Ever OUT Yourself ???

[deebra]

Ever out your self to make a statement, show confidence, equality, no discrimination against me here. By wearing some female clothing and not minding or even wanting a GG or male to notice you are wearing something feminine. For example tight girl jeans with stitching and embellished rear pockets, girl shoes or boots with heels, girls embellished belt, girls tee or top with girl jeans, some makeup. When they see this especially women do they wonder if you are also wearing panties and maybe even a bra? There use to be the fear of outing yourself and being embarrassed but now you have the self confidence to wear the girl clothes you love wearing and feeling womanly when you do. In Other Words I'm standing up for what I want to wear and not embarrassed any more to do it and just like women have done for years. This is me and I'm wearing what I like, it's just taken me a long time to get to where every one else has gotten especially women, they have had the confidence to do this a long time ago. Feels quite nice to dress, present and be who I want to be and nobody cares or says anything.

[DIANEF]

I attended a works training course a few months ago, which meant five days away in a hotel. I took some Diane stuff to wear in the evenings, and I did a little experiment. At the training I wore drab, but had six rings on (normally 3), a chain with a butterfly pendant, a blue bracelet and clear laquer on my nails. When I sat down I fully crossed my legs as a a woman does. As the people there were ones I would never see again I thought what the hell. Nothing was said but one young girl, about 20ish ( I'm 53) said I was 'quite trendy'! Its a long time since anyone has called me that.

[Laurana]

Everyday.

It's leggings at the gym.

Some sort of bikini bottom for the pool.

Jeans and t-shirt/tank top.

That's my daily clothing of choice. The only thing I don't wear to the gym is a bra. In the locker room I'll be walking around in some sort of panties. Nothing too over the top but something along the lines of boy shorts, g-string, or french cut.

Nobody says anything because I just don't think they care.

[Rachael Leigh]

Yes, I've worn my women's jeans to work, I wear a necklace somedays as well, and on occasion will wear some lite eye shadow as well as mascara and a touch of eye liner. Does anyone notice it's possible but no one says anything maybe there
just being polite
But your right it's me and it's what I want to wear, none of their business

[Rhonda Jean]

Frequently. But I don't feel like I'm standing up for anything.

[ginapoodle]

Yes, but not in Houston, TX. Have worn some F attire and makeup, a sort of gender blend while visiting Portland, OR and also while traveling. A bit of mascara, some light lip gloss, hose under jeans but no male sox, sometimes other lingerie. Nobody cared, and it felt great.

[Fiona123]

Other than going to gym with legs shaved, no. I wish I had that courage.

[Judith96a]

I've just had a couple of days away from home on business. I had to travel in boy mode but that didn't stop me wearing lipstick, light eyeshadow, necklace and engagement ring!

[Sissy_Michelle]

Deebra,

I now exactly how you feel, and I have felt the same way... What I did was wear my best black Walmart bra under a summer, short sleeved, buttoned down, see through white shirt, with a pair of women's Merrell shorts. I had just took clippers, no guard to my legs (knees down), and had shaved the rest of the way up. When I finished getting ready I looked at myself in the mirror and I could definately see my bra, I knew I would be noticed. Part of me wanted to see the reaction of the "West End" rich crowd of Richmond. The other side of me just wanted to go shopping without worry.

@--}----
Michelle

[Dana44]

Yeah all the time. In fact I was dressed as a mmale yesterday and at a bar. The waitress called me a mam. LOL Just had a clean face and a green hat on as well as a green T-shirt. My SO and I was celebrating her birthday. My SO said to me, she called you a mam. LOL But I do have long hair and it was down last night. But I go out androgynous a lot.

[Devi SM]

Sometimes I go out as a girl but I know for this threat does not count.
when I go to the gym I always wear short pants, I tuck 24/7 so my bulge is different, actually no bulge. I've seen some girls eyes on me when doing sit up or crunches. In the shower when I was shaving my body (because I shave just every teo weeks, no hair at all after hpl teatment) Icould see some guys eyes on me too especially for my pink toes polish nail.
I don't care if some day I hear the words gay, I'm not gay but bisexual trasgender mtf....but they don't know what is it.
I've read in a book about transgenders that many of us unconsciously give clues of our different gender to be finally found and get out the closet...

[Mgreenva]

I wear heels every morning with my male work clothes on my way to work. Stop and get gas snacks without worry. I got if early last week went to Best Buy, cabelas, catherines(got a dress for 20) and a few other stores wearing my new 9 west wedges. No one said a word. I did walk 3 blocks in Alexandria during lunch wearing them to go to the 9 west store. A couple younger guys noticed but kept to themselves As I've gotten I couldn't care what anyone thinks. Ps the ladies in the 9 west store loved it.

[docrobbysherry]

Some of us want to go all the way or not at all!:battingeyelashes:

It's not, "I feel more comfy in women's panties", for me. Because NOTHING is more comfy than my drabs.:heehee:

I want to see an attractive woman in my mirror. Not a man in a dress!:doh:

I'm the LAST person u would guess is a CD. And, considering the way I like to dress? Outing myself could have negative consequences for family members!:Angry3:

[Diane Taylor]

When I'm not out "totally female" I'm always out partially, which means that I wear girls jeans, girl's sneakers, girl's tank top, unisex wig, and a small amount of makeup and of course two ear rings in each ear. Never had a problem but every once in a while I'm addressed as ma'am which is fine with me. During the winter months I tend to wear a bit more male items but still do the unisex wig and makeup.

[kimdl93]

I dressed in woman's jeans and tees, but the motive was really to hide in plain sight rare than be recognized as having women's clothing on. When I started coming out, I came out completely....meaning I dressed fully en femme and presented myself, selectively to certain family members, friends, neighbors, and business associates. I don't think my motive even then was to make a statement, although there's nothing wrong with that. I came out..outed myself because I was tired and frustrated with hiding myself.

Coming out proved to be a mixed bag. My wife tolerated under dressing, wearing of female garments and eventually dressing fully at home. But it changed the way she saw me irreparably. Others, those with whom I didn't have such an intimate relationship, accepted with little apparent concern.

[Salina]

I am having strong urges to out myself to someone. My wifes best friend would totally be accepting in my opinion, I've known her for a long time. I'm not going to do that without my wifes permission though. There are a couple other women I know that I'm 99% sure would be cool, but its that 1% chance they'd out me to others that's preventing me.....for now!

[Tracii G]

I dress like that everyday and I have yet to out myself that I know of.
I was in girls jeans,boots,top and coat today hanging out with my straight testosterone filled male friends and none accused me of being girly or a fag or crossdressing.
I think you are the one that worries what everyone will say something if you wear anything that is not a male garment.
You may get a response if you wear a dress but jeans no because no one cares what you wear.
They even don't care if women wear womens clothes that are styled like mens but we have been thru that horse beating many times when someone say something about it.

[Teresa]

Deebra,
To me those dressing moments are a stepping stone, I did it several times when walking the dog, and got caught . It's a learning curve finding out how to deal with it and finding the right words to use to get people to accept it. I still do it but now I go out socially it's becoming a more natural thing to do.

[Stacy Darling]

For me it's a must.

I didn't tell my beautician years back, but she waxes me. Mmm!

I have a new cosmetics lady and she is the beautiful woman that has transformed my colour pallet.
I came straight out to my lady friend and have been given the same respect for doing so!

Yeh!, so it is a confidence thing.

I will never recommend Outing yourself, I only do it myself as I can take the hit if I get it!

Take care Girls, Stacy

[phili]

I do all the time now- necklace, bracelet, with feminine cut tops, and microfiber pants that are swishy- II switched to women's sandals and that even passed with my mother, although she asked why I was wearing shirt that was too small. The problem for me now is that the more feminine I feel, the better I feel, and more relaxed.

I am now having to catch myself - I am forgetting I am not supposed to wear a dress or skirt! So I push the envelope a little more- and am hoping that gradually people won't be surprised at all to see me in a dress, and will be surprised instead that they aren't surprised. It feels now like it could happen- when I am feeling so natural that there isn't any edge to react to. We'll see ...! ;0)

[LaurenDeHart]

I do too Salina and I know just the person. I would love to bring my SIL into it. She's a very open minded person and hilariously funny. I really don't think she would be all that surprised because she did catch me sleeping in a nightgown once. Totally weird situation. We talked about it later but blew it off as a minor fetish thing. She never said anything since but she also never walked into my bedroom unannounced again either!

Lauren

[Stephanie_V]

Just got back from the laundromat. Was too lazy to take off my nail polish from yesterday so walked right in with my bright red nails. Only got one one weird look (I think) and of course half my clothes were were Stephanie's. :)

[~Joanne~]

The most daring I have ever been is that I replaced all my drab socks with femme socks and no one has ever noticed or said a word.

[Eva Bella]

Yeah, pretty frequently. I try to be honest and relaxed about it. Happened last week at at nail salon when I got a pedicure in guy mode.

"Wow, that's a pretty color, do you always wear color on your toes?"
"Yes I do"
"Oh really? Can I ask why?"
"Because I wear open-toed heels twice a week when I'm presenting my feminine side"

I've told SA's in stores plainly that female clothes and shoes are for me, and I've told other people in the service industry (laser hair, massage) if they ask. I've only had positive responses so far, but I think that being confident and relaxed about it is a big component.

[Mark B]

I am doing it more and more. Wearing women's clothes without wig and make-up. About the only time I do go out now in complete feminine (breast forms, hip and butt pads, make-up and wig) is when the wife and I go out. She would rather see me that way. I have no problem with either mode. Been wearing 3" heeled boots to work about everyday now for a few months now. I jokingly told a female co-worker last week that soon I will wear a business skirt and pumps to the office. She said "why not?" :daydreaming: All women are required to dress business, but most wear flats or low heels. I always wear dark slacks and a tie. Maybe a skirt and a tie....

Bottom line is that I don't really care what people say or think. I am comfortable doing this, except in our neighborhood. Don't want the neighbors telling their children I'm a pervert or something.

[Steph70kk]

I am doing it more and more. Wearing women's clothes without wig and make-up.
Bottom line.

I never wear a wig ... I find wearing one uncomfortable... but I do wear women clothes with make up :-)

[cosmolovesph]

So I only have "womens" underwear, wear "womens" jeans all the time (some more obvious than others), if I am not wearing pantyhose/knee highs under my pants, then I am wearing "trouser socks" some sheer, some not so much. My shirts are "mens". today, had to go to the store with pantyhose, jeans, embellished flats with hard heels so they make the nice clicking, and a bra under my button up shirt. No care in the world and now I'm still dressed this way and will be until I either change into my F self later or take off the pantyhose to go do some yardwork. Either way I tend to mix the clothing and I do have a pair of leather boots that I'll wear with longer jeans (or shorter if feeling more adventurous) that have a 3" heel

[Joanne108]

If walking out of the house fully dressed as a woman after arriving home about 45 minutes earlier is outing myself. Then yes I have done so many times.

[Allison Chaynes]

At work a couple weeks ago, I had no idea that my fly was unzipped. One of my female coworkers told me, "Your flowers are showing." I didn't get it, until she pointed at my groin. Whoops! Guess they know who wears panties now...

[IleneD]

Outing myself is how I came out; not by intent mind you. Another story. :-)
But I've been bound by winter, a DADT situation with the SO, and increased personal obligations that I've been unable to dress in full for many weeks now. (So frustrating.) I've been mixing more things openly in guy mode. I go with panties 24/7 now. Once winter hit I have spent much more time at the rec center where I swim and using the circuit, etc. Many times now, I've been in the men's locker room with ear hoops (always pierced ears), and painted toenails and panties. Not a flinch nor head nod. I was astounded the first time I stood there in black nylon panties (with a nice lace waistband) and red toenails; changing into street clothes.

I've also found that in Guy Street mode a little lipstick improves the appearance and overall radiance. Maybe add a splash of color with one of my silk headscarves.
I'm always looking for ways to "get my girl on", even if just a little bit until I can find a crappy weather day to stay at home and dress up.

[mbmeen12]

Yes, I talk the talk and walk the walk (shout out to my GF Stephanie from CT). I was at plan parenthood getting my checkup. I spoke to the orderly, and proudly said "I am a CDer and enjoy life and wanted to assure to myself and my friends". It was something I can express as; jumping out an airplane moment and landed just fine.

[Devi SM]

I don't know if this count, some weeks ago in one of my regular doctor's appointment previous a deviated septum surgery, they ask me if I need something else, it wasn't hard but I tell that I'd like to be referred to a gender therapist, the nurse practitioner ask me what was the reason, I told her that I'm crossdresser, at the beginning she didn't understand me, may be my broken English, so I explain that I like to dress fully as woman in a regular basis, so now she asks me what I want to do, transition to surgery or hormones treatment, I told her not sure, so they made a referral with psiquiatry.
I haven't had that appointment
yet.
For some reason, since my wife knows I'm more open to the whole world knows.

[Charlessa]

all the time. i don't exactly try to stand out. but often i'll pull my bra strap where it will show out of my t shirt or whatever. i do go out i. female attire often but not that often. but i always underdress. i guess for me showing off something feminine like a bra gives me a lot of confidence in my crossdressing. Bras are what gave me the confidence to dress outwardly in the first place.

[Paula_Ann]

I have worn bras many times knowing full well someone could make out the outline of the straps. I have also worn items that I knew a women would recognize as being for females because of things like the buttons were on the opposite side. On a couple dozen early morning walk I have worn a skort.

[StevieTV]

I always out myself. At my age 53, I really don 't care what other think. It's there issue not mine. 99% there is no problems. I think people give more of a reaction to a "Make America Great" hat than if you're wearing skinny jean and shopping for pumps.

[Devi SM]

One of the ways I out of myself was the first time I bought women's shoes for myself.
It was in a Ross store. I didn't know what size I am In women's shoes. In men's, most if the times, I'm 9.5, so in male executive wearing, I'm a realtor, I just took out my male shoes and start trying women's high heels on 9.5. It was hard to trying to fit it I was thinking, I've seen many times women wearing this kind of shoes with a big portion of the heel of the shoe exposed so the shoe is too big so I try an smaller one but when I try to walk it was horrible.
Finally I got two pairs in 10. Since then,That's been the size that always fit good on me, when I got to paid I naturally ask if I could return it if I could walk with it to what the cashier answer just bring the receipt....
I love those two pair of shoes, they are nice, sexy and very comfortable...

[Lacey New]

I guess "outing" oneself can take a lot of forms. On one hand, "outing" oneself could be wearing obviously women's clothing in front of people who know you including SO and co workers. On the other hand, it could be anonymously purchasing a pair of panties in a department store with cash from a SA who you will likely never see again. So, in that manner, have I outed myself, yes. As soon as i asked to try on a dress at a Dress Barn, I pretty much announced that I was a crossdresser however, the SA still does not know my real identity. Would I someday like to take a close friend into confidence? Yes perhaps, but not ready for it yet. Too much potential for a bad outcome

[alwayshave]

Does, google AdSense count? Given the constant barrage of ads for women's shoes, dresses and lingerie that end up on my display at work google knows. I have been out to clubs, so I have outed myself, same withs SAs.

[Beverley Sims]

My female mannerisms tend to stand out all the time, I am not considered effeminate and mix well with other guys but women seem to spot it all the time.

Like an Italian I do talk a lot with my hands. :-)

- - - Updated - - -

Worn jeans and boots in androgynous mode many times, most memorable time I was outed was at Pearl Harbour by some girls attending a booth there.
They liked my style of jeans and the boots, come to think of it, if I had been wearing strappy shoes they may not have even noticed.

Boots in Hawaii do attract attention in the daytime.

[Alice B]

For the past 7 months my wife and I have been having Feildencrist (sp?) treatments with a woman my wife has been seeing for a couple of years. I started going due the the foot injury (previous posts) I have. Last week she was working on the foot and removed my socks. She was shocked at my painted toes. I openly told her that I was a cross dresser and then answered her questiions about it. Have another session today and willl,ook forward to her reaction to the new red color I have.Last was a deep purple, almost balack.