It will not be long now

[joanne51]

I have been in the closet far too long. My SO deserves to know, and I just hope that we can work it out.
Today while I was at work she was trying to find one of our cats which had gone missing.
She opened the door of the junk room where my stash is kept. Luckily she did not explore, but simply
observed that I had to clear it up and that she would give me a hand.
This weekend is taken up with other things so it looks like next weekend I will need to sit down with her.
I had a chance when we first got together a long time ago. When she caught me dressed back then I should
have told her that this is who I am, and then agreed (or not) on what direction to take.
I will keep you posted.

[Diane Taylor]

Coming out is never easy but sooner or later needs to be done. I wish you the best of luck

[Rhonda Darling]

We're here to support you and offer advice, comfort, an abundance of ways to solve a problem. If all goes well,we're great at celebrations. if it goes in the crapper, we're great at sitting around and comiserating. Keep us in the loop, please.

Rhonda

[Suzie Petersen]

Joanne,
You have been here long enough to know that this can turn out well but it is also very possible that it could turn out bad.
Be careful not to make any promises you cannot keep.

Good luck!

- Suzie

[LaurenDeHart]

Joanne

Diane, is absolutely right. If this is you then it "needs to be done". Easy for me to say, I know, but I took the same "risk" and after a lot of dialogue and some time my wife has become by best GG friend. Start slowly and let it grow naturally.

Big hugs

Lauren

[Lana Mae]

Do it! It is for the best! It could be bad or good! Keep us advised! We are here for you! Hugs Lana Mae

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Joanne:hugs:, Good luck there is a 50/50 chance that life will be great.

See line #4 in my signature, Again I wish you luck...:daydreaming:...

[ginapoodle]

Blessings for courage. Perhaps listen as much or more than talk. Small steps.

Glad I did it. Perhaps the single most difficult thing I have ever done in my entire life.

[Shelly Preston]

Be sure to read the link in my signature on "how to tell your partner" as it was written by one of our GG members

[Nic J]

Hi Joanne,
I think you are right that it is better to tell her yourself, in your own way, than for her to find out.
I have just come out to my wife and it was a hard thing to do, but i am so glad that i did.
I hope everything goes well for you.

Best wishes, Nic :)

[Nikkilovesdresses]

hi Joanne, you don't say how your SO reacted when she saw you crossdressed, but it's a handy place to start when broaching the subject - and I do think you should. Others have said it's better to have a controlled detonation than a random explosion - should she find your stash - and I totally agree. It's only a matter of time till she does find it, or you leave a pair of panties under the sofa. Our female sides 'want' to be discovered because they want out of the closet - and who can blame them.

Good luck with your decision and please do keep us posted. Read the Stickie, there are huge amounts of good advice on how to handle the announcement.

[Leslie Mary S]

Good Luck. My wife passed away with out knowing the truth because it was the lose of her that started the closet door to open.

[phili]

Try to broaden the discussion as well- to emotional needs you may have, since she is likely to understand that, while being focused on clothing will seem contrived and fetishistic. I had the best success when I said I was kind of cursed with this, and needed to try to sort it out in a systematic way. Both of those made sense to her- and helped create a different context for my dressing.