Stupid Me

[ChristinaK]

So, I went out today for the first time in several months. Natural hair styled very feminine. Bright tunic with a definitely feminine design. Forms, makeup, the whole deal. When I come home, my neighbor on the corner is doing yard work across the street. So, I turned around and went for a drive. Then I came back later and was able to ascertain via a side street that my neighbor was gone. So, I drive down the street and a different neighbor is walking out of his garage looking at me. He's a foreigner (not an American prude) and probably okay with me. We're friends and his daughters play with mine. I tried to pretend I was some woman driving my car. But, when I turned the corner (my other neighbor has a corner house, mine is across the street), there he is, bent over collecting yard waste. Cool, he won't see me. But, then he stands up and waves! So, I wave back and pull into my driveway and look for the remote to open the garage door. Not there! OMG, I had put it in my other vehicle! The walk of shame as I act like a girl, walking up to my front door, no short walk, hoping he thinks I'm my sister or something, ignoring the stare. His granddaughter is one of my daughters closest friends and she lives there.

I'm still shook up a little. I could care less whether or not my neighbors know about me, but I have once again put my daughter into a position of possible ridicule. If I were my neighbors, I would not be able to verify that the beautiful woman (yeah, right) in the car was me. That being the case, I would probably not mention it to anybody, considering that it's none of my business and my neighbor might be engaged in some hanky panky or it might have been a relative driving my car. In any case, it reminds me once again to have an emergency changeover kit in my vehicle. Didn't even enter my mind when I left for an appointment.

Probably nothing will come of this, as my neighbors daughter in law and aunt have both seen me full en femme in my car and nothing was said. Still, I feel such guilt as I endangered my daughter to ridicule at home and school. Okay girls, let me have it, I know it's coming. Let this be a lesson for others.

[rachelatshop]

Christina, have you seen your neighbor since the incident, and did he say anything. Did he ask who the woman was?

[AllieSF]

Sorry for the unfortunate situation. Does your daughter know about you yet? What about your wife. I am not saying that it would work for you, but many trans people have come out to their families early on and have learned to live with it with the children having little to no problems at school or elsewhere. Having them in the know does have its own benefits.

[Rachael Leigh]

Christina I understand and have considered the same when I come and go in my neighborhood, my concern is for my wife
however I feel that if they really want to know who the women is driving my car then come an ask, don't see that happening and I feel as you say it really is non of their business.
Protecting your daughter I get but I'm sure all will be fine

[Beverley Sims]

The times I have been sprung, those seeing me have believed it is my non existent sister. :_)

Luckeee!!

[Jenny22]

I always have male backup clothing with me when I drive pretty, as I change most outer clothing in the car. But, before I leave the house, I really try to be sure that I've got everything I'll need. My neighbors don't know of Jenny, and I want to keep it that way. So, I use black suction cup window screens on both the driver and front passenger side windows. They really reduce the ability of outsiders seeing who is driving.

[Suzie Petersen]

Oh you poor thing! I wish someone would have warned you that this very unfortunate thing could happen! How were you supposed to know!

;) Suzie

[SometimesKairi]

Maybe I have the type of personality where I could laugh something like that off by simply admitting it was me, but, if they knew it was you, then they knew. Too late to do anything about it by now.
If they ask who it was (I sincerely doubt they will) you can say it was you or just a relative.

No biggie :)

[Pat]

I could care less whether or not my neighbors know about me, but I have once again put my daughter into a position of possible ridicule.

If it helps you feel any better, they probably won't ridicule her, they'll ridicule you and you don't care. ;)

[ChristinaK]

So far, nothing has been said. I'm pretty sure the Grandpa didn't say anything to his granddaughter or it would have been an issue by now. That makes me feel better. I haven't seen my other neighbor but I'm pretty sure he would not be an issue.

I like to be able to come and go as I please in my own house being who I want to be. Call me weird or reckless. If my daughter finds out, then I'll deal with it.