well that was quick

[SometimesKairi]

Since my mighty robot brain processes things faster than puny human ones, I have come to a settlement about my whole gender/dressing thing.

As always I was over complicating things and demanding perfection without putting in the effort.
Am I a woman or a man? Honestly, I don't care.
It's not gender fluidity, non binary, abinary or avian.
I am just me.
I like wearing dresses and putting on makeup and maybe one day I will live in female clothes, maybe I wont

I cant change as a person and why would I? I have my faults but I like who I am.

So, I will continue to dress up because I feel good and right in female clothes. That's it. Not complicated at all.

Funny how taking just one step back can clarify things.

[Laura912]

Maybe it is avian. All the male birds get the plumage!

[Samm]

Sometimes it's not that complicated. I'm pretty much in the the same place you are.

[Danitgirl1]

YES!
When in doubt apply Occam's Razor.
What you have said is pretty much EXACTLY how I feel... Sadly society is so hung up on definitions, people are always wanting you to define yourself for them...
And then society loves setting up (false) binaries:
Gay/straight
Man/woman
Cis/trans

So over it. Let's just all be our true and authentic (human) selves...

[Angie G]

That's the way I feel about it Kairi just dress up and enjoy.:hugs:
Angie

[Tina_gm]

I've been slowly working to be mentally in the same place

[Lana Mae]

Just be you and be happy! Hugs Lana Mae

[DIANEF]

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So I will continue to dress up because I feel good and right in female clothes. That's it. Not complicated at all.

That's pretty much how I've always felt.

[Jaylyn]

I like what you said I'm just me. Sometimes I want to be a hunter, fisherman, outdoorsman, tenter, fifth wheel traveler with my wife, farmer/rancher/cowboy and then I sometimes like to dress in my dresses, makeup and sit in my recliner and relax.
I love that you said it feels right, I am finding the same here. I hate those dam words that every body had to come up with to explain why, what and when I am the way I am. I love my panties as they feel better than cotton on my butt, I love dabbling in my lipsticks and panty hose, and trying to walk in heels. Let's just be who we want and to heck with what umbrella some one wants us to fit under.
Good post Kairi.

[Krea]

You summed it up very nicely Kairi. The labels are irrelevant as long as you are happy being you. :)

[AllieSF]

That magical and comforting place of self awareness, self acceptance and self love. What a wonderful place to be!

[Tracii G]

I'm glad you stopped worrying about it all and can be yourself.
For me when I realized it didn't matter all the small stuff/stress vanished.
I have been trying to make that point for a long time but others just want to wallow in pity and create problems for themselves.
Free your mind and your ass will follow its as simple as that.
Now all the naysayers will pile on me and say they just can't do it that way to which I will say "if I did it you can too, you just don't want to".

[Stacy Darling]

See! You didn't need Paul, Kairi or anyone else to make up your mind for you!

You just go with the flow and let SometimesKairi make-up her own mind! No Rush!

("now what about those lipstick choices?")

Always Stacy!

[Sandin Meknickers]

Didn't think I needed to worry about you chick :)

[sometimes_miss]

When in doubt apply Occam's Razor.
Problem is, society does that with us, and comes away with the belief that we're all gay and trying to attract men to have sex with them.
Life isn't always simple.

[docrobbysherry]

I'm curious, tho, Kairi. How or why did, "----- gender fluidity, non binary, abinary or avian", get in the way of your dressing before your epiphany? :straightface:

[Becky Blue]

You go girl!!! keep it simple just follow your feelings...

[Dana44]

Kari, just be you and everything will be alright. It is not complected

[Jean 103]

I completely understand and agree. This is were I am now. I'm not sure were I'm going next.

[Stephj]

That's what I have said for years now I am just me and I like who I am

[7ftEmily]

I completely agree! I've taken a simple step and changed from men's boxer briefs to regularly wearing women's panties, the change is amazing and sleeping is so much better/easier. And I do it because I enjoy it and it is comfortable for me. I don't feel the need to try and determine whether I am male or female due to clothing choices.

[Hell on Heels]

Hell-o Kari,
That "step back" is impossible!
(Sorta like un-ringing that bell"
In reality it was nothing more than
a slight change in direction.
And a damn good one at that!
Just be you!
Much Love,
Kristyn

[Beverley Sims]

It's easy for me to say "just do it" but I have been procrastinating over piercing my ears for years now.

Glad to see you did it. :-)

[Lacey CD]

I'm with you! It's taken me a long time to get to this place and I couldn't be happier. I'm me and I love both my feminine and masculine traits. One interesting side effect has been a new interest in men's fashion. For the first time in my life I've got a job that requires me to wear a shirt and tie. I wasn't too happy about it at first but now have embraced it and have found I love looking sharp. A friend of mine is the manager of the local Men's Warehouse and has been working with me over the past year to build a rockin' wardrobe. It's not cheap but it sure is fun! Almost as fun as shopping for my fem wardrobe!

[Nikki A.]

Well said Kairi and I agree with the way you think. I'll never be a woman but it sure is fun playing the part.

[TrishaLake]

ahhh yes! nothing else

[Sometimes Steffi]

Sometimes Kairi

I'll tell you the best advice I ever got here.

"Why can't you be 'Always' Steffi?"

There are days that I'd like to be Always Steffi, but right now, the best I can do is be Sometimes Steffi.

You know, the usual. Wife, family, job, marriage, etc.

And that's good enough for now.

YMMV