is what you want to do.

[Eva Bella]

I've never been with a man, but I know quite a few girls who have.

From what I've heard, the first experiences are mixed.. many love it, some are really disturbed afterwards. I think that it largely has to do with the quality of the man. Many of the local girls fall prey to the "tranny chaser" crowd which is really just in it for sexual kicks. After the act is done, they just cast the girl aside. There's always someone new who wants to feel femme and is flattered by their attention.

For what it's worth, the girls who seem happiest with the first experience are the ones that hired a man specifically for it. If you're paying, you call the shots and set the limits. Might be a good idea if you want to try this out.

[Stacy Darling]

Personal opinion only. I've never been with a Dom guy or any guy yet, But! I was married to a Dom woman and also went out with older dominant women earlier. Without being graphic; You don't want to be used for "Fun". I'd go for a "Sensitive crossdresser" any day after what I endured.

On the Does it make you feel more Feminine question I can give an experienced answer. I enjoyed being exposed and naughty, I honestly did, playing and toys were fun too. BUT, It can go from you or I being a nice sub girl to being face down and not an emotion to be seen.

I'd go for a cd, same but more sensual! Go girl!

[phili]

I think the trap here is whether we are talking actually feminine or objectified feminine. Sex object feminine/masculine is fundamentally empty emotionally except for the panting adrenaline that porn provides - but the kicker is that it is very unsatisfying in the end. I started with the idea of being submissive as feminine, and found that submissive is just submissive, and while a gentle dominant person can provide a decent experience, it is still about power, and role playing, and not a real relationship. Receptive/assertive are twin poles of one dimension, as are generous/selfish, altruistic/exploitative, etc. I'd counsel finding a friend of any sex who really likes you, and you like them, and they are flexible about gender and sexuality, so you can explore all the poles while actually building relationship.

[Lilly 40C]

I've been with several men and it has changed me both emotionally and psychologically.The first time was a physically unforgettable experience and I could not believe how much I enjoyed it before, during and after. After the first time, I became very comfortable with either men or women although all my men have been gentile. So, my advice is to try it. You do not have to do it again unless you enjoy it.

[leonal123]

thanks everyone for sharing their thoughts.. I ve heard that a few of the girls have regretted being with a guy. I have fantasized about it but I read someone's experience who loved dressing up and one day decided to be with a guy.. The guy was real gentleman and respectful but this girl when started having it, she was in so much distressed. She waited under that guy till he was done and once he left, she cried all night.. Not because it was physically bad but it was psychologically painful for her.. She stopped dressing up at that point.. So I was wondering if something like this has happened to anyone else.

[pantyhoselvr kendra]

I feel more and more feminine with every man i sleep with. Men are like a drug to me, at times i crave their manhood. Luckily for me my wife feels the same way about women as well as men

[kimdl93]

I think most of my gay friends would laugh aloud at the idea that being with a man might make someone feel more feminine...some are pretty maaculine and others not...but they are attracted to males...sex simply confirms the attraction. I love feeling feminine, dressing and frankly living as a woman, but I just am not wired to find any male attribute attractive. That's not to say I am representative....we each are unique blends of gender and sexuality. If you're lucky you connect with people sharing complimentary interests.

[Tracii G]

Just be careful as you would in any relationship is what advice I could give.
Just be sure its what YOU want and not him forcing it on you.
I'm not one for having sex with just anyone just for the sake of having sex mind you.
I'm in it for a lasting relationship with someone I love deeply.

[Steph65]

I have been with men dressed and undressed. I think the point here is to make sure that some one else knows your where abouts. Also it is best to talk to the Dom and make sure your both on the same page. They should be up front with you and if they can not answer any of your concerns it is time to move on. If your not 100% confident then it is not worth it. All details should be discussed and if they do not want the chit chat and get to business then move on to some one else who will take their time with you and you both have an understanding. My first time was scary but after talking and reasurance it was awesome!!!! there has to be communication before during and after Like has been mentioned there has to be stop words or signs. After being with a few different guys dressed and not dressed I find that going out being dressed and some men guys boys give you a nice compliment. Communication is priority and if there is no back up plan I would get one and let your Dom know.

[Lauri K]

I'm not one for having sex with just anyone just for the sake of having sex mind you.

Tracii is a long lasting relationship 1 night or two ?

I bet you go down like a broken jack at a Nascar track............don't hurt me please