Peace

[Lacey CD]

The world has always been and will most likely always be, chaotic. The mayhem being paraded across the front pages and on our social media newsfeeds makes me feel like the heat is being turned up exponentially right now. I am tempted on a regular basis to lend my voice to the noise. But to what end? Will anything truly change because I shouted my opinion from the rooftops? I have come to the conclusion and personal conviction that the answer for me is to create peace wherever and whenever I can. I find my inner peace increasing the more I dress. By being true to myself and my inherent nature, I am experiencing a balance that I have never felt before. Fortunately I have an encouraging wife who sees this as well. I'm curious, has anyone else made a conscious choice to create more peace in their lives through expressing their fem sides?

[Nikkilovesdresses]

Crossdressing brings many of us a sense of peace and well-being, but the peace and well-being are a happy byproduct, not really a goal.

Welcome to the forum by the way!

[Pat]

I am tempted on a regular basis to lend my voice to the noise. But to what end? Will anything truly change because I shouted my opinion from the rooftops?


No single rain drop is responsible for the flood. ;) Your voice alone does not have to change the world, but your voice added to many can. Just sayin'. You can follow both strategies -- add your voice while at the same time promoting personal inner peace. It doesn't have to be one or the other.

[phili]

I do a Bible Study in the local jail and juvenile hall, and we talk often about the power of one person choosing peace. I can guarantee that if you radiate peace when in a dress, no one will mind- on the contrary, they will be grateful for the experience and not care about the dress.

[Allisa]

You are experiencing nothing new to many here on this site. The more we let our inner self express itself we find a peace of mind and exude that outwardly, thus we find that we smile so much more. Whether we do it consciously or not it just happens. It seems that CDing just helps bring that out but we learn to incorporate our femme selves into our daily "male" lives. And welcome to this site, it's full of info and a place to vent if needed.

[CONSUELO]

Welcome to this wonderful supportive place. I think you will find a lot of encouragement here and a supportive environment that will enhance your feelings of peacefulness.

I have been dressing for almost all of my life and the comfort and peace I feel when dressed is not only therapeutic but a wonderful escape from some of the pressures that life brings.

I'm glad you feel you are in a good place right now and you are lucky to have an encouraging spouse. I wish you both the very best.

[JeanTG]

Count me among those who find a tremendous sense of peace when dressed. And as luck would have it, today is one of those days when I can go all the way: makeup, clothes, breast forms, shoes, the works. It's so nice to be "me". Still have work to do on makeup skills but it gives me a purpose!

If one reads the psalms in the Bible, one realizes that what goes on in the world is nothing new under the sun. We just have the technology to do ourselves in faster and more efficiently now.

I wish my wife could experience me at peace, but alas... not there yet.

[Stephanie47]

I have found being en femme does bring on a sense to peace and serenity. Peace and serenity are my goals. That is one of the reasons I do NOT venture out of my home. However, I am fully aware of the mayhem that is going on around me. To hide from it is dangerous. It does not mean one should participate in raucous behavior. If you do not let your voice be known, you're going to get what another person dishes out.

[AllieSF]

I am with Pat on this one. Do not hesitate to "add" your voice and opinion to the mass and also find your own inner sanctuary to relax and also be yourself.

[Lana Mae]

One candle only lights up the corner, many candles light a room! One voice added to many can make a difference! Yes, only doing this less than 2 years but have found that inner peace that dressing brings! Hugs Lana Mae

[Rachael Leigh]

While I do get enjoyment and happiness from my dressing my peace comes from my faith ,
so yes it's nice to express myself the way I do but peace no not me

[Diane Taylor]

I have found a more peaceful existence since I came out and expressed my fem side as much as was possible. As time went on I was less concerned about what others thought of me and that was a big relief.

[Kandi Robbins]

Yep! Through my various associations as my female alter ego, I do nothing but spread love. Everyone likes to complain about this or that, but if we don't actually live love, don't actually practice acceptance, none of that matters. We can only changes things one person at a time, one interaction at a time. In the 2 years I have actively been out as Kandi, I have touched (and been touched) by so many people, I cannot detail them all here. Ask anyone who knows me, when I go out, it usually results in multiple hugs. Why? Because all I do is try and spread the love. Sunday I sat at a table with two married couples, both considerably older than me and another woman and I talked about myself. These people chose to sit next to me and all offered the same perspective, we were made this way by the creator and we need to all just accept each other and get along. As a result, I made two new friends and was delighted that an 80+ year old man and I had a conversation that had nothing to do with the dress I was wearing. The week before I met a couple while enjoying a glass of wine and we all ended up going out for dinner, where they asked about me. The evening ended with.....a big hug. Practice, stop preaching, love.

[GretchenM]

I believe peace is multidimensional. There is personal peace, peace within the nuclear or extended family, and peace within social structure at many levels. They do not necessarily connect to each other. Right now the World is pretty dysfunctional in many ways and is hardly peaceful. But you can have peace on the smaller scales and I think personal peace is perhaps at the core of how we individually conduct ourselves. In terms of tradition and stereotypes, we are all different to various degrees and personal non-conformance can have consequences at other levels that create instability and discomfort. It is a balancing act. Until about 4 years ago I was never at peace at much of any level. Now that I have faced my gender and other issues I am very much at peace on the personal level. But on the social level I tend to be more distraught by what is going on here and elsewhere in the world. I have my theories, but no real solutions. That said, more or less aligning oneself with social movements can be very enriching, provided you always maintain your individuality and don't go with blind conformance in being a part of a "group." We can operate on many different levels more or less at the same time, be very active in some ways, and yet so peaceful on other levels that you appear to have different personalities. We are just very versatile creatures, but it is also important to keep each level of activity enveloped in a somewhat pliable envelope of underlying principles, faith, or beliefs. But if everything is in turmoil there is bound to be trouble. Having that peaceful territory we can go to and live in for awhile and always have available as if contained in a little box in your pocket is critical to living a happy life no matter what is going on elsewhere. Gender identity is big issue for all of us, even those who CD just for the fun of it. It is an important part of who we, as individuals are, and using it as a refuge from other stresses at other levels is, in my opinion, perfectly fine. Use it, enjoy it, love it. Not everybody has the ability to feel the way we sometimes or often or always do. Is it a gift or a curse? I think it is a gift because it produces broad understanding as well as tolerance of differences and diversity. That can't be a bad thing, especially in a world that sometimes seems to be going insane.

[Lacey CD]

Wow! I am impressed and humbled by the spectrum of responses to this post. Thank you all for contributing and Gretchen, what you just wrote pretty much sums up my feeling on the matter. The word peace is ubiquitous but has many nuances and interpretations. 2016 was a banner year for me in many ways including coming to grips with my feminine side and having a wife who supports me integrating it into my life more. I started a new career and said good bye to self employment, parted ways with an old friend who's company was no longer healthy to keep, and have faced some personal demons that were inhibiting me moving forward in my life. I've made a conscious choice to live a more peace filled life which is contingent upon my acceptance of things I cannot change. In the words of Thoreau; "I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately".

[Tracii G]

Good that you have attained some inner peace I think that is wonderful for you.
I know social media is full of chaos but that is just the nature of the beast. I will join in on some comments and stay quiet on others because Facebook does watch what is said.
Choose your words wisely on social media.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Lacey:hugs:, You can let your feelings out at the Ballot box, Crossdressing does make life easier for me...:daydreaming:...

[docrobbysherry]

Once u realize u can control how u feel? Your life will dramatically change, grasshoppa!:battingeyelashes:

Many years ago I discovered thru a special program I could quickly calm myself, even control my heart rate, with measured breathing and concentration/relaxation.