You HAVE to do it!!!!!!!!!!

[Anita Mae GG]

For those who have not gone out and mingled and/or gone out dressed HAVE to do it. Last night Danielle and I went out again to a gay bar in Providence RI. A group called Gurls Night Out meets there every other weekend. Well we tried to Boston group last week and the setting was all wrong and Danielle didn't really talk to anyone due to being uncomfortable.

Well we tried Providence this week. It went so much better. I was the one nervous this time as I had only been in a gay bar once when I was in my early 20's and that was to see the male strippers :D Anyone I had all these anxieties about being the only woman etc....not about safety but feeling like I would draw attention to myself for being "out of place" Maybe like cd'ers do when they first go out...funny how that works huh?

Anyway Danielle (who went in drab) told me not to worry. Well I WAS the only woman there...felt really really uncomfortable. I saw a few guys talking and looking probably saying "do they know this is a GAY bar"? Well a few tgirls came in but we were hiding down in the corner per my request... now don't get me wrong, I am not homophobic or anything...just hate drawing attention to myself and feeling like everyone is looking at me (always been that way, HATE it) Well more people came in and more tgirls. We had moved to the bar at this point which was a better move. I felt more like I was blending in as much as I could being one of two females there. More women did come later but only 3 more.

The best part was Danielle felt comfortable enough to go introduce herself to the GNO Providence Moderator. It was great. We were also able to meet a couple from this forum...they were great....thanks TGirl74 and BethGG! Was awesome to meet you.

We had a great time and I mingled with a couple of crossdressers...my first time ever...it was great! Danielle is thinking that this could be her place to make her debut....I am fine with that. Looking forward to it :happy:

For those who have never tried this, I recommend it, it seemed liberating for both Danielle and I.

On a humorous note: the bartenders were quite cute, LOL....

............"but no one compares to you Danielle" :luvu: You are my love XOXO and I am proud of you for taking another big step!!!!

[Maureen Henley]

Tammy,

A great story to hear. I grew up in Warwick, 15 mi. from downtown Providence, lived there till I was 30. I was in the closet, in denial or on the verge of purging at any given time, so I'm not familiar with Gurls' Night Out. However, as I remember, the few gay bars in Providence then were in neighborhoods that not even Marty would venture into, much less Maureen.. I guess times are changing (India Point or So. Main St. these days?)

I hope Danielle makes a smashing debut. I know I was nervous as hell the second time I went out in public en femme. The first time was a Halloween motorcycle campout, so that doesn't really count, although with the bikers there,...

Go, Danielle, with a wife like Tammy, you should have a long and happy second life.

Maureen

[julie lavender]

HI good for the both of you,its so lovely to get the positive feedback, yes i do hope to go out my self soon,I went to buy lipstick and gloss the other day and the shop lady was so happy to help me,It was such a special occasion, hugs to you both, julie xxxxxxx.

[Raychel]

Congratulations. It sounds like you had a great night. I would be apprehensive about the whole gay bar thing also. That surely is not my cup of tea. Not that I have anything against the gay population, but I just don't know what I would do if someone decided to hit on me. :eek: And I know that it would totally creep out my wife.

I'm glad you had a fun night.

[fancy nancy]

I may go out soon and show off my femine side ro the public and have some fun.


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I am thinking going out some time dressed up and have some fun too.

[annekathleen]

When you go out into public ( I havent had the courage )
and you engage someone in conversation, do you still talk in your male voice, or do you try to talk in a more feminine voice?

[DonnaT]

Congratulations to both of you.

Yes, when you do go out, you have to talk to others or you may find the experience not so interesting. Then you'll miss out because you won't think it's necessary to go out again.

If you see someone standing off to the side watching, then go introduce yourself. Have them go with you to introduce yourselves to others. Some will be interesting to talk to, some not. No different than any other club, really, when it come to meeting others.

[ronda]

i am so happy for the two of you that you both had a good time. i can only dream of doing that with my s/o we just started to talk about my cding after 4 years of her knowing glad we are talking about it. love to hear about the fun you are all having gives me hope :happy:

[PTPJen]

Tammy GG of Danille!!

I occationaly go to Toast in Somersville, its a Lesbian Bar and very acceting to CD's, everyone is very nice and very seldom feel uncomforatable. I go have a few drinks talk, sometimes other CD's are ther sometimes not but alway a good crowd. Looking for a place on a Friday night let me know! Jenn

[GypsyKaren]

You know, we go to all kind of bars and clubs, gay and straight. We always have the most fun at the gay bars, everyone is always so friendly, never any problems or obnoxious drunks. Next time make Danielle go dressed!

Karen

[Billijo49504]

:sad: Gee, I feel left out. I or we have never gone to a club or bar in the last long while. Michigans .8 rule is awfull expensive ifyou're caught. And I'm not very lucky. I go to the grocery store and clothes shopping dressed, but no bars.:sad:

[BethGG]

Hey Tammy! Yeah last night was fun :) I was a bit nervous of meeting a bunch of people I never talked to before, but everyone was so nice I felt very comfortable. Glad you and Danielle showed up! You 2 definitly should come again, I know we will. I just wish it was at a larger place, it was a pretty tight squeeze. It was nice talking to another GG in real life about our SO's dressing!

[Emma_Forbes]

Believe me I'm trying....but no success.

[Anita Mae GG]

When you go out into public ( I havent had the courage )
and you engage someone in conversation, do you still talk in your male voice, or do you try to talk in a more feminine voice?

Danielle did not go out dressed yet...this was just a meeting to get know some other cd'ers...the few girls we talked to...talked in their male voice......
I suppose you can talk however you feel comfortable :)

[Dizzy GG]

Josi and I went out to a club in London called Trans-Mission on Saturday and stayed in a hotel nearby. It was my first trip out with her although she has often just gone to ordinary venues with GG friends during the past 2 yrs. We had a great time and met another "first time out"(for both) couple. The girls were lovely and were largely just getting on with enjoying their night out....great for me as I am self aware when I go out...definitely do it again. Any ideas for other "safe' venues for nervous GG partners!!...eating out, clubs etc. in the U.K.

[Jasmine Ellis]

Congratuletions Dear. Good For You Both

[Sarahgurl371]

Happy to hear you guys had fun, relaxed, and met some nice people!!

[Josi]

Hi

I am Josi - Annie GG's SO.

just have to say publicly - she is outstanding. Thank you Annie for completing my life.
We had a great time on Saturday - and I learnt a valuable lesson.

4" heels may look fab and even feel fab when sitting down .. but OMG ... we left the hotel, and after just 25 steps I was in agony. We had to go back so I could change into my trusty boots! (which actally looked better with my outfit).

For me, going out is very important. I feel so alive out in the world esp with the wind blowing up my skirt lol.

But one draw back .. why is there always a queue for the ladies! :cheeky:

Josi

[sherylhenessey]

I used to go out a lot, but alas, is my nerve diminishing, or am I losing it?
I used to go grocery shopping of all things, dressed in a silk blouse and skirt, pumps and all. :)