Another small step

[susancheerleader]

Yesterday I went shopping out of town. I had on women's skinny jeans. A blue womans sweater with a cowl neck, and off set bottom. And a gray woman's fleece jacket.
The most obvious womanly item was the sweater. At first I was going to hide it. But I decided not to and just went shopping. No one said or looked at me like I had two heads.

Some might say that's not a big deal. For me it is another big step as I try to become more comfortable dressing in public. "Small steps"

[susancheerleader]

I don't talk about cross dressing at work. But they know I shave, EVERY THING. I am also usually wearing fruity smelling lady's body spray. I get compliments how nice I smell, from both male and females. The females always compliment how nice my legs look.

Someone made an off the cuff comment about drag queens. Not deflamitory at all. (This please is so open to other sexual orientation type of people.) and I said "what" because I didn't hear them. They guy replied "you heard me" in a way that indicated he know I dress up.
If I was to ever feel comfortable coming fully out, it would probably be with my co workers.

[suzanne]

If he thinks he knows something about you, then he might think he has something on you with which to manipulate you. That's troublesome if you're not prepared to be out to the world. If you are ready to be out and owning it, he has no power over you. He's just a loudmouth bully that can be dealt with through HR channels. I truly hope he's the only one who gives you grief, and I'm guessing he probably is.

Unfortunately, I have no experience or advice to share that would help, aside from never engaging him in any conversation that doesn't pertain to work. But we're all rooting for you. You don't deserve to be harassed. No one does.

[susancheerleader]

Honestly, I appreciate your comment and support. However, in no way do I take his comment as harassment. I work in a restaurant kitchen among all men and they all are gruff.
But as I also wrote, they are very supportive of people who express them seeks other then there born gender or sexual preferences. The owner has even gon on face book badgering (supporting ) a man who harassed a transgender. I would feel comfortable if they really suspected my cross dressing. I think they do, but don't talk about it. Nor do they care. I could probably show up in a dress without derogatory comments.

[IleneD]

Susan,

Bless you, and your story. I am going through some of the same.
I've been mixing and ADDING more and more female items to my everyday "Guy Mode" wear to the point where it's almost gone over to the femme side.
Today, for example, I went out for lunch and to grocery shop. I wore my jean leggings (jeggings), a tunic length blue embroidered top, open toe sandals (w red painted nails), but I wore no wig; a ball cap. I had my gold ear hoops and a pink lipstick on.

I knew I looked "not like your average guy" off the street. But as I went about my lunch and my chores I didn't find any ugly stares or giggles (though, yes... I was aware that I turned a few heads and got special attention a few times from clerks). It was a fantastic, inner-girl confidence building day.
Yes, darling. Small steps.