TracyT
04-01-2017, 11:10 AM
Well, okay, not exactly full-time (I still wear pants and button-downs to work, most days), but to a large degree, I have finally stopped wearing men’s clothes.
Usually at work I have on women’s slacks, a woman’s button-down, and pumps or flats. On Fridays I often wear a skirt to the office. Outside of work I almost always wear knee-length skirts, with tights underneath if it’s chilly, with clogs or Keds or Dr Scholls sandals or pumps, and a woman’s pullover. I now have 3 casual dresses (from J. Jill and Athleta), and while I’m still self-conscious about wearing a dress, I’m starting to wear them more often. Otherwise I wear capris. I wear a (padded) bra and panties every day. At the gym I work out in an athletic skirt, sports bra, and woman’s tank top (I love the many cute styles of women’s athletic wear these days!!). I sleep in a nightie, picked out by my wife. I wear light makeup every day (foundation, lipstick, eye shadow, and mascara), and heavier when we go out in the evenings. My hair is just growing out to a chin-length bob, and I curl it 2 or 3 times a week. (I’ve been out in public in rollers twice this month!) I keep my toenails polished all the time, and get a couple of manicures a month with polish. If my nails aren’t painted I wear clear polish.
This didn’t come about with some big decision; I just gradually got into these habits and, obviously, stopped caring how people respond. My wife, who has known I’m a crossdresser since our 2nd date, 22 years ago, said about a year ago, basically, “If you’re gonna be a crossdresser you ought to crossdress,” and while she’s not totally enthusiastic, she has been gracious and accepting (I’ll still put on men’s clothes to go out with her, if she asks). Our friends have been terrific and, with a couple of exceptions, completely accepting, even matter of fact. (The wives have given me some wonderful compliments.) The only people I don’t crossdress around are my elderly parents, whom we see 2 or 3 times a year.
I don’t pass as a woman, and I don’t really even try, although I have been “ma’amed” a couple of times. We’ve talked about hormones, and I’ve been to a therapist who specializes in gender issues and she wrote me a letter of referral, so that I can get a prescription any time, but I have no plans to do so. I enjoy being gender-fluid, and the acceptance and love I’ve received have confirmed that, for me, it’s OK to simply be a man in a skirt. Androgyny is my preferred mode, and I’m so happy and fulfilled that, at age 49, I’ve finally arrived here.
I’m writing this in celebration and to let everyone know that “You can do it too!” Society really has shifted on this. I’m aware that not everyone has the freedom that I have, and I feel very fortunate. But I can also guarantee that, for nearly everyone who posts on this forum, the barriers to expressing your true self in your daily appearance are much larger in your mind than they are in real life.
Thanks so much for reading and have a great weekend!
Usually at work I have on women’s slacks, a woman’s button-down, and pumps or flats. On Fridays I often wear a skirt to the office. Outside of work I almost always wear knee-length skirts, with tights underneath if it’s chilly, with clogs or Keds or Dr Scholls sandals or pumps, and a woman’s pullover. I now have 3 casual dresses (from J. Jill and Athleta), and while I’m still self-conscious about wearing a dress, I’m starting to wear them more often. Otherwise I wear capris. I wear a (padded) bra and panties every day. At the gym I work out in an athletic skirt, sports bra, and woman’s tank top (I love the many cute styles of women’s athletic wear these days!!). I sleep in a nightie, picked out by my wife. I wear light makeup every day (foundation, lipstick, eye shadow, and mascara), and heavier when we go out in the evenings. My hair is just growing out to a chin-length bob, and I curl it 2 or 3 times a week. (I’ve been out in public in rollers twice this month!) I keep my toenails polished all the time, and get a couple of manicures a month with polish. If my nails aren’t painted I wear clear polish.
This didn’t come about with some big decision; I just gradually got into these habits and, obviously, stopped caring how people respond. My wife, who has known I’m a crossdresser since our 2nd date, 22 years ago, said about a year ago, basically, “If you’re gonna be a crossdresser you ought to crossdress,” and while she’s not totally enthusiastic, she has been gracious and accepting (I’ll still put on men’s clothes to go out with her, if she asks). Our friends have been terrific and, with a couple of exceptions, completely accepting, even matter of fact. (The wives have given me some wonderful compliments.) The only people I don’t crossdress around are my elderly parents, whom we see 2 or 3 times a year.
I don’t pass as a woman, and I don’t really even try, although I have been “ma’amed” a couple of times. We’ve talked about hormones, and I’ve been to a therapist who specializes in gender issues and she wrote me a letter of referral, so that I can get a prescription any time, but I have no plans to do so. I enjoy being gender-fluid, and the acceptance and love I’ve received have confirmed that, for me, it’s OK to simply be a man in a skirt. Androgyny is my preferred mode, and I’m so happy and fulfilled that, at age 49, I’ve finally arrived here.
I’m writing this in celebration and to let everyone know that “You can do it too!” Society really has shifted on this. I’m aware that not everyone has the freedom that I have, and I feel very fortunate. But I can also guarantee that, for nearly everyone who posts on this forum, the barriers to expressing your true self in your daily appearance are much larger in your mind than they are in real life.
Thanks so much for reading and have a great weekend!