My Grandson

[jeniffer]

Hi everyone, I have a 3 year old grandson who like wearing his 6 year old sister clothes, he also like playing with girls toy`s, don`t get me wrong, it`s up to him, but i thing it`s great and to see him follow me as a Crossdresser, they don`t know about me yet cause there still only little to me lol, all my children know now but never dressed in front of them,and not one of them has ever Crossdressed, his mum lets him play and dress as he wants as long as it`s inside the house, for now, lol, how many family members have followed you to dress? I have 3 other brothers and they also don`t know yet but I`m the only one that I know of at the minute

Jennifer xx

[SometimesKairi]

He's 3.
Let him do what he wants :)

Playing with dolls or dressing as a girl, especially at that age, means jack shit.

If he becomes transgendered then you have experience in this, if not then he doesn't.

The very best thing you can do is be supportive in anything he enjoys doing, because these things make him happy

Just want to add a little side note, please don't push him to crossdress. If he wants to dress, then let him, if he doesn't, then leave it.

I don't have any children but I know children that young are still experimenting with what they like.
Just support whatever they like and please don't try to push anything :)

[Tama]

To answer the question..nobody. I have no children, to the best of my knowledge my brother does not dress. He's a real John Wayne type of guy my dear brother is. He'd set me alight if he found out about me! So, we won't tell him

[Tracii G]

If he has no idea you dress how is he following you?

[Lana Mae]

At 3, play is universal with no gender boundries at that point. Let him do his thing and do not try to influence him one way or another! As secretive as most crossdresers are how do you know for sure your brothers don't? Is it any of your business? No, let it be! Hugs Lana Mae

[Stephanie47]

From what I have seen on legitimate news websites and in news articles the vast majority of kids who are drawn to playing with the toys or wearing the clothes of the opposite sex as defined by societal norms eventually conform. Let him do what he wants. I would not do anything to instill in him what he is doing is wrong. Don't do anything that may negativity affect his self image.

[char GG]

He's a kid, don't read too much into it.

[Pat]

I read an interview with a psychiatrist who works with transgender kids and he said an interesting thing -- if the child just shows interest or says, "I want to be a girl" or something like that, just let it ride. But if he says "I am a girl" then you should pay attention. His story was that he's never had a patient who said "I am" who later recanted. Sadly, I don't remember the source any more.

[Chelsea B]

How do you know one or more of your 3 other brothers don't dress?

Jennie....great anecdote about the psychiatrist interview. Perfect and likely very accurate distinction.

[Stephanie Julianna]

I also have grandchildren, actually seven. 4 boys and 3 girls. I am very close with the girls as well as the boys. With the girls it's games, movies and summer fun at a lake club. The boys it's more about cars and super hero movies. The girls are girly girls. The boys are all over the place. The oldest is in his first year of college and did chorus and plays all through high school. His younger brother is all macho and sports. Their younger cousin is also all boy. That leaves the youngest who is now 8 years old. He has 2 older sisters and I see and hear so much of me when in himwhen I was his age that I have to wonder. Just last week there was a discussion with his sisters when he said he wanted to have babies. Also, at many dressy events at church or for family, he is the first to remark on how pretty a girl's dress is. He is small like his sisters and it is to early to tell what will happen when the male hormones start to do their thing. My wife has also noticed things and we have talked about where he might be heading. I will keep a close eye on him and be there for him if he decides to go in the direction I have taken over the years. If he never follows me, that is OK as well.

[Tracii G]

I really have problems with parents pushing things on kids at an early age.
I read an article where a trans parent MtF and her husband were seeking srs for their 4 year old child.
Claimed they could tell or they just knew the child was trans.No substantial evidence just their feelings
Some people shouldn't be parents.

[CONSUELO]

I hope that the parents leave the child to explore his own path without fear and punishment. If it were me I would let the child develop as it wants and at its own pace and protect it from those who would do harm. Who knows what he will decide in 5 or 10 years from now. I do hope he is not subject to the sort of criticism and punishment that some here have described from their childhood.
It strikes me that at some point you may have to declare your interest in cross dressing. I have been in conversations with people about colleagues or family members who cross dress and the only possible response was to be as supportive as possible, but that can be difficult without giving away that you too are a cross dresser.

I know a child who loved to dress and play with his mother's makeup and the parents let him alone to find his own path. I thought that was very brave of them and they did not try to hide what their son was doing from their friends either.

[Stephanie47]

Traci, that's awful. I will say I really question how society has over reacted to some kids you indicate they are perplexed as to their sexuality. I've talked to some people who have gone therapy with their child and come away with the feeling the therapist almost wants to "push" the kid in a direction and not let the kid find his own way while being supportive.

[ginapoodle]

I have often wondered if there is a genetic influence on gender fluidity. Someday perhaps some researcher will tackle that topic with enough data to conclude meaningful results.

Let the young people find their own paths...

[Angie G]

My dad dressed here and there I never seen it but was told of it. I'm way more involved. When my grandson was younger he would try on things bras nighties. now he is 19 last year I found my thing got mixed up in my things He is the only one that was in the house. I never told in I knew he was in there. just let thing happen if they do fine if not fine.:hugs:
Angie

[Tracii G]

Let the kids use their imagination, grow and don't hold them back.

[ellbee]

I read an interview with a psychiatrist who works with transgender kids and he said an interesting thing -- if the child just shows interest or says, "I want to be a girl" or something like that, just let it ride. But if he says "I am a girl" then you should pay attention. His story was that he's never had a patient who said "I am" who later recanted. Sadly, I don't remember the source any more.

For children, cross-gender behaviors may start between ages 2 and 4, the same age at which most typically developing children begin showing gendered behaviors and interests. Gender atypical behavior is common among young children and may be part of normal development. Children who meet the criteria for gender dysphoria may or may not continue to experience it into adolescence and adulthood. Some research shows that children who had more intense symptoms and distress, who were more persistent, insistent and consistent in their cross-gender statements and behaviors, and who used more declarative statements (“I am a boy (or girl)” rather than “I want to be a boy (or girl)”) were more likely to become transgender adults.

https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/gender-dysphoria/what-is-gender-dysphoria

[nvlady]

You have three older brothers that don't know. Maybe you don't know about them.

[Marcia Blue]

I have son who dresses also. I learned about it when he was in his late teens. I never noticed anything when he was younger that made me suspect he may dress. He knows about me, but has never seen me dressed in person. We have talked about dressing, but only in the vaguest terms.I know he is still struggling with who he is. I have let him know that I support him for who he is.

[docrobbysherry]

When I was a toddler my dad called me, "Shorty the truck driver". Because of the toys trucks I played with all the time.

Then, up until about age 6 I wanted to be a cowboy. Probably influenced by all the TV cowboys of that time. Yet, when I reached my teens I had no interest in being a truck driver or cowboy.

The thing to remember is, at age 3 to maybe 7, kids don't even know what being a cowboy, man, or woman means!:straightface: