why is it so hard

[cdsheri6977]

for me i know it is real hard to come out to anyone let alone my loved ones or friends, but if i love being a women so much why cant i just do it, why is it so hard for me to just go all the way and be who i am. i find if some one ask for help i know all the right things to say but if its me will i just fall short in taking my own advice, anyone have any thoughts?

:doll: sheri

[Tina Dixon]

I my self am having a hard time getting the nerve to tell my SO about my dressing, once I figure out that the reat will be easy for me, but the thing is we just don't want to freak or turn our loved ones away from us.

[Nikki Dee]

Welcome to the wonderful and so frustrating world of being TG.!!!..There are many who would ask the same questions...There is no magic answer of course. We are all different with different agendas and different personal situations. Only you know what can be achieved...by you...for you..and yet still keep all the things that are dear to you.! I have been where you are...as so many of us have...and I know just how difficult it all is. I took the decision that I didn't want to "end my days" (so to speak) wondering "what if"..I needed to know, to feel, to be Nikki....so I took the risk and came out to my wife and despite early ups and downs we got through...and I now have such a wonderful and supportive partner..I am one of the lucky ones I guess...but I didn't know that at the beginning. You have to decide what's right for you love and in reality only you can do that. I hope that it all goes well for you and you can get real joy out of being who you really are.
Love Nikki. xx

[TGMarla]

It's always harder to see the situation when you're the one in it. The closer the situation is to home, the tougher it becomes to rationally dissect it and deal with it. And hey, this whole crossdressing thing hits pretty close to home.

I've found that it's best to not get overly excited about it all. Just accept it and enjoy it. You don't need help, you just need friends.

[GypsyKaren]

You know, I've read your past posts, and I just wonder if you're being honest with yourself. I also wonder if you accept yourself for who you are, and how you really feel about yourself. I think it's kinda hard to open up to others if you're closed up inside.

Karen

[cdsheri6977]

thanks

i think in some part GYPSY KAREN you got it right, but its not that i dont know who i am, its more now this sounds funny but im not mam anuff to be the woman i em.

i know why i didnt come out when my son was frist born and for the frist 8 years of his life, as he has had 48 surgerys in the frist 8 years of life, and the frist 4 years after he was born, i didnt know if i would ever work again or not as i fell 40 feet 5 months after he was born, but i had come out to his mom about 6 months befor he was born, she like it she had fun with it, got me all kinds of stuff to ware.

all the docters was saying i would never work again in my life and i beleaved them at frist, but 13 surgerys later and i went back to being a carpenter.

and then deb and i wasnt getting along at all, and she started useing my dressing, my wanting to be a girl a women as a way to make me stay with her ,and she did tell a few friends. lucky she had no pic's, but i did leave one day.

then it was more about dustin my son as we had a long road to go, in all he is 19 now and has had 59 surgerys, deb would stay with him in the days and i did nights tell he was 14, as i grew up in a hospital, i have bad asthma, and didnt want him to be alone. but i got to tell ya he is a kool kid.

but i think TGMARLA has hit the nail on the head if im reading you right hun, if i had only known there was so meny of us and that there are women and others that wont use it as a way to control me or hold it over my head.

FRIENDS

if i had had some friends that knew and if nothing else said kool no problem, if sheri is who you are then kool sheri it is. friends that didnt want sex from me wanted just to be friends, but i didnt the two that i did come out to both used it to hurt me in some way.

and NIKKI DEE i am just now starting to think that i cant go on saying to myself what if, thats why im here now, cause i do know that i have always wanted to be sheri, and i do know that i love the me i am when im sheri. i have let others make me push sheri in the closet and not let her out, but i also know that sheri never went away she has always been a part of me she has always been there, theres not a day that gose by that i didnt think about her or talk to her in my mind not one. and im starting to think and feel that if i just start making some friends that know , some friends that i can talk to that will just be there as a friend, its is easyer if you have some one you can talk to run to when things get crazy, some one that will tell you your not nuts and things will be ok you know?

and all that you guys have said is why i know im going to come out, cause i do need to be me for me as i am getting older and in 1993 i was told i have MS my dad had it real bad but im doing really good but some day its going to take some things away from me and i need to be the sheri i am why i can, not that i wont be sheri if i cant walk or drive but i got some good looking leggs and i need to show em off why i can, hehe.

and i know what your saying LOVABLE TINA i know that some day ill need help and i dont want to push anyone away, friend are hard to come by and good ones even harder, and my kids and wife are ill i have. but i do have to be me some time soon or its going to be to late, and i dont want to die wishing i died being me, wishing that every one in my life knew me the real me as thay dont thay know todd not sheri.

but anyways thanks girls all of you as its nice to hear what i have said a 1000 times to myself, but to hear some one else say it it just makes it a littil easyer for me some how. and knowing that im not crazy helps to :doll:


thanks girls:love:


sheri:doll: