Caress Yourself en Femme?

[IleneD]

Except for a couple rare times I've not worn much of my female wardrobe for several months. Daily panties and underdressing 24/7 was on the agenda but not quality dress time. I now have a few days and a long weekend to myself.
I put on some casual girl clothes; jeggings, ankle boots, a cowl neck sweater and a bra and lacy camisole underneath. Loved it all.

BUT..... as I moved about the house tending to chores (and loving being back in a full woman's ensemble), I caught myself unconsciously caressing myself; in particular my breasts. My fake breasts. Just a comfy cotton bra with foam inserts; not high quality forms or real breasts. But I was gently caressing my breast and enjoying it. Some of the tactile sense came through, and it was pleasurable in a very girly sense. Maybe it was the feel of the enhanced shape, or the change in my form. Don't know.

I don't know if I should be disturbed or consider this a form of growth into my inner female. I've been a "lifer" in many respects, but only seriously engaged in full blown crossdressing in the last year or so. It wasn't just the panties and leggings; it was when I dared to buy that first dress for myself. This reflection on touching myself in a feminine way went a bit beyond 'just the clothes'. Yes, it touched me.

Do I need to be concerned?

[Fiona123]

I would not be concerned. Not one bit. Dressing can be an intense tactile and yes sexual experience. That you touch yourself only enhances the feeling. There is nothing wrong with that.

[ronda]

no concern I do it all the time I love playing with my boobs

[Lana Mae]

I would not be concerned about it! It just feels so good to be dressed...and I have caught myself doing the same thing! Love and adoration of the female form! (At least that is how I feel about it!) Hugs Lana Mae

[Chelsea B]

I find myself doing that too, though it extends to many areas of my body, feeling the sensation of the stockings on my legs, the cell of the feminine fabric of my clothes, and yes, the gel inserts inside my bra or shaper. I find it enhances the feel of the clothes from the 'inside', adding another sensual dimension on the outside.
For me, it isn't sexual, at least not anymore, but the sensual aspect is oh so pleasurable:)

[Brandybea]

No..no worries at all. I think most of us like feeling those feminine additions to our body. There are times when I have my forms on when I forget they are there...only to be happily reminded when I move suddenly and feel them jiggle. I always reach up to touch them and enjoy them.

[Jaymees22]

I feel the sensation of being a women as you have said. Should we be concerned, look who we're asking. Of course if it feels good DO IT!!!

[Janine cd]

I Agree. Feeling feminine is what it's all about. I often close my eyes and caress my fake breastforms and wish that they were real.

[Beverley Sims]

God!
You're standing at the mirror looking at a beautiful woman why would you not want to caress her?

[Lily Catherine]

Maybe if what I'm wearing is a particularly delicate material or something new, I like to feel it between my fingers to know what it feels like. I don't exactly like caressing my boobs as much as some of you do.

[Alice B]

Perfectly normal

[linda's angel]

a must!!!!

[Dana44]

It feel normal to do that. Um I do that too.

[CarlaWestin]

I'm right with you all. There are times when I just can't believe it's me!

[Princess Chantal]

Hmmm I don't recall ever caressing the breasts or any other added shaping parts to give me a more feminine figure. I do often caress my legs when in nylons, however it is mostly due to my fascination with the feel of nylons and not really with the possibility of them appearing to be feminine.

[Alisonforme]

Sounds to me like you're enjoying a beautiful experience! Roll with it!
Being girly opens all kinds of doors

[Tracii G]

I have moobs so I can squeeze mine anytime LOLOL.
It does feel good :)

[Ceera]

I wouldn't worry, unless you find yourself doing it in public! :)

I do it at home a lot myself. If I am just enjoying girly time at home, or when I have just dressed up and am getting ready to go out, a bit of tactile feedback to confirm my feminine form simply feels good. Likewise, when I have just shaved all over, I find myself touching and admiring my smooth skin, and wishing it could always be so smooth and feminine. I think it's a perfectly normal and self-validating thing to enjoy the sensory experiences of seeing and touching the feminine side of ourselves, made real while we dress. It doesn't even have to include a sexual/sensual component (though it could). Sometimes its just nice to confirm, "Heck yeah, I got those curves going for me today!"

[Sandin Meknickers]

For sure there is nothing wrong with that! I seem wired to make those "feminine" connections with contact in almost everything I do, with it often starting in other sensual cues - eating with my eyes haha.

[Maria Blackwood]

I'm caressing myself right now.

[Teresa]

Ilene,
I often watch women on television, and notice female presenters touch their bodies and legs far more than the male presenters, it's a subconcious thing of gently easing a hem line down and then a gentle stoke of the legs, the same with some parts of the body but not their bust ( in public ). I can't see why we should be any different , the fabrics are very tactile, stockings feel very smooth , I agree we may not be totally use to our new shape and find we are checking it out by touching it, OK it can sometimes go beyond that but it's not doing any harm in private .

Part of our CDing is the thought of softness and smooth skin wearing clothes and underwear that really do feel good to wear and look at if we didn't feel those things we probably wouldn't do it , I'm not concerned by it , it's a natural thing as a female to do, where's the problem ?

[SometimesKairi]

Normal.
Totally normal.
Getting aroused by a pretty woman even if it is yourself is a normal thing

[IleneD]

Thank you. Thank you ALL for the supportive, kind and wise responses so far.

But seriously, I pondered the possibility of Escalation. Though she's generally been loving and "supportive" to a slowly growing extent, one of the real concerns my beloved Wife expressed about my crossdressing was that the behavior would GROW. It would be 'addictive' like a drug and take over my life, etc.
And frankly, I gotta hand it to her. My enthusiasm for wearing women's clothing has increased. I don't believe it's an uncontrolled "problem". Yet..... the forms and foundation garments create the perfect illusion. Touching myself in that manner was like.... well, touching myself.

Still thinking about this but the Forum consensus appears to be that it's normal, ... enjoy it.
Bless you all, sisters. With all my heart.

[GretchenM]

Hey there Ilene,

I don't think exploring your adjusted form is unusual at all. Sounds like everybody does. It is a different sense of self and probably because you have two identities, or span a wide range of the gender spectrum, or whatever is going on in the perception of self that occurs in the brain, a need to explore your physical self becomes necessary. Kind of getting acquainted time. Remember children explore their bodies all the time, sometimes in very, well, you know, ways. Adults also do it but differently. The mental state loves to be attached to some kind of physical state that defines its intangible nature.

As for the "escalation," that is a different matter. After that August 2012 crisis and the coming out, I escalated intensely for the next 6 months. Scared the you know what out of my wife. But then it all began to settle down and now varies around a broad range of feelings and expressions, but does not increase or escalate. The mental state has attached itself to different kinds of physical states that go much deeper than the clothes. But I have known enough others to know the path we follow as individuals is not one that is very predictable. December 2012 I was headed straight for the transition door; almost totally gone by February 2013 and has never seriously reappeared. It didn't fit the identity that was developing and maturing. But others that began just as I did are now 24/7 and a few went all the way through surgery. I think the key is to enjoy yourself and the journey, but to always be aware of exactly what you are feeling in terms of the deeper identity as that is likely the driving force in most of us. For me the dressing is sometimes important and that seems to be pretty common in others I have known a bit better, but it is always secondary to the behaviors that are attached to the identity and not many behaviors require an outward physical expression of an inner identity that is unique and always becoming something that it was not before. If it gets out of control then, in my experience, gender therapists can help one organize and regain perspective on the identity while helping one to attach to the more secure and real elements of who you are rather than the more fleeting moments of pink fog. I hesitate to use the term "reborn," but in a sense it is a bit like that. The cloistered identity has been replaced by one that is more true to the one you actually developed in youth and now it needs to be open and free. But always having been hidden the true identity, whatever it is in terms of its real nature, being out in the open air is not only liberating but also a little scary and tinged with a good deal of uncertainty while negotiating the speed bumps of life. Your real identity is learning to gain a new sense of "I am," self definition and that requires exploration and experimentation.

Gretchen

[Just Nikki]

Yes, I love the feel of my nylons and my breast forms under my bra. It gets me physically aroused.

[Vikky]

I certainly do it, and caress my legs when in tights, feel the smoothness of a skirt or dress over my hips etc etc. Very normal I reckon.
Vikky

[SheriM]

I don't understand how a hetero male would not like the feeling of wearing women's underwear. Not being critical, just that I find lingerie, on or off, to be so appealing.

[Chelsea B]

Ilene, escalation seems to be a prevalent concern. My wife became accepting, but not comfortable, as long as she thought my CD'ing would remain in a box, so to speak. Any push on my part for a more complete experience meets with substantial resistance, and fear of where it will go. This is why I still have a goatee. I'm being as patient and accommodating as I can.

[Spiritfox]

Irene, I personally can't find myself attractive or take pride in my appearance while in men's clothes. IMO this is pretty much just part of liking the way you look

[AmyVanessa]

I also like to caress my boobs and my silky bra cups.
That and my nylon panties and hose, especially with heels on, I just love the feeling

[docrobbysherry]

Ilene, touching your forms is absolutely NO reason for u or your SO to get your panties bunched about. Reason being? U get no charge from your touches thru the forms!
Some of us that get seriously turned on go UNDER our forms for stimulation.:o If u begin doing that? U both may have reasons to worry!:straightface:


I don't understand how a hetero male would not like the feeling of wearing women's underwear. Not being critical, just that I find lingerie, on or off, to be so appealing.
You're dreaming, Sheri. I had no gender issues for fifty years. The idea of trying on women's things never even entered my mind until then. Altho I had plenty of opportunities with wife and girl friends.

Even now, fem panties do nothing for me. Except hold my tuck. I have my fetishes and many vanilla males do, too. But, wearing women's undies isn't one of them. Sorry------:battingeyelashes:

[Sandin Meknickers]

Even now, fem panties do nothing for me. Except hold my tuck. I have my fetishes and many vanilla males do, too. But, wearing women's undies isn't one of them. Sorry------:battingeyelashes:

Gotta say I'm probably somewherr in the middle. I have a pair of little red trunks (male) and quite a few "man"ties the kind you can pick up on figleaves. With shaved legs and dressed slouchy fem, these are easily as hot as genuine panties etc. and honestly more comfortable.

[Periwinkle]

When I dress up, I don't ever wear forms or a bra, but I do tend to put my hand on my chest a lot. I think it's a way to ground myself. Like I'm reminding myself that I'm still there under that wig and feminine clothing.

I'm also very tactile when clothes shopping, and I have to touch and hold every item I'm considering purchasing. Then I need to walk around while carrying it for a bit to make sure I really REALLY like it. Then I buy it if I can't bring myself to put it back.

[wantstocrossdress]

like the other ladies here i caress my nyloned legs even if they are in layers of pantyhose, tights, or stockings specially when i'm also wearing gloves. nothing beats nylon, lycra, or satin gliding over one of the other.

i find myself caressing my breasts too at times but since they're just bras with fillers and i'm more into nyloned legs, the feeling just isnt the same. the same goes for my bum. its still gotta be the legs.

[Swish]

Who can help it? The hands of even every woman who wears pantyhose (though there are so few anymore, blast those damned feminists!) inevitably eventually finds its way to unconsciously caressing her own shin and ankle to the witness of our drooling envy. Let's face it, for us, we want to be both caresser and the caressed at once and are left with the urgent necessity of the command to keep our hands to ourselves. - Slip gliding electrically over hosiery - no one can resist that slithering electric pleasure.

[XemmaX]

yeah definitely, i love the feeling of nylon legs and a soft skirt brushing on them..

[CD Tammy]

Absolutely, I caress my own legs every time that I'm in nylon. I love sexy legs and tights make my legs sexy.

[Dana44]

Ilene, you do not need to be concerned. We all caress ourselves especially when we have nylons on. And hoot all my bras are natural. I don't use form.s. Yep check them too. It is a natural feeling to caress yourself.

[IleneD]

Dana.

I don't know. It's a sign, a trend that I'm internalizing and enjoying this way too much.

[Sometimes Steffi]

Umm, I guess you could say so.

Sometimes I like sleeping in my forms. I have a "pullover" racerback bra (I'm not sure what the correct term is) that is very comfortable because there's no hook-and-eye closure. Sometimes I wear it to bed with a set of silicone forms. I just love waking up with boobs and maybe I do caress them when I wake up. Maybe I even do it if I wake up in the middle of the night.

I hope it's not a problem. Just joking. It's not a problem, or at least one that I'm worried about.

It feels great to wake up with boobs.

[ringedjohn]

I have natural breasts and sensitive nipples. I love caressing them -often - in or out of a bra.

[rebbeccafem]

i do caress my self esp with my hip pads and fake boobs on.