Rate yourself on Becky's Gender Feeling Scale

[Becky Blue]

Some interesting discussions going on across a couple of threads about how we see ourselves. So my question is a simple one. Do you feel you are a guy who likes to put on a dress but is fundamentally male or do you feel that you are more female? Its a simple question requiring a simple answer, this is not meant to be a political but simply based on how you feel, not how you look, not sexuality, not GD simple....

I feel 20% male 80% female

[docrobbysherry]

I have concluded I am not properly trans. Simply a man who dresses up. But, it's taken me 20 years to get to this point---:straightface:

[Becky Blue]

So does that make you feel 100% male Doc?

[Samantha Sometimes]

51% to 49% the gender varies...

[Shayna]

Probably 60% male, 40% female

[bridget thronton]

Some days 60% female

[sweetdreams]

I'm probably pretty close to 50/50 at this point. Pink fog can certainly skew this to the feminine.

[docrobbysherry]

No. I've never felt male. Or female. Just me. I just never had a reason to question any of it until I was 50.:straightface:

[Teresa]

Becky,
I could go 100% dressed but it wouldn't make me 100% female.
It's hard to put a percentage on it, as you know I want to be seen and accepted as a woman, so I'm not just a guy in a dress , my female side is more dominant some days than others, so obviously it's over 50% .

[Lisa85]

Surprising hard question to answer. M-F, probably 85-15. Preferred dressing style: 40-60. Actual dressing style: 70-30

[suzanne]

I'm a Gemini...And so am I! So I never feel extreme in either direction. I feel like I'm about 67% female, based on how often I feel the NEED to dress, versus "Defly a boy today" and "Could go either way"

[Stacy Darling]

OK, I can say with confidence that I am very high on the feminine scale even when I present as a male ( I dress and move like Peter Allen, that's for any Aussies ) so the 10% I'll give to the masculine side is quite Feminine. And I feel quite happy about that!

[Jeri Ann]

Becky, since you asked for feelings only, I can honestly, without a doubt say, female 100%. It's a no brainer for me. This is news only to those here who don't know me. All my friends here already know this.

Jeri

[SamanthaR]

I would lean toward the feminine side perhaps 65-35. In touch with myself and others around me.

[Samm]

I'm with Doc on this one. I'm in my late 40's and it's been a long 30+ year road to finally realize recently, I'm just me.

[sara66]

90/10 male mostly it is more of a sliding scale.
Sara

[GretchenM]

Hi Bec,
Hard to say with certainty. It varies by day, even time of day, and circumstances. Eyeballing an average I would say about 20% percent male/masculine and the rest basically psychologically androgynous. I use the 5 gender forms defined by Dr. Sandra Bem - masculine, feminine, androgynous, gender reversed, and undifferentiated. I am very non-binary so the male/female (sex) and masculine/feminine (gender) don't really work well in describing me.

Gretchen

[Connie D50]

What a great post I have to be higher in Female due to the fact that I think about it everyday many many time a day. Yet when you see me I'm 100% male :-(

Soo that said 80% female 20%male

[alwayshave]

I would say 35% female 65% male

[CarlaWestin]

I'm usually 90% male but sometimes when I'm role playing I'm 60% male and 95% female.

[Victoria Demeanor]

Hey Becky,
I do like the middle name you picked, I thought that was a great choice. So to your question:
Female Male
Mind: 66.87% 33.13%

Body: 10% 90%

Soul: 90% 10%

Rough estimate.

[Barbara Black]

I'm guessing that it's about 65% male, 35% female, but a lot of that is probably behavior taught and learned over many years.

[Erin77]

I'm close to 70/30 on a regular day. Some days I wake up though and that has switched to 30/70. Those are fun days :)

[luvbridget]

I would say that I am about 80% female. I think, feel and react to things in a very feminine way. The other 20% male comes from the fact that I have to present as a man and act masculine at times in order to get by. I would prefer that wasn't the case.

[Lana Mae]

Very variable! Mostly about 60% male and 40% female, but it has been 90% male and 10% female and 10% male and 90% female. Like Doc says just me! Hugs Lana Mae

[sometimes brooke]

Hi Becky,

I loved thinking about your question. For me, I have been subject to very hurtful criticism and judgment when I expressed my feminine side, so I have lived almost all of this aspect of my life internally and without being able to talk about it with anyone.

I have had many years to reflect on it and learn and accept what feels natural and right, and what feels forced or conforming.

I know that my thinking and behavior naturally tends towards very feminine. I don't really "fit in" well with men, but I can manage well enough to get by at work and socially, but it isn't where my true nature resides.

I'm not very good with numbers; I tend to go with emotion and intuition. I know that am at my best when I'm feminine. So I will go with 85-15.

Brooke

[JeanTG]

At the moment I'd say 60% female, 40% male (feeling-wise). Those numbers can flip around but it seems that in the past 5 years or so the numbers have slowly crept from about 40 female to 60 female.

What feels weird to me is that the male side comes fairly easy to me from a lifetime of conditioning that this "is how it should be". While I feel predominantly female, it's a learning curve to express it physically. Testosterone is a powerful toxin...

Like Brooke though, I don't necessarily fit in well with men. I do have a few male friends that are mostly thoughtful and intellectual, and though very masculine don't go out of their way to be macho. But in social circles like a party, I almost always naturally gravitate towards the women where I'm accepted not as a threat, but as part of the sisterhood.

[cdtraveler]

Who knows. I'm me and I hate gender steriotypes. That said I do find this an interesting thread.

Amanda

[Tina_gm]

I used to try to put the gender thing into anew equation,percentage slide ruler, sliding scale, I've tried every form of math, but none of it ever worked for me. I really cannot begin to say where I am. There's so much of me that crosses the gender divide I have more or less closed the gap to a point where there isn't a tangible gap anymore. I'm in with both masculine and feminine. My wife recently told me my brain cannot be described as either male or female, just an odd mix of the two.

[sometimes_miss]

Well, it's this simple. I apparently will forever feel like I'm supposed to be a girl. But I recognize that there's no reason to believe that I am one. I don't think like one, I don't feel like one, and I don't act like one, and of course, I don't look like one. It's that simple.

[St Lisa]

30% male 10% female and 60% "don't label me" :)

[DarthDaddicus]

I'm feeling about like you, Becky. 20% male, 80% female. I am a girly girl, but I am very much attracted to tom-boy girls.

[Alice B]

It of course varies, bt about 65% to 35% mae to female on the overall scale

[Meghan4now]

35 % female, 75% male. I always give 110%

[Debra Russell]

[QUOTE=Connie D50;4066832]What a great post I have to be higher in Female due to the fact that I think about it everyday many many time a day. Yet when you see me I'm 100% male :

Same for me...............................Debra

[Jenny22]

Hard to say. I dress pretty every morning (lipstick is a must) and am always underdressed with small forms when I go out in drab. When not specifically on focused male thinking, my mind is full of feminine thoughts .. like now. So to figger a %, usually about 85% female and 15% male.

[Dana44]

I am about 50 percent male 50 percent female. Sometimes more female than male.

[DIANEF]

I couldn't put a figure on it, it varies so much; by the day, week, even by the hour sometimes.

[Rachael Leigh]

I think I'm 60/40 female to male, somewhat gender fluid but most defiantly under the transgender umbrella

[Samantha Clark]

It fluctuates. Sometimes I feel 89% boy and 11% girl. Other times I feel the need to be the opposite. And everything in between. I don't worry about the lack of stability. I try to enjoy the ride when I can!

Many problems arise when we think everything is static and deterministic when in fact everything is dynamic and stochastic.

[rockerreds]

I'm about 70/30 female/male.

[Cheryl T]

I would have to classify myself as 65% female 35% male the vast majority of the time.

[Scarlett398]

Alright Bec, this isn't fitting in with what any of the other girls have said but this is honestly how I feel. When I am Scarlett, I feel 100% female. When I am with my sexy wife by my side I feel 70% male 30% female. I always have this desire to shop and help my wife pick out her outfits including boots, booties, heels and wedges when I am with her on date night after dinner or after a movie. We both intensely enjoy shopping together. Now when I am helping her pick things out, I am also shopping for Scarlett without my wife knowing about it. I really love spending more time shopping for pretty girl's clothing rather than in the men's department. Girls are so darn lucky and I understand how they can always spend so much more money than guys on shopping. Girls have so many types and styles of clothing and footwear to choose from, however, when you get to the men's department all we have to choose from are shirts, pants, and shorts --- BBOOOOORRRRRIIIIIINNNNNNGGGGGGGG! And I'm sure any cross dresser feels the same way about the two different departments. True? I would love to hear from all of the girls about how they feel about the difference between getting to shop for girl's clothing versus guy clothing.

That's all I have on this one Bec. Interesting tread subject! XOXOXO Scarlett

[Kandi Robbins]

I am fundamentally male. When around family, my thoughts are 100% male, husband, father, son, brother, etc... My primary interests are always male (running, competition, sports), but I have giant gaps of time on my hands and the old pink fog just won't clear.

I would give this all up in a millisecond if that were even remotely possible. It's not so I stopped fighting and embraced it, allowing myself to enjoy a female part of my brain that was probably there at birth and certainly fostered by living with women (almost exclusively) my entire life.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Becky:hugs:, Not sure about the percentage but I am a guy that seams to have the best of both worlds...:daydreaming:...

[Allison Chaynes]

I think 50/50. I don't feel like I can be majority one or the other.

[Rhonda Darling]

I'll have to say 50% / 50%. On any given day I can feel anchored in one or the other. Almost full time I'm wearing attached breasts -- hiding them as needed when at work in male mode. I feel out of sorts when I don't feel/have the weight of breasts on my chest. If I have to be all male for awhile, I really start to get anxious and feel myself incomplete.

Sherry, I'm somewhat envious of your situation (and the fab bod you achieve).

Rhonda

[julia marie]

Average out the day to day variables, and I'd say 55% male, 45% female.

[Confucius]

I am 100% heterosexual, 100% male, and 100% crossdresser.
When I crossdress that doesn't make me female. It doesn't change my personality. It just makes my happy.

[S. Lisa Smith]

This is very interesting. A few of us had this discussion Saturday night. I am, in the new terminology, gender fluid. I am compartmentalized at 50/50 male female...That means when I am dressed, I'm on the female side and when I'm doing my male thing I'm on the male side of things.

[Tracii G]

This is a fair question but its been asked before and it always ends up being more like a competition by the end of the thread.

[TrishaLake]

I am 60%male and 40% female ....and I am sticking to those numbers:)

[Shely]

I don't really know how to answer, i am 100% male. But I love dressing and primping to feel the difference when all dressed up in those exquisite feeling pantyhose, girdle, bright party dresses, etc. I don't think i really want to be a woman, but i enjoy the feeling and i should say LOOK of a woman with my face. Heck i can't give a good answer to this one. I would just love to be locked in a "Von Mars" department store overnight with no one else there.

[BrendaPDX]

Hi Becky, Thought provoking question. I shift around so much... On a day to day 70/30 male to female, during a pink haze that shifts to 20/80. Brenda

[rachelatshop]

I have read all the comments on this thread and "Shely's" post almost sounded 100% like how I feel, but that said when I'm working out in my shop wearing my leather work skirt, panties, garter belt and stockings and heels there has to be some small part of me that is female, but how much I have no idea

[Contessa]

Hi I am certainly feminine. But I am not a female nor am I a woman. I don't believe that I will ever feel much different than I do now. I love the feeling though. I don't know how women feel. I don't have any sexual feelings so the best I can say is that I feel feminine. I want to look like a girl that wants to look like a boy, and is trying to attract girls. I'm trying to attract girls who like girls or guys.

[Exris]

Hmmm.

It varies. Usually I dont think about it too much. And then sometimes it kills me not to be in high heels and being really bad...

Work mode: 100% male. Dull and boring. But does a job.
In a Pub: 95% male and noone would ever know. When Im "checking out some gal" I might be checking her out. Usually Im watching the way she moves and how her apparel runs along her curves - and how well that works. I wish I didnt do that tho - I dont like to get caught looking as I am conscious it could make some random and totally innocent girl uncomfortable.

When dressed: Well Im maxed at that point. I would run the 100 meters faster than an Olympic athlete if the prize were a no questions asked transformation.

Im a bit of a mess. And I doubt my self imposed regression is good for me. But Iv grown used to it over the years.

[TheHiddenMe]

100% male. I've had the urge to dress in women's clothes virtually my whole life, but even when dressed I'm still a guy.

[gerri ray]

I can't give an exact ratio percentage. All I know is that I feel more of a woman than a man.

[SusieSmith]

I am still 100% male. I have always been just me, normal. Other's may disagree...

[wantstocrossdress]

is there an online version or questionnaire for this test? google can't give me a test with the exact name though there are many that are similar.

[Antron III]

I'm a guy in a dress. I don't do anything differently or act different when wearing a dress but... It IS my bubble of tranquility. I'm calmer and more at ease in a dress than pants. To illistrate "guy in dress"; yesterday I was wearing a new to me light sundress after working outside on the house with my wife for several hours (in my kilt). She decided to make a change and came in to ask where a tool was. I put pants and sweatshirt on over the dress and went out to help her. So, "under dressed" or covered up I grabbed the Sawsall, helped with the project and then went back inside. Off with the outter wear and back to the sundress and what I was doing. Same guy, same stuff, different outfit.

[Lily Catherine]

I can't put a figure on it. All I know was that I was born and raised male and I don't feel I belong in this body, but "trapped in the wrong body", as much as it's a cornerstone of the transgender narrative, doesn't describe me either.

[SarahleeNH]

70% female, 30% male.

[Mayo]

80:20. It's right down there in my signature :)

[Sharon B.]

70% female and 30% male if it wasn't for a very deep voice I would go higher on the female.

[AnnieMac]

65% female; 35% male. But I'm a Pisces and that explains a lot!

[ronda]

me it depends on the day most days because I live alone I'm dressed fem but I am still a man I cant change that so I will say 50 50

[LydiaL]

When dressed, I feel 100% feminine. Yup, just why I do it.

Do not dress full time, so I guess 80% male, 20% female.

[shellybme]

I am about 85% male and 15% female. All of my hobbies and attitudes towards life are in the masculine category. I do love dressing up but I feel I cannot relate to what real women are and how they feel about life.

[Geena Gee]

Most of the time it's probably close to 80/20 (male/female.) When I'm clothes shopping, it goes to 50/50. And when I'm fully enveloped, with everything (makeup, clothes, hair,) looking just right, I'm probably 90% female (until I have to go to the bathroom, then it's like, "where the hell did that penis come from?")

[Fiona123]

Interesting question. I'm sitting here fully dressed and loving it. Its rare to have uninterrupted Fiona time. I would say 75% female, 25% male right now. Maybe 60/40 when in drab.

[Stephanie Julianna]

I'll bite. Since it is on my mind every waking hour I'll say 70% female. I guess you can figure out the rest.

[Becky Blue]

So very interesting and as expected varied responses. Like many of you my ratios change, but its not connected to when i am dressed or not. The last few months i have been feeling a lot more on the F scale.... When it drops back to maybe 50/50 i am less inclined to want to dress, but I have been pretty much 80+ F for quite a while.

[Ashley090]

Personaly I dont have stable rate or something like that. So far I can say I am more on my girly side. If you want numbers then 60/40 as F/M but some days I feel it swings more to girl but otherday its more to boy side. And I am very confused of myself and I feel like that girl side is that true and right side of me.

[Maria Blackwood]

Been 50/50 most of my life.

Recently been feeling wild swings toward the female side and I have no idea what to do about it.

Interestingly I like to dress no matter where the needle is. #cd4ever

[Vintage4sarah]

Of course the needle on the scale varies with our usual responsibilities and exposure in public ( friends, workmates, etc). Deep down, I have gradually realized that on the average I am 70% female and 30%. Never a day passes that my female person is quite frequently holding my thoughts captive. When I get to be Sarah for any extended time the needle goes up on the female side and when I am teaching or going about my male hobbies and chores the needle can plunge.

My wife knows about Sarah and around her, I can show some of my deeper feelings of caring, empathy and emotion (I tear up easily ).

[BillieJoEllen]

Mostly female although I spend probably 95% of my time in masculine pursuits.

[PaulaQ]

I feel 100% female. Probably a higher % than that because my presentation is stereotypically femme as well, and that presentation is important to my identity. Although my history is different, I don't feel differently than other women I know.

I'm a woman, through and through.

[Tina_gm]

This is a fair question but its been asked before and it always ends up being more like a competition by the end of the thread. I'm 110% female, I win.... what do I win?

[Karen G]

I really don't know how to answer this, and it's a good question . Maybe 55 masc / 45 fem and looking to turn that around. As I told you as I try to answer this question I get more and more confused.

[Erica1148]

90% of the time, I'm 100% male. I enjoy all aspects of being a man. The other 10% of the time, 100% female

[Maria Blackwood]

https://youtu.be/-mrmBe-fFr4

[Ally 2112]

When im dressed i feel like a girl when im not dressed i am pretty much a guy

[Krea]

I guess currently about 70% masculine / 30% feminine, but the feminine feeling has been increasing lately....

[IllinoisGuy1025]

I would say 80 male and 20 female

[irene9999]

About 70 male, 30 female normally

[krissy]

Im at 75 female 25 male

[sindi]

Maybe 70/30 female to male....as I get older the female side seems to become stronger.

[Christineblake113]

100% male and wouldn't change that. I just like wearing women's clothes on occasion because they are fun and sexy. During times of stress it is somewhat of an escape from reality.

Christine

[Elizabeth Ann]

In my case, it doesn't seem to be a well framed question. Like many of the others here, I can't give you some single, static figure, primarily because over the years, the very concept of gender has become fuzzy to me.

I had an enlightening discussion with a transgender woman leading to an epiphany: gender was so crucial a part of her identity that she was willing to go through anything to affirm it. Gender was of so little importance to my identity that I could easily abandon it at will.

Liz

[Diane Taylor]

I don't think of myself as a certain percentage of male vs. female. I'm who I am. I can't honestly say what it feels like to be a woman because I was born a male and will never know what it feels like to be a woman. I once read an article by a CD'er who said that by putting on female clothing we don't know what it feels like to be a woman any more than someone who puts on a cat suit knows what it feels like to be a cat !

[Becky Blue]

Diane, its not about clothes, it is about how we feel. I said I feel more female than male, when I dress as Becky it does not change that ratio.

[Becky Blue]

Interestingly and not completely untypical (for me) the last few weeks have been very up and down.. if you had asked me last weekend I would have said i was M:F 70:30 this weekend I would say its flipped to 20:80. For the last year or so I have been mostly F but she suddenly drops off for a few days - confusing

[Amelie]

90% female and 10% border collie.


Actually- 100% female and my alters are also 100% female.

[Beverley Sims]

Like you about 20/80...

I have to work as a male but most of the time I present as female.

I won't say I feel like a woman just presenting as one is for me.

[Jemma-crossing]

Interesting question. I'm intrigued by how female many of you feel. Personally I view myself as 100% male. This may be because I'm a logical person and a biologist so I view it anatomically mainly. I have always had a few more socially female behavioral traits than the average male, so in terms of behavior I view myself as 75% male and 25% female. I don't really feel any more female when I cross-dress, just that I get to look more female and therefore feel more natural going with the female behaviors and exploring them than I do when dressed as a male.

[Becky Blue]

Jemma, I too like to think of myself as a logical person, but many years ago I accepted that there is little or no logic in the Tworld that we inhabit. I long ago accepted my feelings and revel in them actually even though they defy logic.

[Rachel Anne]

I hide in plain sight...guy clothes are my disguise...

[Lacey New]

I'd have to say 100% male. I love to dress up and feel the nice fabric and feel of several layers of women's clothing ,the slippery nylon of lingerie, the hug of stockings or pantyhose, a slip and a dress or skirt. But it makes me no less of a male, just a male in women's clothing.

[NINA DRAGONBORN]

50% female 50% male
and i believe this make any one the most powerful human both inside and both outside
because you can see feel and understand things that others can not
and also you will be unpredictable so no one can manipulate you to their advantage
at least this the most powerful things about being 50 50

[Lisa Roberts]

It's unpredictable. Some days I ache to be totally female. It almost hurts. Some days I just am a guy. There's no rhyme or reason to it. Sun, moon, tides, weather??? I just can't predict when the Pink Fog will roll in. Oh my... I see it on the horizon 👗😀
Lace and Smiles
Lisa

[ginapoodle]

Interesting question and attempt to quantify F and M mix. I think my brain is a gender hybrid, very balanced R and L brain power with high connectivity. When I was working my team skills and communication usually soared above the M staff. Also preferred working with F team mates. High creativity and art ability are part of my mix.

Desire to express F comes in waves. Sometimes very strong, often also not. I engage in very M activities and expression. I note high risk activities such as motorcycle riding reduce my desire to dress F. Could be I identify F activity as a high risk, and high enjoyment time.

I have wondered if I was younger, with internet, and knowledge that I may have become more gender expressive. It was hell being gender dysphoric pre-internet.

So, no fixed numbers. My answer: variable.

[njcddresser]

70% female 30% male and it has nothing to do with th clothes I'm wearing

[mikayla1964]

I would say no less than 60 percent woman and 40 percent man.

[emilyanne]

I would say 70 female and 30 % male

[marilyn m]

when i was younger probably 60% male 40% female, but now at 53,
my female side is starting to overwhelm all aspects of my life i cant fight her back any longer,
now wife no 2 has gone, anything goes, its more 60% female, my bed room is now pink lol x

[PeggyNell]

To simply answer the question, I am a male.that likes to dress in clothes typically for women. In doing so it may bring out more of the "woman" in me. But I do not try to pass a woman. That is what I like about this form. CDs cove a endless spectrum. I am more on the end of, man dress in woman's clothes. I am of course still finding myself. But this is just a fun and harmless "poll" among like mined people.

[LaurenDeHart]

Keeping it simple and leaving out all the psychosocial stuff I'd say 70% female. I've known this for a long time and it's much more than crossdressing. I'm looking forward to being able to express it more openly.

Lauren

[nikkiwindsor]

Hiyah Bec,

I feel 75% female and 25% male. But, if I didn't have responsibilities to family, I would feel even more female. As much as I'd like to be true to myself I really feel I have an obligation to my spouse and family to demonstrate my male side even though I don't feel that way most of the time. Loveyah! Nik

[Salina]

It depends on what I'm doing but in general I'd say 50/50, but that can and does fluctuate. As I'm typing this its 75/25 female even though I'm dressed 100% drab.

[ShirleyN]

yeah. it's pretty much 50/50 with me as well but again it does fluctuate. My femme feeling is about 60/40 at the moment.

[Susan Smith]

I'm me. I like being male, but I like wearing feminine clothes too. Why do the two things have to be mutually exclusive? Also, I'm not a 'crossdresser', all of the clothes I wear are mine - they were either given to me or I paid for them. What right does society have to judge what I wear? Why? Why?

[Nefer]

95% female, 5% male. It took me a long time to accept that though, and it makes the times I have to go as male professionally a lot more painful.

[NatalieGirl]

40% male and 60% female

[Becky Blue]

I have done an approximate count 37 posters said they were between 51 and 100% male. 26 of you were either 50/50 or indeterminate and 40 people felt more female than male.

Some interesting observations
- very few of us feel 100% female inside but many felt 100% male
- many of us who felt more female than male don't feel more female when dressed
- not everyone reads the question properly, it was about how you feel inside
- lots of us have shifting feelings